Seeking Connection and True Relationships

by Dr Rachel Hall, Holistic Dentist, Kenmore, Brisbane

We live today in the most populated world in history, yet more people than ever feel lonely, detached and separated from society… and even from themselves. How can we, in the midst of all the people we meet every day, sometimes feel so alone?

We frequently live in a way where we see ourselves as separate from others, from nature and from Divinity itself. This sense of separation seems to be an essential part of being human, part of our individuality and personal identity. Yet it is our sense of separation that can cause suffering, especially when we view everything around us as ‘things’ that appear unconnected to us.

It is as if we live in our own personal, separate bubbles designed to preserve our individuality and keep the world at bay. When we view the world as external to us, it is all too easy to forget the wholeness of life.

Most of us recognise that we are physically separate from other people and naturally assume we are also spiritually, psychologically and energetically separate. This gives the illusion that we are our body and that everything beyond that is not a part of us.

But is this really how it is?

If you spend time with a newborn baby it’s hard not to notice the love they radiate, unmeasured and equally shared.

We were all once like this baby; full of love – trusting, open and connected to everyone we met equally.

What changed this for so many of us?

It is as if when growing up the hardships of life, the broken hearts and the disappointments we encounter gradually force us to enclose our love, tenderness and feelings under a thick layer of toughness, defensiveness and/or aloofness.

These ‘coping strategies’ appears to protect the hurt we are feeling – however, at what cost? To deny our vulnerability locks our heart, shutting out our love and the love of others.

Once we commence to shut down we diminish the capacity to rely on our inner feelings, we stop trusting and with that, lose the ability to connect fully with others.
As we withdraw and shut down, our emotional exchanges – our ability to be in touch with our own feelings – become more and more limited; leading to a catch-22 situation where we measure our love, giving more love to those we feel won’t hurt us and less to those we aren’t as comfortable with or as certain of.

It is ironic that by trying to protect ourselves we cut off from others and that this choice ultimately produces our deepest sense of separation, the separation to self. And thus we create for ourselves the illusion that we live disconnected from others, our self, God and our essential nature – Love.

Through the teachings of the Ancient Wisdom presented by Universal Medicine, many people, myself included, have experienced a deeper sense of connection to themselves and other people. Little by little, I have been able to let go of the ‘protective’ layer of toughness and start trusting my own inner feelings. In this way I share my love more equally and I feel connected to myself, others, Divinity and my essential nature, which I know to be love. I know there is a oneness to life and that I am not actually separate at all as I can feel my connection to everything in my heart.

In a world where so many are seeking connection and true relationships, I have learnt that this must come first, from me choosing to connect to me with a willingness to let my love out and the love of others in.

1,127 thoughts on “Seeking Connection and True Relationships

  1. ‘To deny our vulnerability locks our heart, shutting out our love and the love of others.’ Often people think about vulnerabilty as a weakness and judge it as wrong and deny how feeling vulnerable is actually very powerful and is making us aware of our divine origin, the precious and delicate beings we are, men and women equally.

  2. When we are disconnected we in truth are walking around blind. When we re-connect we can see what is going on in the world.

  3. Everyone knows connection and everyone’s seeking it to some level, just in the wrong place. I know that when I start to seek connection with others there’s a high possibility that I have abandoned my connection to myself, and this needs to be dealt with first.

  4. Love must come from ourselves first, developing this relationship by connecting to our inner heart and developing a trust in what our body is offering, then we can have loving connection with others.

  5. “It is ironic that by trying to protect ourselves we cut off from others and that this choice ultimately produces our deepest sense of separation, the separation to self.”

    This IS what we miss the most, ourselves. Our gorgeous, precious, loving selves. I know I do when I go into protection, and I need to separate to avoid the hurt of missing myself. It is crazy town.

  6. It is hard to imagine that we are all connected by energy and that our perceived separation is but an illusion, but this is a fact that we will more and more come to accept the truth of, and indeed we must if we are to evolve.

  7. It is indeed a beautiful process which you can only appreciate and see how it is working when you are living it yourself: by working on being more connected to yourself, you get automatically more connected to other people. It seems like a paradox, but that is the way it works.

  8. When we deny our love and our connection with each other it is totally devastating, therefore anything that disconnects us needs to be addressed.

  9. We all have access to an unlimited wisdom through our own bodies and we are trained that our minds have the key to everything, so our whole education system is a sham.

  10. It is a joyful thing to re-connect back with ourselves having spent years/lives disconnected from who we truly are.

    1. Absolutely a joyful thing Elizabeth and I love and appreciate the huge support Serge and Universal Medicine and all its students are offering in re-connecting to ourselves and to letting go of the protective layers that keep us in the world of creation.

  11. Interesting article Rachel. What is more important: the connection to ourselves and then the connection to other people or the other way around? It seems to me by first connecting to people, I expand, get over my hurts, get my self out of the way, which makes it easier to connect to me. That to me is the faster way to lead a true life which inspires others as well.

  12. So true — ‘In a world where so many are seeking connection and true relationships, I have learnt that this must come first, from me choosing to connect to me with a willingness to let my love out and the love of others in.’
    A truth that needs to be re-discovered by living truth in our life.

  13. ‘Once we commence to shut down we diminish the capacity to rely on our inner feelings, we stop trusting and with that, lose the ability to connect fully with others.’ Yes I have experienced this and it’s good to know that it is reversible i.e. that we can let go of the hard shell we have created and let people and love in. Trusting our feelings and the wisdom they bring makes a big difference to all our relationships.

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