Entertainment Gone Wrong?

Real Entertainment?

It will be the weekend here soon in England and many of the population will be watching Saturday night entertainment. This often comes in the form of what is called reality TV, where judges are adjudicating someone’s ability to dance/sing/cook etc. in front of an enthusiastic audience.

These kinds of shows have become very popular; in fact, the viewing numbers reach millions each week as people switch on to watch the programs and where, usually, drama unfolds.

But what exactly are these types of programs telling us?

  • You have to be good at something, or really bad, to be noticed?
  • That it is ok to judge people?
  • That it is ok to mock people?
  • It is ok to focus on people’s talents and abilities to define them and their worth as a person?
  • To gain another’s sympathy creates a bigger ground swell?
  • To build someone up, inflate them, and sell them over another is ok?
  • That comparison and competition is normal to feel?
  • That to be ‘someone’ we need to be good at something that others deem worthy enough?
  • That we are loved for what we do rather than for who we are?
  • To be anything or get anywhere we must have another’s approval before we can move on?
  • That it is normal to give our power away to someone or something that can judge you to be good or bad?
  • That if you are one of the ‘lucky ‘ ones to ‘succeed in winning the competition’, you and your story belong to the public and/or media, which then leaves you (as we have seen so many times before) wide open and vulnerable to the media’s own agenda?
  • That our fate is decided by how others see us?

Society is suffering and to me all of the above messages add to the dis-harmony and dis-ease in our world.

We have become a culture indulging in others’ emotions and we are addicted to it; we love the hype, the sympathy and the drama. Emotions run high in these types of shows as they aim to stimulate, excite and hook us in. Is it not time to wake up and take responsibility and understand the impact of these emotions and what they have on our health, mental wellbeing and attitude towards others? Is it not irresponsible to give so much time and energy into watching these types of shows yet pay little attention to our own health and wellbeing, and the real state of the world?

“The world has always fallen for talent. Talent does not bring love, for it is the lack of love that makes us focus on our abilities rather than who we truly are.”

Esoteric Teachings and Revelations by Serge Benhayon, page 349

By valuing our own self-worth and appreciating others for who they truly are and not for what they do or how they perform, we begin to see there is another way: a way of living that does not need external stimulation to keep one entertained, a way of living where there is no perfectionism, just a willingness and intention to be open and equally loving to all.

When we come from a place of truth it is easy to see how false and degrading competition is and how insidiously harmful judgment and comparison are to us as individuals and as a society.

Let us bring back true respect and let us get back to the simplicity of life.

With deep appreciation for Serge Benhayon and The Way of The Livingness he presents.

By Samantha England, Health and Social Care Assessor, Norfolk UK

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1,826 thoughts on “Entertainment Gone Wrong?

  1. Illusion is created by the assembling of pictures that are fed to us from an external source that forever has us seeking outside ourselves for satiation.

  2. TV and computer screens now offer us constant entertainment, it is our ‘go to’ when life gets difficult, and rather than look at our issues we bury ourselves in a TV or computer screen. The name of the game now with entertainment is to think we deserve time out from our stressful lives to indulge in what ever offers us the most comfort and satisfaction.

  3. We love entertainment because it distracts us from our life, we can sit in front of a telly, computer or in the audience of a reality show for hours only so that we get a relief from the tension of our every day.

  4. It is really interesting and definitely a good thing to be aware of the underlying messages that are in TV shows and films and not just see them as entertainment or something to keep us amused for we may be getting more than we bargained for.

  5. Judgement separates us from ourselves and others and in a world where people are seeking connection (especially via social media), we will keep seeking it outside ourselves if we continue to judge others and keep ourselves in separation.

  6. Are reality shows taking the place of real life? It is easier to just sit back and watch someone else, there is no responsibility, you can turn the channel if you do not like it.
    But what a sad way to live, deep down we know it is wrong, There is nothing that can come close to getting out in the world and experiencing it for yourself.

  7. Great blog and it’s very sobering to consider the messages behind what is considered harmless fun.
    ‘That our fate is decided by how others see us?’ This one I know I’ve lived by since being a child and wanting recognition and fame and feeling a failure because I never made it to being famous – thankfully because I didn’t have the foundation of connecting to who I am to have withstood how brutal the entertainment world is. I then tweaked it to being good at my job but this too is dwindling as I connect with what I am bringing to the work that may not be seen by others but is felt.

  8. The classification of many of these shows as ‘reality tv’ makes me laugh, but not in a funny way, as they are so far removed from the reality of how most us live they ought to be classed as possibly being ‘dangerous to your health’. But the preponderance of these shows just goes to demonstrate that there is a demand from the viewing public and all the television production companies are doing is meeting that demand. We stop watching them, they’ll stop making them, as there will be no profit in it; yes, at the end of the day it’s all about the money.

  9. This list is amazing. Each item shows exactly how we can deny or reduce our amazingness and put them put together, we have what we call entertainment. Seriously, is this how we amuse ourselves?

  10. I have never been able to cop being around people that mock another, that the mick or be sarcastic. What I have come to understand and feel is the subtle but deeply harmful level of abuse this is. Be it in face or online it has a massive impact. It is these ‘accepted’ ways of being with each other that builds into the really full on abuse we have today that we are ‘accepting’ as normal. Don’t we all deserve the bare minimum of descency and respect.

  11. I can remember, during challenging times in my life, getting hooked on television shows including soap operas, sport and reality shows. At times I would question why I was wasting my time in such a way, but the need to escape from what was going on around me was so strong, I simply kept on watching. But when the game or the program was over the pain was still there. We can’t run away from life for ever as it has a way of eventually catching up with us

  12. Samantha your blog really brought home how much we judge others, and how we think that it is not only ok to do so, but we often join in the banter and gossip of such tv programmes which adds to the misery the world is already in.

  13. A great blog Samantha summing up the ugliness of reality shows and what they engender, by focusing and judging our value or worth on what we do or do not do, when the truth is ‘By valuing our own self-worth and appreciating others for who they truly are and not for what they do or how they perform, we begin to see there is another way’.

  14. I agree with everything written here. I remember when reality TV first started and how concerned I felt with the drop in standards. Abuse of other people became entertainment and we as a society allowed it. TV and celebrity is such a false reality, being visible in the media or talented doesn’t make us more valuable than others. So much on TV is based on comparison, when the truth is we are all equal by virtue of our innermost essence.

  15. “The world has always fallen for talent. Talent does not bring love, for it is the lack of love that makes us focus on our abilities rather than who we truly are.” An awesome quote to support your blog Samantha. It takes a certain dedication to turn away from the “norm” and to get to know ourselves for who we are, allowing a simple connection to our innnermost which makes all outside seem pale in comparison.

  16. I think it’s a great point about how we can seek out emotions/ hype/ drama and to be honest with ourselves what is this really adding to in our world?

  17. It is holiday time in Europe and I only have to look at some close relatives or at the kids from the neighbours to see how we aren’t enjoying ourselves by being with ourselves, but always wanting to do and experience something. This has been a big topic for me too, not wanting to be on my own, made me want to see friends constantly and allow things that I am actually not okay with.

  18. Do these programs – however indirectly – tell us what to feel and what to think? Certainly what to think about.

    1. I agree Christoph, that these programs can plant seeds in the minds of those who are perhaps disillusioned with life, simply bored with their day to day existence or who want what someone else has; the recognition and the perceived fame. Whatever the reason, these seeds will be fed and begin to sprout as the viewing continues, but instead of life getting ‘better’, the disillusionment and the dissatisfaction will keep on growing and growing.

  19. The world is deeply focused on how well people do, how well we do: we have been raised with that, at a young age love was substituted for recognition for the things we did well: when love is not present this is the best thing we can get, we think. But recognition will never ever replace feeling the love we are. The popularity of these programs just shows how people miss the love inside themselves and in their lives.

    1. It’s a great comment Willem, to add to that the fact many talented and famous people live unbearable misery resulting in drug use and premature death by various causes also shows how little true substance recognition brings, it’s only love that truly supports us.

  20. Why is it such a common event to seek entertainment? This is a sign, highlighting that our life must be very dull, lacking in connection and zing if we are forever seeking entertainment to give ourselves the next hit, next distraction or the next enjoyment. If our life is full of joy, vibrancy, connection, and love, any form of entertainment would seem dull in comparison.

  21. Wow what a set up. To think that this kind of indoctrination is happening every day to millions of people around the world. No wonder the world is becoming a difficult and dangerous place to be.

  22. Very true and a brilliant presentation Samantha – thank you. The entertainment on offer today is loaded with abuse on many levels that which we do not consider enough what we are in truth championing. Enjoyment in watching one defeat another as we judge, criticise, dramatize and become emotionally invested in the outcome of performances (whatever they many be) does not add up to the inspiration and encouragement needed for us to advance in harmony together.

  23. ‘Is it not time to wake up and take responsibility and understand the impact of these emotions and what they have on our health, mental wellbeing and attitude towards others?’ Indeed it is. Just an example of another form of entertainment and the impact of emotions. I was talking to a taxidriver this week who was totally ‘into’ the World Champion of football/soccer. He said when his national team looses a match, it is like loosing a family member. He gets really upset and emotional. We are talking about a match, not a death here and such an impact on the body and all that goes with it. It is indeed time to wake up.

  24. We definitely need to wise up and wake up to the hidden messages that are in much of our so called entertainment and be honest about the influence that these are having on our societies. The seemingly innocent programs and forms of entertainment it seems are not so innocent or harmless.

  25. Thank you Samantha for this awesome blog. I have been feeling some tension in a friendship and this morning, I was asking myself, what I can change to bring more appreciation to this relationship and this is exactly what I feel I need to apply. ‘By valuing our own self-worth and appreciating others for who they truly are and not for what they do or how they perform, we begin to see there is another way’. By appreciating myself, I am also able to appreciate others.

    1. I can relate to your comment Chan, it’s so common to have expectations of others and when these needs aren’t met there can be hurts and difficulties, and in this we forget to simply love people for who they are, not what they do for us.

  26. There is no love in entertainment. It doesn’t deepen the connection with yourself nor with another, it doesn’t improve your health and well-being. Entertainment does numb, dulls your awareness and keeps you away from being connected to the universe.

    1. It certainly does Monika, I absolutely agree. But a lot of people in our modern society are reliant on entertainment because we have dropped our connection with ourselves and others. When we have a true connection with ourselves and therefore with others, we would not be enticed by the false entertainment.

      1. Absolutely, just like Serge wrote in this relevant saying that is quoted in this blog: “The world has always fallen for talent. Talent does not bring love, for it is the lack of love that makes us focus on our abilities rather than who we truly are.”

    2. True, and entertainment perpetually stimulates you until the stimulation stops working sufficiently and then we may wish to switch to something more extreme.

      1. Yes, after a while it may not be enough anymore and usually we start looking for more extreme things. Just like buying clothes used to be enough to ‘settle’ us and now we just want food and more food.

  27. We are love. And this love does not need to be entertained; it simply needs to be expressed. When we withhold this expression it is much like holding our breath in the sense that it pretty much immediately starts to hurt. In order to not feel this hurt and thus the tension we have created in our body from holding back what is so natural for us to express, we then demand to be entertained as a means to distract us from the pain we are actually in but not wanting to feel.

    1. Very well expressed Liane, this is so true. Also, this is why I reckon entertainment can be so addictive because it gives us a relief from the tension we’ve created. Also, if we do not have any tension in our body we would not need any form of entertainment or addiction. The only way we can eliminate this tension is to take responsibility for our choices and be all the love that we are.

  28. Beautifully said Samantha; ‘By valuing our own self-worth and appreciating others for who they truly are and not for what they do or how they perform, we begin to see there is another way.’

  29. The revelations of Serge Benhayon keep blowing me away because of the truth they offer:
    “The world has always fallen for talent. Talent does not bring love, for it is the lack of love that makes us focus on our abilities rather than who we truly are.”
    We so desperately want love it the world. All of us crave love and so many of our actions come from not wanting to feel the hurt or emptiness inside and actually only take us away from ourselves, each other and thus from love.

  30. “Is it not irresponsible to give so much time and energy into watching these types of shows yet pay little attention to our own health and wellbeing, and the real state of the world?” Yes and this is a huge problem in the world that we no longer care about the body, we eat what we like. We can do what we like, without any consideration for the body. We use entertainment as a distraction and to numb ourselves from the reality of the world and then complain and get annoyed when our body says enough is enough and shows through illness and disease that the way we are living and treating our body is not loving.

  31. I feel entertainment has been manufactured with the sole purpose to keep us enthralled in order that we forget about our connection with soul.

    1. Spot on, Elizabeth, entertainment in all it’s different aspects keeps us from connecting to our soul and to the multidimensionality we come from.

    2. Entertainment exists to numb us to the fact that we have a Soul, it is our true self, and it hurts like hell to not live in connection to it.

    3. And, this form of entertainment exists because we as a society are not taking responsibility for the tension we’ve created. Whenever we can feel any tension in our body, we have already disconnected from our Soul, and I feel that entertainment is like the icing on the cake.

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