Making Space

Recently I was moving house and the first thing I needed to do was get rid of stuff I didn’t use anymore – no startling revelations here! I had accumulated a lot of things that I ‘paid good money for’ that I was reluctant to get rid of because I knew how much they cost me and I wasn’t going to get back anything like what I paid for them, so they just cluttered up my living space. As this was a process, it was difficult to be aware of how this gradual encroachment was affecting me, however it became clear soon enough.

The first item I decided I could safely sell and not feel that I was throwing money away was a set of mag wheels I had bought for my previous car. They had been sitting in my hallway, brand new, still in boxes for about 18 months, never went on the car, never got used. I placed a free ad and got a call later that day. The next day I delivered them to the lucky guy and the deal was done.

I came home and stood in front of this distinctive space that had been filled with the 4 boxes for so long and what I could feel was actually more space within my body.

This feeling was a revelation. What was this space in me, which had been apparently filled up with those shiny mag wheels?

I started to realise that, like all of the other unnecessary possessions I owned, I had used them in the past to ‘fill’ myself up so that I didn’t have to feel the emptiness inside – that emptiness that comes from not being all of who I truly am. This feeling of emptiness is a tension, angst and an ongoing anxiousness that is masked with keeping busy or, as in my case, filling that emptiness with stuff. The new feeling of more space in my body is warm; I feel expanded, centred, not needing to do or be anything other than just breathe and be me.

So here was an opportunity to live more of who I am, looking after myself with all the care that I innately know how to do. All of the little decisions around food, what time I go to bed, how early I get up in the morning, how I drive, how I interact with others, how I allow myself to be seen, how I express, how accepting I am of other people, in fact, my every movement. This awareness of being more of who I truly am is a work in progress, as I let go of expectations of perfection.

Part of this is the understanding that it is my resistance to living responsibly that has delayed the action of allowing all of who I am to be a part of all that I do.

What also became clear was that I now had a new relationship with letting go of my unnecessary possessions. With the understanding of the space created within, how much I got for these unwanted items became an irrelevant detail; the feeling inside my body was more valuable to me than any amount of extra dollars I imagined I would get in some perfect selling scenario.

I have since thrown away, donated to charity and sold a lot of stuff that no longer was of any use to me – some absolute bargains there! It would be great to say that this process is finished, but some things are taking a little longer to let go of and I get the feeling that, as I evolve, there will be things that I use now, or feel I need now, that will become something to let go of at some point in the future. Therefore, letting go of unwanted physical possessions or old, unnecessary ways of being will be a process that continues for a little while yet.

There is no doubt, that to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add, as has been explained by Serge Benhayon on numerous occasions. I will always appreciate what has been reawakened within me from Serge’s presentations.

By Mark Payne

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Bringing Sunshine inside my Basement by De-cluttering

1,320 thoughts on “Making Space

  1. This is such a timely read for me, as I am in the process of helping someone to make space in their home and in their life, prior to a move. The clearing out has a lot of emotions attached to it, but the decision has been made and the commitment to clear out all that is no longer needed has been made, and begun. And today it was so obvious, that as well as the feeling of spaciousness in the home, there is also a spaciousness and lightness growing within this person’s body; now that was very beautiful to observe.

  2. I too have been clearing things – again – from my house – having moved five years ago. It seems an inevitable ongoing process. ” …. the feeling inside my body was more valuable to me than any amount of extra dollars I imagined I would get in some perfect selling scenario.” I so agree. Doing a little decluttering every day now is a way for me to avoid overwhelm at the size of the task, as when it all seemed too much I did nothing.

  3. This is so important to know, that we are already complete and that it is not that we have to become someone but simply to let go of what does not belong to our true self is what is needed.

  4. It is amazing to be aware of how everything we have chose to surround ourselves with I our home represents a quality of energy we align to, a choice that either support sour evolution or hinders it. All of which is a constant offering of fine tuning as we heal, grow and evolve.

  5. Curious to see that when people downsize and move into smaller homes, they often live more spaciously and become more of themselves than when they lived in large properties stuffed with unnecessary items valued more than the space they filled.

  6. When house clearing is purposeful, the effects of opening up space are felt deeply in the body. Not only is our home transformed, so are we.

  7. Cleaning up our houses is a great thing to do to allow more space. Creating space in our bodies, by getting rid of old buried emotions and hurts is another logical step with the same effect: rubbish, unneeded things out, space, which is love, in.

  8. It is so freeing to let go of the concept that we only will grow in person and wisdom by gaining material wealth and temporal knowledge. While we do need to possess material wealth and temporal knowledge as that is needed in this temporal world, it is not the end goal as that is to live to the love that lives within that gives true value to the human life and is not measured to anything we own in the temporal world.

  9. It is interesting to read that space is valued more valuable than the temporal value in dollars and I can feel that to me this is true as from my own experience of decluttering my house and enjoying the space in return.

  10. ‘it is my resistance to living responsibly that has delayed the action of allowing all of who I am to be a part of all that I do,’ and the thing is we’re the ones doing this, so we’re the ones who can change this, and as we let go and step up in ourselves and see what our next level of responsibility is, then we free ourselves up to be more us.

  11. So if we carry on hanging on to things that we no longer need that also fills space in our bodies. I have seen that hanging onto behaviors, that I do not longer need, have the same effect. Once we let go of them, there is more space in our body. More space to be ourselves.

    1. The more space we allow in our lives the more outstanding our ingrained behaviours become and in that space we can easily to let go of these.

    2. I have let go of so much over the last few years, both physically and energetically, but with each layer released so much more is uncovered. We, as human beings, can be our own worst enemy when we hold to material possessions and behaviours which no longer serve us, and then wonder why life is a struggle.

  12. Someone I know shared with me recently, that a year after selling her home, packing up all her belongings, and there were many, and being a ‘gyspy’ since then, that she no longer misses all the household things that she used to fill her life up with. She said, not only has she shed the weight of all these things she used to feel were so important to her she also has shed so many old ideals and beliefs about life and how she used to live it. This was so very inspiring to hear and has certainly got me looking at what I am holding onto, with fresh eyes.

  13. Very revelatory blog and something worth re-iterating “There is no doubt, that to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add, as has been explained by Serge Benhayon on numerous occasions.” Awesome blog Mark .. en-joy what you share.

    1. All our lives we’re encouraged to accumulate, yet true gold is found when we let go of possessions, ideals and beliefs, not add them.

  14. I’m in the process of moving house and packing up our things and it is so huge to be able to throw things away – some of them I moved in with. The process confirms everything is energy because throwing out something physical just feels more spacious in the body.

    1. I too, have so often felt the change in my body when I throw something out that I have been holding onto for a while. As you say, it “feels more spacious in the body”. It’s quite an amazing feeling and somewhat difficult to describe, but to me it feels like an inner weight has been lifted and as a result every part of me feels lighter; a definite lightness of being.

  15. ‘What was this space in me, which had been apparently filled up with those shiny mag wheels?’. Great question, as our homes are a reflection or ourselves and if they are all clogged up, then its a sure bet that our bodies are all clogged up too. But if does feel wonderful when we start to clear and ‘make space’ within and without.

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