Does Growing up Sheltered Protect you from the World?

A lot of parents wish to protect their children from the harshness of the world and from the very confronting and mean behaviour that children especially encounter in high school. However, does sheltering your child truly protect them from what is going on in the world?

In my own experience I would answer this question with a clear No.

I had a very sheltered childhood. I was sent to an alternative schooling system and my mother created this big bubble around us, making sure we did not get into contact with rude people or get into any harsh situations, and that she was always there to protect us. Of course this bubble was not perfect and we could see through it. Behind those ‘beautiful’ bubble walls there was a different world out there, however, we did not belong to it – so we thought – feeling somehow removed, aloof and that we were not participating in it.

In this way we were raised in the feeling that we were special but also different from anyone else, which separated us from others and gave us a feeling of superiority, of not really belonging to the world.

When I left school I was very lost and in no way equipped to deal with life. In fact I was not really willing to participate in life – I had no sense of what profession or work I wanted to learn. The truth is my whole childhood world turned around on me. There was always my mother there to do it for me, which left me completely self-centred with no sense for other people’s needs and not even remotely feeling that I might contribute to making life more beautiful and worth living for everyone on this planet.

There was no gratitude for my mother either; I hated her efforts and had no appreciation for her willingness to go out of her way to be there for us.

The interesting part is that my sisters and I had nightmares all through our childhood.

We would spend half the night in our parents’ bed, and even later on when we were older we would creep into each other’s bed for support. I remember waking up lots of nights terrified and we all had the same sense of something evil being in our room: sometimes I was too scared to jump out of bed as I had to pass this evil ‘thing’ on my way out. Once I gathered enough courage I would run as fast as I could to the safety of my parents’ bed.

For someone living such a protected and sheltered life, it makes you wonder where these nightmares were coming from and where the feeling of someone evil out there to come and get you derived from. It really makes no sense and shows that I did not feel very safe and protected at all.

As the nightmares in my childhood show, I had no sense of being equipped to deal with threatening situations, however I had a clear sense that bad and threatening things existed and all I could do is be scared of it behind my bubble wall that obviously did not make me feel safe at all.

The bubble may have attempted to shield me from the harshness but it also had the effect of cutting me off from interacting with the world, from experiencing the abundant flavours and colours that make life so full and rich.

Interestingly I was not happy living behind these thick walls of protection, but I did not question it until one day I met Serge Benhayon, who reflected to me that there is a different way of being, a way that has now brought so much more joy into my life.

So very clearly, for me the sheltered life did not work out well. It took a lot of work on myself, cutting through the arrogance, the judgement and hardness that was like a shield around me, to recover the beautiful, loving and caring woman I am.

My life and my views are greatly inspired by Serge Benhayon. He changed my outlook on life and encouraged me to participate in the world in a playful and joyful way, inspiring me to come out of my self-created bubble that now, looking back, was like a very isolated prison cell – it felt somewhat safe but wasn’t true at all.

By J.A., Germany

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1,901 thoughts on “Does Growing up Sheltered Protect you from the World?

  1. A beautiful celebration of stepping out into the world, and leaving the bubble behind, and in doing so finding how you can contribute to life, for we all contribute to life.

  2. It is such an important topic to talk about with the children. Energies are all around us as all is energy first and also there are many beings around us and children are still open to feel all. later we close it down and make our world feel safe and we are not open anymore to hear from the children what they experience as this triggers all that we was hiding away for so long to feel. This way we get in circles with it generations long.
    Until people like Serge Benhayon share more about the spherical world we are living in and part of. We know when he talks, we know as it never left us.

    1. The greatest protection would be, to teach kids, that ‘if everything is energy, therefore everything is because of energy.’. Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings &Revelations, p.200. And to never discard that fact. We are energy first before we are human.

  3. We see the harshness of the world and think that we need to protect ourselves but when we do that we have already disconnected from the world and disempowered ourselves that, someone/something is to blame for the world and we are the victims. What I have learnt from Serge Benhayon is how being responsible is empowering. We the adults have responsibility to teach our children responsibility, but it is not possible to do that without us first learning to be responsible ourselves, and that is what we have been avoiding for eons and the consequences we are seeing more of are rather ugly.

  4. What a gorgeous opportunity you have to not only share your experiences when growing up, but also how inspiring it is that you have now made new movements to change your past and make a new foundation for life and how you live it today. Very inspiring indeed.

  5. ” Does Growing up Sheltered Protect you from the World? ”
    Sadly no , it just creates and supports the world as it is .

  6. No one can protect us from any harm in this world, but us living from our inner heart and reading energetically what is happening around and in us constantly. I can understand that parents want to protect their child in a human perspective- look in what chaos and abuse the world is functioning- but retreating from actually being part of it, will never change anything. Choosing protecting you as children like that shows how much they already retreated committing to life in full and being in an overwhelm of feeling what is going on.

    1. Yes, it will leave the moment of them dealing with the world to a time when they will be less well prepared and perhaps less able to learn.

      1. Absolutely- so why not start supporting a child taking responsibility from young on. The aftereffects will save a lot of wasted time in dealing and letting go of patterns, that tried to compensate the lack of responsibility.

    2. Absolutely Stefanie, protecting ourselves and our children from the world is not really the answer, as it can create fear and withdrawal. The best protection is to teach our children how to be who they are in full in the world and to not react to it but to observe and learn.

  7. Interesting story J.A.. Your mother tried to shield you from the harshness of the world, but obviously only the harshness that could be seen. The real harshness and evil of the world cannot be seen and can touch you whatever wall be created and whatever bubble we are living in. Could it therefore be that nightmare showed you that these kind of evils were still coming at you?

    1. Yes, this shows that energy knows no boundaries. The fact that JA could still see the harshness in the world and also experienced nightmares indicates the best form of ‘protection’ a parent can offer their child is to teach them that we live in an energetic world, and assist them to observe, become aware and read what is truly going on.

  8. I wonder how being sheltered or not sheltered compares to whether there was love or not? I didn’t want to be sheltered and was lucky – I wasn’t limited, but love?

  9. I can relate to being sheltered from many of life’s harsh realities as a child and the painful separation from others that it actually causes. As an old saying says ‘the road to hell is paved with good intentions’.
    “The bubble may have attempted to shield me from the harshness but it also had the effect of cutting me off from interacting with the world, from experiencing the abundant flavours and colours that make life so full and rich”.

  10. What I have noticed is that whatever the consciousness that we are raised with, often people either accept this and it becomes their way too or they react to it and live a picture that is totally opposite of this, but underneath they often haven’t changed the energy and are still then affected by the old and this is then in the new way they have taken on.

  11. ” However, does sheltering your child truly protect them from what is going on in the world? ”
    I would also answer no, for like the Budda we all have to understand all aspects of life, to know the purpose of living.

  12. The reason children today have a poor immune system is because they have never had a dirt pie. By living in their clean little bubble the body has never had to build itself up. Kids that have grown up on farms are less likely to have alleges and other diseases, that indoor kids are defenseless against. When I grew up, parents would have chicken pox party’s when someone in the neighbourhood had it, they would have a play day so all could get infected, because it is has high risk of complications if caught when an adult.

  13. One of the most revealing aspects of what Serge Benhayon is presenting to humanity is that we must not hide ourselves away, that it is in the thick of it all where the work is done now.

  14. ‘There was always my mother there to do it for me, which left me completely self-centred with no sense for other people’s needs and not even remotely feeling that I might contribute to making life more beautiful and worth living for everyone on this planet.’ I find this a very interesting observation. Even very small children who have only been walking for a short time like to help around the house. They want to do what we are doing and share in the chores but do we let them? We are more than likely thinking that it is too complicated and we are in too much of a hurry but this can be precious play time where we get our washing done in the process.

  15. We can never truly protect ourselves or others by avoiding difficult situations or people because it can be a form of control that simply leads to anxiousness and very little protection.

  16. After being home for a while because of being ill I could feel I had become much more sensitive to the world which is great, to feel more of what is going on yet I could also feel that I could not stay home forever and that part of regaining strength is in going back into life, being with people and learning again. It brings a lot to our life to be with other people and in society, and bring our own contribution to the whole.

  17. When we get out into the world we often find our anxiety will go, its when we keep ourselves hidden away the shadows feel more powerful than what they are.

    1. Beautifully said Sam, while we might think we are safe in protecting ourselves from the ‘harsh’ world and to withdraw ourselves from its activity, we are imprisoning ourselves by our own mind and in that state easily being hurt by what the reality of life is bringing to us on a daily basis.

  18. We genuinely want to support our kids and protect them from the harshness of the world, but as you rightly point out, J.A., putting them in a bubble does not support them to handle life and interact with it on a sure footing.

  19. We might think we can protect our children from the ‘harsh’ world, but when we do so are we then not living in the illusion that we can withdraw ourselves from the reality of life and create our own safe heaven while this heaven still is in the same reality we fear to face?

  20. My question would be can we shelter our children from the real world? I would say (especially with social media now) No. However, we can support and teach our children as well as being a role model to them through how we are and how we live including what do we tolerate, ignore and accept in the world and this is where I feel we are really falling down because if we were TRULY doing this there would not be a feeling of wanting to shelter or protect them from the real world. One person can make huge changes but greater change comes from greater numbers when many are standing up against abuse and choosing to live from decency and respect for both ourselves and others.

  21. There is a form of ignorance in thinking hiding one from the word is going to protect them. It’s almost setting them up to be exposed and harmed by what you are hiding them from, leaving them unequipped to deal with what lays ahead. I also think how is one meant to change what we are hiding from if we are not being part of it? Should we not change it from within, just as we would ourselves.

  22. We have to be very careful that we are not protecting our children from learning and growing as this is what we are here to do

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