The Consequences of our Choices

What determines the choices that we make and are we as free to choose as we think we are?

I have been aware for some time that the way that we choose to think, speak and move governs the thoughts, speech and movements that will come next, but it wasn’t until I experienced this for myself that I really knew it to be true.

Having just finished providing a treatment session for a friend, I came out of the clinic to find that I had been parked in. When I say, ‘parked in’ I mean that someone had literally parked their car horizontally across the tail of my car – there was absolutely no way that I could get out. I stood for a while in disbelief, unable to comprehend who would do that; I mean who would be that selfish to knowingly park someone in and then abandon their car?

I felt utterly trapped… I was tired and hungry and just wanted to go home. On top of that I had no idea what to do. I called a friend whose only suggestion was that I ‘key their car’ – basically, use my keys to put a dirty great scratch along the side of their car, which wasn’t a very helpful suggestion but nonetheless, if I’m really honest, it held some appeal.

I called the police who traced the number plate to see if there was a phone number associated with the car but there wasn’t and so there was nothing more that they could do.

A guy came into the car park and I shared with incredulity what had happened. He shared my disbelief and suggested that I get the car towed, to which I replied that if I could get the bill paid by the owner of the car then I wouldn’t hesitate in getting it towed. Whilst all of this was going on, I kept trying to call the car park supervisor but he wasn’t answering his phone, which was adding to my building frustration.

When one of the guys who worked in one of the clinics came out and saw how I had been deliberately parked in, he became quite agitated himself and said that if he had a car with a bull-bar he’d bulldoze the car out of the way for me, and I had no doubt that he meant it.

I was aware that I was starting to feel quite desperate by this stage, as well as really pissed off. I was also very aware that I didn’t want the owner to come out and leave whilst I was inside the building because I didn’t want to miss the opportunity of giving him or her a mouthful. I went and leant on my car boot and just kind of stared at the offending car. I noticed that a piece of the fender was coming away slightly and I put my hand on the metal and felt a strong urge to pull the metal away from the car and cause damage. I didn’t, but the impulse was strong…really strong.

I made one last ditch effort to go inside the building and find the owner. To my great surprise someone in the first office that I went into told me that the offending car belonged to the doctor working in the office next door. I marched into the office and shared with agitation what had happened. By this time I was ropeable. The secretary then explained that I had parked in the doctor’s parking spot and that the doctor was fed up with people parking in his parking spot, which is why he had parked as he had, but that he had left a note on my windscreen with his number, explaining what had happened. She then asked if I was going to apologise to the doctor. I was absolutely dumbstruck and unable at that point to even comprehend apologising.

The secretary came down and moved the car for the doctor. There was indeed a note on my windscreen, explaining what had happened and providing the telephone number of the doctor. It took me a while to simmer down. I was not able to settle my body for quite some time, but once home I called the doctor and apologised for parking in his spot, explaining that I had made a mistake about which parking spot belonged to the clinic that I was hiring.

On reflection, what really stood out to me was the fact that I had not doubted for one moment that the other person had acted unreasonably. And it was my interpretation of the event that had, in turn, influenced everyone that I spoke to and three of those people suggested violence as a way of dealing with the situation. And I can’t deny the fact that I too had felt a strong urge to act violently. As soon as I reacted I lost the ability to see things clearly, my head and body became a breeding ground for judgement, projections and emotion. I was literally unable to consider any other view than the narrow one that I had assumed and so I didn’t even consider the possibility that someone may have left a note on my windscreen, which in truth is a very common thing to do.

My usual steadiness, which comes from my fairly constant connection to myself through my body, was wrecked. I had allowed myself to become totally unhinged, and once separated from my body, it provided a gap through which emotions such as frustration and anger were able to pour. Once in, these emotions then paved the way for thoughts that I don’t usually allow in or if they do manage to get in, I choose to not entertain. These thoughts then set me up to receive more emotions and thoughts of a similar ilk: physical violence being one such thought.

I can categorically say that a deviation from my usual thoughts, emotions and movements took me on a very unfamiliar segue: one that is not within my normal range of choices but one that became very real very quickly.

We all like to think that we are in control of who we deem ourselves to be. Each of us thinks that we are free to choose to behave in ways that seem appropriate or desirable for us, but that’s simply not true.We are portals for energy. We are constantly streaming thoughts and emotions through us, and the quality of those thoughts and emotions set up the range of thoughts, emotions and movements that will then follow.

Therefore, we are not at the mercy of our environment, as so many of us like to believe, but moreover the recipients of our choices.

By Anonymous

Related reading:
Energetic Integrity and Energetic Responsibility
Living with connection
How do we know everything is energy?

115 thoughts on “The Consequences of our Choices

  1. I love the honesty of your sharing anonymous. How many times have we all projected our thoughts, emotions and interpretations on events without ever contemplating where we might need to take responsibility first?

  2. It was shown to me recently that I was moving in a predetermined way because of hurts I had taken on as a child nearly 60 years ago. When the way I was moving was lovingly exposed I had an immediate flash back to my childhood and the constant battles I had with my family to be heard and understood. I had no idea I had internalized the hurts which then had an effect on everything; the way I walked, talked, engaged with people and the world was coloured by my childhood experiences. So to me it makes complete sense that we are what we have aligned to as we become conditioned by the hurts we internalise. Is it possible that then the choices we make are not free choices at all but are set up by the way we have been conditioned? We think we think but actually we have aligned to a consciousness that moves us.

  3. Sometimes people park in our flat parking spaces when this happens I leave a note on their windscreen saying it is private parking and to please not park there again. The other week at around 3am in the morning someone outside was calling our flat, I thought it was someone messing around and left it. The next morning I heard someone honking their horn continuously, in looking out the window I saw someone had parked in my neighbours spot and my neighbour had blocked them in. After about 5 minutes of honking their horn where the whole neighbourhood was disturbed my neighbour went out, spoke with them and moved his car so they could get out. It turns out not only did they car park in someone else car parking space but at 3am in the morning in trying to find out who had blocked them in they called every single one of the flats, 12 in total. To me this was selfishness at the max with no regards for anyone else other than themselves and what they wanted.

  4. I overheard a family conversation that was taking place on the bench beside me recently. A parent of a young child had approached the Grandparents who were looking after a boy of about 8 years old. He had been swearing rudely at her little girl and obviously the little girl was very upset. The Grandparents were mortified that their Grand child could utter such abusive language towards another and when they were left with just the boy they ask him where he had heard such language. He told them his friends swear all the time. To which the Grandparents replied that just because someone is doing something that he knows is not correct he doesn’t have to join in. So therefore he had to face the consequences of his actions. At this the boy burst into what I would call crocodile tears the conversation went backwards and forwards for a while but the Grandparents didn’t seem to go through with the consequences. Is it possible that if we do not follow through with consequences to the actions we carry out then is it any wonder we have a world that seems to be in free fall attitude of anything goes because no one is prepared to say STOP that’s behaviour is not acceptable.

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