Inspired by Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine: Feeling the True Me

When I first started practicing Optometry 20 years ago, and for many years thereafter, I felt like I was an actor on a stage, but seldom the true me.

My approach was to ‘mimic my patient’ or ‘to follow their lead’. I was never taught this explicitly at the time, but just recently I attended a Customer Services workshop where this was recommended as a way to ‘wow’ your client.

I reflected back to a time when I was constantly measuring how another person was from the minute they walked through the door. If they were friendly and jovial, I would be too. If they were quietly spoken, I would drop my voice. I have always seen a lot of paediatric clients, many with ADD: when they were in my chair, I would rush around in a frantic spin trying to get everything done that I needed to do in as quick a time as possible.

At the end of every working day I was exhausted. Not because of the physical aspects of my job, but because of the energy I put into being what I thought everyone wanted me to be, and my constant measuring of everyone else. I thought, though not consciously, that I was meeting each person where they were at.

When I look back now, and if I think of the ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) child, what reflection did they get from me? Did they get a gentle person who could calmly work, being present with each task in every moment, without judgement? No! Did they get a reflection that there could be another way? Definitely not!

Since coming to the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I have been presented with another way; a true way that supports not only me but everyone who walks through my door.

The reflection I have received from Serge Benhayon is that he is always the same, with everyone in every moment. He meets everyone with his full presence and attention. He never tries to be ‘nice’ or ‘polite’ or play social games. He is just himself, consistently – he ‘breathes his own breath’ and never holds back his truth and love.

From attending Universal Medicine events I have learned to support myself at work. To approach each person and task with my full presence. To work and move gently throughout the day and to honour what I feel in every moment.

I have learned to connect to me, to feel the true me and to express from there (without perfection, as I still have ‘wobbles’). I am naturally a friendly person who loves people: I love to chat, to listen and to share. Some days I feel tender and delicate, and I honour that too. Because I can now feel the loving essence inside of me, I am able to truly meet another. In other words, connect to that loving essence in everyone else and allow them to express however they so choose.

Now when you walk through the door, instead of the exhausted, racy actor, you get the true me!


Carmin Hall
Carmin Hall – “the true me”

By Carmin Hall, B.Optom  Grad.Cert.Ocular Therapeutics

Further Reading:
That Monday Morning Feeling – Not Living the True Me

1,001 thoughts on “Inspired by Serge Benhayon & Universal Medicine: Feeling the True Me

  1. I don’t think we consider enough our reflection in the world, and I find your point about what reflection did the ADD child get inspiring. What actually are our choices, our movements, our mannerisms saying to the world around us?

  2. When we really and honesty look at how exhausted we get from trying so hard to fit in, match up and be driven by the expectations of what we think we should be doing or how we think we need to be to be liked, accepted or respected, it makes sense that we reach the end of the day not only exhausted but feeling sold out, and not at all feeling complete. Yet as you have beautifully shared, our connection to the love we are within is already everything we need to be and in simply allowing this quality to be shared and expressed with all is what brings to life, effortlessly so, the greatest gift we can offer anyone; the vibration of love.

  3. Wow you look amazing Carmin, Its so important that the people are representing health care look the part. Unfortunately its not so common for practitioners to look and feel so vibrant. You are testament to the fact that it can be done.

  4. What I am wondering is if we choose to mimic a customers behaviour, what are we actually mimicking? The chances are that they are not being their true self either so we are not even mimicking something that is true. This is how we end up with a world without truth, everyone a puppet of something but not even sure what they are a puppet of. Dancing to someone else’s tune but no clue as to whose tune it is.

  5. I think it’s really key to understand the difference between when we’re energetically exhausted or drained by the way we have been doing something or interacting with others and being naturally physically tired – there is a significant difference between the two.

  6. Mimicking others’ behaviour is what is often taught in HR professional development type workshops around building communication skills, interview skills etc. It feels so fake, for us and the other person, and actually generates more disconnection than if we were just honest about what we were feeling and where we are at.

    1. That is a great point Bryony – we are actually taught in professional circles to mimic certain behaviours and adopt certain characteristics – there is never any importance placed on authenticity and simply being a true representation of who you are.

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