Inspired by Universal Medicine… Just Being Me

I am beginning to realise how powerful it is just being me by connecting to the quality of who I am within.  I have spent most of my 60 plus years of life living from my head and thinking I needed to constantly be available for everyone else. My way of doing this was by trying to fix things for everybody, often because I felt responsible for what others did or didn’t do.

I used to suggest solutions to problems or issues and steer people to what I thought would be solving the problem without really connecting to what would be truly supportive for that person to gain a new understanding for themselves as to why the issue was happening in the first place.

I have learnt that if I just stay with my body and myself and observe without the need to fix a situation, this allows more space for people to be responsible for their own lives, without my being attached to any outcomes.

I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.

 

This change in my approach started over three years ago when I began to re-connect to the truth of who we all are, as presented by Universal Medicine and in the book The Way It Is by Serge Benhayon. I had been searching for this truth all my life but had focussed on solutions to life’s issues instead of realising that the truth of everything is inside us all – in our inner-heart, our inner knowing through being with our bodies instead of being in our heads. In other words – JUST BEING who we truly are.

Over the last three years I have changed my behaviours because I am learning to keep re-connecting to the quality of my presence in my body – by being present with myself – and I am finding that this allows others to also be with themselves. I have found that I am not responsible for anyone else’s life and this fact alone means that I now have less stress and a more joyful life.

An example of this was demonstrated to me through a woman whom I had been visiting in a nursing home for some time and I was very close to. Previously I had tried to help by endeavouring to solve her problems as I felt responsible in some way – that’s the way my mind worked.

After attending a Universal Medicine retreat I became aware that to assist this woman the only thing I could do was to just be me. When I visited her and I stayed present with myself more consciously, just being me, then things started to change for both of us; her whole demeanour began to alter and her face looked soft, serene and pain-free. As I continued just being me and not falling into any old ‘doing’ or ‘fixing’ patterns, our relationship opened up and I began to feel a beautiful closeness and a deeper connection with her.

As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve. I continued to take care of her daily needs but I did it with more love because I stayed present with myself and I found that I could now visit without becoming tired and drained.

I have realised that when I try to fix others people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.

 

This woman has given me a wonderful gift: the opportunity to learn that I am enough just being myself – around her, and around everybody.

I reflect upon how all areas of my life are changing when I allow myself to just be myself and stay in my body. The power of that connection is all that is required and by accepting, loving and appreciating who I am, my relationships with people have changed for the better.

How I have learned to do this is to consciously breathe my own gentle breath that connects all of me to my body (bringing my head in line with what my body is doing) so that I can feel what I am doing and be present in every moment with whatever action I am undertaking. As I exhale I feel the rhythm of my breath as it flows through me, allowing further surrendering in my body. I now know that everything is part of the unfolding nature of life and the way this happens is by me just being in my body, trusting the process of life instead of trying to fix everything for everyone, and that is all that I need to do… just being me… simple!

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Susan Wilson, Albury

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The Beauty in Being Completely Honest and Just Being Me

1,073 thoughts on “Inspired by Universal Medicine… Just Being Me

  1. “I have realised that when I try to fix other people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.” This might explain the exhaustion epidemic we now have in the world because when we are not ourselves and alter ourselves for others we are ensuring that our own life force gets drained. We have to start with self-care and the more we take care of ourselves the less exhausted we become.

    1. Good point Elizabeth, we have to consider this as the exhaustion epidemic is getting worse. What if the cause was energetic and the way we are doing things rather than what we are doing… it is certainly worth putting on the table.

  2. Today I learned a similar lesson, whenever somebody shares something with me I go for the solutions straight away – this happens because of insecurities, solving problems gives us a sense of worth because we’ve done something we deem as positive, we’ve “helped” another. However, what does that do for another when we’re doing it from an emptiness?

    1. I do know that too Viktoria, but have found that to stay in presence with myself and to only respond from that inner impulse that then naturally is there is the way to go too. No harm is being done, but instead healing is being brought.

  3. Knowing that we are everything and that this is enough feels amazing. It is now our responsibility to bring all of who we are and live this with all others and they too will unfold in the light of our reflection.

  4. I spent a lot of my life achieving and striving for accolades which left me in a whirlwind of stress and nervous energy and inevitably took me away from my body’s true connection. I now get to feel the ease and joy of life from the movements of my body and how simple life can be when we take the worry out of what may happen or what has happened and explore life from living exactly who we are from the fine movements of our bodies. Being who we are is simply awesome.

  5. I find this particularly with being a Mum, feeling responsible for making things better, fixing and organizing what my teenage boys need. Whereas when I do this they do not get an opportunity to feel for themselves what they do or do not need, a chance to make changes themselves, or work out and organise what is best for them. It’s amazing what happens when we be ourselves, no pressure, no drain and no imposing on ourselves or anyone else.

  6. “As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve.” This shows that we create problems where there are none as when we appreciate everyone, including ourselves, for who we truly are the answers are already known and felt.

  7. I can so easily fall into fixing someones elses’ problems and have been working out why that is. The support the blogs have offered me has been immense. It is likely it is still unpeeling in layers as I lower my resistance to the possibility that everything is just fine without my fixing it. In fact everything is in divine order without my fixing it and highlights my arrogance to think I could be the solution to every problem. What I have learnt though, is the importance of NOT walking away, not pretending not to see what is going on. I may not be the solution but I can choose to not be part of, or add, to the problem.

  8. How we impose our solutions on someone is not based in equality, why would we be the ones who know what someone has to learn in life and how beautiful it is when we accept others for who they are. There is no problem solving around.

  9. If ever I feel my young daughters get caught up in the mess of all that is imposed on them from the world we have created that says we need to look, speak, act or be a certain way, not according to any truth but to a set of prescribed ideals that have little to no basis in truth, I simply offer these words to them as a reminder – “Be you. That’s all you have to do.” Life is so much simpler when we do not enter the wormhole of complexity that forever spins before us and beckons us forth into its whirl.

  10. “I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.” This is it so simple so gorgeous, the depth in these words is profound if we live just being us – life unfolds to a whole other level.

  11. Not having the need to ‘fix’ a situation gives us the clarity to truly observe All that is playing out or at least get a deeper understanding of what’s happening from which we can truly see how we can help… Whereas when we dive into something trying to ‘fix’ it that can be quite imposing and coming from a need to control…

    1. Indeed Fiona, trying to fix any situation is not natural to us but born from a need to occupy ourselves with instead of to let the situation teach us what can be learned from it.

  12. Great blog Susan your words ‘I needed to constantly be available for everyone else. My way of doing this was by trying to fix things for everybody, often because I felt responsible for what others did or didn’t do.’ When we actually let go of things having to be a certain way, or trying to fix things for people we all have an opportunity to learn from our choices, and the best way to help another make more loving choices for themselves is simply be a loving reflection for them to be inspired by.

  13. Great reminder Susan for not being responsible for the issues the other has. This way we do not start to carry this, load this on ourselves which gives us just a high cholesterol and we take away the space for the other to feel and heal.

  14. Why do we have the tendency to take on others issues like these being ours? It is ridicules but we do it a lot. Could it be that because we live in disconnection with who we are and in the ignorance of the fact that we live in a pool of energy, we live to a lesser grade that we ought to live and therefore are open for these interferences?

  15. Here in lies an important learning, the greatest gift we can give another is space, and space doesn’t mean distance but it means allowing another to feel who they are in any given moment, and responding with love and understanding.

    1. Absolutely Harry, space to work it our for themselves. We can hold the space in that moment but never impose. I am much more aware of what happens within me when someone approaches me for guidance and constantly have to work to stay out of the way.

  16. I have often wondered if the fact we are known for being able to ‘fix’ problems means more people come to us with problems, that in some way we create the problems as a way to feel needed? I know it sounds strange, because they are other peoples’ problems not ours, but there is something we get out of it that until we let go of that need to be needed we continue to create environments that feed that need.

  17. Assuming responsibility for another person’s actions or inactions is a movement that we adopt to make another person feel that we move in sync that truly masks the fact that they are not moving in togetherness.

  18. I used to be arrogant and assumed others didn’t know and I did, when I didn’t even know myself.
    Now, I step back, listen, offer guidance, but allow the person to follow their own path and arrive at their own conclusions. To assume we know better, dis-empowers and this is not our way. We are called to support our equal brothers, regardless of the choice they’ve made, and never to impose.

    1. That’s a beautiful unfolding of awareness Kehinde. The more we allow another to be and make their own choices, the more we get to really appreciate a whole new level of harmony with people and the power of reflection.

  19. Beautiful Susan, there are a million self-help books out there and so many talk about ‘being yourself’. Yet what Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have helped me see is that this has a very literal physicality. There’s an energetic quality to the way we live that is either loving or it is not. Are we living the whole true quality of who we are and moving this way or putting it on the back burner for a rainy day? We know in ourselves how present and connected we are in our cells and it’s this that is the key to unlocking our health. The greatest medicine is living with the beautiful essence and quality we were born with in every move.

  20. A great article and within it a great lesson for us all on what to do, be truly who you are and don’t try and do anything. This,”I have realised that when I try to fix others people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.” makes complete sense and how we hold up or often generate more drama by literally getting ourselves in the way of something that truly needs to play out for us all. Life is about feeling or the awareness of what we are feeling and not about ‘doing’ anything. The moment we place feeling at the back or in other words the more we ignore the energy of what is happening then the more we are at the mercy of what is ever occurring in front of us. We can say all manner of things and yet there is only one true feeling and so in this it would pay us to truly hold markers of how things feel. Then we can never claim we didn’t really know what was going on as we had just felt everything.

  21. “I have realised that when I try to fix other people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.” How true this is. We can of course say how we feel about something and we can share our own experiences but if we have any sympathy for the other or any investment in their getting their problems solved we are losing energy and this sets us up to be a prey to more unwanted energy if we don’t re align and come back to ourselves and our own foundation of truth and love lived.

  22. We can learn so much from our relationships with others. I too used to be a bit of a fixer. Its very freeing to realise I don’t have to do that anymore and that actually giving others the space to come to their own decisions is a win win situation.

  23. As that is needed is for us to be us, the real true amazing us.
    We can sometimes fall for our own lie, yet the truth always remains, we are amazing and we are all God’s sons.

  24. This is a great sharing, I can remember when I was a teenager going off the rails, when people came in and were sympathetic I felt ridiculed, while I liked the attention, it also felt patronising so I played games with it. However, when someone came along and didn’t try to fix things and just allowed me to be- it was refreshing, it made me have to take more responsibility for myself, it made me feel like I could figure it out myself and I knew they didn’t need anything from me.

  25. I have experienced a similar shift with an elderly relative – the whole relationship has changed simply by staying present with myself, having nothing to ‘fix’ (simply dealing with what is required) and accepting them as they are. The joy of the Magic of God in everyday life and relationships..
    “As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve. I continued to take care of her daily needs but I did it with more love because I stayed present with myself and I found that I could now visit without becoming tired and drained”.

  26. ‘I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.’ Very simple Susan and yet very profound. I love your description of breathing your own breath. Its interesting that at times of stress when we most need to breath, we tend to hold it or breath shallowly.

  27. ‘This change in my approach started over three years ago when I began to re-connect to the truth of who we all are’. Connecting to this truth changes everything. It allows our universe to shine from within, and for us to accept the grandness we have walked away and start the return walk home.

  28. I can see how I can go into very subtly trying to fix things because I want everyone to be happy but it is at my own expense! Not attaching myself to an outcome but simply allowing things to unfold means I stay with me and don’t get tired or exhausted as I have felt in the past. It means I am also loving me and my body through being present with myself and not ahead of myself in the future.

  29. ‘I have realised that when I try to fix others people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.’ I agree Susan, living in this way is very exhausting, when our movements become more loving and true we offer a powerful reflection for others to be inspired by.

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