No Mistakes: Just a New Learning

I have learnt a very important truth lately, and as the title suggests, that there is really no such thing as a mistake, for every day opens up new opportunities to explore with a greater understanding in all facets of life. Opportunities of growth can be found doing everyday tasks like folding your washing, driving your car and painting a picture… and it is the latter where my new learning begins.

My particular “Aha” moment came while painting a little series of pieces on paper. I was working on two pieces simultaneously so they both had a similar colour, pattern, shape and theme, but they were very different pieces.

I felt I gave one much more attention than the other and it made me stop and question why I was doing this. Why did I not like each piece equally?

I actually considered throwing away the piece I didn’t feel met my standards, but there was something about it that was begging me to go deeper with the self-questioning.

The piece was not perfect in my eyes in that moment; it didn’t meet my perception of what I thought to be pleasing to the eye, so I disregarded it and threw the artwork to the side. However, I stopped and reclaimed it as I realised that nothing is perfect, everything in life is imperfectly beautiful in its own unique way, much like we are.

Perfection is not an achievable goal. It’s an endless road that just comes with more obstacles. It pushes us out of our natural rhythm into a never-ending game of trying to achieve an unobtainable marker that depletes us “quick sticks”.

The continual push for attaining perfection leads me to exhaustion and a never-ending story plays out in my head of other ways I can reach my desired point. It’s a brutal path that inevitably leads nowhere.

Our unique essence is intertwined into everything we express in this world and that includes that single piece of paper I was so haphazardly going to throw away. It was like I was throwing away a piece of me: I was giving up on me. I wasn’t being accepting and allowing time and space to share what is there to be shared when it is ready. So this is true in life and in art, as they are one and the same.

So what did I do next? I simply stopped and left the artwork for a day, and boy did that feel fantastic!

Do you know what the best part of the process was? It involved no drive or push for a perfect result. Each piece of artwork was able to be exactly how it was, with no attachment to an outcome or push for perfection.

This ever growing awareness and sense of calm allows greater opportunities for new ways of looking at life overall and I feel that is a pretty awesome tool to hold in my ever growing toolkit for life.

The best part is that my stress levels for getting to the desired destination of perfection have dissipated and I enjoy the journey a whole lot more. I never know where I will end up – that’s what makes life so much more fun, don’t you think?

Now the artwork is as perfectly imperfect as the other piece.

So never give up on finding your true masterstroke, it is there – it’s not a mistake, it just needs clarity and space to flourish in its own unique way, just like us.

I am forever in loving appreciation of my innate masterstroke thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Kelly Zarb, Retail Manager / Artist, Melbourne, Australia

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1,979 thoughts on “No Mistakes: Just a New Learning

  1. Your wonderful blog has been a big part of “my ever-growing toolkit for life” since I first read it a couple of years ago. And bringing this wisdom into my life has made way for the habit of beating myself up to head on out of my life. I even had cause to refer to it this morning when I made what I would have used to call a ‘mistake’ but instead of going into beat up mode I simply said ‘oops’, set out to remedy the situation and made a note to self to take the lesson on board. Oh, how wonderfully liberating that felt.

  2. We can so easily go into drive or equally give up if we are not centred and honouring of the space that is always there when we drop the judgements and allow an acceptance of what is.

  3. If I observe the flow in which the branches of a tree grow to expand till the leaves I see beauty, an imperfect and unique expression that shows me how we as human beings have separated from our natural and true way of being, which is light, sometimes silly, sometimes imperfect but very still.

  4. Such an inspiring way of painting and being in life Kelly. When and how I stopped to flow and express with no trying to achieve a goal? Your words invites me to play and enjoy more with any idea of how it should or shoudln’t look like, not just when I draw but also in every moment of my day. Thank you

  5. It’s a great point that we can disregard the worth of what we’ve expressed or made if we’re attached to an image of how we think it should look as opposed to truly feeling what the quality was behind it, which is the key part that really matters…

  6. Observing the way in which we do tasks can reveal so much about ourselves, our upbringing, our mentality and perception of life. We just have to remain open and observe.

  7. Perfection feels very closely related to control- and both of these get in the way of us connecting more deeply to our bodies and to what we can feel, essentially making us feel like we’re cut off from ourselves and others: a limiting and reduced way of living.

  8. Perfection feels very closely related to control- and both of these get in the way of us connecting more deeply to our bodies and to what we can feel, essentially making us feel like we’re cut off from ourselves and others: a limiting and reduced way of living.

  9. Seeing all that occurs in our lives as learning opportunities reduces enormously the disharmony we experience within our body on a daily basis.

  10. Every so often you meet someone who is intrinsically ageless and wise. Today such a man, tender, young man and in his early twenties. He told me how he started a degree course in a subject he had always wanted to do, only to find, amongst fellow students, a culture of competition, ambition and unkindness. He graduated and knew this culture was not for him, walked away and applied for jobs in different fields. He said in life ‘there is no failure, only learning’ and expanding from there. He had no regrets about his first choice of career, what mattered more was staying true to himself. It was like being in the presence of an angel so gentle and loving was this young man.

  11. That fact that there are “no mistakes just a new learning” is one of the most liberating lessons ever. This is one valuable lesson I am passing on to my grandchildren, and any other children I spend time with, as it would have been one which I would have loved to have been presented with. It definitely would have made a huge difference as to how I lived my life; there would have been one less reason to beat myself up.

  12. Thank you Kelly, it’s prompted me to look at where perfectionism and attachments to certain outcomes are in my own life. I’m sure I’ll find it anywhere there is stress!

  13. We are so programmed with things judged as being right or wrong – to move beyond this and to know there are no mistakes either, is so refreshing and deeply inspiring – every perceived mistake is simply a beautiful blessing to be aware of the opportunities that every encounter offers us .
    “I have learnt a very important truth lately, and as the title suggests, that there is really no such thing as a mistake, for every day opens up new opportunities to explore with a greater understanding in all facets of life”.

  14. There’s something I’ve learnt from ’new learnings’ – and that is to give everything I know to every task. Another task is not different because I don’t want to do it or a lot of work is required and I’m too busy and I cannot give the same quality. I usually come undone when I now do not bring my all when another task comes my way. So, it helps to stay focused to just that and not be distracted and detach from what it is that is required else, I will go through the learning again and it will hurt much more the next time round. It is worth learning from each opportunity that is presented because in truth it is Gold that is being offered not a mistake!

  15. The more willing I am to deepen my awareness the more open I am to seeing things around me as an opportunity to learn and evolve from, and to allow to unfold when ready without being attached to an outcome.

  16. Reading this I can see how much we grow up with right and wrong and that we take that to all of life. Even though when we make a mistake, even when it is not pleasant at the time, we can learn from this and it is way more important that this is learnt to be the way than to learn to beat ourselves up for mistakes and celebrate ourselves for our successes.

  17. I am more and more seeing that what I long strived for the be ‘good enough’ or ‘worthy’ came from pictures I had adopted from outside of me, used to fill the gaps within myself. These pictures however are designed to always leave us short of the mark. This is the perfect set up as we try, work hard, fail and then eventually give up.

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