The Word Love…

The word LOVE….


This compact unpretentious little word has perhaps more power crammed into its meagre four letters than almost any other word.

We can apparently make, give or send it, but when we lose it or are deprived of it, we are torn apart.

During the 1950s, at a single-figure childhood age, I remember feeling slightly squirmy when the word love was used.

Love was one of those words used by grown-ups which seemed to provoke mirth and embarrassment in equal measure.


In Hollywood films the arrival of love was signalled to the audience by a large string orchestra playing a soaring crescendo of emotion-packed chords and themes.

We would see the two featured stars in separate close-ups, who in spite of being on opposite sides of a noisy, crowded room, would somehow notice only each other, and after just a few steps they would be in each other’s arms.

By some miracle, nobody got trodden on or had their drink spilt.

The cinema audience would react with some stifled nose-blowing, and perhaps a few damp cheeks.

At school there were girls – at least up until the age of eleven, after which, many of us went on to single-sex schools.

During this pre-pubescent period, the word love (which was really only ‘LUV’ according to one of our teachers and therefore meaningless), was used a lot, especially by girls. A knot of giggling females would emerge from some group discussion in a corner, and propel the chosen victim towards a boy. There would then be a sort of chorus of “she loves you”, and the wriggling girl would be pushed forward, protesting. This was often not entirely unexpected by him, as it would have been the subject of ‘whisperings’ for several days.

If the boy knew that some of his mates were witnessing all this, he might affect a sort of casual, cool, insouciant reaction, in spite of being really quite worked-up inside!

It was what was expected, and was lifted directly from the myriad cowboy films that could be seen on television any day of the week during the fifties and sixties. What was good enough for Clint Eastwood was fine by us!

I have quite fond memories of this period because it had as its chief appeal a sort of simplicity and innocence that would rapidly evaporate in the coming years, during which our biological clocks would inexorably propel us into the turbulent waters of puberty.

I remember fresh-faced girls (without any make-up of course), but just a slight smell of scented soap, who would laugh and allow a brief peck on their cheek during one of the frequent bouts of “kiss-chase” in the playground. This was one of the few opportunities one had for contact with the opposite sex, as girls and boys tended to congregate with their own gender while in school.

During this period, the word LOVE was really just LUV. That teacher had been spot-on, for it was just a pale watered-down imitation of the romantic love that was portrayed in films and discussed in myriad magazines.


With the arrival of American pop music came a transatlantic variant of this which was LURVE.

During religious instruction lessons, which were often little more than bible stories being read to us, we learned about the God of Love.

A hymn used the words “The God of Love, my shepherd is” and the prayer “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want…” also used the idea of us as God’s flock of sheep. The love of God, it seemed, had little in common with any of the romantic forms of love which seemed so omnipresent in books, films and the media.

For a start, God’s love was unconditional.


God loved us, his creation, all equally, and that was that…

God’s love was constant…

God’s love was forever…

With romantic love, people could ‘fall in AND out of it’ in spite of the diet of ‘happy ever after’ endings that we were fed by the books and films. The very actors and actresses who on-screen were exemplars of fidelity, would become off-screen, notorious for their frequent dalliances.

Divorce followed marriage as day follows night.

We learnt that God sent his son Jesus, to Earth, to teach us that we should all love each other and not fight wars.

Considering the word ‘Love’ has such global importance, its dictionary definition is scant to say the least. ‘Warm affection’, ‘strong emotional attachment’, ‘self-sacrificing goodwill’ are just a few stabs that my dictionary makes at this mega-word.


Jesus presented that we should love our fellow man and forgive them their transgressions. He was famously crucified between two well-known criminals and this made one of them very uneasy about the injustice of it, protesting verbally. Although one cannot be sure of the veracity of this, it demonstrates that even a member of humanity who had gone ‘astray’, recognised the absolute injustice of the situation.

Jesus, during his short life, had demonstrated the all-inclusiveness of God’s love by associating with such people.

Unfortunately for him and us, the teachings of Jesus fell largely on deaf ears and in spite of the religious organisations that his words spawned, humanity continued to ‘get it wrong’ for centuries.

It is hugely ironic that Jesus’ teachings were misinterpreted as revolutionary and seditious, and he was put to death publicly, in one of the cruellest and most painful ways devised by man.

He was scornfully described as ‘King of the Jews’ by his detractors – among whom numbered the various ‘Royal’ families and of course the Roman occupiers. It must be said though, that the Romans seemed far less enthusiastic about putting him to death than the local population.

Ultimately, they seemed to regard Jesus more as a potential public-order threat than a dangerous individual. The famous ‘washing of hands’ by Roman governor Pontius Pilate, to distance himself and his empire from this distasteful event, is symbolic of Rome’s reluctance to get involved in what seemed to them no more than ‘a little local difficulty’.

So are we any the wiser about the word ‘love’?


Nobody ever claimed that Love was easy.

It’s hard to love your neighbour when their barking dog keeps you awake or their children party into the small hours, showing no consideration for you or anybody else!

Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have made several very important points on this subject, on the various occasions that I have attended presentations of their teachings.

  • Firstly… we are not all separate individuals. We are, in effect, all ‘chips off the same block’ and we are all equal, in love and all else.
  •  Secondly… we all contain within each of us the intelligence of the heart and everything we need to know about everything, including love!
  • Thirdly… everything consists of energy and that includes Love.
  • Fourthly… we must first discover how to love ourselves before we can love others.

This final point, that Serge Benhayon presents consistently through example, is perhaps the most relevant when forgiving your transgressing neighbours!

So far from being a mushy/weepy/sentimental word, the word Love is in effect very muscular, robust and powerful.


According to a song, it’s what makes the world go round, but I think that this is possibly an understatement.

It is at the very least, the universal driving energy that has propelled humanity right through the dark ages to the present day and continues to drive us forward and upward.

I am deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who continue to present and reflect what Love truly is.

By Jonathan Cooke, France

Further Reading:
How Love Really Works
Love Is…

1,241 thoughts on “The Word Love…

  1. Love is much more that just a four letter word. It is an expression of living and one that encompasses every facet of our lives each and everyday. That’s a lot of power for four letters.

  2. It was never ever expressed to me when I was growing up that I was love and that love was inside of me. Everything led me to believe that love was something to be sought, to try to win, to search for etc.
    It never ever occurred to me that it was already within me and that it is my expression of this and allowing it out that then builds love in my life.

  3. Love is not an action, but rather a quality of being-ness. If one is in that quality of being-ness whilst carrying out any action, then that action can be said to be an act of love. If that quality of being-ness is missing, then no matter how altruistic or well meaning the action is, it is no longer an action of love.

  4. When I get still, really still then I can feel the energy of love. It’s a state that is there but I need to get myself in a space where I can actually connect with that energy. It feels like a surrender into it and an allowing as well.

  5. What I’m appreciating more about love in truth is how totally unconditional it is – that it is truly not needy. And with this I’m becoming more aware of where I choose to attach to getting a certain kind of ‘return’ on my investment so to speak rather than just choosing to connect with and express the love I know we all are innately.

  6. Johnathan I love your sense of humour ‘It’s hard to love your neighbour when their barking dog keeps you awake or their children party into the small hours, showing no consideration for you or anybody else!’ But seriously as you say are we any the wiser about the word love? As you have shared here still eons of years later regardless of all the masters and ancient teachings we have had we still continue to not live the love we all truly are …’Unfortunately for him and us, the teachings of Jesus fell largely on deaf ears and in spite of the religious organisations that his words spawned, humanity continued to ‘get it wrong’ for centuries’ .. trustfully this will change soon because it is long about time.

  7. It was a revelation when Serge Benhayon presented to me for the first time that true love does not have one drop of emotion in it…but when I realised that what I called love was based on emotional need and wanting another person to be something for me, it made complete sense, For it is true, that in true love there is not once ounce of need either.

  8. On reading your blog today Jonathan I was inspired by your fourth point on LOVE, from the teachings of Universal Medicine.; it is simple, true and profound;
    “we must first discover how to love ourselves before we can love others”.

  9. Isn’t it the same thing with love as it is with words such as God, Truth. Religion? They do have an actual meaning but we have used them in ways that people these days shy away from their true meaning and practice. I know people shy away for using God for example when God is what we are, innately. That shows how much damage the misuse of words can cause.

  10. A comical and contemplative piece of writing that was a pleasure to read. It is somewhat amusing that a word can have so many meanings and connotations yet equally a shame, for without discerning of the energetic truth of love or it’s use in any moment, we are the mercy of the differences of any one interpretation, void of the exquisiteness the word in truth encompasses.

  11. The concept of two types of love is interesting the movie romance and the God type – We do experience these separately which should be a great starting point to question why? What are the pictures beliefs and ideals that we have stacked up around these concepts? We have one heart one soul surely it is only one type of love?

  12. I love this blog Jonathan, or at least I think that’s what it is? Perhaps I only LUV it, and it’s not true love at all!
    Understanding the difference and arriving at the fact there is only ONE LOVE, not various forms of love as we’ve allowed to be the case for a long time… the romantic kind, the family sort, the kind you have for your kids, the one you settle into after 10 years of marriage etc. Love is love and is a state of being, everything else from there is an expression of that one love, in all sorts of ways, none of which differs in it’s quality in any way whatsoever. Thanks for the delightfully playful expose on the topic.

  13. I love the last sentence about love being more than just what makes the world go round, it is what the universe is held in, God’s breath, God’s love, its what pulses everything to be and grow and know. The fact we are made up of the same stuff as the stars, as the trees, that we are pulsed forth by the same intelligence is so humbling and divine.

  14. There is much abuse, bribery, control and manipulation carried out in the name of love. We all know love because we all know what is not love.

  15. Really great to unpack this word and so much that we have managed to cram into it! Serge Benhayon presents with unparalleled clarity on this in my experience, reminding us of something we all know but may have hindered with layers of false ideals and images.

  16. All I know is that a baby is full of love, it is in their absolute essence and everyone can feel how precious this is, we all are love and know love at a cellular level before we had words so it is no wonder that words cannot convey what is truly felt when we are in connection with the love of the universal intelligence.

  17. Love “We can apparently make, give or send it, but when we lose it or are deprived of it, we are torn apart.” This is how many have been living, including myself until I met Universal Medicine, who reminded me that love is not outside of me, it is inside of me and I cannot ever lose it. I just have to make a choice to constantly connect to the love inside of me. I don’t need to make it, give it or send, I just need to live and reflect the love that I am.

  18. Because Serge Benhayon has made the clear distinction between a feeling and an emotion, love has been demystified in the sense that it has nothing at all to do with any Hollywood or bible versions. Love is not an emotion and does not require another to somehow provide it for us; love is first and foremost within.

  19. We use the word love freely, for example, we talk about loving peanut butter, or ice cream or a movie. But is this love? To love means to have connected to the love that we are fundamentally made up of and then to emanate it so that others see it reflected. It has nothing to do with our taste buds or our choice in distractions.

  20. I have enjoyed returning to this blog and what strikes me once again is how distracted Humanity is by ‘Lurve’ the emotional kind, the kind that relies on another to bring, otherwise we are ‘Lurveless’ and worthless. The truth that love is a quality that ‘we’ bring to ourselves and to all others including all our actions is empowering – Today, I choose ‘Love’. Thanks Jonathan

  21. I love the word love for its simplicity. It is the simplicity of love and the quality of our movements from this expression that carries so much power. It is only when we deny love and complicate life with drama and or choices that take us away from our loving expression and then connect us to another source that inevitably muddies our quality of connection.

  22. How many times have I heard the fact that Love is unconditional? How many times I have I nodded along knowing this was the case, in my heart? But why then don’t I live like this? Our history is full of the truth, but also of members of our race who put emphasis on the words themselves and not on bringing them to life. We have seen as you show Jonathan exactly what this approach brings – so it’s up to us, are we ready to make our living way finally match up to what we say?

  23. My head ached a bit when I was reading all the different versions of ‘love’ you were describing, it felt very complicated and designed to stop us from knowing true love.

    Then when I read your experience of Serge Benhayon and his presentations, the ache stopped and I could feel the simplicity and the truth of what was being presented.

  24. You cannot send love, nor receive it. You can only emanate it, which can of course then be felt, and in turn inspire another to connect to their own essence. Kind of like watching a room full of light bulbs turn on one at at a time.

  25. Such a charming article Jonathan, I love it! And I mean that in the truest possible way – the Ageless Wisdom way : ))

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