Revelations from a Journey to Work

The drive to work is a time to be with me, to reflect, to ponder the day ahead, and to feel. It is just 20 minutes and 9 miles long but traverses country lanes, passes green fields and purple heathland, through a tiny village with just a few houses, a church and a school, and then vast gated estates of grand mansions, whose staff are just arriving for work. Further down the road there is a golf course to one side and stables to the other. Then, about a mile from the office there is a major acute care hospital, with comings and goings of a variety of vehicles of different colours, shapes and sizes – and where, inevitably, there can be a build-up of traffic.

Like me, others are on their daily commute and there can be a sense of ‘driven-ness’ in the air. Some seem to need to get where they are going as quickly as possible and yet, when there is a surrender to the inevitable process of queuing, there can even be a feeling of harmony as drivers allow someone into or out of a junction – a flow which suddenly feels very different to the preceding rush. There are occasional waves and nods of gratitude as one acknowledges the other for facilitating this flow, allowing them to get on with their journey.

One day, this momentary harmony was disturbed as a driver pulled out of the junction without any regard for others, overtaking a line of traffic, pushing in at the roundabout a few metres ahead and leaving a trail of frustration – if not anger – in his wake. Whilst we may encounter selfish and thoughtless drivers many times in our day, for some reason this occasion felt particularly offensive. Silly, maybe, to allow myself to be bothered by something so trivial, but the truth is, it did upset me – and the feeling stayed with me.

Perhaps it is obvious to state that experiencing the apparent disregard of another is unpleasant. It surely is so, but my usual attempts to accept the situation – to rationalise things and to simply let it go – did not work. There was something deeper to be seen here and something more profound to be understood.

Pondering this seemingly trivial incident and what felt like my disproportionate reaction to it, led me to a deeper understanding of what happens in such moments. The event itself was just one of many that could have offered this awareness. In fact any situation where one person behaves without regard for others, speaks ill of them, or treats them without respect would do just as well.

What was within me to be felt and appreciated was that such acts are a betrayal of the deep sense of connectedness we all know in our hearts. In this essential unity, we all know the equalness that we come from, where no one is any greater than any other, and that there is a very deep and true connection between us all – without exception. This event was not just someone behaving selfishly and ignoring the common courtesies that most of us choose to live by, it was a denial of something truly sacrosanct – the unified Oneness we all come from.

This may seem rather extreme when we deal with such events every day – but are we simply ignoring or denying that depth of feeling we all have for each other? When I came to this realisation it all made sense. This was not an over-reaction on my part at all. I was registering the deep ‘offence’ towards this innateness within me and within all of us.

As if this were not revelation enough for one apparently minor incident, I soon became aware of something even deeper. It would be easy to accept the awareness I had already seen – the realisation that we are deeply connected to each other – and leave it at that.

But there was something more significant to acknowledge, something far less comfortable than pointing out the apparent failings of another.

I had to see that I was not living from this place of true connection with others either.

I was happy to point out that the actions of others dishonour this unity we all share, but less happy to see that I too am part of that picture. I had to come to accept that the hurt I was feeling was not just about the actions of another, but also about my own self-serving behaviours.

The deeper truth is that the situation offered me a reflection of my own disconnection from that place of unity within – the source of my true hurt.

Is it possible that in our understandable desire to avoid feeling hurt, we are missing something of enormous value? None of us like to feel hurt and it seems to make perfect sense to protect ourselves from it. But what if our hurts are in truth revealing something even more important – something not to protect ourselves from, but something that we should seek to understand?

There is an assumption that the source of our hurts must be avoided – as if they are to be feared – but what if hurt is in fact showing us that the reason we are feeling this pain is because we are living in denial of our true nature, that essential unity and connection with each other? Our hurt might just be pointing out something innate and deeply joy-full within us and something that we can choose to reconnect with.

Recently, as I have come to embrace this connection with others more fully, there have been a couple of those familiar instances where I have met another for the first time and there is a strong sense of ‘knowing them’. Complete strangers look at me and they ‘swear’ they know me from somewhere. “Did you ever work at…?” or “Have you ever been to….?” they ask. I don’t feel a need to answer because I know exactly what they are truly feeling and saying… “I know you on a deeper level, in that place where we are all connected. Yes, I know you… really I do.”

Such happenings are another confirmation to me of the very same essence. When another acts in the absolute betrayal of our innate connection, it touches a hurt on a deep and almost unfathomable level. When we recognise an apparent stranger in this way, it is there again – not so hurtful this time – but a feeling that we are deeply known to each other.

Serge Benhayon has been sharing and presenting the wisdom of this ‘unified Oneness’ for many years now. As I open myself up ever more to what Serge so consistently offers, I find myself feeling this ever deepening connection with myself, with others and with something greater that unifies us all. Even in a queue of traffic.

By Richard Mills, Another Forever Student

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1,057 thoughts on “Revelations from a Journey to Work

  1. Selfish acts are a denial of the fact that everything we do, think and say affects everybody else. This can seem like a daunting realisation to me at times, so driving in a way that is respectful and harmonious with the other drivers feels like a practical way to learn how to live the truth of our interconnectedness.

  2. I am finding that if I appreciate my connection to self and hence all others before setting out in the morning, then this lays a foundation for how I am in my day, including of course my drive to work. We can live in reverence for the natural harmony there is in life, if we appreciate it is in us all and all we do.

  3. I too have had experiences where people say they know me and we haven’t met or I know someone as well. The truth is we do all know one another at a very deep level, we are all connected, but we live in ways where we only get glimpses of it every now and then, which I feel we have to remind us of our deep connection with one another.

  4. “There is an assumption that the source of our hurts must be avoided – as if they are to be feared – but what if hurt is in fact showing us that the reason we are feeling this pain is because we are living in denial of our true nature, that essential unity and connection with each other?” – I agree, why would we feel the hurt if we didn’t know otherwise? We do know there is something so precious and true that is so innate and available and more than possible to us.

  5. Thank you Richard for sharing your insights on your drive to work, being willing to look deeper at what you were feeling, it is in our interconnectedness with each other that we feel the hurt.

  6. That difficult driver may have gotten relief from their own frustration by off-loading it onto everybody else.

  7. My normal drive to work is very early in the morning and although it is very short, I love how quiet it is and the gentle beginning of the day as the city is waking up. In my drive I get to feel how I have prepared for my day, am I rushed and anxious, or relaxed and enjoying the drive

    1. Our drive to work offers us a great opportunity to feel how we are. It seems to me that the motion of the car magnifies our awareness somehow so we can sense where we are at more clearly.

      1. I agree, if i am anxious or not left myself enough time, even the smallest bit of slowness in the car in front, a slight hesitation as a junction or lights ratchets up my anxiety levels hugely so I’m leaning forward in my seat and gripping the wheel, versus being sat back and relaxed, unaffected by the pace of those around me because I have given myself space for my own pace.

  8. What I learnt from being hurt recently is that by going into it we perpetuate the cycle and add to it being repeated. I reacted to a situation recently and I got to feel how much it hurt the others around me. It was a really big lesson of how when we go into this, we keep the cycle of abuse going.

  9. Within each and every one of us there is the knowing that we are all one, but sadly this is a knowing that most are not connected to. So, for this driver to act in the way that he did there was obviously a disconnection from this truth at that moment in time, with his self-centred action being “a denial of something truly sacrosanct – the unified Oneness we all come from.” Just imagine if each and every one of us chose to connect to this knowing, what a different world we would live, and drive, in.

  10. I had another experience this week where I trusted the knowing that there was more to be found if I was willing to dig a little deeper. And it proved to be so once again. What I am finding in these situations is that in my body I feel tension and that the tension is an indication that there is more. It seems to me there are different levels of awareness being offered to us all from the apparently ‘challenging’ events of our lives. Choosing to go deeper is to say yes to all that is being offered. In my experience, it is well worth the time and effort to uncover what is there.

  11. Traffic is an excellent example for the pushing, shoving and elbowing that we have come to accept as normal when in fact, it goes against the grain and our divine nature which has not an ounce of competitiveness.

  12. Only when we are governed by self we are able to hurt one another by disrupting the flow of life such that we can feel that the order of life is changing in a way that does not belong and is part of our nature.

  13. Richard, what you share on the situation that you meet people who say they do know you, the same I can have with completer strangers I meet for the first time in my life. I can have that inner feeling that I do love them so much, the love I knew before was only reserved for only my close relationships. I can sense that this feeling is coming from that same connection you are talking about. That we are all connected and live in the order that is governed by love.

  14. Thank you Richard for bringing this awareness on the impact of hurts to our lives. Indeed, we tend to protect these hurts because we do not want the same once again. But a great question is to ask ourselves why we felt hurt in the first place and did not deal with them when they occurred but instead buried them in our body unresolved from where they have control our life for as long we do not deal with them? Could it be that there is a mechanism in us that needs the hurt as an excuse to not live the power that we innately are and can live on an every day’s basis?

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