Death and Passing Over, we need to Talk about it

Someone close to me recently passed over. What has come to my awareness is how we don’t generally talk about death, even our own, or a person’s last days in their current lifetime.

Could it be by talking about death from the start of our life, and not seeing it as an end, but the truth of what it is – a passing over, evolution, and the start of a new cycle to begin – we would have a very different relationship with ourselves, death, life, evolution and purpose, and how we prepare for our own or another’s passing over, and how we care for those dying?

Imagine what it would look like and be like if we knew we had a responsibility in life and in how we passed over. That how we lived our life would be how we would pass over. Would things then be different? That we had legal documents prepared and set up stating where we are to be cared for, the food we eat, the music we listen to or the books we read, who we would like to care for us, down to every last detail, such as the lighting in the room.

What if visitors, carers and staff knew they had a responsibility in terms of supporting you by how they live and bringing this to you, the room or your home, if that is where you choose to pass over. How different would this be?

What would it look like if we knew that the lead up to passing over was an opportunity to let go, to clear as much of our hurts, all our unloving choices and karma, so in our next lifetime we come back more evolved, lighter and clearer in our body than the lifetime before? Closer to our true divine being expressing through our body.

Would passing over then not be a celebration, and actually a very precious, joyful and special time, rather than a time of emotions, misery and woe?

By Gyl Rae, 39, Teacher, Scotland

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851 thoughts on “Death and Passing Over, we need to Talk about it

  1. Taking responsibility for our end of life process by completing the necessary forms that explain our wishes each step of the way and sharing this with our loved ones before we pass over, so that they can have some understanding of the process and be open to this most sacred event where much healing is on offer for all at the ending of this cycle of life.

  2. I’d love for us to be more prepared and open with death. I remember a few years ago when a good friend was dying and I felt so unprepared for his death. I just did not know how to really handle it. I think I watched about 60 episodes of a series about life in an undertakers to make death seem more accessible. But if we had (as a society and as the friendship) talked about it more, it would seem more part of the natural cycle and embrace the lead up to the passing to clear and prepare for our next time.

  3. Returning to this blog I am aware that I have always had a deep innate sense that death is nothing to be fearful of and that it is not ‘final’ but a ‘passing over’. When I trust what feels innate rather than ‘listen’ to ideals and beliefs taken on from outside, I feel a knowing that the essence of all of us is eternal, and simply moves on to whatever is next. Hence the need for the levels of responsibility shared her by Gyl. It is not ‘the end’ and we carry forth our energetic state of being into the next life. So yes taking care of our ‘end of life’ choices is vital to maintaining the quality of our energy going forth.

  4. Yes when we consider death as a preparation for our next life rather than an end to life everything changes, with this understanding we naturally become more self-responsible because we know that nothing is truly left behind and instead we are coming back to it all again. Hence why wait to deal with something tomorrow when it can be dealt with today!

  5. Love that you bring this awareness to us Gyl “Would passing over then not be a celebration, and actually a very precious, joyful and special time, rather than a time of emotions, misery and woe?” As a society it seems we have got this whole death thing so very very wrong!

  6. We live as if dying doesn’t exist… we ignore this very large elephant in the room. What if death became a natural topic of conversation and we prepared for it as we prepare for a new school, a new job or buying a new house? Wouldn’t this reduce the emotional fear and sting of the process?

    1. For as long as society continues to pretend reincarnation isn’t real, death will continue to be the morbid, sad and emotional thing it has become.

  7. I agree – for the death and passing over to be the celebration that it truly is, we need to talk about it and accept it as part of life instead of a taboo topic we politely avoid. How can we possibly embrace and appreciate something all of a sudden if we have been avoiding it for all along. Interesting thing is how we can be stroppy in the way we live and die like it doesn’t matter – as if we know we will get another go at it, as the one who is dying as well as the one stands by another in their dying.

  8. To me death is inextricably connected to life, they are all one continuous cycle, so it makes sense that we give equal attention to our passing as we do to our living. The preparation for one is as important as the other, but in this world of ours this is not how it is, with all our attention on just getting on with life and very little brought to the fact that one day we will pass from this life and how prepared are we for that eventuality and the life that comes next.

  9. As you grow older and there are less and less years between yourself and death, the perspective can change, and you realise that you need to give some thought to the whole matter, reconsider things and prepare. A deep understanding of our relationship to the body and our role on earth, along with an understanding of reincarnation (which occurs whether we ‘believe’ in it or not) really facilitates being able to approach it all grace-fully, and in such as way that we continue to evolve, rather than repeat an old pattern, an old way of life.

  10. I have been around quite a few people dying and what I have noticed is that the spirit does not want to let go and seems to hang onto life no matter that the body is broken and rotting away. For me it continues to be a huge learning because it is at this time that the spirit exposes itself, and I can see it as an all consuming self centeredness that is totally disrespectful to the body it en-houses.

    1. As I read this I thought of this also. I was with a family member as he was dying and in the moments before he took his last breath, he was asking about his car and belongings. One would think that this is not important as we can’t take any of this stuff with us! … but it makes sense that we try to hang on to things. Given permission to let go of all of this stuff, he did very quickly and passed within a few minutes. It felt like the most natural thing in the world, letting go and moving on.

  11. I feel the key here is knowing that when we die that is not it .. it is not the end but instead a continuous cycle and indeed how we live .. right up to our last breath has an imprint on how our next life will be. We need to not only educate ourselves regarding this but have an absolute understanding where this truth can be clearly and tangibly felt in the body
    There is so much more to our life than we are currently living that is essential to our wellbeing. Thank goodness for Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon who are bringing the true truth in all aspects to humanity regarding this. It means we do not have to be in the dark anymore.

  12. Choosing to be ignorant about death and what lies thereafter does not change anything, only in our mind can we ignore the undeniable and pretend that life exists only in the way we want it to and not what the truth is.

  13. The answer to the questions you raise Gyl is a resounding yes, for we have reinterpreted and misinterpreted death to be an end point where all stops and falls into a dark abyss, and that is one of the biggest lies that we have sold to ourselves. Why we have sold out to such a lie, has much to do with what we have settled for and sold out to in life itself. We don’t want to see that life is cyclical and that there is so much more than just the physicality of life itself. We don’t want to connect to the responsibility we have in life – to bring all that we are to life and live in the completion of what we are offered. All of this contributes greatly to our perception of death and our steadfast decision to avoid it and delay it as much as we can. But what we are delaying is in fact the connection with ourselves.

  14. I am just in the process of updating my will and am thinking about the detail of my care should I need it before passing over. This feels a gorgeous thing to be doing and feels very self-honouring.

  15. How we care for someone who is nearing their death is important. In my experience one thing we have to let go of is keeping them alive, secondly allowing them to be in control of their life as much as possible while they are able to, and thirdly being loving in all our responses regardless of their reactions so that we have no regrets later.

  16. Reading many of the responses to this blog show that we have a greater understanding of dying than we are willing to express to each other. The more we begin to express our true feelings about death and not hold back, the more we will accept death as a natural cycle and part of our evolution, instead of the fear and resistance that we hold onto at present.

      1. True but it does makes sense to the Spirit that runs the show and has a vested interest in us not knowing, this is also something we don’t like to talk about along with the fact that everything is about energy first and not just what the eye can see. This is why education should start with the young who are more open to the possibility that there is more to life than what we are told, and then death and Passing Over can become part of the discussion too.

      2. Our spirits that run the show have had it too easy for the past few thousand years without anyone exposing the truth of how human life is all controlled by our spirits from another plane of life. Thankfully their free run is coming to an end.

  17. ‘Imagine what it would look like and be like if we knew we had a responsibility in life and in how we passed over.’ This to me is living life fully open to what is there being reflected to us to learn and grow from. It’s not denying anything we don’t want to see because we believe we can’t cope but asking for support to be fully present.

  18. It is fascinating our attempt to hold onto things and people, as there is the shedding process that is on offer for the person passing over there is also a shedding and letting go process for the ones in a close relationship with that person. The more we don’t hold onto and let go the free that being is able to evolve and move onto the next.

  19. I chat to quite a few elderly people in hospital, average age of 90 plus and surprisingly they never raise the subject of death. Except for the few that say they wish they were dead, they all plan on living as long as possible regardless of the fact that they need constant care and cannot do anything much for themselves. Such has death been made a taboo subject that people don’t want to consider it. The one life that we all have bought into in the west is largely responsible for this. If we knew that we kept coming back to this school until we learned what we need to learn, surely death would be embraced rather than years of suffering unable to care for oneself? Mankind badly needs to understand the science of re-incarnation.

  20. We don’t always know when people are going to die, we only know that we all do. For some it is a sudden death, through an accident or illness, for some it is a long slow process though cancer or similar degenerating disease. The main thing is to talk about it, not only the practicalities of what needs to be done after the death, but also what the dying person needs while they are alive. They do not need sympathy, but understanding of the process they are going through, keeping things light is important, accepting the future, and living with what is right here right now. Being loving, supportive and allowing them to make decisions with dignity.

  21. If we make talking about it normal, then it is normal. My son and I talk about it quite freely and it’s lovely. There is nothing morbid about it, it’s all quite matter of fact and simply is what it is.

  22. When we talk about dying we need to ask what part of us is dying as it is only the physical body that dies and we are far more than the physical body. The more we accept this the easier it is to accept death and all it represents for us.

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