Does the well-known saying “You can choose your friends but not your family,” reveal the fact that from the get go we believe we are hapless victims of circumstance and simply have to put up with what life has handed us? What if there is actually no accident in terms of who we end up with in family; that we in fact choose our family for the learning and experience we need this time around?
It occurred to me that these days the word ‘relationship’ is mainly used to refer to an intimate, romantic or sexual relationship and I wanted to find out whether that had always been this way. When I looked it up, I found that before 1944 this had not been the case and it made me wonder how they got to the exactness of that date?
I also learnt that the word ‘relationship’ comes from the Latin ‘referre’, to bring back.
In the last 8 months or so I have been looking at how sympathy has played out in my life, especially in my relationships with others.
But sympathy is a good thing, I hear you say with a puzzled look???
The more I unpack, feel, observe and be honest about how sympathy works its way in and through interactions, connections and relationships, the more I am understanding that sympathy is quite the opposite to what we have been sold and have believed it to be in life, and quite truthfully, how absolutely harming and poisoning it is for our bodies and for us to be in.
I recently watched a movie where two of the protagonists were trapped in an elevator for quite some time. Their initial dislike for each other, and being caught up in their own story, dissolves little by little when they decide to open up to each other and spend the unforeseen and uninvited time together, to get to know each other. And as the movies do… they fall in love.
What occurred to me is how something – Love – that is so natural to us, has been distorted and limited to just this one thing: to finding someone, to finding the love of your life who makes you happy and fulfilled.
But what if we always have the ability to see past this and see the true beauty in each other, to see who is behind all these facades of behaviour and ways to cope in the world, behind the stereotypes we use to categorise and behind all the images that can come between us?
I used to look to others to bring me clarity and support, thinking they had it all and I was the one who lacked in some way. However, since attending Universal Medicine workshops I have come to appreciate the innate wisdom we all have inside and the ability we have to connect to this and share it with people.
I was on my way for a day out in London with my niece, nephew and sister. I contemplated the choice between taking the tube or a taxi to our meeting point. My body felt tight at the thought of the tube and so I opted for the taxi option. Continue reading “The Tube or a Taxi? An Appreciation of Myself and What I Bring”
There are many beliefs and traditions about the way that Christmas pans out each year and for most it is either one of the most stimulating and looked forward to celebrations, or it is one of the most dreaded times of the year – for many different reasons. The lead-up to Christmas, the actual day and the days that follow can leave us utterly exhausted, emotional, or stressed out!
We need to wonder if this is the quality we really want to be in for our Christmas period? Have we lost sight that some of the reasons for celebrating Christmas could also be to focus on winding down after our year, celebrating family and enjoying quality time connecting together?
Christmas time can mean feeling a lot of pressure & expectations: Continue reading “In what Quality do we do Christmas?”