Biting my Nails – Old Habits die gently

I started biting my nails when I was about 6 years old, or even earlier… I remember my mother telling me not to do it, and eventually buying some foul tasting liquid to put on my nails. Despite this awful taste I persisted. It became a very unconscious habit that increased when I was aware of being anxious, for example reading a tension-inducing book or in my teens watching a literally – for me – a “nail-biting” TV programme! As I grew older and became more self conscious I tried to hide my nails by folding my fingers inside my palms so no one would notice. I felt helpless to do anything about it, although I would like to have stopped the habit. I chewed all the way through my school years.

I got married with bitten nails and let the end of my fingers drop when people wanted to see my engagement and wedding rings. At one point I even went for a manicure and had false nails put on. This worked for a while as I couldn’t chew my nails through the false ones. But even though my nails grew a little underneath, when the false nails fell off my own nails were so weak and brittle that they split and I chewed once more. Later I decided to try hypnotherapy in an effort to stop my habit: this technique worked for a while, and I dutifully performed the self hypnotherapy programme I had been given, but this didn’t hold and I once again chewed my nails.  I was trying to treat the symptoms, not the cause.

As a result of being introduced to Serge Benhayon and the Universal Medicine teachings 8 years ago, I realised that self-love was a new concept to me! I began to understand that my self-loathing and lack of self-love in my case manifested as nail biting   which I used as a form of anger against myself. It was safer to literally “eat myself” than to show my anger outwardly. How unloving was that?! My self esteem had been very low for a long time.

I began to alter my former lifestyle habits by choosing a gentler rhythm in my daily activities: this involved sleeping according to how my body felt and also eating a diet that suited me, for true nourishment – foods that didn’t make me feel heavy or bloated. I became more aware of how I moved about in my daily life and began a gentle daily walk. I stopped pushing myself, which had a hardening effect on me and my body. I became a lot more accepting of myself and appreciating myself for who I truly am, not what I had been told I was from childhood. I noticed how I began to feel so much better about and even like myself, something unheard of for as long as I could remember. I had spent a lot of money on various spiritual modalities before Universal Medicine, but nothing had really changed, as I had only experienced temporary relief from some symptoms.

I began to develop love for myself, which meant that I cared for and nurtured my body more, and this has lasted until this day.

I have also received Esoteric Healing from Universal Medicine practitioners. A few years after my initial introduction to Universal Medicine and as my self-love grew, I observed that I was no longer constantly chewing my nails… and in fact my nails were growing. This happened without any trying to stop! It seemed like a miracle to me. Fifty years of a habit evaporated over the next few months. Wow! I no longer hide my nails and hands out of embarrassment and even paint my nails, have manicures and choose to wear rings on occasions. Thank you to Serge Benhayon and all the amazing Universal Medicine practitioners who have supported me over the past few years as I return to the true me – a work still in progress.

By Sue Q, Somerset UK

Further Reading:
Learning to Feel my Feelings: Human Beings, not Human Doings

1,370 thoughts on “Biting my Nails – Old Habits die gently

  1. We so often try to fix or solve problems by dealing only with the physical almost battling against the underlying energy (which is the real cause) whilst not truly changing it. It is exhausting and is in fact the pure nature of what a solution or bandaide actually is.

    1. Solutions are a relief of the tension when we feel deeper into what is truly going on with us and taking responsibility for our own choices. The world champions solutions and is even proud of them, but they are just buying time. In the end, we all need to look deeper and take responsibility, question is: how much has to happen still/ how crazy/ sick does the world need to become, before we stop?

    2. Getting to the underlying energetic cause is so important. Otherwise we use discipline and the old habit can return. This is so obvious in the dieting industry where weight loss yo-yos and rarely do people manage to keep to their target weight without serious discipline.

  2. I remember friends at school who chewed their nails, they wanted to stop and just could not even with deterrents like foul tasting nail paint. Sue what you have shared here about developing your self love and self care being what supported the habit to dissolve could also relate to many unwanted habits and addictions.

    1. Yes, focusing on love and expanding that for myself – which of course leads on to expanding that to everyone else – rather than concentrating on the ‘trying to get rid of a negative habit’ – makes so much sense. Old habits if removed with discipline tend to return. With Love we feel full of ourselves, so there is no emptiness and no need to use an old habit to give us something that we previously lacked.

  3. I love that you stopped biting your nails without even noticing, rather the self loving activities you were doing took care of the need to eat yourself! I really love that the way forward is upping the love.

    1. It is magical indeed, how things fall into place and we realise how patterns or behaviours do not exist anymore because we worked on our self love. Focussing on the bits we are not so great in will not change them. Building a new foundation of love in our body does resolve them ” automatically” by choosing so.

  4. It is never a NO to things we want to change but a YES on a bigger scale to you that truly changes habits and patterns that are actually holding us in the loop of distraction or self sabotage.

  5. I love that biting your nails fell away – this is so telling of the fact that we can look beyond the issue – that there is always something more to understand which then does not allow space for anything that is not loving or supportive.

  6. So many of us have similar behaviours that we go to when a hint of anxiety comes up for us. What we don’t realise is that in going to the behaviour we leave our stillness and our connection to ourself and in the moment become owned by something outside us. I am still working on mine!

  7. “I was trying to treat the symptoms, not the cause.” Yes that is the key to change, to healing the root cause of our behaviours and not just trying to force ourselves to stop, because even if we proceed the underlying issue is still there and probably we are now doing something else that releases the tension instead of the habit we stopped with force.

  8. This is beautiful Sue as it illustrates how we can stop a habit, go on a diet , .. or any other solution to improve our situation, but what truly changes? When we build a body of love our old habits and protections just naturally drop away.

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