Individuality and Oneness

What happens when you take something that is inherently one and divide it into two or more parts, like slicing a carrot maybe? Does it lose its oneness or is it still innately one? It’s still the same carrot – but is it one or does it become two? There are slices of course, or ‘juliennes’ if that is your way of doing things. It’s a ridiculous suggestion, but do the bits of carrot compare themselves with each other and compete to be the best? Is there supremacy in the carrot world? Pretty soon they will be food anyway and so it doesn’t matter too much.

What happens when you take a race of beings that are inherently one and divide them? Do they lose their oneness and become two, or is the oneness still their true essence? If humanity is innately one race of beings – as the term ‘the human race’ suggests – what happens when the metaphorical kitchen knife comes along and divides it into races, nationalities, religions, cultures, et al? A separation is created: we become not one but two… or even many. There is duality where there was once singularity or oneness.

There are over 7.5 billion individuals in the world today. Often we celebrate individuality and the diversity of our race. Are we one as a race or are we divided? It seems pretty clear that we are divided. We have wars, murders, abuse, violence, inequality, extreme wealth and absolute poverty. We have racial hatred, high divorce rates, abandoned children, women murdered just for being women, high levels of loneliness and cyber-bullying on a large scale. This is not the ‘report card’ of a unified race of beings.

The word individuality is worth looking at more closely. I’m no linguist but it seems to me that the word individuality is comprised of three parts:


An obvious interpretation of these three elements might be that as individuals, we are in a state of (in); division or dividedness (divi); that leads to or creates duality (duality): this is not based on any academic or etymological study, just a sense or feeling. If this is anywhere near the mark it suggests that to become an individual we have been divided from something whole and any whole thing divided becomes dual – a duality, or something with more than one part. But divided from what? Could it be from our innate state of togetherness or oneness? Have we, in living as individuals, created a separation from a true state of brotherhood?

We might argue of course that this is just the way it is, that we are born this way, in individual bodies, distinct and separate from each other. It certainly appears to be the case. But something does not feel right. Do wars, murders, rapes, abuses, corruption, extreme wealth and poverty, bullying, acrimonious divorces and so on feel like they are part of our true nature?

I know there are those who believe we are inherently evil and perhaps this explains things for them. To me, something doesn’t add up. If we are inherently evil, wouldn’t we enjoy all the suffering, violence, aggression, disharmony etc.? But we don’t. Most of us don’t, anyway. Might this be because somewhere within we know better? Somewhere within we feel the incongruence and are at odds with this way of living. Somewhere within that seed of brotherhood is still firmly planted in our being waiting for us to reawaken it. Isn’t that why it hurts when there is disharmony? Isn’t that why we feel that it doesn’t make sense?

Is it possible that even when divided on the surface, the true essence of our being remains untainted within? Do we, within us all, retain this sense that we are one body of humanity and that it is our purpose to reunite together in oneness? Perhaps this explains why there is so much tension in humanity – because we find ourselves pulled in two different directions. We are like a rubber band stretched to capacity, with one end held by the belief that we are distinct individuals and the other the innate knowing that we are part of a magnificent Oneness.

Is individuality then something to celebrate, or is it in truth the cause of all our woes, the very thing that divides us and leads us to commit all our offences and abuses against each other? Do we trust and accept the identifications we have created that divide and separate us? Or do we honour the deep sense of unity we know innately within?

By Richard Mills, UK

Related Reading:
Separateness or Connection
In our Essence we are One
Universal Medicine leads the way out of ‘The cult of individuality’

761 thoughts on “Individuality and Oneness

  1. The subject of individuality is a massive one as we could say it is the most demanded energy ever by nearly all of humanity. We can see the problems and issues that this is causing the world but we are never truly able to move on from them because we have not collectively been willing to address our need for self.

  2. Todays BBC news reports of a lady standing for half an hour in a tube train breastfeeding her heavy baby, being shaken about in the train, and no-one offering her a seat. If that is to be believed – then just like the slices of carrot above humanity just ignored its oneness, for we are all standing with great difficulty if one of us is, effectively.

  3. When a race of beings become separated as has happened with humanity, through countries, race, culture, gender, religion etc it is not that we are no longer one. This is an unchangeable fact. It is only the way we perceive our relationship with each other that changes. I was certainly under this illusion until I re-learnt to feel what is true from my body and no matter who I am with, I feel a sense of oneness.

  4. Accepting that our incessant drive for individuality is the cause of all our woes is a bitter pill to swallow because of how much we have craved individuality. However it is a pill that needs to be swallowed if we are to get past the mess the world is in.

  5. I recently met up with the people I trained with 30 years ago which was really lovely – naturally we are all working differently from the qualifications we got together, and living very differently from one another, but the common thread was the love we shared together.

    1. I have come to know that ‘the love we share’ is very real and is what truly unites us all. Not being aware of it does not mean it is not there. This love is rather akin to our life-blood and is why we experience so much tension when it appears to be absent, or we act in ignorance of it. We are in truth a Family, connected by this ‘common thread’ of love.

  6. ‘Is individuality then something to celebrate, or is it in truth the cause of all our woes, the very thing that divides us and leads us to commit all our offences and abuses against each other?’ If we brought everything back to ourselves and what we can learn from everything presented to us, would individuality be the same, or would we have more of a chance of seeing our own separation from each other?

  7. “Or do we honour the deep sense of unity we know innately within?” There is so much beauty when we allow this innate knowing of unity guide ourselves. We all yearn for true love and harmony, so let our hearts guide our way.

      1. Yes, we have learned to yearn for something outside of us, that we yearn for something to get, but it is simply the connection to our own truth and beingness that we miss – so it is an inward movement not an outward movement that ‘gets’ us there.

  8. “If humanity is innately one race of beings – as the term ‘the human race’ suggests – what happens when the metaphorical kitchen knife comes along and divides it into races, nationalities, religions, cultures…” We have, what we have today, and that is unfortunately a world in division by power struggles, abuse, ill behaviour and a rise in illness and disease… Restore harmony and stillness within the human frame, and this has the potential to restore humanity.

  9. I have been noticing more and more recently how open I am feeling with anyone I meet, and how readily they respond when we offer brotherhood in this way.

  10. It occurs to me this morning that the media are masters of separation – pitching people against each other by opinion or reaction and fragmenting society into as many tiny pieces as it can (a bit like smashing glass) rather than uniting them in truth of any kind. The only apparent unity is in the collective of separation which isn’t unity at all.

  11. Feeling the oneness we all are is confirmation and gift to living our truth and fullness as one with God the universe the all. Anything less is the separation, suffering, glamour and illusion of life and something to understand and see for what it is not.

  12. Great subject to bring up, as for far too long we have been on this devastating path of individuality that brings us nothing but grief, for isn’t it time we realised it just doesn’t work as we are going against the grain of how we are innately supposed to be.

    1. Perhaps we should watch colonies of ants more closely. They are reflecting something very beautiful to us in the way they work together.

  13. We crave to be “special’ which is why we crave individuality but what if we know from the outset that we are special and gorgeous and divine? Would we not then let go of the need to be an individual and instead see and know that by essence we are all the same?

    1. The feeling of connecting with another and of the equalness between us is very ‘special’ to me. In that sense of Oneness my whole being rejoices saying ‘yes, yes, yes – this is the way’.

      1. When we truly know how special we all are in our deeply loving essence then we confirm each other in that knowing which brings brotherhood and oneness and supports us to let go of our seeking individuality and separation in competition with another.

  14. “Somewhere within that seed of brotherhood is still firmly planted in our being waiting for us to reawaken it.” – totally agree with you on this. True unity is a quality we all know in our essence and as such is something we can bring ourselves back to.

    1. Agreed Fiona it is that unity that deeply supports us to deepen our relationships with all others, to appreciate that we are all Gods living in different ways.

  15. I love this blog because it asks us to consider the separation we live in every day that some ways are obvious but many are very subtle. I just experienced how being on social media without purpose takes me away from myself and separates me from anyone around me. The more I’m feeling this lately the more awful it feels and I don’t want to be separate or take myself out anymore. We know deep down that we are one, that’s why sports can leave us in a sense of emptiness because what have we really achieved at the end of it? Competing against our brothers and sisters?

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