Those Little Moments of Pause

I’m at the gym – again. And I’m on the treadmill – again. Behind me I hear the yanking of the front door over and over and I have to keep myself from not getting too frustrated. You see, at my gym there are one of those doors where you need to hold your membership card against a card reader. The system usually needs about one second, which I think is quite fair, to get the door to open, but today it seems like that is way too slow for many. It’s usually too slow most days but today it seems to be particularly so. I notice that I have to really keep myself from running over and explaining that the poor door needs some time to do the job, but I stay on my moving belt.

This made me wonder why we have such a rush in some situations even though the actual event might just take a few minutes, or in this case a few seconds. It’s almost as if we loathe being there and we just want to get it over with as soon as possible.

It’s the same thing when you’re standing queuing at the supermarket. How many times have we rushed to a newly opened till? We just want that whole situation to be done and dusted as soon as possible. It’s quite funny actually and I got to observe it again today, no coincidence perhaps. Two queues and people getting slightly restless, asking the staff to open up another register.

What is it about these small moments? What is it about queuing, for example, that we don’t like? Why do we want it to take as short time as possible? Could it be that we are given a moment to just be? Because you cannot really do much when you stand in line can you? You could pick up some candy that is conveniently placed there that you hadn’t intended to buy, or maybe promised yourself… You can read the headlines of the magazines, but apart from that there isn’t much to do. Unless you find a friendly person to chat with, but that is quite rare. Not that it’s short of amazing people but usually we tend to not chat too much, not in Sweden anyways. Well, I do, but that’s another story.

So could it be that we are left with nothing to do and that freaks us out?

For example, have you ever felt the need to look at your phone even though you checked it 30 seconds ago? And the chance that someone has messaged meantime is quite slim?

What are we avoiding here? Is it to just be with ourselves?

I feel this is something we could explore a bit. Why do we feel that need to go on the internet, check our phone, get stressed at the checkout or from opening a door that needs one slim second more to open itself up?

What if we were to stop for a wee moment and just feel what is going on? We then might get a chance to feel something different, which could actually be the opportunity for stillness. Something that seems to be something we run a million miles away from, even though we cannot really run away since it’s part of us – it’s within us – and it cannot and will not ever leave. But we can run from it by being busy all of the time or by eating things that make us racy.

I know when I give myself the space to just stop for a moment it’s absolutely beautiful, and the way I see, feel and experience life can change in a few seconds.

It’s like there is a world there to experience if we only stop and take notice of it.

I do that sometimes when I am about to eat. I just sit for a moment with my eyes closed and breathe with a steady breath with the sole intent of giving myself a few seconds of me time. There seems to be something magical about this and it’s like the action itself is not what makes it all happen but the intent itself, and the allowance of what is already there to be let out, or given room. It just needs the permission really. I can assure you it is a very beautiful thing and it’s totally worth it.

And all these beautiful realisations came to me from a front door that wouldn’t open straight away and a queue at the supermarket. What if these everyday things are there for us to have a moment of rest, a pause in our otherwise hectic life? Then we could see it as a blessing we get for free, instead of seeing it as a nuisance.

By Matts Josefsson, Student of Behavioural Science, Sweden

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802 thoughts on “Those Little Moments of Pause

  1. My body deeply rest when I allow the space to just be. I can clearly feel how my pulse quieten and my senses open up. From there a completely new way of approach my day opens up.
    Coming back to read this article invited me to appreciate more these stop moments for the potential they have to reclaim the connection with our sensitivity within.

  2. “It’s like there is a world there to experience if we only stop and take notice of it.” When we connect to our inner stillness we realise there is so much more to us than the constant whirl of physical life.

  3. I guess most people are running about, because of the stress we live in , the pressures, demands and complications of everyday life, that is becoming more and more intense, we have lost our way to be still and live in our bodies. That’s no judgement or critique of people, simply an observation, people are really struggling under the intensity of everyday life. Maybe we avoid those moments as we would be more honest about where we are at or what we feel, and want people don’t want to feel the choices they have made are making or what’s really going on for the, or even don’t want to take responsibility for changing them. It can be easier to carry on in the rush and blame life, others for our down falls, how we are feeling etc. It can be challenging, tough and very humbling to feel where we are at, and what’s really going on in our lives and those around us. Sometimes even pretty horrible to feel, but we have the opportunity to change that every moment, without having a mid life crisis, packing our bags, changing jobs, and heading off to the other side of the world, or giving up and saying this just how life is, no sireee, we can change and heal anything, in any given moment we so choose, sometimes it might be a bit mucky and tough, but it’s worth it.

  4. Thank you Matts, what a blessing it is to read this today as we can always deepen our ability, times, places and awareness of how still we are rather than just racing through life to get to our death bed and have missed the opportunity to Truly understand life and reincarnation with the responsibility of how we can live in stillness.

  5. Thank you Matts, you have really exposed the ridiculousness of how we are with our everyday moments, especially when we need to be patient, or simply have a chance to be with ourselves. We seem to want to cram every moment with incessant movement and activity, lest we stop and feel the stillness and wisdom waiting for us to connect to within ourselves.

  6. Matts this is a great blog for discussion on how we race through life, without taking the time to stop and feel.
    I agree with you when you say that there is something magical about stopping to let things just be without any need for action.

  7. This rushing can happen in the subtlest of ways – even in typing comments, whilst thinking of what to be doing next, or the wanting to get the dishes done to get onto the next ‘task’ or so that we can just stop to relax, but then we rush to get to relax which jinxes the whole thing anyways! Funny really to realise what we are caught up in and can actually choose to change any moment.

  8. Matts, thank you for sharing a universal phenomenon that we can all get stuck in – the fact that we do not stop to feel and appreciate. These moments are truly moments allowing us to feel and be with life rather than moments that are designed to upset our day.

  9. This is a great blog to read and I would agree that we are avoiding the stillness that is within waiting to be reconnected to again. I have learnt these last few years that we are governed by a spirit that does not want to feel the stillness of the soul it separated from to have its individual way. So it deliberately races our bodies using what ever method is available to it and for many of us we have no awareness of this science and so are at the mercy of this waywardness.

  10. It is beautiful to read your words and feel how every moment counts and the vastness and richness that is there, always.

  11. Love the gift you give yourself before you start eating – I look forward to giving myself that too and at other times as well. Thank you for the inspiration.

  12. I love meeting people in queues, the other day a lady and I had such a laugh in the queue at the post office, it was really busy with everyone queuing up to post Christmas gifts and cards, normally I would react to this, instead this time I connected with the lady behind me and within moments we were having a giggle together over all sorts of things.

  13. Interesting how we often say we cannot wait for the weekend, holiday etc. to take a break from our everyday life but we actually avoid stopping when it is offered in our every day.

    1. Well said Fumiyo – are we looking at having a break from the way we are with ourselves which is a rush rush rush…? Then the holiday will not change this as we will still be in the energy of rushing. But we do have the choice to change the energy, holiday or no holiday.

  14. It seems like everything is designed to rush, to get ready, to answer quickly, to do, do, do…when in fact we are super sensitive human beings with an infinite space within full of love. Reading this blog today invites me to see closer those moments where I choose to escape instead of feel me, checking the phone or going in to social media to entertain myself…as I could experience yesterday there are choices that makes me racy and over-stimulated, far away from my stillness. All choices to sabotage my natural beauty and sensitivity. Great to look at and I appreciate the awareness that this blog is bringing to me right now.

  15. Reading this is medicine for me today, a timely reminder of the importance of giving ourselves permission to feel. It’s inspiring to see the greatness of this little moments of pause and the revelations that came up for you. Thank you Matts

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