The Science of Appreciation: Part of Every Moment

Writing about appreciation seems to bring up a lot for me. Today after weeks of delay, I asked myself, “Why is this so hard?” I am pretty good at clocking the beauty that surrounds us all – the sun, the sky and the stars. I know I am blessed to have a job, family, wonderful partner and an incredible group of friends. Many times I have been in awe of the way incredible opportunities have opened up, or of the colours of the sky during sunrise or sunset. When I speak to people I find it easy to tell them how much I appreciate them, the way they light up my life and what they bring to the world, – I do it often. Last and certainly not least, I’ve had more things to appreciate than I would have thought possible since I discovered Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine around seven years ago. So seriously, what’s the problem?

My head wants to jump in with all the answers. It tells me that by avoiding appreciation, I am simply avoiding my responsibility to be all of me. It’s a fact, too. I know that the more I appreciate myself, the more that I will realise how important my contribution to the world is, but the facts feel hollow and hard. My head is not helping.

I ask my body what the next step is. It says, “Bring some understanding to yourself – you are a deeply sensitive, tender being. You don’t have an issue with appreciation and you are not a ‘bad,’ ‘irresponsible’ person. Those judgmental thoughts, no matter how subtle, are all equally crushing. There is a reason you are choosing to have an issue with appreciation.”

I let myself feel that underneath it all, I don’t have an issue with appreciation at all. In fact, I can see I am afraid of what will happen when I let the world know just how much I value myself. I start remembering my childhood and the confidence I had; the way I could command a room and feel how deeply precious I was. I also sense that others didn’t always embrace my confidence and unbridled appreciation of myself. As a child, I did not understand that the shunning, withdrawal, harsh words, bullying and taunting were actually symptoms of jealousy. I chose to interpret these things as a sign that I was not ‘so crash hot’ after all, and I had used them to ‘take myself down a notch.’ Ah! … what a convenient way to fit in and be accepted. Everybody wins, or so I thought… (that’s where listening to my head got me).

So today I have another opportunity to claim myself back. Appreciation is not just our responsibility, it is also our birthright. I’ve also just discovered that I’ve left my lunch in the oven about an hour too long, (a little too crunchy for my taste). Didn’t see that line coming, did you? Ha! I could go into my normal judgment and self-bashing, but this blog reminds me it’s another moment to appreciate. Perhaps I’ve sensed that I need to eat something different today; perhaps I have an opportunity to look at the way I am doing things and change some behaviours that aren’t working for me and are impacting others.

Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.

Yes – I see it now: every moment is an opportunity to engage with the science of appreciation.

By Leonne Barker, Woman discovering how wonderful she really is

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877 thoughts on “The Science of Appreciation: Part of Every Moment

  1. I keep being drawn to blogs on appreciation. I have moments when I get to feel the healing balm of appreciation and I think, “I must be like this more often”. Then somehow, I forget in my doing of life. Which makes me realise there is a deliberateness to this tendency. Like the writer, I also feel I don’t have a problem with appreciation at all, as it feels so natural and lovely. It is a way of keeping comfortably hidden, as you shine when you are really feeling appreciation for what you feel within you.

  2. When I see magic happening when I am open with people it is to appreciate by feeling this in my body.
    Many times I forget to make a stop to appreciate which is a way of delaying my evolution and for humanity as a whole.

  3. Building a foundation of appreciation frees the body to surrender more deeply and express from the whole of our being.

  4. A great sharing about self worth here, showing us that it …”has nothing to do with what I do …” but simply the quality of how we do what we do… and this quality develops with the deepening our relationship we have with ourself through self-care and self-love.

  5. ‘Aprreciation is our birthright’. When I read that, I could feel that we are being appreciated, perhaps not so much by ourselves or others, but by something bigger. Like a baby that has been born, you just want to hold it in deep appreciation. An innate holding. We may appreciate that innate holding towards ourselves more I realize by writing this.

  6. I really enjoyed reading how you unpacked appreciation here Leonne, first of all realising that you didn’t have an issue with appreciation, and later seeing how burnt lunch can be another opportunity for a different response than critique. I do appreciate your light-hearted honesty, keeping it light is truly worth appreciating!

  7. Our natural way of responding to life has been so messed up with as we have been brought up to be polite, don’t say this in this situation, only say this in another and its nice to be nice and you must have manners. We make manners more important that what we feel. I feel that even when I do speak up or say something, I at times then feel guilty as if it is not my right. Crazy.

  8. When we appreciate ourselves and others it brings a real loveliness to life as it makes us sparkle.

  9. ‘So today I have another opportunity to claim myself back. Appreciation is not just our responsibility, it is also our birthright.’ I have today discovered more ways that I can claim myself back, and also it has been suggested that I have a birthright, something that I have not considered much before…what is my birthright? Now I can feel that appreciation is definitely our birthright and there is so much more that we can claim as such, this will be a very supportive and healing exercise I feel.

  10. The last line in this article is very significant, EVERYTHING that happens, comes to us or that we create is always an offering, an opening to an understanding that we have not before allowed us to connect with. To negate such love from God with self doubt and condemnation is the ultimate choice to not be in the momentum of growth that our very own evolution is offering.

  11. It’s a bizarre situation – that we think our beauty is too much for this world, but in holding it back perpetuate the lovelessness we fear. It’s time we go for it!

  12. I think it’s great how you went to your body to sense the next step in understanding what was going on for you.

  13. Appreciation can change our lives in so many ways and can make every area of our lives so much richer; even in the areas where we thought we could never have appreciation, i.e. appreciating that we have an illness, and what that illness is showing us and clearing from the body.

  14. Leone, I can feel how important appreciation is; ‘ I see it now: every moment is an opportunity to engage with the science of appreciation.’ In conversation what I find feels great in my body and when I feel connected with me and others is when I am appreciating myself and others. I find any form of gossip or putting others down is the opposite to appreciation and feels awful on my body and is very tiring and disconnecting,

  15. If ever I stop and take a moment, I can feel how much there is to appreciate. I read all the people on this blog that have taken the time to comment and comment in a way that is positive and supportive, not in a way to be critical (for example). In that I can appreciate how we can support someone in their writing, communicating and expression, simply by the way we respond to them on a forum like this. When we appreciate we give a person space to be themselves, and feel more of who they are. With that you can feel how there is a whole science to appreciation that is well worth the time to explore.

  16. ‘Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents’, a little gold nugget delivered here!

  17. Whenever I find myself getting frustrated with something I am working on reminding myself to switch my attention to appreciating everything there is to appreciate about that same thing. It is like going from a narrow minded focus to an open minded focus. It changes my whole mood.

  18. Just recently I have been remembering myself in earlier days and appreciating and trusting in what I felt and what I knew deep within me at the time, and whilst there was no perfection of course there is much to appreciate in myself.

  19. I too can relate to appreciating myself much more these days and far less about what I do and more about the quality in which I am.

  20. Reviewing how we do things and the impact this has on others- this is much easier to do without tearing ourselves to bits, when we have a foundation of appreciation instead of self criticism.

  21. When I started to read your blog Leonne, I became aware of appreciating the very fact, that here I am in a body, whose every cell knows truth that is so grand, and so how could I not in fact appreciate every moment as it leads me back to living that harmony.

  22. ‘Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.’ Beautifully put Leonne, we all fall for thinking our worth is what we do, yet our worth is in the quality in which we live in, and the joy we feel in every moment.

  23. Appreciation is incredibly powerful and transformative. It brings with it an alchemy and we all know this very well. The problem is that it undermines our attachment to individuality and to creation, so we therefore avoid it.

  24. Love this Leonne “Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.” A great reminder that the science of appreciation of ourselves or of another is not about the doing but about the being.

  25. These very insight-full words stopped me and asked for some considered attention as I could feel how hugely important they are to me right now. “I am afraid of what will happen when I let the world know just how much I value myself.” This is the fear I lived (existed) with for so long but today I am in the process of dismantling this debilitating fear and in the process I am getting to appreciate my value so much more and in turn the world is getting to see the real and amazing me – finally!

  26. I learned a valuable lesson from a recent Universal Medicine presentation, that when we get pulled up for something not being quite right, rather than judging and condemning ourselves, it is a reflection that there is more for us to expand into, either in our awareness or our expression. It shows us that we are so much more than what we have allowed ourselves to be in that moment, and so I now see these reflections as little blessings and moments of appreciation rather than critique.

  27. Just knowing that we are beautiful, tender, delicate and loving and have been for an eternity is appreciation ‘gone global’ for as we reflect this so to does everything around us reflect it back. Sometimes it is the detail that leads to complication, judgement and distortion – keeping it super simple holds my appreciation each day. The perfect read for my day ahead – thank you Leonne.

  28. Beautiful blog Leonne. Ever since reading this blog the appreciation towards myself has shifted, from feeling very resistant to beginning to see I make a difference and what I am bringing is far greater than what I first realised. We live in a society where it is all about doing and money, the man once being the bread winner and now, today we see the woman trying to do the same and sometimes feeling the need to want to outdo the man. We make it about competition in our relationships based on how well we are or not doing. What about the quality in which we do? And it is such this, the quality in which I do regardless what I do or how much I do or how well I do through the eyes of another is what matters and this I am getting a sense of, the importance of living, appreciating and confirming the quality within myself with which I live by, in my day.

  29. “Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.” Beautiful words Leonne… very touching and inspiring … thank you.

  30. “Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.” I think you might be onto something Leonne, and it takes each of us to start living that, which supports others to do the same. It will take some doing/unravelling as right from when we are very young we are cheered on from our doing (walking, eating, standing, smiling etc…) but we will get there.

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