Inspired by Universal Medicine… Just Being Me

I am beginning to realise how powerful it is just being me by connecting to the quality of who I am within.  I have spent most of my 60 plus years of life living from my head and thinking I needed to constantly be available for everyone else. My way of doing this was by trying to fix things for everybody, often because I felt responsible for what others did or didn’t do.

I used to suggest solutions to problems or issues and steer people to what I thought would be solving the problem without really connecting to what would be truly supportive for that person to gain a new understanding for themselves as to why the issue was happening in the first place.

I have learnt that if I just stay with my body and myself and observe without the need to fix a situation, this allows more space for people to be responsible for their own lives, without my being attached to any outcomes.

I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.

 

This change in my approach started over three years ago when I began to re-connect to the truth of who we all are, as presented by Universal Medicine and in the book The Way It Is by Serge Benhayon. I had been searching for this truth all my life but had focussed on solutions to life’s issues instead of realising that the truth of everything is inside us all – in our inner-heart, our inner knowing through being with our bodies instead of being in our heads. In other words – JUST BEING who we truly are.

Over the last three years I have changed my behaviours because I am learning to keep re-connecting to the quality of my presence in my body – by being present with myself – and I am finding that this allows others to also be with themselves. I have found that I am not responsible for anyone else’s life and this fact alone means that I now have less stress and a more joyful life.

An example of this was demonstrated to me through a woman whom I had been visiting in a nursing home for some time and I was very close to. Previously I had tried to help by endeavouring to solve her problems as I felt responsible in some way – that’s the way my mind worked.

After attending a Universal Medicine retreat I became aware that to assist this woman the only thing I could do was to just be me. When I visited her and I stayed present with myself more consciously, just being me, then things started to change for both of us; her whole demeanour began to alter and her face looked soft, serene and pain-free. As I continued just being me and not falling into any old ‘doing’ or ‘fixing’ patterns, our relationship opened up and I began to feel a beautiful closeness and a deeper connection with her.

As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve. I continued to take care of her daily needs but I did it with more love because I stayed present with myself and I found that I could now visit without becoming tired and drained.

I have realised that when I try to fix others people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.

 

This woman has given me a wonderful gift: the opportunity to learn that I am enough just being myself – around her, and around everybody.

I reflect upon how all areas of my life are changing when I allow myself to just be myself and stay in my body. The power of that connection is all that is required and by accepting, loving and appreciating who I am, my relationships with people have changed for the better.

How I have learned to do this is to consciously breathe my own gentle breath that connects all of me to my body (bringing my head in line with what my body is doing) so that I can feel what I am doing and be present in every moment with whatever action I am undertaking. As I exhale I feel the rhythm of my breath as it flows through me, allowing further surrendering in my body. I now know that everything is part of the unfolding nature of life and the way this happens is by me just being in my body, trusting the process of life instead of trying to fix everything for everyone, and that is all that I need to do… just being me… simple!

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Susan Wilson, Albury

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Connection, Choice & Energy: Are You the Pilot or is Autopilot Running You?
The Beauty in Being Completely Honest and Just Being Me

1,193 thoughts on “Inspired by Universal Medicine… Just Being Me

  1. “… being in my body, trusting the process of life instead of trying to fix everything for everyone, and that is all that I need to do… just being me… simple!” I love this. Staying with the body and ones heart, rather than trying to work things out with the mind, brings a settlement and inner ease over trying to improve ones life – or fixing others, as you say Susan.

  2. “I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.
    ” This is gold. In this age of striving to be better, cleverer, more beautiful, faster, etc to appreciate and accept who we are brings acceptance, simplicity and also cuts out comparison. Very cool.

  3. We have so many versions of ourselves & identify with so many things which are the polar oposite of who we are. For a long time i have been convinced that I am hard and harsh, i run this thread in my head and strongly believe it, I walk it, think it and therefore often act it. But when I see a picture of myself, one where I haven’t posed & somebody is just taken it randomly, I see the grace I move in & tenderness I reflect. It often stops me in my tracks & makes me question my reality.

  4. Susan what you have written here is Gold
    “I have realised that when I try to fix others people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.”
    So many of us especially women feel it is part of their job description to ‘fix’ everything. Reading this sentence is a great reminder that actually it can be interfering because it doesn’t allow the other person to full understand their part in what ever it is that needs fixing.

    1. Yes, when we try to fix things for others, it removes the learning opportunity that is there for them. It reminds me of when I kept cleaning up after my children, until i came to realise they would never learn to do that for themselves. It was interesting to hear their stories when some of their university friends hadn’t learnt that one, so didn’t know how to cook, use a washing machine etc. That shocked me as they didn’t have a clue how to care for themselves when away from home.

  5. ‘I have spent most of my 60 plus years of life living from my head and thinking I needed to constantly be available for everyone else.’ There is a vast difference between living from the head (ideals and beliefs) to living from the body and it has been a daily experiment for the last 19 years to discover what this means for myself. By no means mastered I am discovering the depth of love and joy that is available to us when we can make this transition – a whole new focus, a whole new way of seeing and being with the world.

  6. ‘I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.’ We are unique – like the stars we shine – and like pieces of a jigsaw we are all needed to complete the whole. Trying to be like another destroys the pattern.

  7. “This woman has given me a wonderful gift: the opportunity to learn that I am enough just being myself – around her, and around everybody.” Its taking me a long while to feel settled with just being me. But I’m getting there – and appreciating that fact!. Great to re-read your blog Susan.

  8. Universal Medicine is very inspiring by the very nature of what it offers to humanity a way to live free of blame, ideals, beliefs or pictures and expectations on how life should be because we expect it to be that way. But do we ever stop to consider where these expectations come from? They are usually fed to us from outside our bodies. If we were to develop a inner relationship with ourselves the thoughts that we are driven by would be completely different and it is this difference that can be felt by anyone once they let go of the control they want to have over life which is driven by blame, ideals, beliefs and pictures we take on without assessing them and the damage they cause.

    1. Choosing to stay with ourselves without outside influences, tricky enough for an adult but for teens and children in school peer pressure is huge. It takes a lot to withstand that. Community support can help hugely here – be it in the family or wherever.

      1. I don’t know if my children will be totally free of it. The whole education system is an onslaught on so many levels and if a child is not supported within the system to deal with it (and let’s face it none of them are), the only recourse is to offer a home that is free of imposition of the consciousness of the education system and for children to be accepted and loved for who they are when they are out of it.

  9. “As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve” – this is gold, and really exposes for me how it is in my judgement that I identify a ‘problem’ and, in my reaction, drive myself into solving it. And also a beautiful reminder that our movement communicates so much more than words.

  10. Absolutely Susan, the reflection that we give another is all that is needed and from there the magic is felt and is transformational for those who choose to deepen the Love we all innately are.

  11. Knowing my qualities, knowing what makes me, me, has changed completely how I am in the world and how I interact and interrelate with everything. I feel stronger, more self-assured, confident and content. It really did pay to get to know myself and this is still deepening.

  12. “I have realised that when I try to fix other people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.” It’s such a great blog Susan and so practical and relevant. I feel the line I’ve quoted here really explains the energetic dynamics going on in some of my relationships, and how I use my energy for things I can’t really change – investments in others that actually return exhaustion.

    1. Yes these lines also spoke to me. We can’t make others change. They will sort their own problems if they choose to. We can support them however and have no judgement on them – or ourselves in the meanwhile.

  13. It wasn’t until I came across Universal Medicine that understood what truly being myself was. I mistook, like a lot of people I suppose, that it was what I did that gave me identity and made up the me-ness of me. Now I understand that it’s the quality that I express in, the quality of the love I hold that makes me who I am.

    1. And it is this quality that can be felt by everyone and it is very noticeable, humanity has been starved of true love for literally thousands of years so when someone is expressing in the quality of true love they stand out this causes all sorts of problems as some people want to close them down and so hurl abuse at them in an attempt to run them out of town or get them to contract and some people want to embrace the quality of love they feel and are open to receive more. It’s all a choice.

  14. Finding our feet in life so we start to walk in a way that confirms our essence is a great way to deepen the love we have for each other and thus allow everyone the space to come to their own realisations.

  15. ‘I am beginning to realise how powerful it is just being me by connecting to the quality of who I am within.’ There is a beauty in the simplicity of allowing ourselves to be ourselves, along with the warts and all, in full transparency and without the need to be perfect. In short totally liberating but in this we exude an authenticity that is hard to ignore.

  16. This is a huge lesson of understanding for me
    “I have learnt that if I just stay with my body and myself and observe without the need to fix a situation, this allows more space for people to be responsible for their own lives, without my being attached to any outcomes.”
    For years I have been the fix it up sister, daughter, mother, friend and colleague, now I am much more able to let things alone and not get involved becoming detached from situations is felt as such a relief in my body.

    1. Thanks for your honesty Mary, I can relate having been available to “help” others and focus on their needs for a very long time. I find it’s a gradual unfolding with the realisations coming that what another is experiencing isn’t my responsibility and I agree, it’s a tremendous relief for the body because it’s not carrying what doesn’t belong to it.

  17. How very simple and beautiful, this stops all hard work of striving and trying; ‘I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.’

  18. Whenever, and I mean, whenever, I meet someone and leave them to be them and accept that I am me, there is never a feeling of expectation between us and there is nothing left unsaid. It is an ever-evolving exploration and a way of being that inspires me to keep investigating it.

    1. There is such a joy in the connection too and in this non investment there is room to appreciate the all that the other is as well as ourselves – nothing more needed or to complete.

  19. I was watching recently how we love to constantly entertain ourselves, I was at an event that I had decided not to par take in and so was the keeper of all the handbags and shopping bags. This gave me a birds eye view of what was happening and I felt we have this desire to be in a constant motion of nervous energy so it is makes complete sense that we use sugar, salt, caffeinated drinks anything that simulates us to keep us going otherwise we would I’m sure just keel over from seer exhaustion.

  20. This feels really important and makes me realise that we have a responsibility to be present with ourselves as this affects not only us but others we meet too; ‘I am learning to keep re-connecting to the quality of my presence in my body – by being present with myself – and I am finding that this allows others to also be with themselves. ‘

  21. ‘As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve. I continued to take care of her daily needs but I did it with more love because I stayed present with myself and I found that I could now visit without becoming tired and drained.’ WHAT a transformation, Susan! So simple and yet so very powerful to choose to be and connect to all of you. Thank you for sharing.

  22. No amount of trying to ‘fix’ or support another who is not ready or willing to make their own change really works. So it makes sense that it could be very draining on us.

  23. It is so true that when we are ourselves, with ourselves, it is then that we live with the true power. Living in this way is never imposing as this power is one that represents the love that we all are in essence as such simply offers the reflection of our innate and divine way of being.

  24. When I stay with my body, and allow myself to observe rather than react, I give myself space to allow another to be, without judgment or jealousy.

    1. Beautifully said Sally – this inspires me to feel and appreciate the power of love and how love is only ever calling us to be more love, and always offers us the space for us to will it to be so and say ‘yes’.

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