The Act of Love

One day at work I noticed my colleague handing a spoon to a gentleman he used to work with. The gentleman had just made the comment that he wanted to eat his yoghurt whilst grabbing it from another room, and from that my colleague handed him the spoon without the required “Can I have one please?”

Right now you’re probably like… “So, what’s the big deal?” And really, there is no big deal, it was just beautiful to register the act, and it got me thinking about love and the loving gestures we show one another. He was so natural with it, and it was clear to see that it is a normal part of how we can be with each other – caring for each other.

For me, this was a clear example of how love can be shown and displayed in the most simple of ways that are truly caring. Most of the time love is displayed by grand gestures or special moments – buying expensive things and making a big fuss over anniversaries, birthdays etc. Sort of like it’s a part-time gig, not an everyday commitment. Though, love is an everyday thing, you can’t turn it on or off, it can’t be revved up for the bedroom or even contained to repeating the words “I love you”.

It’s not too often that I see two people spending valuable time together, doing things with each other lovingly, paying attention to detail with each other and simply being with each other. When I picture a couple I see a man sitting on the couch watching TV and the woman off doing what needs to be done to keep up appearances (I think I need to update my mental picture library… maybe just throw it away altogether.)

Thanks to the inspiration of Universal Medicine though, what I have learnt and have come to cherish about love is that it is so simple and ordinary.

It’s in the everyday things we do with another: like saying hello, walking through the door, a gentle touch as we pass, or handing over a spoon. It’s truly caring for another person, feeling what is needed for them and doing it. Sharing yourself and how you feel without reservation in whatever way you deem fit.

I have learnt that it requires no selfishness and the ability to get yourself out of the way; not to disregard yourself and put others first, but have your own stuff sorted and cared for first. For some this may be the basics – food, eat, sleep – for others this may be something else. When you do have your own stuff sorted you have the space to be able to be with someone in a truly loving and caring way.

You can’t love another until you love yourself after all. I used to hate this saying, but it makes sense, as if you don’t even know what love is for yourself, how can you offer it to another?

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, where I get to see loving gestures between people every day.

by E, Brisbane

Related Reading:
Expressing Love: I Love You
The Grandness of our own Love
Expressing Love to All, Equally So

1,855 thoughts on “The Act of Love

  1. Most would relate to the feeling when someone is after/looking/needing love then gestures can be imposing and smothering, there is no true love in them.

  2. So true E, it is the everyday small details and gestures that form and express the quality of love we feel for another, not the showy and dramatic once in a while acts.

  3. It is great when we are observant and aware of what goes on around us, and very beautiful to support another in the smallest of ways, which are always seen by others, and noted, opening up an awareness in others that we can support each other with the smallest of things, and how those actions build relationships between people.

  4. I love what this blog illustrates… the simplicity of a gesture that comes from true love. We all have it, know it and can access it anytime we choose, and the world around us changes in that instant. That is true power and that is the only way anything of substance will ever be made true again.

      1. Yes well said Natalliya, we offer each other evolution with these gestures, rather than improving on what we currently have – because they remind us who we are and the grandness of it. The beauty and simplicity of that gesture makes the next iphone seem irrelevant to life going forward.

  5. We know love when we see/feel it in the smallest things like a gesture and thereby love is never more or less but always the same amount and quality when expressed on a big or small scale.

  6. To truly care and love myself means I can hold myself and accept another where they are at and while I know this truth in every particle in my body I find it challenging sometimes when I see the disregarding choices another makes exposing my lack of understanding, love and realisation that I too have made those choices sometime in the past and all I need to do is observe. To know and understand that it is through our loving choices we make towards ourselves we develop a loving relationship to self and this way of being is very personal to each and every one of us and something only we as individuals can make for ourselves in our unfolding.

  7. We can easily read what is needed by another as their movements are paving their future and if we are open to letting ourselves feel it we can see everything that is about to take place and change it if an adjustment is needed.

  8. I love how practical love truly is and how very supportive as you have described in the following: ‘It’s in the everyday things we do with another: like saying hello, walking through the door, a gentle touch as we pass, or handing over a spoon. It’s truly caring for another person, feeling what is needed for them and doing it. Sharing yourself and how you feel without reservation in whatever way you deem fit’.

  9. Often the smallest of gestures offered to another can make some-one’s day especially if you consider when someone is having a bad day, or an elderly person living on their own, any small exchange can brighten their day.

  10. ‘It’s in the everyday things we do with another: like saying hello, walking through the door, a gentle touch as we pass, or handing over a spoon. It’s truly caring for another person, feeling what is needed for them and doing it. Sharing yourself and how you feel without reservation in whatever way you deem fit’. I love how easily you demonstrate the practical ways love can be expressed.

  11. ” Love can be shown and displayed in the most simple of ways that are truly caring.” This brilliantly displays how any simple movement made can be a delicate and warm gesture of love, that can put a smile on anyone’s face. It’s allowing ourselves the moments to feel and appreciate these movements that changes the way we see and live life that is the key.

  12. We have to learn to appreciate the love that we because the more we appreciate it the more we will allow ourselves to be love.

  13. ‘I have learnt that it requires no selfishness and the ability to get yourself out of the way; not to disregard yourself and put others first, but have your own stuff sorted and cared for first’. Oh I can still get myself in the way sometimes, because I let my ‘stuff’ take over, but I am learning to keep bringing it back to keeping things simple and in the moment; Still a work in progress.

  14. The way we do things and how we interact and connect with others really does make a difference, it may be a fleeting moment but can still be very powerful in its expression.

  15. Getting ourselves out of the way is so much necessary if we are to really bring love into our lives. There is no self-centeredness in love.

    1. Yes Julie. Just last weekend on a training course, I was busily engrossed in an outdoor team activity. It started to rain, and one of the facilitators came over and gently pulled my hood up for me. It was the sweetest most caring gesture to feel.

    2. It’s a really important point Julie that we don’t need big gestures as we can build up many pictures of what love is over time and then completely miss the small gestures. I saw a story on TV once about a guy that proposed by hiring an enormous crowd, from memory they were all singing or dancing and there was a huge fanfare just for the proposal. The picture seemed to communicate for love to be felt it has to have some kind of physical expression and a very obvious grand one, but I have learnt it’s actually in the quality of energy. There is no set way for how to do it. It’s just there in our inner heart and can be expressed even in the most mundane of moments – but we may miss it because of preconceived ideas and pictures of what love is, instead of it being something that is simply felt. The big gestures also reveal that we don’t see love as a 24/7 thing, or as a state of being, but more as something we do that appears in moments, especially special ones.

  16. We all have an inbuilt care for each other , where I see this automatic response is when people drop something you just about always see someone automatically help the other person . This can be seen a lot when one is shopping , this is in build support for others that we all have.

  17. We have made love somehow special, but as you share it is an everyday quality that has nothing to do with grandness or particular moments, it is something we innately know and just need to learn to express again.

  18. And love is: ‘It’s in the everyday things we do with another: like saying hello, walking through the door, a gentle touch as we pass, or handing over a spoon. It’s truly caring for another person, feeling what is needed for them and doing it. Sharing yourself and how you feel without reservation in whatever way you deem fit’. So beautifully summed up!

  19. I love how you have described the act of love here E, the simplicity and ease to truly care for others and ourselves is feeling what is needed and doing it with no holding back.

  20. When we learn to get ourselves out of the way, we realize there is nothing else than to surrender to the love within which is encompassing of the all and in alignment of that which is divine.

  21. These gestures you describe above are very touching and allow people to trust and surrender- they stand out today because there is much tension and rush in the world, so when someone is present enough to notice what is needed, it makes a difference.

  22. ‘Sort of like it’s a part-time gig, not an everyday commitment.’ … this is such a great description of what love is, and on-going commitment in simple everyday things, accessible to all of us.

  23. Thank you for your blog, you have inspired me to be aware of and appreciate the loving expression I have in each day.

  24. The whole world is craving love, so when we can bring true love to the world – even in the most simplest of gestures, everyone gets to feel how we can live this quality everyday.

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