In what Quality do we do Christmas?

There are many beliefs and traditions about the way that Christmas pans out each year and for most it is either one of the most stimulating and looked forward to celebrations, or it is one of the most dreaded times of the year – for many different reasons. The lead-up to Christmas, the actual day and the days that follow can leave us utterly exhausted, emotional, or stressed out!

We need to wonder if this is the quality we really want to be in for our Christmas period? Have we lost sight that some of the reasons for celebrating Christmas could also be to focus on winding down after our year, celebrating family and enjoying quality time connecting together?

Christmas time can mean feeling a lot of pressure & expectations:

  • Preparing tirelessly for one day of the year.
  • Just how much money do we have to spend?
  • Feeling obliged to be everywhere at once.
  • Wondering if we will upset someone through the choices we make?

And the Big One:

  • How much food do we really need to eat?

This last year I experienced a different Christmas. My boyfriend and I decided not to stress about gifts but to go shopping together as a team and enjoy the process of buying a few things that we each really wanted. We arrived on the morning after the shops had pulled an ‘open all-nighter’ and what we observed was total mayhem and madness!

We saw people rushing around dragging trolleys, lemons and lettuces flying across the floor and more bloodshot eyes and emotionally strung out people rushing about in one place than at any other time of the year!

Is it possible there is another quality we can choose to be in over the Christmas period – a way that is even possible to be in all year round?

Within our family we have pondered on what Christmas could be like if we choose, wherever possible, to not get caught up in the hype of celebrating the Christmas that is highly promoted through advertising and in the shopping centres themselves.

What we discovered was:

  • When we shop as a team, or as an individual, with a set purpose to be present in our moments and enjoy the process, we don’t get caught up in the disgruntled or racy behaviour of others.
  • We don’t become distracted by the loud music or the shiny and glitzy decorations and we can make clear choices to buy gifts that feel just right.
  • We can use the opportunity to connect with the sales assistants, checkout operators and even some of our fellow shoppers too, in a calm and enjoyable manner.
  • We can choose the right amount of food, similar to the way in which we may aim to eat every day, making things more about the space we are holding all together whilst keeping our bodies feeling light.

When we choose to live in the quality of being that we live in throughout the year during this Christmas period, we can make our being together and our connections the natural focus.

This last year, over the Christmas period, we had the chance to celebrate all that we had come to learn throughout the year and we brought in a new family tradition to share our appreciation of each other with each other (wrapped up like bonbons!), whilst seeding forth more of the quality of being and togetherness we want for our year ahead.

If next Christmas you don’t wish to get caught up in the Christmas hype, stuff yourself silly with food but you would rather like to make your presence the best present of all for yourself and others, take a tip from this blog and make it about the quality you choose to connect to and live for yourself.

The awesome part being that you don’t have to wait until next Christmas, you can begin making it about your everyday Livingness every day!

In appreciation of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for presenting the possibility that December can be a month for celebrating a whole twelve months of loving family relationships, and for it not to be just reserved for one day of Christmas celebrations. The quality presentations of The Way of The Livingness have influenced the way I live every day of the year, including over the Christmas holiday period.

By Cherise Holt, 32, Nurse, Australia

Related Reading:
What is the Livingness?
What I Love about Christmas
Exposing the Christmas Trap

960 thoughts on “In what Quality do we do Christmas?

  1. I love the tradition you brought in of sharing your appreciation for one another – it’s a simple thing but one that can really leave a lasting impression and support each other a lot.

  2. Christmas is a funny one, and some of the traditions have no true purpose or meaning in our modern lives. It is great to hear you are bringing in some of your own traditions now that truly serve! As a family, we have a little tradition, driving around Christmas eve looking at all the lights that people put up on their houses. The reason I love our little town tour is you can feel in the summer air a real old school sense of family and community. In everyday life, we all tend to hide in our little lives and houses, politely ignoring each other, whereas at this time of year, most families sit out front of their houses on camp chairs waving to the cars driving by, people are on the street talking to neighbours and everyone feels open and safe with one another. Obviously, we do not need lights on our houses to be this way with one another and one day, hopefully we will not just leave this community openness to a week in December.

  3. It’s so lovely to feel the difference when we make everyday just as valuable as the next and that Christmas doesn’t need to be stressful and tense if we choose to move in a way that supports our bodies. The quality of our movements really can make a great difference to any day of our lives and it can also be a true celebration of who we are too.

  4. I try to avoid the supermarkets around Christmas, because its so crowded and the queues are extra long. The Reality is the shops are only closed for 1 day and that’s Christmas day, but we stock up like they are going to be shut for weeks. I am very grateful for online shopping at this time of year.

  5. I love Christmas in our house. My son joyfully finds things around the house to wrap up and writes himself loving notes on what he does wrap up. It’s super gorgeous and a heap of fun to observe.

  6. In coming up to the period of Christmas this is a great question to ask ourselves .. however I feel it is a great question to ask ourselves no matter what time of the year we are in ‘in what quality do we live?’. As the quality in how we live with ourselves and with everyone is everything.

  7. There can be a lot going on over the Christmas period but I am finding that the key is to hold steady like any other busy time of the year and not allow myself to fall and get wrapped up in it. When I make my life about purpose and hold this I am less likely to get distracted. Naturally I get pulled from time to time but usually this is nothing but an offering to not hold back and speak up.

  8. Its coming to that silly time of year again where we have those awful Xmas songs playing and Santa pops up in unexpected places.We are stagnant with the same old traditions, Xmas has passed its sell by date.

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