To Moan or to Appreciate… a Choice?

When we stop to listen to what people are saying – the way they talk about their lives, relationships, themselves – do we hear moaning or appreciation? It appears that it is more common to have a negative slant on things, with a tendency to blame or complain about the situations we find ourselves in.

Our media industry demonstrates better than anywhere else that the supply and demand for negativity, drama and emotionalism is a feedback loop we have created and continue to feed with gusto.

Could it be that this endless diet of invasive interest in other people’s lives, mishaps, challenges and shortcomings keeps us in a distracted, irresponsible relationship with life, looking out at others in competition and comparison rather than simply taking responsibility for our lives and the opportunities we have to make a difference, by our choices and the way we live?

Yes, it is important to be very aware of what is going on around us – observing the social climates we have built. But that is where our focus can stop, inspiring us to consider what would really make a difference rather than getting in deeper and deeper, feeding off or lost in the quagmire of gossip.

Our magazines, newspapers and online news feeds are becoming ever more salacious, extreme, sensationalist and embroidered. Journalism is not the simple, clear recording of facts and dissemination of truth, it is the emotional dramatisation of events loaded with bias, innuendo and opinion. And we appear to love it: a diet of distraction and drama that we are loath to let go of.

It is in the disconnection within ourselves that we hunt for, and thirst after, the gossip about others; this keeps us in competition and comparison with each other – either worthless because our lives, our look, our home or our cooking are so below standard, or relieved about the fact that someone is worse off than us or has ‘stuffed up’ more than us.

Whilst we keep responsibility at arm’s length, nothing is going to change. Until we are prepared to look quietly and honestly at the quality with which we live, take care of ourselves, interact in our relationships, live in our homes, commit to our work, drive, walk, cook, think… we have to accept that we are part of the perpetuation of the cycle of distraction and abuse that is our media, online communication, everyday gossip and one-upmanship.

Exposing all of the above and being honest about it provides us with the always fresh opportunity to approach our lives differently; introducing appreciation and responsibility as a super strong tag team that can arrest our habits outlined above. When we wake up in the morning and before we turn on the radio, television, computer, could we take a moment to consider the anything, everything and all that we have to appreciate? The smallest to the vast: the warmth of our feet, the people in the house with us, birdsong, fresh air to breathe, the opportunity the day offers to meet others, the fresh slate that every day (actually every moment) offers and the power at our fingertips to make changes in our lives simply by the way we move, touch things, handle ourselves.

To moan or to appreciate?

Could it be that this choice is a life-changer?

Repeating patterns or calling the changes?

Over to us : )

By Judy Joy and Matilda Bathurst

Related Reading:
Serge Benhayon TV Episode 7 – The Science of Responsibility
What is the Science of Appreciation and how does it evolve all of our relationships?

792 thoughts on “To Moan or to Appreciate… a Choice?

  1. There’s always something to learn from every situation so there’s no point in moaning because it only serves to bring us down. Whereas appreciation works wonders on keeping our thoughts positive, which in the long run is far more healthier for us and those around us.

  2. This is absolutely true; ‘It appears that it is more common to have a negative slant on things, with a tendency to blame or complain about the situations we find ourselves in.’ And I realise that I have got caught up in this negativity and have not fully appreciate the amazing people in my life.

  3. A fresh slate every moment – thank you for this reminder. I just spent most of the morning feeling like a very bitter, grumpy person that I am so not in truth, and still feeling the residue of it. I can feel it is entirely my choice to cling onto whatever and making it into an issue, while there always stands another choice to stop, and start anew.

  4. ” To moan or to appreciate?”
    What a question and the answer is obvious, Appreciation.
    One is here and the opportunity to be and live in truth are endless.

  5. Moaning is such an addictive behaviour to take on and it doesn’t feel good to us let alone those around us. It also keeps us in the belief that life is miserable and there is nothing we can do about it but that’s not true because having appreciation can change any situation.

  6. Gorgeous; ‘When we wake up in the morning and before we turn on the radio, television, computer, could we take a moment to consider the anything, everything and all that we have to appreciate?’ I can feel that there is so much to appreciate and have noticed how joyful and lighthearted and connected with others I feel when I appreciate myself and others.

  7. This is absolutely true; ‘ It appears that it is more common to have a negative slant on things, with a tendency to blame or complain about the situations we find ourselves in.’ I felt very moany and negative recently which is unlike me, what I realised is how tiring this is and how flat it makes you feel.

  8. When we break it down there is something to appreciate in almost every situation, even if initially that might seem like a long shot. Our hardest challenges can often lead to the greatest learning.

  9. When we can appreciate the passing-over cycle of life so we do not fear death then it is a responsibility to live in a way that eliminates the emotions associated with passing. By celebrating a person while they are alive so we get to share our appreciation of what we feel about them and when done in a responsible way we have completion with them.
    And then will we not in every interaction that comes our way feel complete, with ‘none / zero’ of the normal regrets and thus eliminating the emotional-heart-string-pulling ways of living?
    Thus disconnecting us from the religious institutions that would have us believe in the death of a person so we do not get to truly celebrate their passing as these institutions would get us caught in the emotional turmoil with the great feeling of loss of a so called loved one at a service or wake etc.

  10. If one chooses it is so easy to feel the difference between moaning and appreciation in one’s body and once felt it is a no-brainer as to which one one would choose.

  11. Moaning about things always comes with a heavy feeling, whereas appreciation lightens things up even when we are struggling with a situation. How awesome is it to appreciate someone who you have a problem with – suddenly the bad feelings dissolve and you see the situation for what it is.

  12. The power of appreciation is so under-rated and dismissed. We should be looking at this in depth, for if the world so easily dismisses the power of appreciation, then to look at it – just out of curiosity to consider why this should be. Could it be that appreciation shows us who we are, and the more we appreciate the more we feel our worth and our tenderness. The more we appreciate, the more we connect to these Godly qualities. Is that why they are so easily dismissed in this world?

    1. The impact on our lives when we choose to appreciate is far greater than we care to feel. We can so often normalise that which is far from holding us with the levels of respect we are often searching for.

  13. I have been such a moaner in my life – nowadays I’m learning appreciation and noticing how different that feels and oh boy it feels different. Thank God for Serge Benhayon, Master of appreciation, for walking the way so we all can see what is needed.

    1. Well said Ariana. Life is so different when one appreciates instead of moaning and the reflection of Serge Benhayon is indeed a guiding light for all.

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