Music – What are we Really Listening to?

I was in the gym changing room when I took a moment to stop and listen to what was being played through the speakers; it was along the lines of “if you love me, come and get your fill”. Hmmmm… definitely not a love song by my standards, and certainly not what I would want to hear from someone I loved or who loved me. I’ve learned that love can only be something that truly comes from within me first, not from anyone else filling me up: believe me I’ve tried it, and looking outside myself for love simply doesn’t work.

Hearing this song made me stop, and think; what are we really listening to?

As I listened I felt in my body the hardness of the song; it actually hurt my body to hear the music. I could feel it in my chest, and the words became so clear, in the sense they were not loving at all, keeping us in the belief that love is something we find outside ourselves. Even the lyrics were not honoring of women or men at all.

I decided to conduct a little experiment: I chose to observe music for the week, just to feel what is really going on. Music is everywhere, 24 hours a day, non-stop: in the supermarket, clothes store, the gym or in the car whilst getting a lift to work, even the kids put their earphones in when moving from class to class at school. The more I observed and listened, the more I became aware of how music imposes on us and just how harming it can be without us even realising.

Sometimes I could feel like it was trying to hook me in – all the stories, emotions and need, other times it was more the actual tone of the voice or the sound of the instrument that actually hurt my body to hear; my chest would tighten, my head hurt, or I’d actually physically wince at the sound. I found when I listened to my body it spoke to me loud and clear.

Looking back I remember being little and reacting to music that didn’t feel right by hiding behind the couch when a certain person and song came on the TV, or shouting ‘stop’ at the radio in the car, and getting into trouble as my sister whacked on the brakes.

As I grew up I got totally sucked in by music that was being played, as long as it had a story of emotional woe I could relate to that kept me immersed in some sort of drama, for example – being sad, lonely or in the misery of a relationship breaking up, or if it had a good beat I could also dance to, I was totally gone.

But thank goodness, it is not like this anymore.

I have found that there is actually music out there that is clear, without one ounce of emotion or woe, which is made with love. It doesn’t hurt my body to listen to it, nor do I wince or get sucked in – it’s the complete opposite in fact. I feel me, I feel so much expansion, freedom and joy in my body, there’s not one ounce of tension or pain.

It’s music that allows my body the freedom to expand, and it calls me to connect more deeply within myself and all that I am – absolute love, joy, truth and so much more. The difference is it has not been made to self-promote or gain, but made with love for all of humanity to hear: it holds all others equally and allows people to feel the truth of who they really are with no imposition at all.

Inspired by Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon.

By Gyl Rae, 37, Scotland

Related Reading:
Serge Benhayon on the Energetic Science of Music
Music by Glorious Music
Music by Chris James
Music and Parenting

1,369 thoughts on “Music – What are we Really Listening to?

  1. Absolutely Gyl, music comes in two varieties that which is healing for our bodies and that which is part of our ills and issues we have around emotional hurts and all this is happening without most of us even caring.

  2. I can’t remember why but this week I chose to click on some videos from a band l listened to 30 years ago, they once captured my teenage angst at a very unhappy time for me where I just wanted escape from my ‘boring’ life. Usually most music I hear is akin to a person whining for attention and I turn it off. The dance music I was addicted to now I can only listen to for a few minutes before I feel like I’m about to go back on the drugs. But these songs have become ear worms even days later. What happened here?

    I ‘loved’ those songs, yes technically brilliant, before their time and all that but I feel I gave myself away to them, the anger and my rage at the world at the time. Did I feel I somehow owed them for expressing my alienation and not feeling so lonely at the time, that other people also felt this way? In the same way I turned to rave for connection, I also did the same with these bands and completely missed out on appreciating everyone who was in my life at the time. These songs did me no favours, they fuelled my teenage arrogance and separation. I can now feel this and it doesn’t feel great at all- great to start seeing through the lie.

  3. Pop, Jazz, Rock R&B, Country and many others are all some flavour of music. They all have their own type of hooks. It is said the perfect Country Western song needs to contain; crying, dying, going somewhere and pickup trucks. All buttons that are pushed to keep you hooked. But there is music as you have said Gail that is not hooking that allows and supports our movements.

  4. Growing up I used to find the best music to be nature sounds, the birds singing, the wind in the trees, the pitter patter of the rain drops. They made my body feel settled.

  5. ‘I’ve learned that love can only be something that truly comes from within me first, not from anyone else filling me up’ If we want to be ‘filled up’ by another this is simply need not love. True love places no imposition on another or need of any kind.

  6. One of my pet hates is that there seems to be music wherever we go, Restaurants, Service stations, Shops, too me it is an offence against our bodies. You cannot go even for a Pee in a service station in peace and quiet you are instead blasted by the most ghastly music. And the other day I was with colleagues at a restaurant and it was almost impossible to have a conversation because the music was so loud.I asked if it could possibly be turned down, it wasn’t but it was worth asking because then at least I have highlighted that the music was too loud. I feel if we just accept these things without asking for a change, nothing will change.

  7. Gyl, this is a great question to ask; ‘what are we really listening to?’ I haven’t chosen to listen to emotional love songs for a long time, if I hear them on the radio in a shop or at a friends they feel highly emotional and dramatic and the words don’t feel at all true or supportive.

  8. I hate the fact that wherever we go in the world there seems to be music waiting for us, music chosen by others with very little regard as to whether those coming into their shops, gyms, hotels etc, actually will enjoy it. I have often wondered how the workers in these establishments actually feel at the end of a day when the music has thumped away for hour after hour; they might think they like it, but I wonder if they asked their body, whether it would agree?

  9. Thank you Gyl fo sharing your experience with music. You describe it so beautiful – music is everywhere and that is really something I do not like at all. If I enter a shop and the music is too loud or I do not like the music I leave. I have now found my shops for shopping where they play hardly music or where I can ask the owner to stop playing music whilst I am shopping.

  10. ‘The more I observed and listened, the more I became aware of how music imposes on us and just how harming it can be without us even realising.’ Yet, we are so invested in escaping into our music we do not recognise or observe this. I know that when I listen to music I either check out, harden my body, or get swayed emotionally… none of which supports me to remain steady in myself.

  11. I used to be attached to music that was sad and depressive, it always filled me with longing for something, a better life even tho my life wasn’t bad… I walked around getting a kind of kick out of feeling miserable. Then one day I found myself going through CD after CD, putting each one on to play and then changing it almost immediately because it didn’t feel right, it was like scales fell from my ears and I could hear it for what it was. I could no longer bear to listen to it.

  12. A great point Gyl, many songs are about love, a love lost and filled with emotion they try to hook us into it, and make love about something we get from another when love in its truth comes from within.

  13. We can look to music as easily as we can look to food to make us feel better/at ease/less tense, but that ‘better’ is simply a means to not feel what we ourselves are not expressing – a ‘bottling up’ rather than the ease we think we are getting in return.

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