Making Space

Recently I was moving house and the first thing I needed to do was get rid of stuff I didn’t use anymore – no startling revelations here! I had accumulated a lot of things that I ‘paid good money for’ that I was reluctant to get rid of because I knew how much they cost me and I wasn’t going to get back anything like what I paid for them, so they just cluttered up my living space. As this was a process, it was difficult to be aware of how this gradual encroachment was affecting me, however it became clear soon enough.

The first item I decided I could safely sell and not feel that I was throwing money away was a set of mag wheels I had bought for my previous car. They had been sitting in my hallway, brand new, still in boxes for about 18 months, never went on the car, never got used. I placed a free ad and got a call later that day. The next day I delivered them to the lucky guy and the deal was done.

I came home and stood in front of this distinctive space that had been filled with the 4 boxes for so long and what I could feel was actually more space within my body.

This feeling was a revelation. What was this space in me, which had been apparently filled up with those shiny mag wheels?

I started to realise that, like all of the other unnecessary possessions I owned, I had used them in the past to ‘fill’ myself up so that I didn’t have to feel the emptiness inside – that emptiness that comes from not being all of who I truly am. This feeling of emptiness is a tension, angst and an ongoing anxiousness that is masked with keeping busy or, as in my case, filling that emptiness with stuff. The new feeling of more space in my body is warm; I feel expanded, centred, not needing to do or be anything other than just breathe and be me.

So here was an opportunity to live more of who I am, looking after myself with all the care that I innately know how to do. All of the little decisions around food, what time I go to bed, how early I get up in the morning, how I drive, how I interact with others, how I allow myself to be seen, how I express, how accepting I am of other people, in fact, my every movement. This awareness of being more of who I truly am is a work in progress, as I let go of expectations of perfection.

Part of this is the understanding that it is my resistance to living responsibly that has delayed the action of allowing all of who I am to be a part of all that I do.

What also became clear was that I now had a new relationship with letting go of my unnecessary possessions. With the understanding of the space created within, how much I got for these unwanted items became an irrelevant detail; the feeling inside my body was more valuable to me than any amount of extra dollars I imagined I would get in some perfect selling scenario.

I have since thrown away, donated to charity and sold a lot of stuff that no longer was of any use to me – some absolute bargains there! It would be great to say that this process is finished, but some things are taking a little longer to let go of and I get the feeling that, as I evolve, there will be things that I use now, or feel I need now, that will become something to let go of at some point in the future. Therefore, letting go of unwanted physical possessions or old, unnecessary ways of being will be a process that continues for a little while yet.

There is no doubt, that to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add, as has been explained by Serge Benhayon on numerous occasions. I will always appreciate what has been reawakened within me from Serge’s presentations.

By Mark Payne

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1,212 thoughts on “Making Space

    1. I have the same hook with items. When we put a value on something we are under the illusion that the object is of greater or lesser value. When truth is it’s still an object made of the same denseness. we should really be asking does it serve us not what’s the value.

  1. It’s funny how our head can say one thing – like ‘I paid good money for that’ but on another level we can just feel it is time to let something go!

  2. I love the process of letting go of not only possessions we no longer feel we need but also old behaviours and beliefs that only hold us back from the true essence of who we are. I also love that this is a constant refinement and learning that continues along our evolutionary road of life.

  3. ” There is no doubt, that to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add,” So well said, we are a product usually of our hurts from childhood and there is a process of letting those go so that we can be more of who we really are.

  4. As we evolve and feel more spacious within our body we naturally feel an impulse to clear and let go from our life what no longer serves or feels true bringing a simplicity and clarity that is truly supportive.

  5. This is pure revelation:

    “…to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add”.

    If we truly understood this then we would make life about surrender and not security. Only from this point can we begin to evolve and build a relationship with space that is not so much about filling it up but instead about listening to what is being communicated to us within it.

    1. I loved what you have shared Liane about Mark’s comment“…to become more of who we truly are is a process of what we let go of, not what we add”. If we truly understood this then we would make life about surrender and not security “ thank you Liane you have provided me with a key as to why I have been so much hanging on lately.

      1. Right from the get go we are taught to seek outside for the answers that are always found within. Talk about a wild goose chase! This sets us up for a desperate quest by which we ‘hold on’ looking for answers to the tension we feel that ironically is caused from the holding on itself and not the lack of an answer. How corrupt is this then when our true way is to surrender more deeply and through this process allow ourselves to feel what has always been known in the Universe within us.

  6. “Therefore, letting go of unwanted physical possessions or old, unnecessary ways of being will be a process that continues for a little while yet.” Letting go of things has been ongoing for me too – it seems to be a constant refining. And, as you say, the difference I feel in my body when another load of stuff has gone to a charity shop feels great.

  7. All around me I see people filling an emptiness with a variety of things; from smoking to gaming, to running to overeating. But these activities actually don’t fill the emptiness just numb it for a while and when the numbness wears off it is still there and needing even more numbing. I have found that there is a way to truly fill the emptiness and that is to stop and acknowledge what has created it; until we do that there is no way we can heal and the numbing will continue.

    1. Yes there are the obvious things like filling up space with possessions and stuff but also activities, TV, social media, worry, and getting overly attached and involved in other peoples lives.

      1. What is shared here is so important to acknowledge, as it shows us how every movement makes an imprint that either supports us or delays us.

  8. The space in our home reflects the space within. It’s our connection to God so no coincidence that if we don’t want to feel that, we fill our homes with clutter and fill our bodies with food, often become constipated, blocked up, to keep ourselves heavy and dense. Clear the home, clear the body.

  9. When we clear the physical clutter from our surroundings it shows us the freedom of equally clearing out the clutter of our stored emotions and hurts that we have hung onto for so long.

  10. It makes sense to let things go that we do not use or need anymore and, as happened to your mag wheels, someone else may need or use them. A simple truth that brings clarity and space.

  11. I love the simplicity here, that it is about letting go of what does not support rather than thinking we have to be something. Living true is about honouring who we already are, never is it about changing ourselves for the ‘better’.

    1. Awesome truth here, as we can be too intent to change ourselves and others in an effort to control them or ourselves.

  12. How amazing is that, you begin to clear out your house an voila you realise you’re feeling lighter in your body .. makes total sense and it’s often only after the fact that we realise this and I love the understanding that is shared here, that it’s not about the money you get but about that feeling of lightness and space in the body from having let go of something which is no longer needed.

  13. I love the feeling of re-ordering your space, of clearing things out and when you get an impulse to makes changes and then when you feel the difference of this- it is like you share- a total expansion.

  14. If I feel my house and relate it to my body then there are spaces filled up with comfort, familiarity, hanging on, need fixing, that will do, missing out etc. It is fascinating to feel and how stagnant it is holding on to things just to slow ourselves down, delay and be less.

  15. This is so true that to live more of our true essence, it is a process of letting go all that we have taken on, most of it not even ours – eg the emotional baggage we have absorbed from others that we are not even aware of. The modalities of Universal Medicine are a super support to release and clear things from our bodies, when we are ready to do so.

  16. “What also became clear was that I now had a new relationship with letting go of my unnecessary possessions. With the understanding of the space created within, how much I got for these unwanted items became an irrelevant detail; the feeling inside my body was more valuable to me than any amount of extra dollars I imagined I would get in some perfect selling scenario.” Items and objects hold energy, we must be mindful of the energy and arrange them or discard the unwanted energy accordingly.

  17. It is awesome how we can refine our relationship with life and the same way we can let go of foods that are not supportive for us the same way we can let go of clutter in our homes to create more space for who we truly are.

  18. I can relate to how we can let things gradually build up and in that not allow ourselves to recognise the impact the build up is having on us but then to start sorting through things, re-ordering and evaluating what we really need and want around us feels great.

  19. I have recently started to get the feeling that I need help with getting rid of some stuff, I am not a hoarder but still have tons of stuff and I have to keep asking the question why do we need so much? I can only imagine what it must be like to be extremely rich and trying to fill a hole by shopping constantly but never being able to fill that hole because the only filler is love.

  20. From where I am sitting I can see about 8 cookery books on a shelf that we haven’t used in years. I think it might be time to say goodbye to them.

    1. Good idea Debra. I remember years ago, I cleared out 2 full bookcases from my living room, books that I had been given, books I did not read, books that consumed a lot of space. Afterwards my living room felt more open, lighter and so much more space!

  21. Letting go of the old and creating space for the new, feels like it’s very much in tune with our natural cycles. Clearing out the cupboards is a great way to clear old stagnant stuff, making everything feel sparkly and fresh.

  22. ‘Part of this is the understanding that it is my resistance to living responsibly that has delayed the action of allowing all of who I am to be a part of all that I do’. Love your honesty here. When I took responsibility for my life, everything changed, life became simpler, and all that I needed started to flow towards me. Taking responsibility is the game changer.

  23. ‘like all of the other unnecessary possessions I owned, I had used them in the past to ‘fill’ myself up so that I didn’t have to feel the emptiness inside – that emptiness that comes from not being all of who I truly am. ‘ Very true Mark. Evolving is moving on from things that do not serve us any more.

  24. We delay our own evolution by holding onto possessions, clothes and food etc, it feels very expansive and spacious in our bodies and homes when we begin to clear out the clutter and the old possessions as they really do weigh us down.

  25. There are possessions that hold us back in life and others that can actually support us. As long as we remain open to what is needed to support us and what is holding us back, we will always know what to throw out and what to keep. At times, it can feel challenging but in these moments, all we need to do is simply reconnect to us and we will have the answer and in my experience, it isn’t always what we think it will be.

  26. I had an interesting and revelatory experience last week, I was going away for five days and decided to bring my favorite dress with me. On the day I decided to wear it I tried it on with the cardigan I love to wear with it and matches it perfectly. I immediately felt there was something not quite right with my outfit, so I decided it was the cardigan, I changed this for four others but the feeling was still there, and what I realised was that energetically my dress was not supportive of where I am now at in my life and after much deliberation I have decided that my favourite dress and I need to part company.

  27. When we finally discover that we have filled our bodies, house, drawers, cars and about every free space with stuff, it can be a daunting challenge for where do I even start! I have been down this road, and it didn’t happen overnight and had to be sometimes dragged. A tipping point comes and its like coasting down a hill as we make more space within. It is an arduous journey that is well worth the open spaces at the destination.

  28. It is amazing to feel that the space we create in our home from having a good clear out can actually be felt in the body. I have so enjoyed that feeling… an openness, lightness and expansiveness.

  29. If we’ve been filling space with stuff we can get used to that. Then when we get rid of the stuff it may at first seem uncomfortable as we re-learn how to be with space. Space provides the opportunity for expansion, which is a glorious thing, but if we’re not used to it, it may take some adjusting.

  30. That is indeed a huge revelation Mark. So be honest we have possessions to fill our own emptiness, it is a big step in letting go of those possessions. It seems that you got the taste of letting possessions go.

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