No Mistakes: Just a New Learning

I have learnt a very important truth lately, and as the title suggests, that there is really no such thing as a mistake, for every day opens up new opportunities to explore with a greater understanding in all facets of life. Opportunities of growth can be found doing everyday tasks like folding your washing, driving your car and painting a picture… and it is the latter where my new learning begins.

My particular “Aha” moment came while painting a little series of pieces on paper. I was working on two pieces simultaneously so they both had a similar colour, pattern, shape and theme, but they were very different pieces.

I felt I gave one much more attention than the other and it made me stop and question why I was doing this. Why did I not like each piece equally?

I actually considered throwing away the piece I didn’t feel met my standards, but there was something about it that was begging me to go deeper with the self-questioning.

The piece was not perfect in my eyes in that moment; it didn’t meet my perception of what I thought to be pleasing to the eye, so I disregarded it and threw the artwork to the side. However, I stopped and reclaimed it as I realised that nothing is perfect, everything in life is imperfectly beautiful in its own unique way, much like we are.

Perfection is not an achievable goal. It’s an endless road that just comes with more obstacles. It pushes us out of our natural rhythm into a never-ending game of trying to achieve an unobtainable marker that depletes us “quick sticks”.

The continual push for attaining perfection leads me to exhaustion and a never-ending story plays out in my head of other ways I can reach my desired point. It’s a brutal path that inevitably leads nowhere.

Our unique essence is intertwined into everything we express in this world and that includes that single piece of paper I was so haphazardly going to throw away. It was like I was throwing away a piece of me: I was giving up on me. I wasn’t being accepting and allowing time and space to share what is there to be shared when it is ready. So this is true in life and in art, as they are one and the same.

So what did I do next? I simply stopped and left the artwork for a day, and boy did that feel fantastic!

Do you know what the best part of the process was? It involved no drive or push for a perfect result. Each piece of artwork was able to be exactly how it was, with no attachment to an outcome or push for perfection.

This ever growing awareness and sense of calm allows greater opportunities for new ways of looking at life overall and I feel that is a pretty awesome tool to hold in my ever growing toolkit for life.

The best part is that my stress levels for getting to the desired destination of perfection have dissipated and I enjoy the journey a whole lot more. I never know where I will end up – that’s what makes life so much more fun, don’t you think?

Now the artwork is as perfectly imperfect as the other piece.

So never give up on finding your true masterstroke, it is there – it’s not a mistake, it just needs clarity and space to flourish in its own unique way, just like us.

I am forever in loving appreciation of my innate masterstroke thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Kelly Zarb, Retail Manager / Artist, Melbourne, Australia

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2,012 thoughts on “No Mistakes: Just a New Learning

  1. I realise in reading your article Kelly that where I get caught up in doing what I am doing is because I am looking for a desired outcome , trying to control events for that purpose, letting go of this need would give my life much more freedom in giving up control and allowing life to just unfold in its natural way.

  2. Seeing life as lessons is far healthier and more supportive as it brings in appreciation and a willingness to grow. Rather than seeing only mistakes which brings in criticism and judgement and keeps us feeling less.

  3. For someone who absolutely hated making, what I then considered to be a mistake, and often threatened to be overwhelmed with the embarrassment that came with it, this fabulous blog is one I come back to regularly. The constant reminder that “there are no mistakes just a new learning” has brought such a huge change to the way I live and I even find myself welcoming these opportunities to learn something new and bring it into my life.

  4. I can relate to this comment, Kelly, in terms of striving to be something I am not – “It pushes us out of our natural rhythm into a never-ending game of trying to achieve an unobtainable marker.” I am now learning to listen and stay with my body and follow its impulses, rather than be dictated to by the mind which sets me up to never be enough.

  5. The belief that perfection is a necessary part of life is such a damaging misconception, but one that so many live with. The day I realised the tension and the harm trying to be perfect was doing to my body and my life was the day it was removed from my ‘tool-kit for life’, and what a huge difference that choice made to the way I live and the way I feel about myself. It does try to sneak in every now and then but the yucky energy which comes with it signals its return instantly and it has no chance to burrow its way into what I’m doing, any further.

  6. ‘Perfection is not an achievable goal.’ We need to hear this as so many of us tend to chase perfection and wonder why we feel exhausted. I have been guilty of being a perfectionist in the past and now, when I make mistakes there is no more self-bashing, just a willingness to learn from them.

  7. There is a lot of beauty in not planning where we’re going to eventually end up, or who we’re going to speak to when we set out on a career, attend an event or start to develop a friendship or relationship.

  8. Thank you, Kelly, for the opportunity to enquire where these ideals of perfection come from and how long we have been held in their vice like grip, rather than feeling the freedom to explore and experiment with our expression.

  9. What a blessing it is for us to understand that mistakes are here for our learning, doing away with the judgment of good and bad right and wrong which fosters blame and guilt, devastating emotions to our deeply sensitive being.

    1. I agree Jill, and it feels so much more spacious when we live in a way that allows room for mistakes without judgement, blame or guilt. To honour how deeply sensitive we are through love and understanding and zero blame.

      1. There is definitely more space when we let go of the belief something is a mistake, and this space is what I have found offers me the opportunity to learn the lesson which is being offered. The feeling of spaciousness is felt throughout my body, in total contrast to the contraction that comes with believing I have made a mistake.

  10. Here you write about a piece of art, and I think what you have shared can also be applied to much in life. How often do we hold one part of our life with disdain and another with love. Our relationships with our bodies is a key one…we might like our face, but not our legs, or our arms are good but our chest is too small etc… The principles you share here, about accepting things as they are, and seeing the beauty in them, could apply to much.

  11. Thank you Kelly, I always get so much from reading your blog. Today I started to see how tied I can be to outcomes, that picture of perfection hiding insidiously in the shadows sending me into drive, instead of exploring each part of the day as flows and movement of energy, and different qualities of energy.

    1. I love your honesty Melinda and I too have experienced the same thing. I know that it is going to take me a while to fully let go of perfection and when I make that mistake again, I simply be gentle with myself and learn from my experience.

      1. Yes, I still hold onto mistakes and brace myself when I make one, however I can feel over time how much these reactions have shifted. It’s enormous to feel the difference with the way I respond to mistakes without the self critique in the way I used to.

      2. I agree Chan, that letting go of the perfection we have allowed to run our lives can take a while, simply because this way of being has become such an ingrained habit, so ingrained that we are already in perfection mode before we even realise it. But heading back into that mode is a lesson in itself and looking at it as just an ‘oops’ moment instead of a full blown mistake is so much kinder to our body.

  12. When we are a willing student and lover of truth we then realise that there is only that with is true and that which is not true. As such our love for truth is what we live for as it is this quality that represents all that we are. When what is not true is felt or revealed to us, be it a momentum we are in or otherwise, it then is a joy to be freed from the falsity and an invitation to return and deepen our connection to truth, so we can live and express in greater love with the truth of who we are. There is always a reflection of truth for us to receive and equally so also a truth for us to be led by.

  13. Your wonderful blog has been a big part of “my ever-growing toolkit for life” since I first read it a couple of years ago. And bringing this wisdom into my life has made way for the habit of beating myself up to head on out of my life. I even had cause to refer to it this morning when I made what I would have used to call a ‘mistake’ but instead of going into beat up mode I simply said ‘oops’, set out to remedy the situation and made a note to self to take the lesson on board. Oh, how wonderfully liberating that felt.

  14. We can so easily go into drive or equally give up if we are not centred and honouring of the space that is always there when we drop the judgements and allow an acceptance of what is.

  15. If I observe the flow in which the branches of a tree grow to expand till the leaves I see beauty, an imperfect and unique expression that shows me how we as human beings have separated from our natural and true way of being, which is light, sometimes silly, sometimes imperfect but very still.

  16. Such an inspiring way of painting and being in life Kelly. When and how I stopped to flow and express with no trying to achieve a goal? Your words invites me to play and enjoy more with any idea of how it should or shoudln’t look like, not just when I draw but also in every moment of my day. Thank you

  17. It’s a great point that we can disregard the worth of what we’ve expressed or made if we’re attached to an image of how we think it should look as opposed to truly feeling what the quality was behind it, which is the key part that really matters…

  18. Observing the way in which we do tasks can reveal so much about ourselves, our upbringing, our mentality and perception of life. We just have to remain open and observe.

  19. Perfection feels very closely related to control- and both of these get in the way of us connecting more deeply to our bodies and to what we can feel, essentially making us feel like we’re cut off from ourselves and others: a limiting and reduced way of living.

  20. Perfection feels very closely related to control- and both of these get in the way of us connecting more deeply to our bodies and to what we can feel, essentially making us feel like we’re cut off from ourselves and others: a limiting and reduced way of living.

  21. Seeing all that occurs in our lives as learning opportunities reduces enormously the disharmony we experience within our body on a daily basis.

  22. Every so often you meet someone who is intrinsically ageless and wise. Today such a man, tender, young man and in his early twenties. He told me how he started a degree course in a subject he had always wanted to do, only to find, amongst fellow students, a culture of competition, ambition and unkindness. He graduated and knew this culture was not for him, walked away and applied for jobs in different fields. He said in life ‘there is no failure, only learning’ and expanding from there. He had no regrets about his first choice of career, what mattered more was staying true to himself. It was like being in the presence of an angel so gentle and loving was this young man.

  23. That fact that there are “no mistakes just a new learning” is one of the most liberating lessons ever. This is one valuable lesson I am passing on to my grandchildren, and any other children I spend time with, as it would have been one which I would have loved to have been presented with. It definitely would have made a huge difference as to how I lived my life; there would have been one less reason to beat myself up.

  24. Thank you Kelly, it’s prompted me to look at where perfectionism and attachments to certain outcomes are in my own life. I’m sure I’ll find it anywhere there is stress!

  25. We are so programmed with things judged as being right or wrong – to move beyond this and to know there are no mistakes either, is so refreshing and deeply inspiring – every perceived mistake is simply a beautiful blessing to be aware of the opportunities that every encounter offers us .
    “I have learnt a very important truth lately, and as the title suggests, that there is really no such thing as a mistake, for every day opens up new opportunities to explore with a greater understanding in all facets of life”.

  26. There’s something I’ve learnt from ’new learnings’ – and that is to give everything I know to every task. Another task is not different because I don’t want to do it or a lot of work is required and I’m too busy and I cannot give the same quality. I usually come undone when I now do not bring my all when another task comes my way. So, it helps to stay focused to just that and not be distracted and detach from what it is that is required else, I will go through the learning again and it will hurt much more the next time round. It is worth learning from each opportunity that is presented because in truth it is Gold that is being offered not a mistake!

  27. The more willing I am to deepen my awareness the more open I am to seeing things around me as an opportunity to learn and evolve from, and to allow to unfold when ready without being attached to an outcome.

  28. Reading this I can see how much we grow up with right and wrong and that we take that to all of life. Even though when we make a mistake, even when it is not pleasant at the time, we can learn from this and it is way more important that this is learnt to be the way than to learn to beat ourselves up for mistakes and celebrate ourselves for our successes.

  29. I am more and more seeing that what I long strived for the be ‘good enough’ or ‘worthy’ came from pictures I had adopted from outside of me, used to fill the gaps within myself. These pictures however are designed to always leave us short of the mark. This is the perfect set up as we try, work hard, fail and then eventually give up.

  30. It is true that there is no such thing as a mistake. The concept of a mistake comes from right and wrong and there is no right and wrong, only truth. I am learning to embrace so-called mistakes as being simply steps on the path of learning or understanding something and essential steps at that for without them we do not learn but remain stuck in the old way or pattern.

  31. There is something so liberating to be able to accept that there is no such thing as a mistake, but rather an opportunity for learning something more deeply about ourselves and our place in the Universe.

  32. When we come to a place where we have the understanding that “everything in life is imperfectly beautiful in its own unique way”, including us, we will find acceptance of everything as it is and everyone around us as they are. In this place there is no judgement, simply the opportunity to truly appreciate this amazing world and all those who we share it with.

  33. It feels like appreciation is important in this process too. Do we appreciate that we are divine and therefore everything that can come through us is from the divine too?

  34. I love what you write here Kelly about how being steady and calm offers you the opportunity to receive a greater awareness of life. So true. I know the steadier I am, the clearer I am to seeing the bigger picture of what is at play in any given moment. When I get caught up in an emotional reaction, the window closes and I am much more fixed in the my thinking.

  35. Perfection – “a brutal path that inevitably leads nowhere.” Never a truer word spoken. After being on that path for a really long time, I can confirm that it is indeed a brutal path that leads no-where. I am slowly but surely heading away from that path and realising the illusion that perfection is.

    1. Or, maybe there is perfection possible like in the universe but then we have live in a way that is obedient and in line to this governing precision.

  36. Such a great point that there can be growth and evolution in the simplest of tasks, the simplest of reflections. Life is constantly communicating to us, reflecting back to us more of who we are, through our bodies, through others, through situations. There is always more to learn, as long as we’re open to it.

  37. No mistakes just a new learning – this title says it all and is perfect reminder for me today as I made a big mistake at work last night which I have been reflecting on and wondering if two jobs is too much, starting at 5 in the morning for 5 hours and going to second job from six till ten pm.

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