Honesty

Just yesterday I discovered that the English name for a flower that in Germany is called “Mondviole” is honesty.

This name is so very fitting in many ways:

Like honesty this flower is never the first thing to be seen: it is rather small, the flowers are not big and showy, but it is always present by its wonderful smell. When looking at its flowers, the first thing that comes to my mind is simplicity, delicacy and strength combined with absolute clarity – and that is what honesty is about for me.

Being totally honest regardless of how confronting this may be for me or another person, will bring the most amazing simplicity. If I am honest, I create the basis for trust in myself and this reflects to others, allowing them to trust themselves, trust me and open up. On this open basis of honesty the most amazing changes can blossom, just like the flower ‘honesty’.

When I am totally honest and open, I feel very delicate and vulnerable. Not only is this delicacy a wonderful beauty in itself, but the vulnerability I show is in fact incredibly powerful. I have come to experience, when I show all of me, including my vulnerable side, I do not have fear, because I do not hide and do not try to protect my seemingly weak points. I do not see myself as small and less.

The strength that comes from this is such a different reflection to the world than the small anxious version of me that said to the world “I am a victim, come and bully me, because then I can lament and hide away from all I do not want to take responsibility for.” A clever trick I have exposed by being honest with myself and allowing myself to feel and show all the beauty and wisdom that is there deep inside of me, just waiting to be shown again.

Like the wonder of this small intensely fragrant flower, honesty for me first and foremost is beauty.

If it is brought to a situation or to life in general, there may be massive changes. Sometimes there may also be struggles at first, that on the surface do not feel so very beautiful, but in the end they are just the masking of the full beauty that is to peel away underneath. The beauty of a changing life, of eyes lighting up, letting true joy, love and stillness shine out into the world again.

What a marvellous reflection nature can be.

By Michael Kremer, Personal Assistant, Buchholz, Germany

Related Reading:
My Connection with Nature
An Amazing Journey with Honesty and Expression
Writing in a Journal and the Power of Honesty

1,653 thoughts on “Honesty

  1. We have so misunderstood how powerful vulnerability is. Not only does it support us but also it supports everyone around us because when we are vulnerable we drop our guard and protection and allow ourselves and everyone else to just be.

  2. Showing vulnerability is honesty and it is from here the next movement to deepen this quality is one of transparency. When we connect with others a this level it is amazing how much more we can learn from ourselves and all others because we are not holding back the truth of who we are.

  3. ‘The strength that comes from this is such a different reflection to the world than the small anxious version of me that said to the world “I am a victim, come and bully me, because then I can lament and hide away from all I do not want to take responsibility for.”’ This strength you speak of Michael is the power of a true super hero – the one who neither persecutes or is persecuted.

  4. Being honest is something we all think we do really well, but in truth we only really be as honest as we feel to so not to get hurt or not damage the protection that we can live in. But actually being really honest can be the one way to bring love and truth to how we live.

  5. So often what we call honesty is reaction dressed up as ‘free expression’ or hurtful barbs framed as ‘speaking your mind’. The quality that comes across so beautifully in your sharing Michael is that true honesty is divinely simple, natural and precious, like this flower standing proud – it can be chopped down but it knows it’s true strength, for if it is cut down it will simply grow back again. Honesty is not in a rush it knows all it needs to do is just be true. A great reminder to everyone who reads your words.

    1. I Love love love what you have said here Joseph. The discernment of true honesty is indeed a beautiful thing. The whole impediment happening here on earth is that we are so often acting in disguise, parading as something we are not. The ‘what is not’ is the main costuming we wear!

      1. Yes, I totally agree, Joseph & Lyndy, and when we take off that costume of the ‘what is not’ our true cloth of honesty is exposed and it is glorious even though it is simple and unassuming.

    2. Me too, I love what you’ve shared here Joseph. Also, honesty has nothing to prove, it just is and like you’ve shared if it gets cut down it grows back without needing to hurry because the roots and the core is always strong and steady.

  6. There is nothing more gorgeous that being in the vulnerability and delicacy of honesty, be it our own or another’s. When we surrender, let go and are honest, the body rejoices.

  7. It feels so freeing to allow honesty. It brings a steadiness and vulnerability that really helps confirm that we are ok.

  8. How delicate and precious we each are and the more we are honouring of this quality in ourselves, the more others will recognise and accept this in themselves.

  9. We as humanity are very cruel to nature and behave as if this is our land and we can do whatever we like to it. The opposite is true. It is for us a heavenly reflection as a support to get home. And if we do not want to see the reflections nature makes them bigger so we wake up.

    1. I am glad that you have reminded me of renunciation this morning Michael. Sometimes I falter with this, and feeling great I just go ‘oh well, things are good, I can coast a little’. But no. Continual awareness and honesty, reading situations and understanding is needed and the renunciation of the old ways.

      1. Ah the good old “I’ve got over that issue” or “I’m better now than I’ve ever been!”… such insidious tricks to keep us from truly appreciating where we have come to but also appreciating and accepting what is on offer to move forward.

  10. Honesty is a way that has been lost for many but your exquisite description can be felt Michael as something we do all know and that still resides innately within us. I loved the warmth this comment brought through – ‘The beauty of a changing life, of eyes lighting up, letting true joy, love and stillness shine out into the world again’. Very Beautiful, thank you Michael.

  11. Being absolutely honest is the next step on the path to being in our divine essence or reconnecting to being in truth. So maybe dishonesty is so entrenched in our bodies we have no idea what it is like to even start to understand what honesty is all about.

  12. Honesty comes from accepting our vulnerability and when we do accept and allow that vulnerability to come through there is a great power in it, as it discloses the truth to us.

  13. I love how being honest naturally brings simplicity to a moment and an openness in dropping our barriers of protection to naturally connect more deeply with ourselves and with others.

  14. “If I am honest, I create the basis for trust in myself and this reflects to others, allowing them to trust themselves, trust me and open up.” So true Michael. Being open and vulnerable brings an honesty that others can relate to and our protective walls can come tumbling down.

  15. I love returning to this blog Michael. Today it’s all about reminding me of the degree to which I’m prepared to be delicate, and it is beautiful to read and feel this time how honesty and openness are the precursors to delicateness, and that feeling vulnerable (but not weak) is part of the process. My focus at the moment is about allowing myself to feel fragility… something that feels a bit foreign after years of armouring, and I’m loving the inspiration offered by the mondviole and you.

  16. A moment to stop and appreciate the honesty that this blog and that nature brings to us. In every moment our delicateness and vulnerability can deepen, as we give ourselves permission to be more honest with ourselves and others.

  17. It is a joy to revisit this blog, offering a moment to stop and appreciate – the honesty that this blog and that nature can bring to us. In every moment our delicateness and vulnerability can deepen, as we give ourselves permission to be more honest with ourselves and with others.

  18. Being so transparently honest does feel vulnerable and delicate and it is because of this we can make the choice not to go there. But the beauty that lies there is unmistakeable.

  19. This is a beautiful reminder of how nature will reflect back to us all the attributes and aspects within ourselves we are called to activate and make a normal part of how we relate.

  20. Nature doesn’t hold back showing us how glorious it is, its beauty is displayed in full, it reflects honesty and reminds us how glorious we all are.

  21. Honesty is something that I feel I live, but am I bringing a consistency in life to that honesty? I find that I am super honest some times, but then when it suits me I will tell the white lies to cover my own bum or someone else’s. So I was pondering what does it truly mean to bring honesty consistently, what would that look and feel like. I am still working on this, bringing a lot more awareness to how I operate and make choices day to day.

  22. I had a wonderful moment recently when I had it confirmed that children know what honesty is and how it feels in their body if they are not being honest. A young girl shared that a member of her family had told her she should have lied when she had spoken the truth which had upset several family members. I asked her how it would have felt in her body if she had lied and she instantly responded that it would have felt horrible. How wonderful that at nine she has retained her understanding of the truth and honoured it; may it continue as she grows.

    1. Yes, I totally agree Meg. The moment we’re willing to see what’s really going on, is the moment we can begin to make changes.

  23. Honesty is the stepping into expressing and communicating how we truly feel, and being prepared to renounce that which we are holding onto – expressing truth is something which is equally living and absolute in another or us all.

  24. It has been really amazing to realise how honest the particles of the body are compared with the total dishonesty of the human spirit. When the body is hit it shoes a bruise and loudly speaks: This is not acceptable, this is not love’. Whereas the spirit constantly overrides all the harm that is flying around and is about it all Honesty is a valuable commodity and well worth investing in.

  25. There is a great simplicity that comes with being truly honest and it certainly helps us to develop more clarity in our lives.

  26. Honesty offers us to opportunity to stop and truly feel into our way of living with ourselves and with others. Often it can leave us raw and uncomfortable but in time, with continued honesty, we will begin to heal what no longer fits into our lives, opening up the space for what truly does.

  27. “If I am honest, I create the basis for trust in myself and this reflects to others, allowing them to trust themselves, trust me and open up.” Choosing to allow honesty to blossom within us is to choose to be aware of a deeper truth.

  28. I love the analogy and description you have given to honesty Michael, through a commitment to honesty we are able to initiate huge change and with that appreciate the beauty in opening up to a greater truth.

  29. We could say that honesty has a certain fragrance to it – it is light and refreshing with a hint of sea breeze clarity!!.

    1. Love the truth of what you have said here Elizabeth about honesty and the poetic way in which you have said it.

  30. Reading this made me want to go and buy a bunch of flowers, an impulse I had been feeling but was too busy for previously, but I love having flowers in my room and this reminded me of this.

  31. With honesty we feel empowered and not overwhelmed by life. With honesty we allow ourselves the opportunity to get to the truth of what is going on rather than what we choose to believe or perceive is going on.

  32. Yes I have heard many people say (including me) ‘I was just being honest,’ but sometimes this is not true honesty but a harmful dig or put down.

  33. I find the more honesty we surrender to within the more we understand about who we are, what makes us tick and also how all others are too, making honesty an important expression of the all and the intimacy in which we move through life.

  34. Honesty comes without fear, judgement or any form of hiding, so the example you’ve used of a delicate flower is brilliant Michael, and so true that nature is a magnificent reflection for us all.

  35. This is gold Michael – ‘When I show all of me, including my vulnerable side, I do not have fear, because I do not hide and do not try to protect my seemingly weak points.’ Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness, there is great power felt when we don’t hold back our vulnerability and express it in life.

  36. Honestly, I think you’re on the money (pun intended) ha-ha. There is a process when returning to who we naturally are, you have almost broken it down in steps, which is great. Honesty, being key to then build a foundation. In the past, I have felt like being honest is like walking out on the battle field into open fire with no weapon and in some ways, it is but that is only if you are “doing” honesty in the  bastardised
    form. Being honest is not spilling the beans in every situation, it is a relationship with yourself to move in a way that is truly how you are feeling. It is the ability to drop your body when someone has noticed you are holding, its knowing that it’s okay to make mistakes. By the time you start living from truth, honesty irrelevant and truth is absolute.

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