How often do we go about life, our everyday, and limit ourselves to the superficial, to the outside world and to our five senses?
How often do we rely on the above to determine or experience our reality?
But what if there were a part of us that we have not yet utilised? A part of us that was very natural to us as children, but as we got older we suppressed our knowing of?
And this is when I am talking about our ability to feel and discern energy – our clairsentience or sixth sense.
As we enter the education system we get so conditioned into becoming great spellers, great leaders, great writers, great mathematicians and great scientists, that we actually forget that we were great to begin with – before we did any of that.
What if the education system left ‘the true you’ out of the equation? And instead taught you how to be everything else and to value what you could do, not how gorgeous and special you uniquely are?
By virtue of this, our sixth sense, our natural ability to feel what is going on for us and the world around us, is under-developed. Therefore, because we go through life so focussed on what we are doing and what we can achieve, we actually miss a part of us that supports us to be in life, the greatest tool in our tool belt – and that is our ability to feel situations, feel who we are and feel if something feels true for us or not. Having this internal relationship with ourselves is actually a strength that supports us in life. In turn we can read life, detach and not get as burnt or affected by people’s emotions, situations, ideals or beliefs.
As a beautiful example, we could examine a school child’s home environment – but this is no different to the adult at work or simply the human being in ‘life.’
When that child comes home after a day at school, are they asked:
- How was your day at school?
- How was your day at school?… How did you feel today? How did the teachers feel? Did you have an alright day with your friends? Did anything go on in your day that you found challenging or that you appreciated? How do you feel now at the end of your day compared to the beginning? Etc…
By virtue of really asking the questions, it allows the child to express what truly happened that day in every facet. These conversations validate the child’s ability to feel and confirm that what they have experienced is worth speaking about, empowering the child to feel more confident in themselves (for example at school), knowing that they can trust what they feel and be supported when they come home. Therefore, by our not accepting the ‘it was good’ response when it may have been an intense day, the child doesn’t have to doubt or discount all that they experienced inside. Additionally, it allows the child to let go of what happened that day so they are fresh and ready for the next.
This may not need to be a long conversation every day, but beginning to have these conversations will develop a level of trust in your relationship where the child can know that they come home to an environment where they will be supported, loved, and have a safe place to talk about the day and let it go.
However, this requires the responsibility of the parents to truly create a space where this can occur, making a commitment to truly sit down and listen and put the time aside to connect with their child in this way, and allowing it to become a natural part of their daily rhythm in due course. Otherwise, the ‘it was good’ answer is accepted, simply because we ourselves are so busy with life that we may conveniently think that we do not have enough time in our day to have such discussions with our children.
By beginning to open up these conversations, we may just realise that the child is actually feeling a lot and a deeper level of relationship may arise between the two of you as you become aware that your child has a lot to say… and so do you! Hence, it is an invaluable time to spend with our children as it has a great purpose and personal development element attached to it, and hence, it is not a waste of time at all…
So, a question may be, “why do we avoid having such conversations with our children?” Could a possible answer be that supporting a child in their awareness of what they are feeling may just prompt us to do the same and hence look at our lives – and all that we feel is true and not true in our lives? It takes a lot of courage to express how we truly feel, as there is a vulnerability involved in this.
So… don’t be fooled by the first question, which can simply create an answer like ‘good’ – which is the standard answer these days – where the deeper experiences are not expressed. Consequently, this can either create a bottled-up effect of emotions, depression and lack of confidence or issues at school, at home etc. As a result, this momentum can continue into our adult lives, and affect all parts of our life.
All that is required is to support one another in true expression. Expression is actually good medicine – the medicine of letting go of what happened in our day, and by saying it out loud allowing ourselves to get support for it, and realising how much we do actually know and can feel, and in other words ‘read between the lines’… and build on this!
So, how was your day?
The child just might say… “Well, I felt really bouncy and joyful when I woke up, but the moment I entered the school gates I felt quite a bit of tension as the environment can get a bit crazy. My friends were beginning to be a bit clique-like and so I felt a bit excluded at times, which made me feel sad, but at times I felt like I was in with them. The teacher felt a bit angry and stressed today which didn’t feel good – I didn’t enjoy class as much and felt like I turned my joy-fullness down. And when I got a star for my great work in mathematics (which I love), I felt the other students get jealous. So I had a big day… it’s great to be home.”
Now this is a whole lot of better medicine than the answer of ‘good’… and this can lead to greater discussions and understandings of what the child is being challenged by and hence highlighting the areas to support and work on.
So, do we really know what is truly going on for one another? Could beginning to tap into our own sense of feeling be the key to supporting another in theirs?
We are all very sensitive people, and we all feel a lot. We feel when someone is angry, when someone is sad, when someone is joyful and when someone is jealous etc. We also feel when something feels true or not, and therefore we have the opportunity to pick the choice that feels true or not. To a large extent, our awareness of the fact that we can feel energy, emotions, situations, etc. has been lost by a world that does not foster this.
However, this may just be the key to unlocking what we have always felt missing from life – the fostering and deep honouring of our clairsentience.
By Arianne K.