The Word Love…

The word LOVE….

This compact unpretentious little word has perhaps more power crammed into its meagre four letters than almost any other word.

We can apparently make, give or send it, but when we lose it or are deprived of it, we are torn apart.

During the 1950s, at a single-figure childhood age, I remember feeling slightly squirmy when the word love was used.

Love was one of those words used by grown-ups which seemed to provoke mirth and embarrassment in equal measure.

In Hollywood films the arrival of love was signalled to the audience by a large string orchestra playing a soaring crescendo of emotion-packed chords and themes.

We would see the two featured stars in separate close-ups, who in spite of being on opposite sides of a noisy, crowded room, would somehow notice only each other, and after just a few steps they would be in each other’s arms.

By some miracle, nobody got trodden on or had their drink spilt.

The cinema audience would react with some stifled nose-blowing, and perhaps a few damp cheeks.

At school there were girls – at least up until the age of eleven, after which, many of us went on to single-sex schools.

During this pre-pubescent period, the word love (which was really only ‘LUV’ according to one of our teachers and therefore meaningless), was used a lot, especially by girls. A knot of giggling females would emerge from some group discussion in a corner, and propel the chosen victim towards a boy. There would then be a sort of chorus of “she loves you”, and the wriggling girl would be pushed forward, protesting. This was often not entirely unexpected by him, as it would have been the subject of ‘whisperings’ for several days.

If the boy knew that some of his mates were witnessing all this, he might affect a sort of casual, cool, insouciant reaction, in spite of being really quite worked-up inside!

It was what was expected, and was lifted directly from the myriad cowboy films that could be seen on television any day of the week during the fifties and sixties. What was good enough for Clint Eastwood was fine by us!

I have quite fond memories of this period because it had as its chief appeal a sort of simplicity and innocence that would rapidly evaporate in the coming years, during which our biological clocks would inexorably propel us into the turbulent waters of puberty.

I remember fresh-faced girls (without any make-up of course), but just a slight smell of scented soap, who would laugh and allow a brief peck on their cheek during one of the frequent bouts of “kiss-chase” in the playground. This was one of the few opportunities one had for contact with the opposite sex, as girls and boys tended to congregate with their own gender while in school.

During this period, the word LOVE was really just LUV. That teacher had been spot-on, for it was just a pale watered-down imitation of the romantic love that was portrayed in films and discussed in myriad magazines.

With the arrival of American pop music came a transatlantic variant of this which was LURVE.

During religious instruction lessons, which were often little more than bible stories being read to us, we learned about the God of Love.

A hymn used the words “The God of Love, my shepherd is” and the prayer “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want…” also used the idea of us as God’s flock of sheep. The love of God, it seemed, had little in common with any of the romantic forms of love which seemed so omnipresent in books, films and the media.

For a start, God’s love was unconditional.

God loved us, his creation, all equally, and that was that…

God’s love was constant…

God’s love was forever…

With romantic love, people could ‘fall in AND out of it’ in spite of the diet of ‘happy ever after’ endings that we were fed by the books and films. The very actors and actresses who on-screen were exemplars of fidelity, would become off-screen, notorious for their frequent dalliances.

Divorce followed marriage as day follows night.

We learnt that God sent his son Jesus, to Earth, to teach us that we should all love each other and not fight wars.

Considering the word ‘Love’ has such global importance, its dictionary definition is scant to say the least. ‘Warm affection’, ‘strong emotional attachment’, ‘self-sacrificing goodwill’ are just a few stabs that my dictionary makes at this mega-word.

Jesus presented that we should love our fellow man and forgive them their transgressions. He was famously crucified between two well-known criminals and this made one of them very uneasy about the injustice of it, protesting verbally. Although one cannot be sure of the veracity of this, it demonstrates that even a member of humanity who had gone ‘astray’, recognised the absolute injustice of the situation.

Jesus, during his short life, had demonstrated the all-inclusiveness of God’s love by associating with such people.

Unfortunately for him and us, the teachings of Jesus fell largely on deaf ears and in spite of the religious organisations that his words spawned, humanity continued to ‘get it wrong’ for centuries.

It is hugely ironic that Jesus’ teachings were misinterpreted as revolutionary and seditious, and he was put to death publicly, in one of the cruellest and most painful ways devised by man.

He was scornfully described as ‘King of the Jews’ by his detractors – among whom numbered the various ‘Royal’ families and of course the Roman occupiers. It must be said though, that the Romans seemed far less enthusiastic about putting him to death than the local population.

Ultimately, they seemed to regard Jesus more as a potential public-order threat than a dangerous individual. The famous ‘washing of hands’ by Roman governor Pontius Pilate, to distance himself and his empire from this distasteful event, is symbolic of Rome’s reluctance to get involved in what seemed to them no more than ‘a little local difficulty’.

So are we any the wiser about the word ‘love’?

Nobody ever claimed that Love was easy.

It’s hard to love your neighbour when their barking dog keeps you awake or their children party into the small hours, showing no consideration for you or anybody else!

Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have made several very important points on this subject, on the various occasions that I have attended presentations of their teachings.

  • Firstly… we are not all separate individuals. We are, in effect, all ‘chips off the same block’ and we are all equal, in love and all else.
  •  Secondly… we all contain within each of us the intelligence of the heart and everything we need to know about everything, including love!
  • Thirdly… everything consists of energy and that includes Love.
  • Fourthly… we must first discover how to love ourselves before we can love others.

This final point, that Serge Benhayon presents consistently through example, is perhaps the most relevant when forgiving your transgressing neighbours!

So far from being a mushy/weepy/sentimental word, the word Love is in effect very muscular, robust and powerful.

According to a song, it’s what makes the world go round, but I think that this is possibly an understatement.

It is at the very least, the universal driving energy that has propelled humanity right through the dark ages to the present day and continues to drive us forward and upward.

I am deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who continue to present and reflect what Love truly is.

By Jonathan Cooke, France

Further Reading:
How Love Really Works
Love Is…

1,411 thoughts on “The Word Love…

  1. This is my first time reading this blog, and I must say I love how Jonathan writes, his style is very beautiful. I look forward to reading some more of his blogs, or maybe even books.

  2. I love this truth regarding love “Love is a ‘beholder light.’ It is the emanating quality of the essence that has originated all life. Love itself is an energy or a light which has a specific quality or vibration that is known within the essence of all life, since all life was created by its essence. When correctly expressed it is felt as a beholdment, that is, the one expressing it can contain or behold the light of another within them, however, it will not assume power or authority over the other light, but meet that light by its equal essence – this is what love is and what it does when it is truly expressed.” Serge Benhayon, A Treatise on Consciousness, p 405.

    It takes it to a whole other level … well what is expressed here is the truth, truth with regards to love and as you can see has not one once of emotion in it. As you are, I am also deeply inspired by Serge.

  3. For me Love has a lot to do with allowing, observing and understanding. The more I allow and observe, the more I understand, the less I judge, the more I love.

  4. For me the most beautiful study of love comes from observing how God is and how God feels. For me in my relationship with God I am always loved and understood in my humanness, yet always held as the divine being I am, and never imposed upon. This forms the basis for my relationships with other human beings, and its something that comes naturally the more I live lovingly with myself. In a world saturated with false versions of love for me this is the way out of the sea of lies and back to the truth, and it’s a truth that sits waiting to be accessed in the inner heart of every woman, man and child.

  5. I was quite shocked to read about your dictionary definition of the word ‘Love’ ‘Considering the word ‘Love’ has such global importance, its dictionary definition is scant to say the least. ‘Warm affection’, ‘strong emotional attachment’, ‘self-sacrificing goodwill’ are just a few stabs that my dictionary makes at this mega-word.’ It is indeed ‘the universal driving energy that has propelled humanity right through the dark ages to the present day and continues to drive us forward and upward.’ A beautiful blog Jonathan.

  6. I love that when we get to the truth, everything can be seen in the lightness with no judgment and we just become joy-full for truth. But boy, how common is it for many of us to get stuck on those ideas of love that are way off the truth and spend life times going after it – maybe it was just how our twisted sense of humour got manifested ,pretending that we didn’t know who we were.

  7. Thank You Jonathan, Love is simple and should always be something that is felt as it has always been in our inner-heart and or our inner-essence. Our inner-heart should never be misconstrued with the emotional feeling people have dubiously placed on love and seeing True-Love is universal and is always expanding or deepening it is a dedicated responsibility to remain reconnected to our essences by our Loving choices.

  8. Jonathan I hope you will write a book, I really enjoy your writing. What a journey I have had with love, from the childhood crushes at school, to loving pop stars as a teen, beliefs about romance, marriage, friendship, and beliefs that love is something you can only experience with the “One”, and that it is something you get outside of yourself. Meeting Serge what I have learnt both from his presence and his work is that love is actually our essence or true state of being, and I’ve experienced that now many times within myself. What a journey to get to the truth about love.

    1. A book by Jonathan – great suggestion Melinda! From never having heard the word mentioned in my family growing up I too had an interesting journey with the word love through my teenage years, similar to yours and maybe many others. The inspiration from Serge Benhayon to connect us back to its true meaning has literally changed my life.

  9. We think we can fall in and out of love with God but this is just another illusion that we have fallen for. God’s love is constant, we turn away from this love. God never stops the rain of love that is showered upon us he cannot because his very essence is love and we live in that essence.

    1. Yes, I love the fact that even tho I know people who say they don’t believe in God I know in my heart that God still loves them and it is them who have turned away – for now.

    2. Thank you Mary, what a joy to read your beautiful comment. I had a visual of people getting around with energetic umbrellas to not get drenched by the rain of love, and a suit of protective armour to not feel their own love. For something we want so much we sure make sure we make no contact with love!

  10. These wonderfully wise words – “we must first discover how to love ourselves before we can love others.” – ought to be some of the first words shared with our children and maybe then eventually we will be able to break down the beliefs and ideals that exist around this little word. Coming to understand what love truly is has been the key to an amazing doorway which has offered me a whole new and love-filled view of the world and all of humanity, my fellow brothers and sisters, who all want the same thing in their lives; to be loved.

    1. Absolutely Ingrid, we do all want the same thing in our lives and that is to be truly loved, when we feel this in our bodies there is nothing that can adequately describe the feeling it is pure Gold and the only Gold we can take with us to our next life’s.

  11. To discover that we are love is a huge revelation and turns our general understanding of love on its head.

  12. By virtue of the fact that we all have a Soul in which love is its divine expression, it is makes sense then that love is what unifies us and living in separation to our love within, through dishonouring our connection is how disparity becomes our way of living and relating with one another. We can never be truly separate from the love we are and as such from each other we just choose to live dishonouring it which then converts into abuse of various degrees.

  13. I agree no mush in LOVE. Love is humble, but with the power of the universe with it when we make LOVE about the ALL and not the self.

  14. ‘I am deeply inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who continue to present and reflect what Love truly is.’ Yes, without Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I suspect I’d still be very lost on the word love, still looking for it in ‘all the wrong places’ and also being very confused because I do know what it is but it is so different to the emotional love I’d sold out to.

  15. This warms my heart – “we all contain within each of us the intelligence of the heart and everything we need to know about everything, including love!”

  16. I always knew what love is.
    When we leave the true meaning of the word we do that to avoid to feel who we are And where we from because we like to join in with dwelling in the creation.

  17. I’ve tried in the past to live up to how the world around me told me I should ‘love’ people but it always blew up in my face as all those pictures never came from a base or even mention about loving myself first. Love as I know it today has to start with being love with myself.

  18. The movies have us fall for a love that isn’t true. For me it’s meant I set off in vain for something that kept me yearning whilst all along, there is a love I know innately that is majestic and powerful and absolute. A love I can connect to and rely on because I am love, we all are. Just this evening I found myself falling for false promises and fearing I would be turning away love, my completion and my happy ever after. But love is what connect to and bring with me to all my relationships. Someone else doesn’t hold the love I’ve been yearning for for safe keeping, handing it over only when I satisfy some condition they hold to be worthy.

  19. The movies do paint a very rosy picture of what romance and love are even though this is not the reality and can make people feel like that they do it wrong or that it is not ‘the one’ when there are issues in relationships.

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