What determines the choices that we make and are we as free to choose as we think we are?
I have been aware for some time that the way that we choose to think, speak and move governs the thoughts, speech and movements that will come next, but it wasn’t until I experienced this for myself that I really knew it to be true.
Having just finished providing a treatment session for a friend, I came out of the clinic to find that I had been parked in. When I say, ‘parked in’ I mean that someone had literally parked their car horizontally across the tail of my car – there was absolutely no way that I could get out. I stood for a while in disbelief, unable to comprehend who would do that; I mean who would be that selfish to knowingly park someone in and then abandon their car?
I felt utterly trapped… I was tired and hungry and just wanted to go home. On top of that I had no idea what to do. I called a friend whose only suggestion was that I ‘key their car’ – basically, use my keys to put a dirty great scratch along the side of their car, which wasn’t a very helpful suggestion but nonetheless, if I’m really honest, it held some appeal.
I called the police who traced the number plate to see if there was a phone number associated with the car but there wasn’t and so there was nothing more that they could do.
A guy came into the car park and I shared with incredulity what had happened. He shared my disbelief and suggested that I get the car towed, to which I replied that if I could get the bill paid by the owner of the car then I wouldn’t hesitate in getting it towed. Whilst all of this was going on, I kept trying to call the car park supervisor but he wasn’t answering his phone, which was adding to my building frustration.
When one of the guys who worked in one of the clinics came out and saw how I had been deliberately parked in, he became quite agitated himself and said that if he had a car with a bull-bar he’d bulldoze the car out of the way for me, and I had no doubt that he meant it.
I was aware that I was starting to feel quite desperate by this stage, as well as really pissed off. I was also very aware that I didn’t want the owner to come out and leave whilst I was inside the building because I didn’t want to miss the opportunity of giving him or her a mouthful. I went and leant on my car boot and just kind of stared at the offending car. I noticed that a piece of the fender was coming away slightly and I put my hand on the metal and felt a strong urge to pull the metal away from the car and cause damage. I didn’t, but the impulse was strong…really strong.
I made one last ditch effort to go inside the building and find the owner. To my great surprise someone in the first office that I went into told me that the offending car belonged to the doctor working in the office next door. I marched into the office and shared with agitation what had happened. By this time I was ropeable. The secretary then explained that I had parked in the doctor’s parking spot and that the doctor was fed up with people parking in his parking spot, which is why he had parked as he had, but that he had left a note on my windscreen with his number, explaining what had happened. She then asked if I was going to apologise to the doctor. I was absolutely dumbstruck and unable at that point to even comprehend apologising.
The secretary came down and moved the car for the doctor. There was indeed a note on my windscreen, explaining what had happened and providing the telephone number of the doctor. It took me a while to simmer down. I was not able to settle my body for quite some time, but once home I called the doctor and apologised for parking in his spot, explaining that I had made a mistake about which parking spot belonged to the clinic that I was hiring.
On reflection, what really stood out to me was the fact that I had not doubted for one moment that the other person had acted unreasonably. And it was my interpretation of the event that had, in turn, influenced everyone that I spoke to and three of those people suggested violence as a way of dealing with the situation. And I can’t deny the fact that I too had felt a strong urge to act violently. As soon as I reacted I lost the ability to see things clearly, my head and body became a breeding ground for judgement, projections and emotion. I was literally unable to consider any other view than the narrow one that I had assumed and so I didn’t even consider the possibility that someone may have left a note on my windscreen, which in truth is a very common thing to do.
My usual steadiness, which comes from my fairly constant connection to myself through my body, was wrecked. I had allowed myself to become totally unhinged, and once separated from my body, it provided a gap through which emotions such as frustration and anger were able to pour. Once in, these emotions then paved the way for thoughts that I don’t usually allow in or if they do manage to get in, I choose to not entertain. These thoughts then set me up to receive more emotions and thoughts of a similar ilk: physical violence being one such thought.
I can categorically say that a deviation from my usual thoughts, emotions and movements took me on a very unfamiliar segue: one that is not within my normal range of choices but one that became very real very quickly.
We all like to think that we are in control of who we deem ourselves to be. Each of us thinks that we are free to choose to behave in ways that seem appropriate or desirable for us, but that’s simply not true.We are portals for energy. We are constantly streaming thoughts and emotions through us, and the quality of those thoughts and emotions set up the range of thoughts, emotions and movements that will then follow.
Therefore, we are not at the mercy of our environment, as so many of us like to believe, but moreover the recipients of our choices.
By Anonymous
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Anonymous, what you are sharing here we could say is revolutionary because we are not taught this science
“I have been aware for some time that the way that we choose to think, speak and move governs the thoughts, speech and movements that will come next, but it wasn’t until I experienced this for myself that I really knew it to be true”
It is hard for us to understand that we don’t think, recently someone shared an analogy we think we are driving the car but there is something else driving the car behind us, they are in control of the car not us.
If we could understand this truth then when someone acts out of character we could then stop and ask ourselves is that them or the character behind them, what is controlling their body? Recently for example, I have been having huge amounts of negative thoughts, I understand they are not my thoughts but are given to me by the unseen energy that drives all of us until we master ourselves by taking back control of the car which symbolises our body. We are not in truth the pathetic zombies we have been led to believe but powerful beings whose bodies are the vehicle for the source of energy we align to.
The dedication to Love❤️ and the stillness of God will one day be our go-to-momentum as we magnetically attract more Love! And through our misadventures they will become our greatest lessons in life that deepen our awareness of what Love Truly is.
I have noticed that we go into certain mindsets which can be very capping. I was doing something recently that involved other people at first the response to a request I made was positive but then the response from the one of the people there was negative and it was so clear to me it was as though the person had stepped to one side and a negative energy came through them. When we can feel that someone is not being themselves then it takes away any hurt or blame because it is quite clear in that moment they are not choosing to be with their body and this is how negative energy enters and then plays out. It feeds off reaction if we don’t react then we take away the energetic food source.
Have you noticed how really fast, we slip off the rails or gently paddle our canoe down the river and ignore the building roaring noise of the waterfall that is just around the bend? Where do we go in our minds when we disconnect from our body and then flip to indignation in a moment? Could we be on autopilot and having a nap with our eyes wide awake?
Could it be Steve, that when we go against the rushing waters we are aligning to our Souls and thus our eyes become lasers for the Truth and we start to be able smell a rat a mile away, and distinguish the lying words from the Truth so that we are dwelling in the kingdom of Heaven and thus on auto-pilot back to our Souls!?
It’s a very powerful read, this one situation here could explain millions of other different situations which hold the same pattern of reacting, assuming and projecting, and then justification of abuse. Even if something has been done with an intent to harm or hurt another does that then justify our reaction and abuse? It’s an enormous topic because it’s offering the possibility of staying connected and remaining in love unconditionally, which is very possible without 100% perfection. And, great line, I can very much relate and how I don’t feel like myself at all when this happens “As soon as I reacted I lost the ability to see things clearly, my head and body became a breeding ground for judgement, projections and emotion.”
“Even if something has been done with an intent to harm or hurt another does that then justify our reaction and abuse?” you’d be hard pushed Melinda to find many people that would answer ‘no’ to that question. I would say that it’s more common to find people who would advocate that the retribution be even stronger than the purported ‘crime’, the ‘that’ll teach ’em a lesson’ mentality.
And the retribution is bred deep into us, I was recently reflecting on movies that have someone as the good guy and someone as the bad guy, and people feel it’s just to harm or kill the bad one – even entertaining. We are fed so many pictures of ‘bad people’ and we don’t reflect on the bigger picture of why or separate people from their behaviours. We have a long way to go to evolve to the basics of understanding, harmony, and harmlessness.
Anonymous a family member was sharing how they can see that if we harm another person and they retaliate with more harm, it’s the same energy. If there are opposing teams at a sports match and everyone is shouting for their side to win it’s the same energy we are using. There is a massive lesson to understand that while we all use the same energy nothing will change.
Mary what’s even harder for people to understand is that the energy that impulses charity and philanthropy is also the same energy that impulses those that do harm. It’s going to take a while for humanity to wake up to the fact that anything that is impulsed by the ‘what is not truth’ feeds everything that is not born from love.
“As soon as I reacted I lost the ability to see things clearly, my head and body became a breeding ground for judgement, projections and emotion.” this explains clearly how emotions and reactions can escalate and take over with us feeling ‘not ourselves’ in situations.
Ruthketnor, where does that feeling of not being ourselves come from? I am learning that the more I can feel what is truly me the more I can feel what is not me, so that when I get a feeling that’s not me I can stop and check in with myself to find out where I let the feeling into my body. I can always trace it back to a thought dropping into my mind.
“As soon as I reacted I lost the ability to see things clearly” A beautiful reminder of the perils of reaction.
Reactions lead to complications and conditions that keep us from re-connecting to our Soul and thus as we understand the consequences of our choices our Soul steps closer to us because we have realigned to the heavens.
What a great example of going into reaction without getting the full facts of a situation, and how once we get worked up how blinkered we become to see the full facts. This is just one honest example, so it’s easy to see how the world is in such a mess when we don’t want to see situations from different angles and want to defend our own perspective.
Is it possible Julie that we all know the world is in a mess but we do not want to take collective responsibility for the mess? We would rather point the finger and blame other people.
Most extreme weather, like a tornado, doesn’t go from 0 to 100 instantly. It builds up. I find the same with emotions. Often it starts with something small directed at myself, then builds until that same force, now bigger, lashes out at others. I have to take responsibility for the whole lot and look back at where it started, those holes within me that allowed that energy in in the first place.
It is fascinating how we can see things firstly from our own perspective and how it affects us rather than looking at what our part in something is and 1st taking responsibility. I have found blaming others outside of me easy, it gets me confirmed and validated in my reaction yet nothing changes. Only when I 1st go ok so what is my part in this do I get a true clear understanding of what is going on.
‘we are not at the mercy of our environment, as so many of us like to believe, but moreover the recipients of our choices.’
This is a gob smacking line. For as much as I can feel like the action person in a movie- where circumstances and situations unfurl all around that person and influence their every reflexive movement- the reality is that I am only experiencing my choices. If I feel that a tsunami of people’s behaviours is hitting me from all angles and I don’t like what I see and experience, then it is still only my choices that I am experiencing as I interpret all things around me through the lens of my own choices. This is a phenomenal way of exposing the victim mentality and the blaming. It also explains why I might prefer to react rather than feel the reality of my choices. This is such a great illustration of how our choices create the reality, and of how emotions and vile actions enter when we disconnect from ourselves and become someone else.
Simone this last sentence really caught my attention
‘ This is such a great illustration of how our choices create the reality, and of how emotions and vile actions enter when we disconnect from ourselves and become someone else.’
Many of us are disconnected from ourselves and then we become this someone else, we often hear this from people who drink a lot of alcohol and then act out in crazy ways, they say they were not themselves while under the influence of alcohol. So my question has to be what takes over our bodies then?
What’s also very interesting is that a lot of people think that they become ‘more themselves’ when they drink, as in more relaxed, more open, more affectionate when really they were not being themselves before and then they are also not being themselves when they’ve had a drink. There are so many different variations of not being ourselves, whereas being our true self feels like a beautiful constant and an unshakable connection to something that is bigger and grander than us.
Very true Simone, it can be and is so easy to blame others but that changes nothing, zero. It is only when we start to see our part in it, take responsibility and change what we are choosing do thing really start to change. Otherwise we just go on blaming others and life becomes hard, a struggle, a fight rather than a opportunity to learn and deepen the love that we are.
Great comment Simone, I love this line from you “It also explains why I might prefer to react rather than feel the reality of my choices.’ That is a huge wake up call in that one sentence, much appreciated because I am working on reducing and eliminating reaction and this is one angle I hadn’t considered. Bit of an ‘ouch’ but a good one.
The old blame game, us humans LOVE it. Love, love, love it!
What a great example of what can happen when we go into reaction and how abusive it is, not only to ourselves but to others.
Julie when I’m in reaction I rarely see what it’s doing to me because the whole process seems to justify directing my attention to another or a situation, but as I come out of it I’m always horrified about the affect on my own body from the stress, and from quality of energy it’s introduced. It highlights that reaction doesn’t even include any care for the person experiencing it because it’s a completely loveless energy, whereas responding is supportive for both parties. Naturally I feel respect for people in reaction to abusive situations, having been there myself it’s not an easy process, so no criticism is intended to anyone reacting, but it’s good to breakdown the foundations of things and look at their outcomes for us.
Sure what I wrote was about a time when I went into a pretty big reaction but most of us live in an almost permanent state of reaction. A tut is a reaction, scorn is a reaction, a raised eyebrow is a reaction, jealousy is a reaction, annoyance is a reaction, dissatisfaction is a reaction, impatience is a reaction; there are so many ways in which we react and most of us troll through them all in an average day completely unaware that that’s what we’re doing.
We also project what we want to see and ignore what we don’t want to see, such as the note on the windscreen.
What a great way to deepen our relationship with our-selves. When I dig a little deeper I can feel how if this had happened to me that comparison would have come up because there is no way I would park another in. Then we have Leo (the True constellation) and claiming our space and the consequences of our actions, so dropping the judge-mental way of living opens us to the reality we live in in a way that is harmonious, and thus dropping our reactions would bring a different out come for us.
‘What determines the choices that we make and are we as free to choose as we think we are?’ When we have hurts or pockets of contraction and numb them through food/entertainment etc we allow in a configuration of energy that debases us without us consciously clocking it. We then think that the following thoughts and behaviours belong to us without understanding that we have allowed them to be fed to us.
How we put our left leg forward and our right leg forward is dictated to us by a consciousness that enters our bodies and instructs as how to think, move and speak, nothing is our own, we are all owned by whatever consciousness is coming through us. Which when you think about it makes it very obvious that there is no ‘us’ there is only empty vessels that, as long as our hearts are beating will be filled by one of two consciousnesses and from there impulsed to move and speak in a certain way. And although this may sound sinister to some, what is in actual fact way more sinister is the fact that most of us don’t consciously know that this is what’s happening and so we live out our lives thinking that we are individual beings, hand crafted by ourselves, when in fact we are empty cicada shells brought to life by whatever energy is flowing through us.
Alexis this is a very clear simple description of what actually takes place. And most of us don’t realise or don’t want to realise what is happening because then we would have to take responsibility for our actions, when it is so much easier to blame everyone else and the world for the mess we are in.
Even when we’re aligned to God our thoughts and movements are fed to us.
Having tasted both energies as it where, I can say that the energy of God is absolutely sustaining for our bodies, you feel full, steady, and there is a sense of joy. My personal experience is that my body feels energized and full. But not so long ago I was withdrawn and contracted from life, living life from my nervous system, not trusting myself or others,I was tired all the time and ate foods that gave me some sort of comfort or cushion to life. It was as though my batteries were being constantly drained and of course they were because the payback of using the consciousness that belongs to the Astral plane is the extraction of our life force. If we could visibly see what was actually occurring we would be horrified.
Thank you again for being so open about this experience. Your honesty is refreshing, inspiring and very supportive. I get that I need to be very alert to those moments when a thought comes in that is in conflict with who I am and how I choose to be in the world. If I can catch these then the deviation from my clarity and quality can be arrested. I also know that the knocking on the door with these thoughts is relentless, so it is about building the awareness and steadiness to withstand them.
Absolutely Matilda, and may I add that we develop a relationship that is our built-in radar detector, that starts to feel the knock before it happens, and thus we are prepared to move in a different way so as to not be distracted from our essences.
Great sharing Matilda, thank you, I hadn’t quite looked at this topic from your perspective. Knowing ourselves is so important, and part of this is appreciating our inner qualities so that when we lose ourselves into thoughts that don’t truly represent us we can then correct our state of disconnection from our essence, and return to conscious presence with the body.
And that’s a large part of the problem, most of us have a very skewed idea of who we are and believe that how we act and what we say is simply ‘us being us’, in addition to that most of us aren’t aware of our thoughts. Our thoughts stream through mostly unnoticed, even violent ones. Most of the time we’re so caught up in distraction and what’s going on around us that we miss what’s going on on the inside of us, including emotions.
‘On reflection, what really stood out to me was the fact that I had not doubted for one moment that the other person had acted unreasonably’. It’s interesting to observe what we choose to see when we have shut down to seeing the bigger picture. Simply zooming out in consideration of the bigger picture allows us to put the pieces together and let go of self in the process.
Ah Michelle, if only we could ‘zoom out’ rather than do what we’re currently doing which is to zoom in and try and pin something on others. We have a habit of hounding people, of tracking them down and pinning them up against a wall and even when we do realise that another was either ‘in the right’ or acting reasonably we still leave them energetically pinned up against the wall, whilst we continue to turn our backs on them. We’re currently a very unforgiving race of people. I say ‘currently’ because we won’t always be this way but for now it’s what many of us are choosing.
We exist with such pride and arrogance that we hate to feel we have made a mistake or are in ‘the wrong’. When we feel a threat to our equilibrium, rather than honestly asking what part we have played in a situation occurring, we like to defend and attack others by blaming them getting no evolution out of the process. When we can honestly ask ourselves about the personal lesson in any event, we support ourselves to see the bigger picture and it also takes the sting out of the hurt.
“Protect self at all costs” is our collective mantra but when you consider that in truth there is no such thing as self then you can see just how far off the mark we’re all living.
I love the honesty of your sharing anonymous. How many times have we all projected our thoughts, emotions and interpretations on events without ever contemplating where we might need to take responsibility first?
Great question. And when I remember to review the part I have played in anything (my responsibility) life stays real and simple and I get to learn a lot.
It was shown to me recently that I was moving in a predetermined way because of hurts I had taken on as a child nearly 60 years ago. When the way I was moving was lovingly exposed I had an immediate flash back to my childhood and the constant battles I had with my family to be heard and understood. I had no idea I had internalized the hurts which then had an effect on everything; the way I walked, talked, engaged with people and the world was coloured by my childhood experiences. So to me it makes complete sense that we are what we have aligned to as we become conditioned by the hurts we internalise. Is it possible that then the choices we make are not free choices at all but are set up by the way we have been conditioned? We think we think but actually we have aligned to a consciousness that moves us.
Sometimes people park in our flat parking spaces when this happens I leave a note on their windscreen saying it is private parking and to please not park there again. The other week at around 3am in the morning someone outside was calling our flat, I thought it was someone messing around and left it. The next morning I heard someone honking their horn continuously, in looking out the window I saw someone had parked in my neighbours spot and my neighbour had blocked them in. After about 5 minutes of honking their horn where the whole neighbourhood was disturbed my neighbour went out, spoke with them and moved his car so they could get out. It turns out not only did they car park in someone else car parking space but at 3am in the morning in trying to find out who had blocked them in they called every single one of the flats, 12 in total. To me this was selfishness at the max with no regards for anyone else other than themselves and what they wanted.
I overheard a family conversation that was taking place on the bench beside me recently. A parent of a young child had approached the Grandparents who were looking after a boy of about 8 years old. He had been swearing rudely at her little girl and obviously the little girl was very upset. The Grandparents were mortified that their Grand child could utter such abusive language towards another and when they were left with just the boy they ask him where he had heard such language. He told them his friends swear all the time. To which the Grandparents replied that just because someone is doing something that he knows is not correct he doesn’t have to join in. So therefore he had to face the consequences of his actions. At this the boy burst into what I would call crocodile tears the conversation went backwards and forwards for a while but the Grandparents didn’t seem to go through with the consequences. Is it possible that if we do not follow through with consequences to the actions we carry out then is it any wonder we have a world that seems to be in free fall attitude of anything goes because no one is prepared to say STOP that’s behaviour is not acceptable.
When we jump to conclusions, are we sky diving without a parachute?
Haha risky and very stupid, but we don’t consider that when jumping to conclusions.