The Word Love…

The word LOVE….


This compact unpretentious little word has perhaps more power crammed into its meagre four letters than almost any other word.

We can apparently make, give or send it, but when we lose it or are deprived of it, we are torn apart.

During the 1950s, at a single-figure childhood age, I remember feeling slightly squirmy when the word love was used.

Love was one of those words used by grown-ups which seemed to provoke mirth and embarrassment in equal measure.


In Hollywood films the arrival of love was signalled to the audience by a large string orchestra playing a soaring crescendo of emotion-packed chords and themes.

We would see the two featured stars in separate close-ups, who in spite of being on opposite sides of a noisy, crowded room, would somehow notice only each other, and after just a few steps they would be in each other’s arms.

By some miracle, nobody got trodden on or had their drink spilt.

The cinema audience would react with some stifled nose-blowing, and perhaps a few damp cheeks.

At school there were girls – at least up until the age of eleven, after which, many of us went on to single-sex schools.

During this pre-pubescent period, the word love (which was really only ‘LUV’ according to one of our teachers and therefore meaningless), was used a lot, especially by girls. A knot of giggling females would emerge from some group discussion in a corner, and propel the chosen victim towards a boy. There would then be a sort of chorus of “she loves you”, and the wriggling girl would be pushed forward, protesting. This was often not entirely unexpected by him, as it would have been the subject of ‘whisperings’ for several days.

If the boy knew that some of his mates were witnessing all this, he might affect a sort of casual, cool, insouciant reaction, in spite of being really quite worked-up inside!

It was what was expected, and was lifted directly from the myriad cowboy films that could be seen on television any day of the week during the fifties and sixties. What was good enough for Clint Eastwood was fine by us!

I have quite fond memories of this period because it had as its chief appeal a sort of simplicity and innocence that would rapidly evaporate in the coming years, during which our biological clocks would inexorably propel us into the turbulent waters of puberty.

I remember fresh-faced girls (without any make-up of course), but just a slight smell of scented soap, who would laugh and allow a brief peck on their cheek during one of the frequent bouts of “kiss-chase” in the playground. This was one of the few opportunities one had for contact with the opposite sex, as girls and boys tended to congregate with their own gender while in school.

During this period, the word LOVE was really just LUV. That teacher had been spot-on, for it was just a pale watered-down imitation of the romantic love that was portrayed in films and discussed in myriad magazines.


With the arrival of American pop music came a transatlantic variant of this which was LURVE.

During religious instruction lessons, which were often little more than bible stories being read to us, we learned about the God of Love.

A hymn used the words “The God of Love, my shepherd is” and the prayer “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want…” also used the idea of us as God’s flock of sheep. The love of God, it seemed, had little in common with any of the romantic forms of love which seemed so omnipresent in books, films and the media.

For a start, God’s love was unconditional.


God loved us, his creation, all equally, and that was that…

God’s love was constant…

God’s love was forever…

With romantic love, people could ‘fall in AND out of it’ in spite of the diet of ‘happy ever after’ endings that we were fed by the books and films. The very actors and actresses who on-screen were exemplars of fidelity, would become off-screen, notorious for their frequent dalliances.

Divorce followed marriage as day follows night.

We learnt that God sent his son Jesus, to Earth, to teach us that we should all love each other and not fight wars.

Considering the word ‘Love’ has such global importance, its dictionary definition is scant to say the least. ‘Warm affection’, ‘strong emotional attachment’, ‘self-sacrificing goodwill’ are just a few stabs that my dictionary makes at this mega-word.


Jesus presented that we should love our fellow man and forgive them their transgressions. He was famously crucified between two well-known criminals and this made one of them very uneasy about the injustice of it, protesting verbally. Although one cannot be sure of the veracity of this, it demonstrates that even a member of humanity who had gone ‘astray’, recognised the absolute injustice of the situation.

Jesus, during his short life, had demonstrated the all-inclusiveness of God’s love by associating with such people.

Unfortunately for him and us, the teachings of Jesus fell largely on deaf ears and in spite of the religious organisations that his words spawned, humanity continued to ‘get it wrong’ for centuries.

It is hugely ironic that Jesus’ teachings were misinterpreted as revolutionary and seditious, and he was put to death publicly, in one of the cruellest and most painful ways devised by man.

He was scornfully described as ‘King of the Jews’ by his detractors – among whom numbered the various ‘Royal’ families and of course the Roman occupiers. It must be said though, that the Romans seemed far less enthusiastic about putting him to death than the local population.

Ultimately, they seemed to regard Jesus more as a potential public-order threat than a dangerous individual. The famous ‘washing of hands’ by Roman governor Pontius Pilate, to distance himself and his empire from this distasteful event, is symbolic of Rome’s reluctance to get involved in what seemed to them no more than ‘a little local difficulty’.

So are we any the wiser about the word ‘love’?


Nobody ever claimed that Love was easy.

It’s hard to love your neighbour when their barking dog keeps you awake or their children party into the small hours, showing no consideration for you or anybody else!

Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have made several very important points on this subject, on the various occasions that I have attended presentations of their teachings.

  • Firstly… we are not all separate individuals. We are, in effect, all ‘chips off the same block’ and we are all equal, in love and all else.
  •  Secondly… we all contain within each of us the intelligence of the heart and everything we need to know about everything, including love!
  • Thirdly… everything consists of energy and that includes Love.
  • Fourthly… we must first discover how to love ourselves before we can love others.

This final point, that Serge Benhayon presents consistently through example, is perhaps the most relevant when forgiving your transgressing neighbours!

So far from being a mushy/weepy/sentimental word, the word Love is in effect very muscular, robust and powerful.


According to a song, it’s what makes the world go round, but I think that this is possibly an understatement.

It is at the very least, the universal driving energy that has propelled humanity right through the dark ages to the present day and continues to drive us forward and upward.

I am deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who continue to present and reflect what Love truly is.

By Jonathan Cooke, France

Further Reading:
How Love Really Works
Love Is…

1,296 thoughts on “The Word Love…

  1. The term, making love, is quite fitting really as when you are love and you move or do something within that loving quality, everything/everyone feels that love and registers that within themselves and can be confirmed in that. It just wouldn’t be right to say we are doing love, although that’s basically what we are saying when we make love a doing without love in it.

  2. The evolution of our understanding of the word ‘love’ summed up in one amusing and insightful piece – I love it. In fact did you know the word ‘evolve’ can be formed from ‘love’? And that backwards, ‘evolve; reads ‘evlove’ – which I’m taking as shorthand for ‘everybody love’? And if we can action that instruction, then we can all evolve!

  3. I love how you have gone to town and covered every angle of how love is used and abused Jonathan. Love is what truly connects us all but to ignore this fact, false interpretations are aroused and the made up love can justify going to war. It changes everything when we know we are made of love so love is our natural and innate expression.

  4. ” This compact unpretentious little word has perhaps more power crammed into its meagre four letters than almost any other word.” This is so true Jonathan and because of its power and truth and non judgement , the word love has been bastardised so that we will not know love , we will be taught and shown conditional love and be fooled into believing that conditional love is love.

  5. Love is easy when you know what love is, and that isn’t the love of giant romance and falling in love, but the tender inner connection that founds all else in life.

  6. No accident or surprise that the word Love has been thrown around, twisted and reinterpreted so that the true meaning and knowing we all have about what Love is, becomes less clear if not lost. When we doubt and lose sight of what love truly is, we’re doubting and losing sight of ourselves.

  7. The word love is used to mean many things, to love someone, to love something, the depth of the feeling can be deeply felt by another if it is truly meant, yet it is a word that is often said with no true meaning behind it, and if we don’t feel love for ourselves first, how are we able to love another?

  8. Love really is all around us. We just have to open our eyes, bring awareness, and feel it. However, because we are bombarded with such imagery of war, hatred and disharmony, we feel that is all that is on offer, but that is just not true.

  9. “It’s hard to love your neighbour when their barking dog keeps you awake or their children party into the small hours, showing no consideration for you or anybody else!” This line made me laugh because it shows exactly what we do with the word love which is make it conditional, that is I will love you if this and this happens. If there is any hint of condition placed on a person or situation then it is not love.

  10. Beautiful Jonathan you confirm to us all that it’s ok to admit that we were wrong about Love – because the reason we know all the imposters aren’t true is that we are naturally designed to know it inside. Instead of a discovery, it’s just a return to holding and beholding ourselves and the world. We made Love so small for so long but now we can live it Universal.

  11. Where we you when I was at school? I ‘loved’ this article and what it presented and it didn’t have all the hallmarks for what you usually read about what we take as love in the world at this point. What we do from here with what we are now aware of is up to us but I know for me the rediscovery of what love truly means and is has been the most refreshing thing to do and the greater thing about this is that it’s never ending. True love is an ever expanding awareness and feeling.

  12. My relationship with the word Love completely changed when I felt what I now understand is ‘true’ love and showed me how what I thought was love was so far from Love no wonder I could never find it!

  13. I love this simplicity of these four letters and how each and every one of us has the opportunity to move, express and be love at anytime and it all comes back to our choices. Love is simply awesome.

  14. Love is in fact where we are from and that’s why we feel so devastated when we live in disconnection from the love that actually resides in us. And from this devastation we are desperately looking outside of us and seem to be happy with the surrogate of recognition and reward instead.

  15. I love the fact that we are all equal. I don’t love the fact that we don’t live like that. But I do love the fact that we are returning to this knowledge and it is starting to be lived in this world.

  16. Its interesting to observe that how we use the word love is often in a light hearted way. Not that there is anything heavy about it, but that its deeper meaning has been disconnected from the way its used.

  17. I am discovering that I can neither send love or have love sent to me – for I am Love at the core of my being and to live that love is to offer a reflection to others, and in that moment, they too can know this truth for themselves.

  18. It is possible to connect with ourselves so deeply, and in such a way that we feel that extraordinary beholding love that is God, and that we are held deeply, intimately, and unconditionally.

  19. It’s absolutely essential to understand the truth of love – without it the ‘diet’ of false impressions is absolutely overwhelming and all consuming. This diet of what love is not is a pretty good indicator that there is something far more stupendous, otherwise we would be satisfied right?

  20. Our deepest and most ancient hurt is withdrawing from the love that we are. It is the ache of this separation that fuels all conflict within us and thus in the world.

  21. We can bastardise the meaning of love for a long time but this will not diminish or make the quality of love any less. Love just is and is always there in the hearts of all people. We only have to make the choice to follow our natural pull to return to that sacred place to find the stillness inside.

  22. Love is who we are but we have made it who we are not – thus under we go in the illusion of a false emotional love that has us pining for the something that seemingly exists outside of us as a way to not reconnected to the depth of love that lives within us.

  23. Thank you Jonathan for quite a humorous understanding as to how we as humanity have rejected LOVE and put false love into all aspects of society even into religion, man made religions that is.

  24. The greatest bastardisation of the word love lies in the fact that its common meaning is void of any true responsibility which is completely the opposite of the truth of the word.

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