Time for a New Normal

While having an Esoteric Breast Massage (EBM), it dawned on me in the middle of the session, – that this healing modality might not be considered by some as normal!

I lay there imagining what someone might think if they burst in on my session. Considering our modern day society, I feel many of us would agree that a woman massaging another woman’s breast tissue – even performed gently with no sexual connotations –may not be considered as ‘normal’. And so, because the outcome of every single Esoteric Breast Massage I have ever had has always been exquisitely supportive and has felt like I was giving myself the gift of clarity and wisdom, a truly self-loving experience in many ways, I began to ponder on what actually is ‘normal’.

The Oxford dictionary defines normal as being that which “conforms to a standard: usual, typical or expected.” (1)

But doesn’t what is usual, typical or expected, change from person to person?

What we do because we are told it is ‘normal’ can be quite shocking. It is normal to see a fist fight outside a pub at midnight. It is typical to drink alcohol every day of the week. It is expected for many Muslim women to wear a veil over their face. It is normal to see men and or women sleeping around; it is typical for people to expect the doctor to always be able to fix their medical problems; it is expected that mothers put their children first, before themselves. And it is definitely not normal to express how amazing we are.

What this very basic insight highlights is that these are behaviours that not everyone does or would even consider doing themselves, yet they are ordinary, commonplace and quite conventional actions for some people.

So the definition of what is normal cannot therefore be normal as there actually is no set normal for everybody. And yet in our society we accept and even champion behaviours based on what we deem is normal.

How does something become normal in society? New behaviours are performed by a group of people and when enough people are exhibiting that behaviour, it can then be accepted. It doesn’t even have to be the majority who either exhibit the behaviour or who accept it. However, it is considered normal because it is a behaviour that is typical or expected by a particular group. Once behaviour is repeated, it easily achieves the ‘normal’ tag.

Is it possible we have it all wrong? Are we using ‘normal’ as a definition to allow ourselves to get away with something?

To get away with a behaviour that says if enough people do it, then by virtue of the numbers of people doing it, that then can become the new normal. But who ever said ‘normal’ was what actually serves us, is what is true for us, or is even what is good for us?

Is ‘normal’ what we should be aspiring to?

If we are so fixated on being normal so we can judge others and ourselves and establish where we fit into society, then it is most decidedly time to create a new normal. Yes, the world dictates what is normal, but should it be this way? Should the world be allowed to name, assess, criticize, judge, disapprove and then condemn so-called normal behaviours?

Is it not time to develop a new normal? A true definition of what is normal?

What if what is truly normal is what we quietly (or sometimes, actually very loudly) feel inside ourselves that feels right, feels true and is evolutionary in our growth as human beings?

What is Normal For Us needs to become the new normal, regardless of whether we’re the only ones doing it and whether it is typical or expected behaviour.

Written from living the inspirational teachings of Universal Medicine, Serge Benhayon and Esoteric Breast Massage practitioners worldwide.

By Suzanne Anderssen, Brisbane, Australia

(1) http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/normal

Further Reading:
Change your Life
Society’s Truth-Tellers Will Always Challenge The Status Quo

1,314 thoughts on “Time for a New Normal

  1. When one’s ‘normal’ steps out of the comfortable box, it exposes all the comfort we have chosen for many a life.

  2. Not everything is everyone’s cup of tea, I couldn’t think of anything worse than a deep tissue massage but others love them. I don’t judge them and it would be great if that was a two way street in life. Unfortunately in the age of the digital era people seem to becoming less open and more derisive and dismissive of anything that doesn’t fit into their realm of thinking. Strange really as you would have thought it would broaden our horizon’s but rather we are narrower in our thinking much as it was in wartime Europe under Nazi rule. The more accepting and understanding of ourselves we become the more we will be able to accept others.

  3. As we are the world, it is our responsibility what we live as normal. As we are the examples by the way we live for our next generations. This is worth pondering on.

  4. And if we are truly ready to understand our selves our normal continues to change, deepen and as this happens, we adjust. What do we adjust to? To living from what we have felt is the next level of normal for ourselves. A very intimate journey each can only make for themselves.

  5. It is so time for a new normal, time for a new but old movement that brings back truth, love and joy as being the normal.

  6. “What is Normal For Us needs to become the new normal, regardless of whether we’re the only ones doing it and whether it is typical or expected behavior.” a great call here, to re-define normal to being something that is true and inline with what is supportive for all, not a way that happens to be common.

  7. Normal should not be defined as what the majority do. The majority of people drink alcohol, a known poison, for example, but should we therefore consider it normal to drink a poison? I am fairly sure that when I was a child, most people smoked and certainly those that didn’t still smoked because they couldn’t avoid breathing other people’s smoke in. Smoking was then considered normal even though it was killing us all. So surely the definition of normal needs to be changed or rather perhaps changed back to exclude behaviours that hold no true good for us.

  8. Is it not disconcerting to consider that for a woman to have her breasts massaged in a sexual way by another woman or a man are considered normal and expected – whereas for a woman to massage another woman’s breasts without an ounce of sexual intent is not? It is telling of how far we strayed from the pristineness we ought to live and relate to each there with, that an act of such deep respect and care for the woman is handed over to the sceptical and ludicrous view. It is an indictment of the gross disrespect and abuse of woman what we have allowed to be ‘normal’ – tragically so.

  9. Accepting the accepted ‘normal’ we are often accepting the lowest common denominator and by doing so we choose irresponsibility.

  10. It appears that so many follow along with what they believe is normal without even discerning whether this normal could be harming to them. It’s the case of ‘everyone’s doing it so I had better join in otherwise I’ll stick out for not doing so’. There are so many so-called normals, several of which you have quoted, that many in society have seemingly blindly accepted, where in truth they are so far away from it. Yes, it is definitely “time for a new normal” and we are the ones to claim it as the truth for us.

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