The Science of Appreciation: Part of Every Moment

Writing about appreciation seems to bring up a lot for me. Today after weeks of delay, I asked myself, “Why is this so hard?” I am pretty good at clocking the beauty that surrounds us all – the sun, the sky and the stars. I know I am blessed to have a job, family, wonderful partner and an incredible group of friends. Many times I have been in awe of the way incredible opportunities have opened up, or of the colours of the sky during sunrise or sunset. When I speak to people I find it easy to tell them how much I appreciate them, the way they light up my life and what they bring to the world, – I do it often. Last and certainly not least, I’ve had more things to appreciate than I would have thought possible since I discovered Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine around seven years ago. So seriously, what’s the problem?

My head wants to jump in with all the answers. It tells me that by avoiding appreciation, I am simply avoiding my responsibility to be all of me. It’s a fact, too. I know that the more I appreciate myself, the more that I will realise how important my contribution to the world is, but the facts feel hollow and hard. My head is not helping.

I ask my body what the next step is. It says, “Bring some understanding to yourself – you are a deeply sensitive, tender being. You don’t have an issue with appreciation and you are not a ‘bad,’ ‘irresponsible’ person. Those judgmental thoughts, no matter how subtle, are all equally crushing. There is a reason you are choosing to have an issue with appreciation.”

I let myself feel that underneath it all, I don’t have an issue with appreciation at all. In fact, I can see I am afraid of what will happen when I let the world know just how much I value myself. I start remembering my childhood and the confidence I had; the way I could command a room and feel how deeply precious I was. I also sense that others didn’t always embrace my confidence and unbridled appreciation of myself. As a child, I did not understand that the shunning, withdrawal, harsh words, bullying and taunting were actually symptoms of jealousy. I chose to interpret these things as a sign that I was not ‘so crash hot’ after all, and I had used them to ‘take myself down a notch.’ Ah! … what a convenient way to fit in and be accepted. Everybody wins, or so I thought… (that’s where listening to my head got me).

So today I have another opportunity to claim myself back. Appreciation is not just our responsibility, it is also our birthright. I’ve also just discovered that I’ve left my lunch in the oven about an hour too long, (a little too crunchy for my taste). Didn’t see that line coming, did you? Ha! I could go into my normal judgment and self-bashing, but this blog reminds me it’s another moment to appreciate. Perhaps I’ve sensed that I need to eat something different today; perhaps I have an opportunity to look at the way I am doing things and change some behaviours that aren’t working for me and are impacting others.

Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.

Yes – I see it now: every moment is an opportunity to engage with the science of appreciation.

By Leonne Barker, Woman discovering how wonderful she really is

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1,008 thoughts on “The Science of Appreciation: Part of Every Moment

  1. “the more I appreciate myself, the more that I will realise how important my contribution to the world is” and this offers us an inkling of our sense of purpose. What we each contribute is vital as part of the whole we are from.

  2. I have a friend who has no appreciation of who they are or what pleasure they bring to everyone’s life just because they are there. There seems to be a level of worthlessness that constantly eats away at them so that their thoughts are all biased towards the negativity of life rather than seeing the beauty and potential that is there waiting to be explored. So many of us only look at the surface of life and therefore miss the hidden richness that is lying just beneath the surface.

  3. Leonne what I’m discovering is that as you say we are deeply loved and supported and held. I can feel that we are held in a body of love just as the sun, stars, and the planets are held. We are all held in the space that we term the universe. We are all equal, we are all one and the same.

  4. Very interesting to realise and consider that we avoid appreciating ourselves because we know the forces of jealousy and others that will come our way if and when we do but perhaps we forget that the more we deepen our appreciation and our sense of self worth the more we can handle and see through these forces.

  5. Appreciation is not all just about positive things – it is about appreciating what you can and cannot feel and hence allowing yourself to feel those things that are not so ‘great’ as well as those things that are great. Hence appreciation comes hand in hand with honesty and a willingness to see and feel all there is.

  6. The way you looked at the example of leaving your food in the oven too long, has me considering my own eagerness to look at the ‘disaster’ in situations.

    The reality is, that there is something very valuable and very profound on offer in all situations.

    My body is communicating very loudly about what I have chosen for it. The light in my body cannot handle these choices. I could winge and bemoan the fact, or go wow, yet more proof in the pudding- these physical repercussions are showing me my light again and again.

    1. Simone it’s interesting how we always seem to look at the negative aspects of life rather than the positive. I had no idea for example how much of a negative Nancy I was. And if I do not focus it is very easy to slip back into such negative behaviour as those thoughts are always ready to swamp my mind which then has an effect on everything I do and say.

    2. Simone what you have said here rings true to me as my body feels less heavy and dull and there is a part of me that wants to dull myself down again as though what I am now becoming aware of is too much for me to handle. So there is definitely a choice to be had to either dull myself down again by eating food that I know will race me, or allow myself to be aware of everything around me. I hate the feeling of being raced by sugar now I have done it enough times to feel the difference in my body. This is giving me such an appreciation of the fact that our bodies are actually so sensitive and finely tuned that why would I eat or drink something that doesn’t support these feelings.

  7. Appreciation most certainly is a science, it is the science of the Divine within us all. The world may treat it as trivial and frivolous, as indeed it does. We may grow up to consider appreciation to be a waste of time, as you have clearly done, yet appreciation is the antidote to so many feelings that plague us, like lack of self worth, self doubt and low self esteem. It is so powerful.

  8. Appreciation I know now is not something that is an arduous slog. It is simple and quick and confirming. However, I could still do this far more than I currently do!

  9. “My worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents” – this is absolute gold. And this movement we make, in response to what life presents, is constant, and appreciation feels like simply us clocking our choice of the fuel for our movement, and being with that.

    1. I have been clocking my fuel recently and it is having quite a massive ripple effect in how much I self-bash or appreciate. The thoughts that come into our head can be changed by the movements in our body – go figure!

  10. I love this. Every moment is an opportunity to engage with the science of appreciation. Also it’s interesting what I felt reading about appreciation and appreciating ourselves being our birthright, on a deeper level within my body I could feel how much I have not been appreciating myself. This doesn’t have to be a long drawn out drama just really simple, quick but deeply felt. All of our movements matter .. something I obviously needed to just remind myself!!

  11. These days I’m learning to appreciate myself and I’m realizing about the foundation that is to don’t allow the self-critical thoughts to kick in anymore. I’m the one responsible to care for the body I live in at all levels and to appreciate it for the support it is offering me to be in this life, learning daily to be the loving and tender woman I actually am.

  12. I can relate very much with you Leonne when you shared about how easy it is for you to appreciate the beauty in others and around but when it comes the chance to do it for ourselves sometimes it seems harder. I’m asking myself as well, why? After all the beauty is not exclusive for anyone but inclusive for all. As you beautifully said ‘Appreciation is not just our responsibility, it is also our birthright.’

    1. And this birthright can be walked by us so it is our normal and then we can offer that level of appreciation to others. I am learning that I can appreciate others but when it is not lived in my body I translate that as someone else can be that awesome but I couldn’t. The more it comes from a lived way in myself, the more I am blown away at the appreciation I can offer others.

  13. This is great Leonne, as it gets me to be play-full with words and when we deepen there has to be a humble-ness and we can only be humble when we appreciate and being humble is part of being Soul-fully-connected so there we have a Deepening-Humble-Appreciative-Ness of a Love we can all reconnect to and live Soul-fully.

  14. In order to bring about the great and much needed changes to the way we live life here on Earth, we need to be willing to see it all – the good, the bad and the ugly.

  15. We are so deeply loved and supported but while we try to control our lives because we feel we have to have security in such things as a job to pay the bills and put food on the table. It is extremely difficult to respond to what life presents and when we are in the overwhelm of life we cut ourselves off from the love and support that is always there waiting for us all to reconnect back to.

  16. Great article about appreciation. I especially appreciated(!) the appreciation of the things that may feel like a negative. Like burning dinner and realising why it happened. As I sat here feeling what there is to appreciate right now, I could feel my body didn’t feel as open and light as usual. Even though this doesn’t feel great, I love that I have a marker of who I am and what I feel like when I am allowing myself to be.

  17. Our life gets very miserable if we don’t appreciate the little gems and all that we experience in the magical moment of the day. We could have a beautiful day, with 101 things which are magical, but one thing can happen and ruin it all – this happens because we have not build a solid foundation of appreciation, appreciation of ourselves first and foremost, when appreciation is our standing block anything that comes our way can be observed, understood and dealt with.

  18. I wonder how much the way we see ourselves dictates the direction of our life, and if we can engage in appreciation moment to moment whether that would change the colour of our whole day.

    1. I love what you have said here Julie – it does make the focus on what is most important and all our so called mistakes and imperfections do indeed pale in comparison to the grandness we are and the appreciation of that grandness.

  19. “Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.”

    Time and Time again I am inspired by students of the livingness who show me its about quality not about what we do.

  20. When I hold back the love and appreciation I have for another oh boy I feel the impact – I lessen and am also aware of the impact it has on another as I am not being honest in supporting them to grow too, however when I express my appreciation towards another there is so much to appreciate in my choice to do so… no more holding back in protection but allowing what is there to be naturally expressed and delivered for another.

    1. Reading your comment I am wondering is it when we do not appreciate ourself and hold back with this then of course we cannot appreciate another? So maybe where you have held back on appreciating another your have first held back on appreciating yourself?

      1. Yes Vicky, absolutely there is no doubt that if I am not deepening the appreciation for self then it becomes challenging to appreciate another. The expression of appreciation and how much we allow ultimately comes from the depth of appreciation we have for ourselves.

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