I’ve been on the ‘missing list’ for the majority of my life. Along with a lot of other ‘missing’ folk.
And the truth is, I have really missed me not being around.
I, like so many others, had access to a knowingness as a child of how we could and should be. I was aware of it from an early age. I didn’t speak often but when I did, it was for all.
Continue reading “Find Me at the Lost and Found”
I was born and grew up in Australia and can say that as a culture and race of people, we have pretty much mastered the art of avoiding appreciation. This is kind of funny really because there is so much to appreciate about Australia, our culture and landscape. There are so many awesome and amazing people that I have met and been privileged to know in Australia!
However, it appears to me that many habitual aspects of our language and ways of interacting with each other can block truly appreciating one another.
Continue reading “Australians and the ‘Tall Poppy Syndrome’”
What is appreciation, really?
I recently pondered on this and realised my understanding of appreciation was quite shallow – based on either material gain, pictures of success and/or pandering to please and keep others and myself happy. Examples of things I have ‘appreciated’ from this perspective include: Continue reading “Peeling Back the Layers of Appreciation”
Recently I had a wonderful lesson presented to me on value and the wealth inherent in appreciation.
Someone recently completed a task for me that simplified my day no end.
It wasn’t part of their job but they had noticed I was having some difficulty with it, they knew how to do it and offered to finish it. In what seemed like no time at all they sent an email letting me know it was done. I was touched that they had taken the time in their busy day to support me so swiftly.
I started to dash off a thank you in reply – “You are a treasure.” I was just about to press send and I stopped. It didn’t feel right, it felt like just a throwaway line, an automatic response, empty; what we usually say without thinking. In effect, not truly valuing or appreciating them.
Continue reading “Appreciation, an Accumulation of Wealth”
We are moving to our new house in a few weeks, so this particular Sunday morning I had committed to getting started with some packing. I was halfway through the first box when I had a strong impulse to go and wash my new car so – box abandoned with slight feelings of guilt – outside I went with my favourite car washing cloths.
Continue reading “Washing my Car: a Lesson in Appreciation and Self-Care”
Over the past year I experienced a couple of difficult conflict situations. I didn’t handle either of them well, going into reaction without reading what was truly being offered for me to understand life at a deeper level. I collapsed in a heap both times, taking things very personally.
Those around me looked on. I felt guilty that I was unable to reflect to them a way of being that was inspiring. I wasn’t strong, steady or rational. In fact, I felt quite the opposite.
The guilt around this has for a long time preoccupied me, until just recently when I realised something very important.
Continue reading “I’ll Get Back Up: just Watch and See”
How fantastic is the word ‘sparkle’ in reference to human beings?
For a while now I have felt my sparkle return after having relinquished it. I feel all shiny and new as I have not known myself over the years to feel like this. I probably would have argued that the harshness of others took my sparkle away, although that doesn’t feel true, because each of us can choose to hold on to our sparkle even when things get pretty hard.
In 2009 I realised that much of my sparkle had gone but I knew deep inside that there was a true me, a forever sparkly me. It was at this time that I took my first step towards reclaiming my sparkle and I’ve made many little steps ever since.
Continue reading “Born to Sparkle”