A little girl innocently walks up to a man sitting quietly on a bench in the park as she has chased a butterfly that landed next to him and she asks him if he noticed it too. But chasing behind her is her mother who, after a sheepish smile to the man takes the little girl’s hand and walks away with her, whispering that it was not safe to do what she did because that man is a stranger and “We don’t know him, so he could be dangerous,” asking her to never do that again.
I’m sure all of us can relate in some way to the above example, either from within our own family experiences or observed elsewhere. Understanding how the current state of humanity, with all its violence and stories of abuse on all levels could lead to this approach of avoiding interaction with strangers for our children and ourselves as adults, I feel that it has actually led to more separation in society and that we have traded connection for ‘security.’ But at what cost, and are we really any safer, or have we isolated ourselves from making connections with other people based on some belief and out of fear that everyone we previously did not know is a potential threat to our safety? That sure doesn’t feel like someone who is ‘secure’ to me, but actually very insecure and indeed even living in a state of anxiousness.
Moving back to the original example of the child approaching the ‘stranger’ in the first paragraph. It is this gorgeous openness and willingness to connect with others in a tender way that is so innate in children that we are threatening when we impose an image of anyone outside our family as a possible danger to us. Imagine the difference it would have made for that man sitting on the bench if he would have been able to share that magic moment with the little girl of a butterfly landing right next to him, feeling safe enough himself to do so, a reflection of his own knowingness that the ‘stranger’ was not a threat, instead of what transpired above, leaving the gentleman wondering, “Do I really look that scary?” or “I wonder what’s wrong with me that the mother felt to rush her daughter away from me like that?”
There have been countless times where I have struck up a conversation with one of these ‘strangers’ at the local tea shop, in the grocery store, or even in the lobby at the garage waiting for my car to be fixed and have experienced some really touching and expansive conversations that left me feeling so much more connected to people and trusting that at our core we all have so much love to be shared with each other when we let down our guards and allow ourselves to feel it.
These interactions have reminded me time and again, no matter what area of the U.S. or other country I have been in, that we are truly all the same divine beings and even though there are people out there that could be dangerous because they have deviated from their true nature, to assume that everyone we don’t know falls into that category is holding us back from evolving as a humanity by cutting the connections and growth there on offer.
By Michael Goodhart, Aircraft Technician, B.A. Psychology, Lover of Nature and being playful with life, North Carolina, USA
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109 thoughts on “Stranger Danger? I don’t think so!”
In the current ‘canary’-pandemic as it could be known, is it taking advantage of those of us who do not want to understand the bigger picture, so it is like we are kept in the dark, like canaries were last century to alert miners to impending danger? At the moment the whole world is on edge so it is amazing to walk through the super markets and connect with others with a simple smile and a Loving look. Maybe being light hearted could relieve the pressure of isolation at present?
Considering the bigger picture and when we look at the facts that hundred of thousands die globally each year from suicide, with millions impacted by domestic violence, have we stopped to consider the impact of isolation and our lack of true connection with others, on such things as suicide and domestic violence rates?
When we are open to everyone we drop the rejection and self-worth issues we can carry through life because of what has been projected on us.
We all feel whether we can trust someone or cannot, the openess we had as a child is still there if we are willing to leave behind what we have been taught and or have experienced in the past. The ability to connect with others is innate,we cannot live without each other and it is a lie that this should be limited, as in only friends, family members or people we know well.
The truth is that we know everybody intimately because we are the One United Body of God, we are the inside and outside of everything.
We are a human race who find solace in connecting with everyone we meet some may becomes friends and others we can spend less time with but we do feel a connection with everyone we encounter.
Yes, by acting so protective we create a society where there is lack of connection and from this lack of connection people can start to feel so empty and lonely that they indeed can start to do the things we are trying to protect ourselves from at the beginning. I feel that when we would open up more and meet other people and truly talk with them that there will be more love and warmth so people don’t feel so empty and they won’t go to the extremes so easily. It only has to be one person who truly sees you and connects with you that can change everything.
Absolutely Lieke, and the Harmonious way of living you have shared would do away with people committing acts that serve no one.
Is the fact we see a person we don’t know as a stranger a simple reflection that we are living as a stranger to our true essence?
In trusting our clairsentience – our capacity to simply feel and read what is really going on, we save ourselves a lot of complications.
Absolutely Henrietta, being understanding of our Clairsentience would it be our first sense or go to so we understand others more deeply?
Henrietta it occurs to me if as children we were encouraged to trust our clairsentience then we would naturally keep our own knowing of who to trust and know when someone is not in connection with the love within. Its such a natural part of ourselves but this example shows how we tell our children in so many ways not to trust their own wisdom.
When we only use our eyes we are looking out and not receiving the energy first and when we feel first our eyes can then confirm what we have already felt through our observation with our all our senses.
We are made to connect to each other. I used to address people in the shops by their name tag and not only did I see them change but I also felt lighter. I stopped doing this and recently returned to it. Connection is healthy for us and does make a difference.
Absolutely Leigh, and when we walk into a place and announce their name, because we have connected and can remember who they are, you can feel them light up!
This is so true. I used to work in a very busy motorway M & S store and on a busy day we could get five hundred people come through our tills. One particular day stood out to me because the majority of people were moaning because the lines were so long and didn’t want to engage with the staff but one guy actually said my name and it stood out. I remember being snapped out of something just by the mention of my name, no longer was I invisible or just a till worker who hadn’t got the time to talk to anyone. That moment has stayed with me as it was so unexpected. It’s very powerful when we address people by their name.
Absoulutely Julie, we are so much more than meets the eye and when we are True to who we are with our name being shared with Love this expands our awareness and deepens our relationship with Heaven.