To Moan or to Appreciate… a Choice?

When we stop to listen to what people are saying – the way they talk about their lives, relationships, themselves – do we hear moaning or appreciation? It appears that it is more common to have a negative slant on things, with a tendency to blame or complain about the situations we find ourselves in.

Our media industry demonstrates better than anywhere else that the supply and demand for negativity, drama and emotionalism is a feedback loop we have created and continue to feed with gusto.

Could it be that this endless diet of invasive interest in other people’s lives, mishaps, challenges and shortcomings keeps us in a distracted, irresponsible relationship with life, looking out at others in competition and comparison rather than simply taking responsibility for our lives and the opportunities we have to make a difference, by our choices and the way we live?

Yes, it is important to be very aware of what is going on around us – observing the social climates we have built. But that is where our focus can stop, inspiring us to consider what would really make a difference rather than getting in deeper and deeper, feeding off or lost in the quagmire of gossip.

Our magazines, newspapers and online news feeds are becoming ever more salacious, extreme, sensationalist and embroidered. Journalism is not the simple, clear recording of facts and dissemination of truth, it is the emotional dramatisation of events loaded with bias, innuendo and opinion. And we appear to love it: a diet of distraction and drama that we are loath to let go of.

It is in the disconnection within ourselves that we hunt for, and thirst after, the gossip about others; this keeps us in competition and comparison with each other – either worthless because our lives, our look, our home or our cooking are so below standard, or relieved about the fact that someone is worse off than us or has ‘stuffed up’ more than us.

Whilst we keep responsibility at arm’s length, nothing is going to change. Until we are prepared to look quietly and honestly at the quality with which we live, take care of ourselves, interact in our relationships, live in our homes, commit to our work, drive, walk, cook, think… we have to accept that we are part of the perpetuation of the cycle of distraction and abuse that is our media, online communication, everyday gossip and one-upmanship.

Exposing all of the above and being honest about it provides us with the always fresh opportunity to approach our lives differently; introducing appreciation and responsibility as a super strong tag team that can arrest our habits outlined above. When we wake up in the morning and before we turn on the radio, television, computer, could we take a moment to consider the anything, everything and all that we have to appreciate? The smallest to the vast: the warmth of our feet, the people in the house with us, birdsong, fresh air to breathe, the opportunity the day offers to meet others, the fresh slate that every day (actually every moment) offers and the power at our fingertips to make changes in our lives simply by the way we move, touch things, handle ourselves.

To moan or to appreciate?

Could it be that this choice is a life-changer?

Repeating patterns or calling the changes?

Over to us : )


By Judy Joy and Matilda Bathurst

Related Reading:
Serge Benhayon TV Episode 7 – The Science of Responsibility
What is the Science of Appreciation and how does it evolve all of our relationships?
Accountability

716 thoughts on “To Moan or to Appreciate… a Choice?

  1. Our choice to moan reflects the shirking of our responsibility to express the truth the we feel. We all know and feel when something is of truth or not, yet we have become so accustomed to downplaying the truth we feel let alone expressing it, that we take the comfortable route of distraction and enjoin in the spin, circulation and lies we have allowed and created. When we do express what we feel and read is true or not we offer the opportunity for us all to come to a greater truth, where there is a realness we all can deeply relate to and as such appreciate that this realness or truth is what represents who we are in essence.

  2. It’s really the honesty that brings us out of behaviours like gossiping, because if we are honest gossiping does not feel good, cutting others down does not feel good, it neither supports us or the other person. In the honesty we have an opportunity to honour how we truly feel, not compromise our feelings, and then set a new standard we refuse to drop below. When I realised how awful women’s magazines made me feel with their body image ideals and comparison of women I decided I would never buy them again, that was over 20 years ago and it was like removing an abusive person from my life. Letting go of everything that doesn’t support us is great, and honesty about how we feel is a powerful way to begin that process.

    1. I too stopped buying women’s magazines when I realised that in choosing to purchase them I was buying into (to some extent) all the false ways they said the ‘ideal’ woman was to be; how she was to look – the fashion that showed she was at the top of her game, how she was to behave – to impress with her ability to cook, be the friend/daughter/neighbour etc. who was always available (often at the expense of herself), a tireless mother always at the beck and call of her offspring, a siren in the bedroom … the list goes on endlessly.
      These magazines promoted anything and everything other than being myself, embracing and appreciating all the innate qualities I and every other woman on earth holds.
      It was quite a joyous moment to then be handed a copy of the ‘Women in Livingness’ magazine available at http://www.womeninlivingness.com/magazine This magazine, resulting from a collaboration of women from around the world, is like a breath of fresh air as it supports women to be who they are without a skerrick of comparison or whisper of anything that presents someone or something better than another. It is a celebration of all women and a breath of fresh air when it comes to the quality of journalism it presents.

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