Energetic Responsibility

I was brought up to be ‘responsible’ and to have an awareness that how I acted affected other people; as the eldest child, there were expectations that I took on – that how I behaved had an impact on my younger siblings. Doing the ‘right’ thing was important even if no one else knew you were doing it. I prided myself on being honest and pointing out, for example, if a shopkeeper had undercharged me, but in reality, I was often very irresponsible in how I took care of myself and also how my frequent disregard for myself and my wellbeing impacted all those around me. Not just because other people had to pick up some of my responsibilities, but also in the irritability and other behaviours that I imposed on others.

The energy that I allowed to flow through my body and out to others was not loving, and choosing to look at this quality of my energetic output (i.e. my energetic responsibility) has been a humbling and uncomfortable experience. Being more aware of what it means to be truly responsible – and recognising that how I am in life has an impact on others – has uncovered a range of behaviours that I had successfully ignored for a long time. I have hidden behind an angry/battling persona for much of my life and often had this reflected back to me, which led to many misunderstandings and complications and feelings of being a victim of others’ emotions.

Accepting my responsibility that everything I say, do or think affects everyone else has completely changed how I approach life. Once it was presented to me that on entering a room, anyone can feel (if they choose to) what has been happening there – e.g. if there has been an argument, or if there has been a loving exchange, I became more aware of how often I had imposed my feelings and emotions on others and looked for them to side with me, against whomever I was in conflict with.

The more I have become aware of my own patterns of behaviour and irresponsibility, the more I have recognised it around me. We each have rights and responsibilities within our communities and this reflects how we are as individual nations: the way I and my fellow citizens choose to live has an effect on how the country we call home is. Changing ingrained patterns of behaviour can be challenging, but it is our energetic responsibility to reflect to others the loving choices we can make every day: we can continue to strive for personal gain whatever the impact on others, or we can lovingly choose to work together for the benefit of all.

There is a wider energetic responsibility currently playing out in many countries around the world. For too many of us there has been a comfort in feeling hard done by in the circumstances we find ourselves in, with a complete absence of any sense of having contributed to our current predicament.

I was appalled by the UK’s vote for Brexit, having been a passionate European since spending time living and working in Germany during my early adult life. However, I was not totally surprised. I could feel how I have contributed to the disconnection around me of so many who feel left behind and blame ‘outsiders’ – e.g. refugees or immigrants – and also politicians, whose lives are far removed from their everyday experience of struggling to get by.

Being energetically responsible is incompatible with casting yourself in the ‘victim’ role, as either an individual or as a nation. It is only when we start to feel how we are living, and commit to making choices that support ourselves and others to live in a way that is not harming, that we can become more aware of how it is to live with Energetic Responsibility.

By Helen Elliott, Ipswich, UK

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598 thoughts on “Energetic Responsibility

  1. With so much more being exposed to us in what is happening in the world it is a great time to be present with our Soul and simply not get involved in the world, as corruption seems to be unrelenting and others are still looking towards comfort, while others are awakening to the Lies.

  2. Energetic responsibility calls for us to be respond with energetic integrity to the energy that we feel in and around us.

  3. Could it be our energetic responsibility to live with True Appreciation, and thus Intimacy, as being intimate (non sexual) comes from letting others in and Appreciation is like a twin sister as you can-not have to have one without the other. We would definitely appreciate and hold intimacy with others when we understand the energetic meaning, and that is to be more intimate is a process of letting people in the most religious way. And thus appreciation and intimacy go hand in hand as we relearn to let people in and deepen our relationship with our Soul.

  4. Responsibility is for every thing and what does everything mean, well every-thing must be all inclusive as all we do has an impact on our lives and when that impact becomes loving magic starts to happen and we are responsible then to deepen our relationship with every aspect of the magical way we can live so our responsibility becomes all-encompassing and thus a great part of our evolving.

  5. Thank you Helen, it’s the perfect timing for me to read this again today, to consider how my choices have an effect on others, and that everything is a cycle and that every imprint I leave is coming back to meet me.

  6. Helen I have read and commentated on this blog a few times and this morning I was drawn to read it again and I came across this part
    “The energy that I allowed to flow through my body and out to others was not loving, and choosing to look at this quality of my energetic output (i.e. my energetic responsibility) has been a humbling and uncomfortable experience. Being more aware of what it means to be truly responsible – and recognising that how I am in life has an impact on others – has uncovered a range of behaviours that I had successfully ignored for a long time. I have hidden behind an angry/battling persona for much of my life and often had this reflected back to me, which led to many misunderstandings and complications and feelings of being a victim of others’ emotions.”
    We are not taught from young about energy and the effect it has on our bodies and everyone around us, so this is a great discussion to be having where we can have open conversations that can support us to unpick our ignorance on this subject. As it now makes complete sense to me that how I am with myself will affect others. After all we can tell if someone is angry or sad as we can feel the affect it has on them and ourselves, that is all energy.

  7. Helen this is key in what you share – the point being that we cannot be or play the victim and take responsibility at the same time: “Being energetically responsible is incompatible with casting yourself in the ‘victim’ role, as either an individual or as a nation. It is only when we start to feel how we are living, and commit to making choices that support ourselves and others to live in a way that is not harming, that we can become more aware of how it is to live with Energetic Responsibility.” – so it is about depersonalising it and seeing the opportunity for growth and understanding and then allowing the step into true energetic responsibility.

  8. We can certainly be fickle and selective about the responsibilities that we are willing to take on board. However, no matter what we take on board is to be celebrated, whilst those things we struggle to take on board are to be noted and it is for us to realise what we are in fact saying no to. For the interesting fact about responsibility is that we tend to resist it and fight it, and yet once we take it on board, it energises us and grows us like there is no tomorrow!

  9. Energetic responsibility to me is giving someone the space to feel safe and held so that they can feel what it is like to just be themselves with no imposition. And how beautiful is it when someone feels that real sense of love rather than sadness, frustration or anger in another person.

  10. I have noticed especially as I get older that we are less willing to take responsibility for ourselves and others we can easily see this in the rise in illness and disease as we are not willing to take responsibility for our own health instead rely heavily on the health care system to aid us when we get sick. There are very few people in the world that know how to live with energetic responsibility as it is not something that we have been taught. I only know about energetic responsibility since meeting Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and it makes sense that how we are with ourselves is how we will be with all others. So the more self love, nurture and understanding I can bring to myself will naturally be felt by others as we are all connected to each other.

  11. What I am understanding responsibility to be is how it is about responding, and I really have to let go of the picture of how it would land, and that it is a moment-to-moment movement in response to what is being called for.

    1. Very beautifully expressed Fumiyo – responsibility and our capacity to respond to what is needed.

    2. Wow Fumiyo I love what you have shared and I am wondering what would happen if more people would get the understanding that responsibility is how we respond to what is needed. Surely our world would look and feel a bit differently. Perhaps we as a society would have more joy in our daily life.

  12. “Being energetically responsible is incompatible with casting yourself in the ‘victim’ role, as either an individual or as a nation.” When we understand the true meaning of energetic responsibility we will know that how we are at home and at work, how we are in relationships all have an effect on the whole and we can never escape this responsibility.

  13. ‘Not just because other people had to pick up some of my responsibilities, but also in the irritability and other behaviours that I imposed on others.’ We are very quick to blame others, particularly our parents or those we live with without taking any responsibility for our own choices.

  14. ‘how I am in life has an impact on others’, if you sit with this truth, you become aware of the irresponsibility you have chosen, which is great because with this awareness, we can choose differently, plus we get to observe how being responsible is actually very loving to oneself and to all others.

  15. Simple words… How we are in our life, affects others. This plays out very obviously when people sing together. At the start it is about ourselves, getting our voice out no matter what, and there is such obvious separation. But then, as one connects with oneself on a deeper level, it is realised that we are all one voice, and everything starts to change.

  16. Many people in the world currently do not understand what energetic responsibility means, this is a brilliant blog to read. We can see this lack of understanding play out in many of our current industries, from our food industries to the vehicle industry, from our education system to our health system, and we can see this play out in our personal lives too. Understanding what energetic responsibility means is very important, it could change the world if we all embrace it in full.

  17. It’s a great start and very essential to realise how much we impact on ourselves, and then a whole other kettle of fish opens up when we realise how much we impact on everyone else. The more we can live connected to our love within, the more responsibility is felt as it truly is as a beautiful and purpose filled way of life.

    1. Yes and it’s then we feel how connected we are to one another and how much our own choices impact upon others.

  18. Beautifully shared Helen – it is when we are willingly open to being honest about how we truly feel in our bodies, that we then become very aware of what quality of energy we are choosing, why and the impact it has on ourselves. It is then we realise and can feel for ourselves and from others that we are always emanating a quality of energy, be it that of love or lovelessness, wherever we are which is magnified through our movements.

  19. Energetic responsibility and knowing that everything we do has a ripple effect on others brings a whole new dimension and depth to our everyday responsibilities.

  20. ‘Accepting my responsibility that everything I say, do or think affects everyone else has completely changed how I approach life.’ Absolutely and as we understand this we realise what a great responsibility we have.

    1. We live in a world that is growing in irresponsibility and the only way to reverse this and bring back true responsibility is to live it ourselves and show the world how enriching and joyful life is when we truly accept and embrace energetic responsibility.

  21. Not only can we feel how another is when they enter a room, we can also feel it before they enter. We are all so much more connected than we allow ourselves to feel. The more aware we become the more naturally responsible we become because the two go hand in hand.

      1. We can support ourselves so much more by embracing and expanding our awareness of our awareness and through the responsibility and living of that we naturally support all others.

  22. The key thing in responsibility is that it comes natural to us, it is actually innate to us, and we don’t have to adopt an ideal to be responsible. That would be another burden, another mental activity which is in fact heavy and this is not what true responsibility is about. If we start taking care of ourselves, connecting to ourselves, connecting to our inner heart, we will automatically become more responsible, in a serious but light and playful way.

    1. Absolutely and we have to expend energy to avoid being responsible, no wonder we have such high levels of exhaustion.

  23. So at what point do I take responsibility? Is it when something happens to me… to my kids… to someone else’s kids? The depth of the responsibility that I am willing to take is limited by my awareness of what energy is at play. Am I going to read it or is my story too strong that day?

  24. Being energetically responsible I am starting to understand extends to all areas of our life including those places/times when we are alone or believe we are not seen by others eg in our cars, homes etc. If we all live in a sea of energy which we do, then we are affecting the quality or clarity of this sea constantly even in our so called private moments.

  25. The thing is we can so easily turn a blind eye to things we do not want to see and convince ourselves that the constant reflection is not there and that whatever is going on is nothing to do with us. When we look around us at humanity, the depth of this self-imposed blindness is astonishing.

    1. Yes the abdication of responsibility is hurting all of us and it is great to constantly review the areas that we are unwilling to see and act on.

    2. In a way we can’t really turn a blind eye because we never stop feeling and seeing things. We can pretend and even convince ourselves that we don’t see, but the truth can’t be avoided, is known to our bodies and will out in the end.

    3. Very well said Julie and turning a blind eye to things/life is simply a sign we are saying no to energetic responsibility and we can see many examples of this globally.

  26. I have been very aware recently that there is definitely a difference in being responsible in what I put out into the world and doing things out of burden and duty. The former actually feels light and joyful where as the latter feels heavy and sluggish.

    1. So true Andrew and everyone gets to feel the reflection of you being joyfully responsible rather than the imposition of someone who is dutifully but often resentfully ‘doing responsibility’.

  27. I’ve recently become aware of how irresponsible it is to hold back our expression, because it creates a gap that then gets filled by another’s interpretation – their words, their take on the situation, which may, or may not be, completely off track. When we hold back we’re essentially giving the message that we’re not an equal part in whatever is going on around us, and trying to absolve ourselves of our responsibility in it, rather than embracing it. Opening up to just express whatever is there to be shared is not so we can offload and feel better, but so that the connection and flow of expression and energy can continue unhindered, without us blocking it.

    1. Yes misinterpretation caused by lack of expression can lead to a multitude of problems and I too am recognising how often I have contributed to this by withholding my expression because of fear of rocking the boat or the reaction it may cause. I have found it really supportive in situations where I only realise afterwards that I need to express something that discussing it with someone else can really help to clarify and clear anything unnecessary out of the way so that my expression is not tainted with any of my baggage around a situation.

  28. When we tune into the awareness of energetic responsibility, and then, tune into the world, into our society, this throws a very revealing light over and over into everything.

    1. I hear what you are saying Cjames2012, it shines light onto everything in this world and we start to see the world with less reaction and more understanding when we start to embrace energetic responsibility. 

  29. We can choose to play the victim role, blaming others for our own lack of responsibility. It is a huge wake up call to realise that our lives are what we have made them, taking responsibility and making different choices is the way to bring change into our lives.

  30. I can so relate to the pattern of ingrained behaviour you describe here, and sometimes it feels almost impossible to change because it keeps coming back. What you share here reminds me that my responsibility starts with me – how I transmute out the energy that is running through me, how I take responsibility for my reactions so that I will not be a party to add to whatever I am reacting to.

    1. Absolutely and how we choose to move through our day has the ability to heal ourselves and others rather than allowing our bodies to be ruled by reactions/patterns of engrained behaviour. For me the most empowering thing is to recognise that I have a choice in every moment to not react and can choose to just be with myself rather than getting caught up in whatever is happening around me.

  31. It is true that when we do not care for ourselves this then is a lack of care for others. Even if we are carrying out the actions of care for another, the quality is not there if we have not lived it with ourselves first.

  32. ” Being energetically responsible is incompatible with casting yourself in the ‘victim’ role ”
    This is very true and the root of all issues, comes from once we give our power , our energy away we are destined to be a victim of this choice.

  33. Yes there is more to life than meets the eye. And more to the word responsibility than we think. What is the energetic quality in which we live our life? And are we taking responsibility for this?

  34. Thanks for your great blog Helen. With the understanding that responsibility entails the loving/intelligent way of living in the world with others and our environment life entirely changes. This is a fairly recent understanding for me, who lived most of my earlier life in indulgence ( whether that be drugs or hard work – in the end it is all the same!)Thank heavens for Serge Benhayon who opened our eyes to the possibility of energetic integrity.

  35. A cracker of a blog on energetic responsibility, for it seems only a few years ago that I heard and understood what these words meant, and is a great supportive read for those who are feeling the need to change and let go of old patterns of behaviours but do not know where to start. Of course it starts with looking to ourselves and getting honest in how we are living and how we are treating our bodies.

  36. It is a great thing to be responsible and we can be told to be responsible and loving – but if these things are just expressed as words without us knowing or embodying the true meaning of them then they will not be lived in their truth. These days all these words have been deeply corrupted in their everyday use as we expose on Unimedpedia: http://www.unimedliving.com/unimedpedia

  37. We all feel everything and it is time we spoke up about it even if others are not entirely receptive to what you have to say. I have found that the first person to call out the truth is often shut down, castigated for their insolence, how dare you go against the ‘norm’. Yet as others also start to question that ‘norm’ there is less push back and at some point the tanker that was heading one way is turned to head in a more self aware, loving direction.

    1. Beautiful point Lucy – those that are the most aware and sensitive to what is really going on are often the ones that get vilified for pointing out that the normal is far from natural.

  38. Beautifully expressed Helen. I was photographing smoke from an insense stick this morning and I could see that every click of the camera had a huge effect on the smoke in front of me. It was clear that the smoke was reflecting the quality of movement not simply the physical movement. Every move we make and every thought we have affects everything.

  39. I agree Helen that supporting others around us starts with how much we support ourselves for the quality we hold ourselves in and move our bodies in, is what is reflected back out into the world which either confirms the status quo or inspires and heals by offering something more.

  40. I always felt responsibility was taking care of others…. I don’t think this was imposed on me as a child I actually think I assumed this role willingly as the oldest sister without a mother around…. I am starting to see just how much we want to play certain roles/parts as children/adults as it serves one purpose to become an actor in the worlds biggest play called “LIES” and leave our natural way of being behind…..

    1. Me too Toni I was also the eldest sister and took my role seriously and felt hurt that my siblings often reacted and teamed up against me!! But of course they could feel the dishonesty/arrogance in me assuming a mothering role in an attempt to control them and make myself out to be better than them. It has been lovely to feel how our relationships have expanded since I have let go of the ‘Lie’ that I know better and have actually taken responsibility for myself rather than imposing on others.

  41. Wow and such a responsible subject; that of energetic responsibility, which invites all of us to step up and choose this way of living that will take us all forward in expansion because it is evolutionary. Awesome blog Helen.

  42. “For too many of us there has been a comfort in feeling hard done by in the circumstances we find ourselves in, with a complete absence of any sense of having contributed to our current predicament..” So true Helen, we try to abdicate any responsibility we may have in contributing to the mess we are in. Rather than giving up and becoming a victim we can start by taking responsibility for even small new choices in our everyday lives. Taking a small first step can lead to bigger things.

  43. A fantastic explanation of how victimhood is in fact an opportunity to be in irresponsibility and how energetic responsibility can enhance our awareness and understanding of what’s going on in the world and as importantly, where and how we might have played a part through our own choices in contributing to it. Your blog is a true call to international responsibility based on the responsibility we’re each of us making at all points in time for our own choices.

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