Tools for Life

As I sit here writing I can feel a warmth in my chest and a gorgeous feeling of yumminess throughout my body. I feel confident, strong, light and playful, I can feel sparks of joy, and most of all I feel appreciative of all that I have done for myself over the last few weeks.

Only a few short weeks ago I was in a very dark place of depression and confusion. Life had thrown a few big challenges my way over the course of a few months in the form of what felt like attacks from forces that appeared to be bigger than me. My reaction was to be scared, withdraw, and contract into a hidey hole thinking that is where I would be safe.

What I found was that by withdrawing from life I also withdrew from myself. I felt small, helpless, exhausted, and grief stricken that the gorgeous joyful me that I had come to know was not anywhere in sight. My thoughts changed to be ones of negativity, fear and paranoia – a totally horrible place to be, but one that I was choosing based on the way that I was reacting to what had happened.

What has been exposed is a lifelong pattern of withdrawal and contraction when anything scary or threatening happens. This pattern had been accentuated and was magnified due to the multiple incidents over a period of a few months, ensuring that recovery was harder due to the recurring events. Ultimately this has been a gift as it has shown me the pattern in a very big and exaggerated way, and I have been able to work with it and discover and understand how I can heal it and do things differently.

It has meant getting very real about how I am living, how I take care of myself, and how much love I allow into my life. When I was at rock bottom I couldn’t feel any love, and I was reinforcing this by attacking myself with the wrong foods, negative thoughts, allowing myself to remain in blame and effectively choosing to be a victim. Turning this around has been a valuable process which has effectively made me consciously choose to love myself, one choice at a time. It has been like learning to walk again.

How can I expect to weather the effects of an outside attack if I am attacking myself? This was a huge revelation and one that has been very powerful in my return to loving myself. It has resulted in my repeating the words “I will not attack myself” silently in my head when I get a craving for food that I don’t need, or the temptation to go into stress in response to a request or think about blaming myself when things go wrong. Claiming myself back through every little choice has been a gorgeous rebuilding.

I am still aware of my reaction when a strong force comes at me. I am noticing how my body reacts. But instead of staying in the contraction and going into anxiety about the perceived attack I am choosing to focus on the movement of my body and how gorgeous and yummy this can feel if I remain in my true quality. I then actually feel playful rather than threatened. How amazing!

As a student of The Way of The Livingness I have been studying how to love myself and live true to my body and my feelings for many years.

My responsibility to live and speak in a true way can begin to feel like a burden if I am not living in true connection with myself. But if I am connected with my body and my essence it is absolutely natural to want to be true to myself, for anything else feels totally awful.

What I have discovered and come to understand more deeply is that the tools that Universal Medicine offers are tools for life.

The way that I recovered from my dark place was by using the tools that I have learned through Universal Medicine. These tools work. If I want to be able to deal with life I need to take care of myself and allow myself love by eating nourishing food, getting enough rest, taking regular gentle exercise, saying no to the invading thoughts, choosing to breathe my own breath and bringing my true quality into every movement, which provides a solid platform from which to live and work.

This is not rocket science.

There is no secret.

It is pure common sense.

Feeling my body now after a few weeks of dedicated committed self-care I know that I do not want to choose to live any other way. Feeling what is true through my body allows me the authority to speak what is true for me, and If I speak truth it will be because I can feel how yummy it feels in my body to express it and how awful it feels if I don’t. It’s not about being loyal or dedicated to anything, but what I can feel inside of me.

Keeping it real is so important. Yes we are connected to something grander than this physical world, but while we are here we need to learn how to live here and withstand the onslaught of life through simple means for our own wellbeing. Learning to live with the love that we can give to ourselves we can enjoy the process and enjoy how amazing we can feel in our bodies when we choose the supportive tools for life as presented by Universal Medicine.

Anonymous, UK

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What is The Way of The Livingness?
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682 thoughts on “Tools for Life

  1. There is a perverse belief that if we withdraw and hide, the forces will leave us alone. The truth is that there is silent dialogue with the forces saying to them, no need to keep attacking me, I am doing it myself, so you can rest assured that I am taking care of your job.

  2. From my experience quietly and consistently giving ourselves permission to take care of ourselves, know our value and, dare I say it, actually love and enjoy being us, completely turns life around.

  3. Withdrawl and pretending that I was okay with everything that was going on around was my way of ‘coping’. But I wasn’t okay and lived with anxiety and nervousness in every moment. So the pretending and not expressing honestly of how I felt and what I felt was a way of attacking myself and my senses. A few lightbulbs going off… thanks for the great blog.

  4. It’s great to ask ourselves – do we want to attack ourselves and is it truly worth it. I know I have had a yo yo relationship with wanting to get a great body but at the same time over eating – so I actually enjoyed the struggle and the drama of never getting the result I wanted. When in fact it wasn’t about the food or the exercise but rather how much I was willing to truly love myself.

    1. Yes. Our approach and relationship with ourselves is what makes the big difference. I have discovered that having a relationship wth food that is about achieving a desired body shape is not nurturing, accepting or respectful.

  5. I have found what you are sharing here so supportive. The first steps are often the hardest because there is a rawness that means we want to run the other way. Yet self-care brings a very tangible, real foundation into our bodies that can hold us as we slowly build.

  6. The tool kit for life that I now have available to me 24/7 is huge and has become a priceless support for the way I choose to live. The tools are not complicated ones but incredibly simple, such as the Gentle Breath Meditation, a meditation that can be done anywhere at any time. There is nothing more restorative to the human body than to focus for a few minutes on the quality of the in and out breath, a simple tool which very quickly reconnects us to our wonderful body and to how we are being in life at that moment in time.

  7. Sometimes talking to ourselves, like you’re saying`”I will not attack myself” supports us to get through when we have no-one to lean on so to speak. It is true that we save ourselves and our going through difficult times can make us stronger as we develop a deepening relationship of love that holds us in those difficult situations..

  8. I absolutely love reading this again. Especially the bit where you realise you are attacking yourself with thoughts and behaviours. That’s revelatory just choosing to say no to those trains of thought! Chu chu no more traction.

  9. “As I sit here writing I can feel a warmth in my chest and a gorgeous feeling of yumminess throughout my body. I feel confident, strong, light and playful, I can feel sparks of joy, and most of all I feel appreciative of all that I have done for myself over the last few weeks”. It is very beautiful to read the above as it shows that there are people in the world who love and appreciate themselves in this way. What a great reflection for all.

  10. Life has its tensions, which cannot be avoided, and we can use them to evolve ourselves, to become more powerful, more loving or use them as an excuse to withdraw and make ourselves small. I used to take the latter approach, blaming the tension for feeling small and victim like, now I know and see those tensions as a call to be more.

    1. Yes, and the challenges don’t need to overwhelm us if we have a focus on building this foundation, because then, when the ‘challenges’ come, there is less attachment. We can view the ‘challenges’ from the eye of the storm rather than being buffeted by the storm.

  11. It is impossible not to be affected by energy one way or another because we live in a world of energy. Our bodies feel energy all of the time it’s more a case of whether we are aware of this or not. And I know there is an energy that does seem to attack us because it wants us to be scared, withdraw and not fully engage with life, but to hide away and be quiet.
    It wasn’t until I met Serge Benhayon that I began to understand energy and the science of energy as this is not something that is taught as part of our education system or freely talked about. But I feel we should be taught the basics at least so that we have the understanding that we are being played with by a unseen force as you say anonymous that does not have our best interests at its core.

  12. “How can I expect to weather the effects of an outside attack if I am attacking myself?” – This is such a great point made by Anon, because when we are constantly beating ourselves up and indulging in guilt over something like a mistake we made in life or a feeling of not being or doing enough, we then have to deal with letting go of all that negativity before we can even deal with the issue directly at hand, and it is so exhausting for the human body to have this ‘double attack’ going on.

  13. The more that we live in a way that helps us to stay reconnected to who we truly are, we will be, each one of us, an example for so many people who are on that seemingly inevitable slide to withdrawal as a pandemic in humanity at the moment.

  14. When we withdraw from life I feel that we have already made the choice to withdraw from ourselves, from the beautiful being we naturally are. To do so is simply a form of protection to keep us from getting hurt, but we still get hurt from the force we need to bring in to be someone that we are not. I have found that it is so much easier to face the hurts and heal them so I can move forward in life free of the protection.

  15. All the tools we’ve been given by Universal Medicine over the years are simple yet very practical and powerful. Feeling one’s fingertips, gentle breath meditation, which one can do whenever and at any time, walking consciously,etc.,the Glorious Music recordings-we have it all in our disposal. It is up to us to make a choice and start using it every moment of every day.
    You’ve done it, Anonymous, thanks for sharing.

  16. “Claiming myself back through every little choice has been a gorgeous rebuilding.” It is indeed these little things that support us to come back to the truth of who we are.

  17. Making self-loving choices does make a difference to how we feel about ourselves and really they are very simple to make. We are the ones who make them complicated for any number of reasons.

  18. The little and big ways that we self abuse are the openings for self doubt, contraction and withdrawal from life. Leaving space for more patterns of behaviour to enter and dig ourself even deeper in the hole.

  19. Thank you for the blog, there are so many gems of wisdom here for how to create foundations that truly hold and support ourselves when we are faced with challenges. This is so true “What I found was that by withdrawing from life I also withdrew from myself.” We feel like we are withdrawing from life around us but we are actually separating from ourselves. More than learning to deal with life and it’s challenges what you have shared is simply how to stay connected and continually bring all of ourselves to life even when things around us are intense. Thank you.

  20. It seems the key to life for you is self love and nutrition. Is this true? Is it a way of making yourself big enough to handle the outside forces of life. My GOD is a big God and can handle all of these things well. I stay who I am small, and meek. He says suffering is important sometimes. Jesus suffered and saved the world if we will accept the gift of salvation through that death. You can’t earn salvation, you can’t make yourself big enough to conquer the forces of evil. But Jesus way is repentance and forgiveness and leaning on Him.

  21. There is absolutely no doubt that the tools presented by Universal Medicine support a reconnection to life. These very tools have helped me to do just that, reconnect and commit in full to life.

  22. Self-care and self-love are some of the best tools for life. Since applying these tools, my low-level anxiety has dissipated and I feel more equipped to live life. It is amazing how simple techniques and tools can support us to live who we are, vital, healthy and more joyful. 

    1. Yes, there are no bells and whistles, it is the simple things in life like how you choose to move, the order you choose to keep around you, what you feed yourself, how aware you are of your internal chatter. All these simple things that we do every day all build a foundation that feeds us back and equip us for life.

  23. I love that the esoteric in fact is absolutely real, practical and all common sense – no airy-fairy wishy-washy-bladiblubbs as the bastardized interpretation has made us believe.

  24. So many of us have withdrawn from living the beauty that we are. We’ve accepted this view of life as a forum to hide and shield our true light – to protect and survive. Nows the time to end this and be all in.

  25. Withdrawing was my main tool for coping with life, being real, honest and expressive are the tools to live a full life.

    1. Awesome sharing Alexander. Withdrawing from life is so common in our society and this often leads to anxiety and depression. These tools you’ve shared here are accessible by all of us and they support us with life in so many ways.

    2. Thanks Alexander, it’s natural for us to reach for tools and to have coping strategies, unfortunately many actually bring more pain or struggle because our tools are often self harming. It’s surprising how little love and self love are talked about, in fact we have whole industries based on self harming tools such as gaming, gambling, junk food, alcohol and cigarettes (to name a few). Love is so far from our vision globally, which is why I appreciate so deeply all the tools Serge Benhayon shares.

      1. When I look back at the ‘tools’ I previously used to get through various challenging times in my life, such as alcohol and food, I shudder, as I can see now how very harming they were. At the time I was only wanting to numb how I was feeling and didn’t allow myself to even consider what damage each particular tool was doing to my body. The crazy thing is, that as much as we can bury, numb or ignore what is going on our lives, the problems are still there when the numbing wears off, often in a much greater and more debilitating form.

  26. I haven’t found anywhere colder than the recesses of my mind. And it makes no sense to stay there when I ‘remember’ the simplicity and warmth of being in relationship with my body and letting my heart be central office.

  27. I like how you refer to it as attacking yourself when you use a food to numb or distract yourself from what is going on. For me this turns it right around because I have looked at it as maybe the food being a treat to make me feel better if I’m feeling down but all it does is distract and keep us down for longer than necessary.

    1. It can uncomfortable to realise these things, someone pointed out to me that reaching for food as a coping mechanism when I’m not hungry is a form of disregard because there are true loving responses to myself available for me to choose. It might be as simple as reconnecting to myself and listening to how I feel, instead of stuffing down my worries, etc, with food.

  28. ‘It’s not about being loyal or dedicated to anything, but what I can feel inside of me.’ For many of us we have held a belief that it is about being loyal and dedicated to something so to allow ourselves to feel what is inside of us and to trust that has been, and is, a big shift in the way we are with ourselves.

    1. Yes, and I am discovering that it is a constant unfolding because what was right and a perfect fit for me at one point is now not quite right and feels either too big or too small and so needs readjusting. If we stay with the loyalty and dedication approach we would never question and therefore be at the mercy of a rule rather than a conversation with our body.

  29. I love how this blog highlights the fact that we choose to attack ourselves when we feel the pressures of the forces around us. In truth those forces have no power. It is only when we choose to not deal with it by contracting, shutting down, reacting, separating or lessening our awareness that they can get a hold on us. If we live in such a way that we are in deep care and support of ourselves, always deepening our connection and awareness we will know how to deal with it in a way that does not allow the force to change our way of being.

    1. Thank you Carolien, I loved everything you shared here. It’s ironic that the very thing the forces want is for us simply to not be who we truly are, because we hold such power.

  30. The more we drop into the darkness of our hidey hole the more we forget that our love for ourselves and others is far bigger than any of those outside forces we fear.

  31. “that the gorgeous joyful me that I had come to know was not anywhere in sight” – and gosh don’t we miss that person when we disappear from ourselves. I know I do.

  32. For me, the only tools I will ever need in my ‘toolbox for life’ are the one’s that Universal Medicine have given to me, they sure do work and are a true gift and instrumental in me coming back to me. Gone is the sledgehammer for bashing myself, the spade for digging a hole for myself and the saw for cutting myself into little pieces to fit in.

  33. What also supports us to stay steady and consistent is asking for support: knowing that we don’t have to go it alone, that we’re all in this together and that this is how it works: not one person super-hero-ing and saving, but all of us playing our part, being open to giving and receiving support where it’s needed. Nothing more and nothing less.

    1. And there is a big difference for me, about which I have to be very discerning… am I truly asking for support or hoping someone will rescue me so I can avoid taking responsibility for where I find myself?

  34. It’s an important point you have made here Anonymous ‘How can I expect to weather the effects of an outside attack if I am attacking myself? – in these moments we are our own worst enemies and an easy target.

    1. Great point you’ve highlighted here Julie. The attacks on ourselves are sometimes the worst ones because they can be constant, silent but vicious and this definitely leaves openings for other forces to attack us. It is through self-love and self-care that we are able to learn how to reverse these attacks.

  35. When we shut down from life we shut down from ourselves the only place that can bring us back, I too recently have been overwhelmed by patterns being presented to me in a big way, by working through them I came to realise what a gift I had been given to once and for all address these unloving ways and no longer be held by them.

    1. Great comment Joseph. It is so simple if love feels like hard work then it is a sign that it is not true love. A great reminder to check in with ourselves.

  36. Self-Care based on following our feelings and our bodies works and it is very powerful. Thank you for this reminder as self-care never has a limit, it is a continuous refinement.

  37. It definitely is not rocket science, practical day to day life lives with quality instead of raciness or anxiety or depression or excitement means you can be the love your were born to be.

  38. It is so simple to just feel the body when we are doing what we are doing and yet it is so incredibly powerful.

  39. I love this line: “Claiming myself back through every little choice has been a gorgeous rebuilding.” And the rich understanding that you have that claiming ourselves back is necessary in every little choice, not just in one massive choice and I love the reminder of how amazing that process can be.

  40. Anonymous, this is a great point; ‘How can I expect to weather the effects of an outside attack if I am attacking myself?’ Reading this makes me realise that if something happens towards me that is negative that in the past I would automatically blame myself. I can now feel the importance of loving ourselves always and that this will allow us to stand strong and read and be aware of what is really going on.

  41. Giving up on ourselves and withdrawing form life, just seems to bring in more negative thinking and it can become a very self defeating cycle.

  42. I am often amazed at how quickly the body responds to true care and self-love when it can withstand and put up with so much abuse for such a long time.

    1. That’s such an interesting point, we can abuse our bodies for an incredibly long time but they still respond in an instance to self-love and care – did they not respond in an instance to our abusive choices? Or – I wonder if the only difference is our capacity to listen intently at that moment in time.

    2. I am amazed too Rachel and this shows that our body is made of love and it is always pulling us back to love because any opportunity it has to respond to love it will do so in a flash.

  43. ‘What I found was that by withdrawing from life I also withdrew from myself.’ It’s ironic that I thought by withdrawing I could be myself, safe from the impositions I was feeling from others. However, I found out withdrawing from life in my attempt to protect myself meant I lost myself. Now I’m discovering I’m able to be me no matter what forces are there around me trying to tip me towards giving up on being fully present and connected with myself and all that’s going on around me.

    1. Thanks Karin, I appreciated your comment, particularly “Now I’m discovering I’m able to be me no matter what forces are there around me trying to tip me towards giving up on being fully present and connected with myself and all that’s going on around me.” Very inspiring.

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