Honesty

Just yesterday I discovered that the English name for a flower that in Germany is called “Mondviole” is honesty.

This name is so very fitting in many ways:

Like honesty this flower is never the first thing to be seen: it is rather small, the flowers are not big and showy, but it is always present by its wonderful smell. When looking at its flowers, the first thing that comes to my mind is simplicity, delicacy and strength combined with absolute clarity – and that is what honesty is about for me.

Being totally honest regardless of how confronting this may be for me or another person, will bring the most amazing simplicity. If I am honest, I create the basis for trust in myself and this reflects to others, allowing them to trust themselves, trust me and open up. On this open basis of honesty the most amazing changes can blossom, just like the flower ‘honesty’.

When I am totally honest and open, I feel very delicate and vulnerable. Not only is this delicacy a wonderful beauty in itself, but the vulnerability I show is in fact incredibly powerful. I have come to experience, when I show all of me, including my vulnerable side, I do not have fear, because I do not hide and do not try to protect my seemingly weak points. I do not see myself as small and less.

The strength that comes from this is such a different reflection to the world than the small anxious version of me that said to the world “I am a victim, come and bully me, because then I can lament and hide away from all I do not want to take responsibility for.” A clever trick I have exposed by being honest with myself and allowing myself to feel and show all the beauty and wisdom that is there deep inside of me, just waiting to be shown again.

Like the wonder of this small intensely fragrant flower, honesty for me first and foremost is beauty.

If it is brought to a situation or to life in general, there may be massive changes. Sometimes there may also be struggles at first, that on the surface do not feel so very beautiful, but in the end they are just the masking of the full beauty that is to peel away underneath. The beauty of a changing life, of eyes lighting up, letting true joy, love and stillness shine out into the world again.

What a marvellous reflection nature can be.

By Michael Kremer, Personal Assistant, Buchholz, Germany

Related Reading:
My Connection with Nature
An Amazing Journey with Honesty and Expression
Writing in a Journal and the Power of Honesty

1,754 thoughts on “Honesty

  1. Sadly I think honesty is not our normal, we are far more used to marketing, persuasive language and manipulation therefore we mistrust more often that trust, and learn to accept and repeat suitable truths rather than value the simple and occasionally uncomfortable truth.

  2. “If I am honest, I create the basis for trust in myself “ – this is so true. We don’t realize how much of betrayal that is to ourselves when lies become our foundation in the relationship with ourselves.

  3. Thank you Michael, as we step out in life we are going to come across all different types of flowers and they are a lot like humanity they come on all different shapes and sizes and like the flower not everyone is honest let alone True, so we have to be discerning and at the same time love them all equally. As some are Loving others are poison, some get us excited and others put us to sleep, so feel in our bodies then we can discern the energy they come in and not be fooled by the pretty pictures they can be.

  4. Thank you Michael for the perfect blog for me to read this morning, especially with how you have shared about honesty being about “simplicity, delicacy and strength combined with absolute clarity” – this too resonates beautifully for me and inspires me to allow all these qualities through with the honesty deepening in expression.

  5. Honesty is about peeling back the layers of protection and allowing oneself to be vulnerable. But what I have learned too is that as we go deeper with our connection with self, this does not mean we have to tell everyone everything. Being honest is about a willingness to be open and vulnerable in the body and not about the words we speak or what we say – some things/words are best not shared with everyone, and yet this does not mean we are hiding or being dishonest, so long as in the body we are open and connected.

  6. Thank you Michael, so true about honesty supporting us to remove that which masks our true beauty within. This was also a powerful line “I am a victim, come and bully me, because then I can lament and hide away from all I do not want to take responsibility for.” Honesty does expose these things within ourselves and offers us a loving opportunity to be in our power instead, to keep being the fullness of ourselves, which is our ultimate responsibility.

  7. ‘Like the wonder of this small intensely fragrant flower, honesty for me first and foremost is beauty.’ Reading this makes me realise that when I am being myself – sweet, tender and sensitive – that I am being honest, I love the simplicity of this.

  8. After reading your awesome blog Michael the only thing I want to do is to be honest all of the time. Your words are such an inspiration and invitation – simply beautiful – thank you!

  9. Gorgeous Michael; ‘simplicity, delicacy and strength combined with absolute clarity – and that is what honesty is about for me.’

  10. Michael, I love this; ‘Like the wonder of this small intensely fragrant flower, honesty for me first and foremost is beauty.’ I had an idea that honesty was about words, so it is lovely to feel that how we are being – showing our beauty is us being honest because we are being our true selves.

  11. The beauty of the flower Honesty is also after the flowers have changed to seed heads that are almost transparent, The seeds can be seen inside the papery outer case which is delicate and thin. Being open and honest in life can reflect that vulnerability and fragility – which is also its strength.

    1. Gorgeous analogy Sue and how beautiful about the seed and its see-through-ness – it is the transparency of honesty that is its strength – why hide what is so divine on the inside?

  12. Michael I love the delicacy in which you describe honesty an the effect on your body and how it opens us up to be seen for who we are.

  13. ‘I have come to experience, when I show all of me, including my vulnerable side, I do not have fear, because I do not hide and do not try to protect my seemingly weak points.’ This is something I am discovering. There are areas in my life I find challenging because I am learning new skills and being assessed. Reading this I feel I can drop my protection, drop any attempts at false confidence and just show all of me and be open to the learning on offer.

  14. There is so much bullying and victimisation going on in the world – this is a sure way to keep us from the responsibility of living our own lives whatever that might look like – so easy to hide as the victim as you say and thus avoid the joy, connectedness and strength that responsibility brings.

  15. Honesty is very simply when I realised that it is just simply feeling what my body is feeling like and expressing that.

  16. I live in England and have not heard of this flower … but am not very aware or good with flowers etc and their names!!! With honesty (feeling not flower) I thought I was honest but have seen over the years there are always deeper layers of this; I guess it is how much are we prepared to leave no stone unturned within ourselves and our relationship with ourselves. What I am discovering is when we start to leave no stone unturned and are honest enough to really go there with what we are feeling a shift occurs and a deeper truth within starts to unfold.

  17. There is a very widespread belief that dishonesty makes you less vulnerable since it allows you to manipulate others by creating a false image. Honesty, however, strengthens you since you move with all of you there and you waste no energy trying to trick others for the sake of feeling safe.

    1. Yes when we are open and honest there is no hiding and as you say no wasted energy given to the false image we are trying to portray. As dishonest dealings are now being revealed in the world at large currently – corruption – this shows that truth will out in the end. When expressing honestly from the body we don’t have to try to remember the lies and pretence, when chances are they will be found out anyway. Even accepted ‘white lies’ are a form of dishonesty.

  18. We can learn tons from the smallest things, a flower can inspire us to realise the deep meanings of life, an animal can remind us of a deep knowing within ourselves, another person can reflect to us the beauty that we hold within. When open to seeing the detail of every moment, we are open to much greater awareness of life.

  19. If we’re honest lovingly then there is no judgement (either on self or another) and we can then grow from the realisation rather than be identified by it.

  20. If we allow ourself to see all that there is to see then we can see the absolute beauty around us. We are so focused on what we do not like and thus do not want to see that we miss out on the bigger picture, on the all that is there to see.

  21. On reading this blog I was wondering what is it about me that finds it so challenging to be deeply honest… I can go half-way there and pretend that I have covered the honesty box, but getting really honest exposes hurts that I don’t want to bring up and a lack of responsibility that I don’t want to feel.

  22. I love what you say about having no fear when you show all of you, including the vulnerable side because you have nothing to hide. This is very powerful and beautiful. How simple all the relationships can be if that was our common foundation?

  23. I absolutely love what honesty means to you – “simplicity, delicacy and strength combined with absolute clarity.” And when I read those words my whole body nods in agreement, for it is in the body that honesty is always felt with anything else, dishonesty, being in total contrast to this very natural and very exquisite feeling.

  24. The seed cases of the flower honesty are transparent and you can see the seeds within, and there are usually 4 seeds, so a magical reflection of transparency as a foundation for honesty and truth.

    1. Absolutely a ‘a magical reflection of transparency as a foundation for honesty and truth.’ Very willing to let us see the beauty of itself and also to share this beauty when the seeds find their own way and go where ever the wind blows them to.

  25. Honesty is an interesting ‘flower’ – on one hand a sometimes painful process of discarding the lies that veil the underlying suppressed beauty, at the same time liberating oneself from the falsities and invigorating the sleeping beauty. Great to be a botanist of one´s own true being.

  26. Although it may be confronting at times honesty is like a friend in that it opens the way for being more genuinely authentic to who we are.

  27. I agree Michael, being honest brings the feeling of being open and vulnerable, and, this invites others to also be honest. I often find when I am being honest the person I am interacting with tends to open up and be honest too. It is amazing how this works because we are a reflection for each other with how we choose to respond, communicate and express.

  28. ‘Being totally honest regardless of how confronting this may be for me or another person, will bring the most amazing simplicity. ‘ I do love this observation. So true. Feels like we can bless our lives with honesty this way.

  29. Being honest with another can at times feeling very uncomfortable as we are not sure how they will react. This is often the main reason we are nice instead as we don’t want to upset the other person, but I have discovered being nice is actually harming whereas being honest opens the door for whatever healing is needed, for both of us.

  30. Honesty is beauty, one of the most beautiful things is being held in love by somebody who is completely honest and transparent. In that, you know that there is no pretence and no fairness, you feel the truth of their care and it can melt your heart, I know it melts mine.

  31. Thankyou Michael for reminding me that trust, openness and transparency are all ingredients that nourish honesty.

    1. With all of what you’ve shared Suse, when we take them onboard they nourish our body and our relationships. When our body and our relationships are in harmony, we then offer much healing to humanity in return.

  32. That is very true. An amazing reflection we receive by symbolisms in nature and all around every single day. If we would just open our eyes and truly see what is there on offer..

  33. Honesty is the gateway to truth, and as we deepen our connection to truth the lies of who we are not are exposed, allowing greater trust and confidence to be and live all that we are without question.

    1. This highlights how important it is to embrace honesty in every aspect of our life. Without honesty, we blind ourselves to truth and what life is all about.

  34. ‘they are just the masking of the full beauty that is to peel away underneath.’ And that’s the beauty of honesty the peeling back of the layers, the letting go of often false beauty to reveal the depth and joy beneath, and it’s never a static process but always a call to be and go deeper.

  35. I have always had a very strong relationship with Nature as a child it was my go to. We would spend all of our spare time out roaming for miles in the local countryside. When I look around me this way of life is not there for children any more it seems to me that most children live a quite restricted life which is now based on the use of mobile phones and social media. The innocence of childhood seems to have been lost and children are being asked to grow up a lot quicker to their detriment and that of society as a whole.

    1. I know the term “to grow up quickly” but I feel what’s happening to kids nowadays could be described as growing away from themselves or losing themselves.

  36. Honesty is incredibly simple, it’s at the heart of what you feel at any given point in time. Add delicacy and that honesty cannot be self-critical or judgemental, but a delicate way of understanding life and ourselves as a platform to move forward from.

    1. ‘Honesty is incredibly simple, it’s at the heart of what you feel at any given point in time.’ Beautifully said – I love this Meg as it highlights the fact that we all know what it is to be honest as we can never not feel, and in fact it is our innate way of being. And so to not be honest is a resistance to our natural way of being as such why the tension exists when we are willingly not being with honesty.

    2. I love what you have shared here Meg and have gone to a much deeper appreciation of how the simplicity of honesty can totally disarm any lie or misrepresentation.

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