Making Space

Recently I was moving house and the first thing I needed to do was get rid of stuff I didn’t use anymore – no startling revelations here! I had accumulated a lot of things that I ‘paid good money for’ that I was reluctant to get rid of because I knew how much they cost me and I wasn’t going to get back anything like what I paid for them, so they just cluttered up my living space. As this was a process, it was difficult to be aware of how this gradual encroachment was affecting me, however it became clear soon enough.

The first item I decided I could safely sell and not feel that I was throwing money away was a set of mag wheels I had bought for my previous car. They had been sitting in my hallway, brand new, still in boxes for about 18 months, never went on the car, never got used. I placed a free ad and got a call later that day. The next day I delivered them to the lucky guy and the deal was done.

I came home and stood in front of this distinctive space that had been filled with the 4 boxes for so long and what I could feel was actually more space within my body.

This feeling was a revelation. What was this space in me, which had been apparently filled up with those shiny mag wheels?

I started to realise that, like all of the other unnecessary possessions I owned, I had used them in the past to ‘fill’ myself up so that I didn’t have to feel the emptiness inside – that emptiness that comes from not being all of who I truly am. This feeling of emptiness is a tension, angst and an ongoing anxiousness that is masked with keeping busy or, as in my case, filling that emptiness with stuff. The new feeling of more space in my body is warm; I feel expanded, centred, not needing to do or be anything other than just breathe and be me.

So here was an opportunity to live more of who I am, looking after myself with all the care that I innately know how to do. All of the little decisions around food, what time I go to bed, how early I get up in the morning, how I drive, how I interact with others, how I allow myself to be seen, how I express, how accepting I am of other people, in fact, my every movement. This awareness of being more of who I truly am is a work in progress, as I let go of expectations of perfection.

Part of this is the understanding that it is my resistance to living responsibly that has delayed the action of allowing all of who I am to be a part of all that I do.

What also became clear was that I now had a new relationship with letting go of my unnecessary possessions. With the understanding of the space created within, how much I got for these unwanted items became an irrelevant detail; the feeling inside my body was more valuable to me than any amount of extra dollars I imagined I would get in some perfect selling scenario.

I have since thrown away, donated to charity and sold a lot of stuff that no longer was of any use to me – some absolute bargains there! It would be great to say that this process is finished, but some things are taking a little longer to let go of and I get the feeling that, as I evolve, there will be things that I use now, or feel I need now, that will become something to let go of at some point in the future. Therefore, letting go of unwanted physical possessions or old, unnecessary ways of being will be a process that continues for a little while yet.

There is no doubt, that to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add, as has been explained by Serge Benhayon on numerous occasions. I will always appreciate what has been reawakened within me from Serge’s presentations.

By Mark Payne

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Clearing Out Clutter – The Room at the Back of the House
Bringing Sunshine inside my Basement by De-cluttering

1,266 thoughts on “Making Space

  1. I just love making more space in my house.
    One thing that goes out what not truly support the space in love is a releave in my body.

  2. Our homes are a great reflection of how we are living and treating our bodies, either with disregard or with loving attention. When we clear the clutter and stuff we have accumulated, we can feel the impact this has on our bodies; in feeling more space to breath more of our true selves: ‘ The new feeling of more space in my body is warm; I feel expanded, centred, not needing to do or be anything other than just breathe and be me’.

  3. Mark I love the truth you share of the importance of letting go and discarding unnecessary stuff, in order to uncover and express more of whom we truly are.

  4. Another similar thing I notice in the house is the list of incomplete jobs. There are times when I identify something, straight onto it, and its done… beautiful feeling of completeness. And then others when the job gets identified, but then hangs around… and then it becomes a few jobs. I can feel this gradual leak, and whatever story I am running with, I just know that by not attending to things I am allowing the space to get cluttered up with unresolved bit and pieces.

  5. I’ve had a clear out recently and it’s been amazing to feel how much freer I now feel and how what I’d been holding onto was an old version of me and no longer relevant to who and where I am now. Life is really about continual evolution, and the question for us is do we go with it or do we fight it?

  6. I had the experience of literally making space in my mouth. By wearing braces for over a year my teeth and moulds are now positioned in such a way that they not only look beautifully even, but also give me so much more space in my mouth to express. People I hadn’t seen for a long time couldn’t get the change in the beginning, but they all commented similar: ‘there is more of you!’.

  7. I have recently been coming to truly allow myself to acknowledge my own value. This was highlighted the day I made the choice not to go to work as I was unwell. In the past, as a self-employed contractor with no paid sick leave, I probably would have gone and simply pretended I was okay. Once I made this decision I could feel so clearly that the spaciousness I felt “inside my body was more valuable to me than any amount of extra dollars”; way more valuable. Priceless in fact!

  8. Life is all about letting go, letting go of that which does not serve us anymore, which includes not just the material aspects of life but the habits and patterns of behaviour that are actually not us, so that the true truth of who we are can be lived and shine through. I just noticed from my recent comment that I have not as yet attended to my computer clean out, no more avoidance.

  9. Could it be that the process of letting go of things we own, material possessions is a continuous process? That some things we buy now and are actually the right things to buy, are not the things that will serve us the future?

  10. “There is no doubt, that to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add, as has been explained by Serge Benhayon on numerous occasions.” Letting go rather than needing to add anything makes the process of claiming ourselves so much easier.

  11. I find that when I shift things physically and do a clear out, that I naturally feel clearer in myself too. It is a very beautiful process to see how everything is linked and we are offered symbology in the everyday.

  12. This is a super inspiring blog Mark, and one that helped me review what things I have been holding onto ‘just in case’. All these little things accumulate in all the nooks and crannies of our homes and really can bog us down energetically, I have found. Just the other day I finally went through a hamper full of clean clothes and put them away (finally) after sitting on our bedroom floor for a couple days. What amazed me is how simple and quick it was to put everything back in its place and how much lighter I felt because of it. But why do we procrastinate with these things when they are so simple to deal with right away? Perhaps it has to do with our tendency to stay in our heads and worry about all those things we ‘have to do’ instead of listening to our bodies and making more and more space by doing them on the spot.

  13. ‘the feeling inside my body was more valuable to me than any amount of extra dollars I imagined I would get in some perfect selling scenario’, this is gold and highlights that you cannot put a price on feeling amazing when we surrender and let go of the old -which makes space for the new to flow to ourselves!

  14. This sense of space in the body is felt in many situations. When having cleaned the house, completed a job, focused and steady with a study routine. I feel the space within when I make the space to do what it is I need to address.

    1. When we delay or avoid what we need to address, this creates a subtle tension in our bodies and we lose the space for things to flow, but when we address what needs addressing and complete, we remain in the flow and we remain spacious.

      1. Yes I have noticed for myself that when I am not communicating what I want to say for whatever reason I begin to get more untidy and less ‘on it’ with other things. This procrastination game seems to filter through to many areas when we are playing at it in one.

  15. There is an ‘accepted normal’ to fill our minds with mental clutter (emotions, judgements, criticism) and we then seem to spill this over into filling up the space in our home with physical clutter.

  16. The accumulation of clutter can definitely become a “gradual encroachment” into our space and before we know it the clutter takes up more space than we do, leaving us wondering how it happened. Unfortunately, we are often left in overwhelm as to where to begin the clearing out and so put it off until another day, whereas starting right now with one tiny piece of clutter, in your case your mag wheels, is actually quite simple; it is us who makes it complicated.

  17. I used to live in a very small space and this meant I couldn’t accumulate too much stuff. When I moved into a bigger space, I noticed how quickly I went to fill this space up with stuff I did’t necessarily need. Interesting, it seems the more space I have the more I want to fill it up, instead of allowing myself to feel and appreciate the spaciousness.

  18. Unwanted gifts, old broken stuff and things we don’t actually need but hang on to clutter not only our living spaces but also encroach on how we feel within ourselves.

  19. I love coming back to this blog because just reading it makes me feel that expansion and spaciousness. I feel inspired every time. Yesterday a friend helped me clear some grass that was growing in among the flowers and literally smothering them. We tied a tree that was falling to a stake and tidied the area around the house. It feels so much lighter now and probably no mistake that I came across this blog because having started the process there is much order and clarity that I could also bring to the inside of the house. I have a room where I put things that I will see to later …..maybe I could clear that ‘later’ so I am always present with what is happening and needing to be attended to.

  20. Letting go of items we no longer use and declutter our space feels very supportive. Doing this on a regular basis is great, I can feel how our home feels more spacious even when we get rid of small items.

  21. When people talk about clutter-clearing to make space, they are usually referring to items in their home, garage, work etc, but we also clutter up our lives with unwanted emotions, disregarding habits and even too much food and drink. How amazing it can feel when we make the choice to release these emotions, ditch the habits and cut back on the excessive food we are eating, as each choice will present us with more space in our body in which to be more of us.

  22. What I have been noticing lately is how getting rid of things in our life that no longer serve us opens up the space for the next level of expansion to occur.

    1. Super cool observation – the universe is not static and so neither are we… our vehicle of expression is constantly being called, so when space opens up, its like a law of nature that new things / the next level beckon.

  23. I have found that when I let go of an ideal, belief or picture that I have bought into, I notice that I become aware of things in my surroundings that I also need to let go of. I see this as a lovely confirmation of how my inner and outer terrains reflect each other.

    1. That is interesting Elizabeth. It makes sense and this is confirming you are honouring what you feel and allowing your awareness to guide you. Pretty cool to observe and appreciate.

  24. Yes I too will always be grateful and appreciative of what has been reawakened as you say by Serge Benhayon, it is the knowing of a felt sense of my soul connection that is undeniable, making more space for this is of critical importance in my life.

  25. “There is no doubt, that to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add.” Realising we are already everything can be quite a challenge especially if we’ve always lived life thinking we need to get somewhere or be more.

  26. “…to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add”.This is a great truth and one that once fully understood will entirely change the way we approach life. Instead of adding skills, knowledge and experience we let go of beliefs, patterns, ideals and hurts as none of that is who we truly are. And so it is in the discarding of all that we are not that we will be left with all that we are.

  27. Great timing to reread this as I have a pile of things gathered for quite some time now that I have been trying to sell on the internet because they still have worth. I find it hard to let go of them for that exact reason, yet is is taking up space in a room that is meant to be a space for myself and everyday I see it I feel the stagnation of it and the pressure of ‘i still have to get rid of this” This blogs reminds me that the space is worth so much more than a pile of second hand belongings.

  28. Reading this today, i was getting distracted by incoming emails so I quit my mail system so I was not seeing other emails coming in. Instantly there was less tension and more space in my body as I was only focusing on this one thing. Space is cool.

    1. Speaking of emails Sarah, I have found that clearing out all those ‘junk’, ‘spam’ and trash folders on a regular basis provides that same feeling of spaciousness and clears out that old stagnant energy of holding onto things ‘just in case’.

      1. A great reminder for me Michael, I have been clearing some of the rooms in my house making more space that now feels so lovely, your comment reminded me of my computer and the need to take care of clearing so much unwanted stuff that I have been avoiding doing.

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