The Science of Appreciation: Part of Every Moment

Writing about appreciation seems to bring up a lot for me. Today after weeks of delay, I asked myself, “Why is this so hard?” I am pretty good at clocking the beauty that surrounds us all – the sun, the sky and the stars. I know I am blessed to have a job, family, wonderful partner and an incredible group of friends. Many times I have been in awe of the way incredible opportunities have opened up, or of the colours of the sky during sunrise or sunset. When I speak to people I find it easy to tell them how much I appreciate them, the way they light up my life and what they bring to the world, – I do it often. Last and certainly not least, I’ve had more things to appreciate than I would have thought possible since I discovered Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine around seven years ago. So seriously, what’s the problem?

My head wants to jump in with all the answers. It tells me that by avoiding appreciation, I am simply avoiding my responsibility to be all of me. It’s a fact, too. I know that the more I appreciate myself, the more that I will realise how important my contribution to the world is, but the facts feel hollow and hard. My head is not helping.

I ask my body what the next step is. It says, “Bring some understanding to yourself – you are a deeply sensitive, tender being. You don’t have an issue with appreciation and you are not a ‘bad,’ ‘irresponsible’ person. Those judgmental thoughts, no matter how subtle, are all equally crushing. There is a reason you are choosing to have an issue with appreciation.”

I let myself feel that underneath it all, I don’t have an issue with appreciation at all. In fact, I can see I am afraid of what will happen when I let the world know just how much I value myself. I start remembering my childhood and the confidence I had; the way I could command a room and feel how deeply precious I was. I also sense that others didn’t always embrace my confidence and unbridled appreciation of myself. As a child, I did not understand that the shunning, withdrawal, harsh words, bullying and taunting were actually symptoms of jealousy. I chose to interpret these things as a sign that I was not ‘so crash hot’ after all, and I had used them to ‘take myself down a notch.’ Ah! … what a convenient way to fit in and be accepted. Everybody wins, or so I thought… (that’s where listening to my head got me).

So today I have another opportunity to claim myself back. Appreciation is not just our responsibility, it is also our birthright. I’ve also just discovered that I’ve left my lunch in the oven about an hour too long, (a little too crunchy for my taste). Didn’t see that line coming, did you? Ha! I could go into my normal judgment and self-bashing, but this blog reminds me it’s another moment to appreciate. Perhaps I’ve sensed that I need to eat something different today; perhaps I have an opportunity to look at the way I am doing things and change some behaviours that aren’t working for me and are impacting others.

Perhaps I am so deeply loved and supported that I am being shown my worth has nothing to do with what I do and everything to do with the way I respond to what life presents.

Yes – I see it now: every moment is an opportunity to engage with the science of appreciation.

By Leonne Barker, Woman discovering how wonderful she really is

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731 thoughts on “The Science of Appreciation: Part of Every Moment

  1. Yes, Leonne. Unfortunately, the majority of humanity are uncomfortable with someone who is full of self-appreciation and often try to bring them down. It would seem that the reflection of the joy in loving oneself is unwanted, when really it is showing us how exquisitely divine we all are in essence.

  2. It makes sense, if we turn up the appreciation of ourselves we also turn up the volume of jealousy, a truly poisonous force, coming our direction. That would make us hesitate.

  3. I love this Leonne, showing us something deeper and way beyond the accepted pictures of what appreciation is, that it is the way we respond to everything that presents. All sorts of things are coming into my mind now, for instance my tummy is hurting — how do I respond? Is it with blame about what I have eaten? And if so can I see it a different way and change my response to appreciation of my amazing body for showing me and educating me in the true sense of that word. I can feel how everywhere I am and everything I meet and whatever is happening can be met with an appreciation of the opportunity to respond with appreciation.

  4. Yes, the science of appreciation allows us to behold with wonder and joy the loving hand of God in all things great and small.

  5. The fact that there is always another opportunity for us to claim ourselves back is wonderful Leonne, and leaves the doors wide open for us to make that choice. And when we still don’t, for what ever reason, they still stay right open for another opportunity until we choose to jump over that gap and bring much more of us to appreciate our every moments.

  6. Leonne, love how you have given us a very tangible example of the potential for appreciation in every moment, again and again Serge Benhayon has shown me the rich abundance of opportunity!

  7. The moment by moment science of appreciation is there to appreciate in our lives and allows true growth and the potential to truly claim ourselves in all we are beautifully with a joy , expansion, humility and love always offered to us.

  8. Appreciation supposedly means a pat on the back or reward and recognition from another person, but what if true appreciation was nothing to do with other people and their views or feelings on our choices, but instead about moving in a way that flows, supports other people and opens up opportunities for deeper levels of love in relationships, and seeing how that allows there to be more space to connect in and to life. This is totally different to a ‘well done’ sticker or merit.

    1. Recognising appreciation as a movement also opens us up to all the movements of appreciation others are making in appreciation of us. Something we can so easily miss when we reduce appreciation into something another says or does to recognise us.

  9. I have found that my head likes to talk ‘about’ appreciation, but this is all in the realm of ideas, ideals and beliefs – just a mental construct with no true livingness. As Leonne shares here, true appreciation is something that is embodies and lived – a way of being, not just something to be done to tick the box.

  10. Identifying that it is not appreciation that one has an issue with, rather it being the jealousy one has to deal with when living in one’s ‘fullness’ is being real.

  11. We just are not brought up to appreciate ourselves, in fact we are more brought up to “depreciate” ourselves I would say. It is therefore so healing to turn that around and say hey, its not selfish or arrogant to appreciate ourselves and it supports us to appreciate those around us as well. In practice the results are absolutely palpable.

  12. Appreciation is the most miraculous medicine I have every had. Every drop brings deep and tender healing to my body, my being, and opens up universal space within every cell, where more appreciation can arise and work its alchemy.

  13. In the moments I really lead in appreciation for myself I directly feel the flow in my body of the grandness of my light.

  14. Appreciation does allow others to see how much we value ourselves and allows our qualities to be felt in full. It also gives other people permission to appreciate themselves, to feel the humbleness and joy in true appreciation. I find it often comes down to not wanting to stand out or shine too bright and reflect that no matter what.

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