I have been a tomboy most of my life and have only just started feeling like I am woman!
It has been a slow transformation. I started life on the sea as a sailor: I was tough and I could do most things the guys could. I then worked with horses and again, I could unload a container full of heavy bags of feed and think nothing of it. And even recently in my house renovations I cut timber and laid the floor with the guys. I thought I had to do all this to prove that I could.
However, after having a recent conversation with a man in my life, I realised that the guys know we can do it, but the truth is we don’t have to do it or prove it!
This man has always been in relationships with tom girls and has recently started dating a woman who’s comfortable in her femininity and knows how to live and express as a woman. He was sharing how different it is and how lovely it is to be with a woman who is not competing with him and who allows him to be the man.
We talked about this and I realised that when we as women live in our natural delicate and tender way, we give men permission to hold us in that delicateness and it also gives them permission to be more tender with themselves, but if we as women harden and compete there is no marker or foundation for either of us to connect with our feminine side or our natural sacredness.
So in my new relationship I am opening up and surrendering to being supported, to allowing the support, allowing a man to carry the heavy things, and I am also enjoying being a woman, being more delicate and sweet and sharing these qualities that I have always had but have kept hidden for a long, long time.
By Rosie Bason, Massage therapist and healing practitioner, Goonellabah