The Power of STOP

Today I experienced the power of STOP.

Lately I’ve had to deal with a situation where opposing views started to become evident, things seemed unfair and mentalities got narrow, and we were suddenly immersed in a scenario that I like to call “reason fights reason and reason proves wrong to reason.” Anger and frustration kicked in, leading soon after to unwanted consequences for all people and relationships involved.

I felt the pull to stop and I was able to easily let go of my need to feed the discussion any further – which was already turning into an argument. I felt how the other person thanked me deeply for that. We both surrendered and it felt great in our bodies and also in the space we were sharing.

I don´t always choose to stop and I´ve seen many people that find it difficult too, as for example, in our day to day life: 

  • When we open our eyes in the morning, we don´t really stop before jumping out of bed. There is already a cascade of thoughts rushing us through our day ahead.

  • When we greet others, we rarely stop to connect to them by looking in their eyes and having a feel for who they are.

  • During busy days we don`t even stop to eat properly, but do so in anxiousness and in a rush.

  • We don´t stop between activities or when we feel tired because there is always so much to do next and we need to get everything done.

  • We get annoyed with other people that walk slower, or who are taking longer to pay in the queue. We rarely stop our irritation and keep projecting frustration onto their backs.

  • We don´t stop arguing because we don´t want people to take us for fools, and we have a need to put forward our point, avoiding at all cost the possibility of being hurt or humiliated.

  • We act in debilitating and sabotaging ways because we are unable to stop our negative thoughts and criticism.

The list goes on and we live in this non-stop vicious cycle of doing and demonstrating that we all have a place in this world through motion, being right and proving our worth through achieving and succeeding.

No wonder why, after so much motion, drive to attain, need to compete and defend our hurts, we people find it difficult to stop.

We are definitely immersed in a momentum that we have constantly fed with impetus, push, drive, force and attack.

  • Are we so addicted to the high we get from drama and upheaval?

  • Is our need to always sort things out first so insidious, no matter what state of being we are in?

  • Why do we want to make sure people never take us wrong or blame us; why do we need to get our point across and have the last word?

  • Could it be that on a deeper level we are invested in a goal outside of us, as a way to not feel the amount of self-loathing we carry and how little appreciation we have for ourselves for just being who we are?

Why is it that we find it so hard to surrender and become humble, and much easier to be pushy and disputatious? Why is it that we find it almost impossible and even disempowering to stop?

In my personal experience for example, many times I have found it almost impossible to stop and just recently I have accepted that one of my most painful characteristics was to be `driven´. It has been a way of doing things and going through life in total disregard of my body and others. It has been a poison to my body, and this drive has spoiled several new and old relationships. It has achieved nothing but ephemeral victories that have left me isolated, deeply anxious and disconnected.

Thanks to Serge Benhayon I have been able to introduce a very supportive quality as an antidote to this way of being, and that is gentleness. Gentleness as a bridge to find, feel, accept and experience my beautiful stillness within.

It is this quality that is really missing in today´s society because we don´t really appreciate stillness as much as motion, so we haven´t created that bridge and connection to that place within us – and mainly because we feel incapable to stop.

Why not start by considering the possibility that ‘to stop’ is actually not as difficult as it seems? STOP is a simple, resounding, punchy and powerful expression to bear in mind. It can be both a firm and gentle choice we can make wherever, whenever, as it has no prior requirements, no need to prove anything first or go through struggle, or even use strong will, fall into humiliation, or feel guilty.

If we only experienced more often how deeply empowering, corrective and simple it really is, many conflicts, separations, illnesses, arguments, and spoiled relationships could all be avoided, just by choosing ‘stop’ in an instant and pulling back. It is the door to surrendering which gives us the immediate possibility to feel gentleness in our bodies again.

The more we try it and choose to stop again and again, the more we will get to see the illusion we have created when trying to find our identity, worth and salvation in motion and turmoil. We all come from stillness, harmony and love, and it gets quite easy with time to stop, especially when we start realising that the entire universe really supports us to STOP!

I love the teachings of the Ageless Wisdom brought by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. With deep appreciation and joy for these teachings.

By Luz Helena Hincapié, Bogotá, Colombia

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1,265 thoughts on “The Power of STOP

  1. It’s interesting while reading this, I was struggling to concentrate because at the moment I’m in a lot of momentum/drive and in a phase where everything is new and there are many life changes going on. My default way to deal with all the changes is to keep so busy I don’t have to stop, feel and appreciate all that I am doing. This busyness drains me and I end up feeling quite numb to everything on one level, meanwhile on another, my body feels stiff and tired.

  2. I love the way you have described this scenario.. “reason fights reason and reason proves wrong to reason.” As I have learnt along the way, proving to be right and someone else is therefore wrong is not it – in fact it’s a long way off because in that situation there is no Equalness and no Truth.

  3. Since I have studied with Universal Medicine I have become much more aware of all energies at play through my own way of movement and those of others. The power we find in the nomination of what we feel is going on behind the physical we see. If we read that clearly we can easily bring ourselves to a stop.

  4. Ahhhhhh! Luz, this is a beautiful reminder of the conflict that arises when we refuse to stop and be re-connected with ourselves in our body. I love the simplicity you offer of the first step to initiate this pause – choosing gentleness instead of the chaos of rushing and pushing through life.
    “It is the door to surrendering which gives us the immediate possibility to feel gentleness in our bodies again”.

  5. Giving ourselves space around things, really does help us to make more loving and supportive choices for our bodies and ourselves, and this way, we get to read what is truly going on and don’t add to whatever drama is already there.

  6. Being able to STOP is still very much a learning process for me. However, when I manage to surrender and STOP then I can feel the truth and beauty of, “We all come from stillness, harmony and love, and it gets quite easy with time to stop, especially when we start realising that the entire universe really supports us to STOP!”

  7. Knowing how to stop is not easy for many of us. Stopping in today’s world is more often than not changing to the next thing we are doing, or multi-tasking. It seems uncommon to just stop, yet stopping allows the space to connect within and for a few moments be ourselves just with ourselves.

  8. Surrendering is becoming more and more familiar to me, it is something I have not been at ease with in the past because I was worried about not being in control. The more I realised I am not actually ever in control the more I realised that to surrender meant I could accept support and rather than be in control and I would then be able to get a sense of what was needed next. It became less about me and more about a bigger picture. Sometimes I didn’t relise what that bigger picture was till after I had completed my part in it, sometimes months after the event or experience. None of it really mattered though – because I had surrendered to honouring what was being called for rather than trying to protect myself and be in control.

    1. Thank you Lucy, what a great comment “I realised I am not actually ever in control the more I realised that to surrender meant I could accept support and rather than be in control”. Control is very much about trying to do or manage things on our own, not sharing how we feel and reaching out for support, or being in connection with the all we are a part of.

  9. So much unnecessary harm can come from the drive to be right based on whatever ideals and beliefs the drive is founded on… yet there is nothing but truth and beauty that can come from truly surrendering and allowing things to unfold from connection to the stillness within where drive cannot exist.

  10. In the past 12 hours I have had two very simple things happen that both ask me to stop and be with myself rather than the automatic doing. I can now see the second one happened because I didn’t appreciate the message in the first one! So now I have my own attention it’s the coming back to the quality of my doing that matters not the actual task being ticked off.

  11. thank you Luz, what you share absolutely makes sense – we need to stop either as a moment of repose (rest) and consideration , appreciation – before we go to the next.

  12. The true power of stop moments is the beauty of our surrender to the divine within. When we consistently begin to choose these moments, we are choosing to live and express more from who we are and that is simply glorious.

    1. I have found the most wonderful modality to build an awareness of how that feels is the Esoteric Yoga program. It is such a simple way to build a relationship with the body and learn to surrender to yourself and then start to feel all that is within – as you say truly divine!

  13. So true – so many of us find it hard, if not impossible, to stop. A stop makes us see where we are at, it brings clarity. We may let things slow down a little, but there often seems to be some left-overs lingering from the moment ago, and we do not really come to a full stop, then regain the momentum back as if nothing has happened.

  14. Stop moments can be confronting as they give our body space to communicate how we have been living and this may feel uncomfortable. To me, this is why we avoid stopping and feeling, because if we feel one thing we need to feel everything we don’t want to and haven’t wanted to for a long time – thus, being in a momentum of drama and fast paced movement keeps us well distracted.

    1. Very wise Rachael. I would also add that confronting though they may be, they are also moments of release from the confines and contraction of holding tight to a way of being that isn’t true.

  15. What I also find interesting is how we avoid stop moments and how this then plays out in our daily rhythm and does it have a domino effect on our sleep and or the rhythm of the next day? Could it even be possible to consider how often we go into motion in our daily lives and if we choose space in our day to take stock and appreciate how we feel and honour our bodies, even just for a brief time. Can the consistency to keep bringing these stop moments be a major key player in un-tapping our awareness to how we feel and allow us to uncover why we have these patterns in our lives and how we can undo their hold and see them for what they are and deepen our understanding of who we are? Bringing stop moments is a great place to start and to build connection to life and the symbiotic nature of the all.

    1. It’s very true Kelly, resisting stop moments does have a domino affect which can affect our whole day, our sleep, and our following day/s as well.

  16. “If we only experienced more often how deeply empowering, corrective and simple it really is, many conflicts, separations, illnesses, arguments, and spoiled relationships could all be avoided, just by choosing ‘stop’ in an instant and pulling back.” Giving ourselves a stop moment can certainly prevent unnecessary judgements and reactions.

  17. Thank you Luz, sometimes I can feel that I’m going along quite well and then I take some time to myself, just stop and be still, and it’s surprising how much there is I need to feel and support myself with which has created an unsettled feeling in my body.

  18. I was one who rushed, always trying to fit in as much I could in the shortest possible time. I used to think that this is how you were meant to live, after all everyone else around me was living in the same exhausting way. I finally figured out, thanks to the presentations of Serge Benhayon, that in the rush I didn’t have to feel what was really going on in my body; and it was also too scary to acknowledge. Today I love stop moments as they give me the space to check in and see how I am feeling; no more rushing away from me anymore.

  19. Some great examples you have shared Luz in the true power it is to stop and the space that opens up to expand our awareness and understanding of ourselves and others.

  20. The note about how we stand behind someone in line projecting our frustration toward their back for taking longer than expected is a common story for me. It actually feels awful to realise that is what I do. What’s a few extra minutes of waiting? especially as it gives me the opportunity for a much needed stop moment. There are ways to deal with situations, and then there are other ways.

  21. It’s in these stop moment that we get the chance to really feel what is going on within our bodies and we then have the choice to listen to its sharings or heed it’s wisdom. Everything that follows these stop moments can either give us a greater understanding why we hold these patterns or it can be overridden and we can continue on in the same way. It shows the great beauty of choice and the power of listening to what is being shared.

  22. It feels to me that when we are in the momentum of being addicted to motion and doing the first important step is learning how to stop so that we create the space to be able to feel our natural gentleness which leads us to stillness which is our true essence as human beings.

  23. Yes Luz, let’s champion ‘stop’! The constant motion feeds behaviours that perpetuate that motion and the body is incapable of maintaining true health with no balance. Stop, stillness, appreciation, contemplation, they have all been instrumental in supporting me to value ‘stop’.

  24. There is so much in what you say here Luz, and this line really stopped me today ‘Is our need to always sort things out first so insidious, no matter what state of being we are in?’ … do we take care of our quality first or the thing we need to do and if we do the latter, what is the quality we bring? When the question is put so starkly it really asks us to consider our quality first always and to stop to connect to and feel that and move from there, to surrender first deeply within.

  25. Stopping to reflect on the quality that we’re bringing to a moment and to everyone around us can be very powerful in the sense that we give ourselves the space to be more aware of how we are communicating or the way in which we are moving in what we’re doing and from that awareness have the opportunity to change if we are in rush, anger, frustration, contraction, justification, or appreciate if we are truly expressing with love…

  26. The qualities you mention here Luz are certainly missing from our society, it is a sad fact. However being inspired by people like you the tide may turn and gentleness will become the norm;
    “I have been able to introduce a very supportive quality as an antidote to this way of being, and that is gentleness. Gentleness as a bridge to find, feel, accept and experience my beautiful stillness within”.

  27. Without stop moments, the momentum is constant rushing about and being so busy and ending up getting nowhere but back to the same place again – exhausted.
    With a stop moment to really feel what is going on brings the opportunity to move more harmoniously into the next thing to be done, by way of a different quality in the movement.

  28. The Universe does support us to stop and the world supports us to stay in motion, defend, convince, it shows how often we limit ourselves by staying within the confines of what our minds sees as fair.

  29. ” the illusion we have created when trying to find our identity , worth and salvation in motion and turmoil ”
    Thank you Luz I have never heard the world so accurately described in one line. Just so true.

  30. ‘When we open our eyes in the morning, we don´t really stop before jumping out of bed. There is already a cascade of thoughts rushing us through our day ahead.’ Luz I found this to be really important because if we don’t take that moment to be with ourselves before we get out of bed, our whole day is a rush as we bombard ourselves with everything that there is to do, rather than stopping and simply doing them in the quality that we are.

    1. Yes I agree and likewise at night taking that time to be with ourselves and deepen our connection before going to sleep . So supportive and such a loving gesture to ourselves.

  31. “we live in this non-stop vicious cycle of doing and demonstrating that we all have a place in this world through motion, being right and proving our worth through achieving and succeeding.” It is a vicious cycle and one that can trap us for years or lifetimes, so that our connection and stopping becomes the unusual and searching for meaning and validation through motion becomes our normal.

  32. Sensational blog Luz and a informative reading on stopping. It’s medicine to stop. It should be one of the most important behavioural educational medical advice to be advised on – how and when to stop. If you don’t the same force you have been in the momentum of not stopping will stop you. It’s better to co-create your own stops than be forced to be stopped.

  33. There does come a time in our lives when we realise that we are living out a drama (not surprising the longest running TV shows are soap opera’s), and searching for the drama with our friends and relatives to keep us distracted from knowing and feeling that there is more to life, than we are currently willing to see.

  34. It makes sense the more we drive and push ourselves in the belief we need to achieve and succeed through life the harder it becomes to stop and open our awareness to the way in which we are living and the choices we are making that continues this cycle, separating us further from connecting to and knowing our true selves.

  35. ” The more we try it and choose to stop again and again, the more we will get to see the illusion we have created ” and also the illusion our created illusion is in .

  36. I love stop moments – they are real and unfooling.. They keep us truly awake, at those times where we choose to not be awake… And we can eitherway choose to deny them even if they are in our face.. Or to truly embrace them. Eitherway – the universe is always supporting us to return to it, as we come from there, a rich universality that we can feel when we look at the sky. Not there is nothing more grander than a small punch to remember us of this – and that at times need a little more strong reminder to set us back in track (or give us the opportunity to make another choice in one’s life (cycle).

  37. I guess this is why so many of us seem to find it difficult to stop and when we do we can at times find it painful. Stopping can support to break the cycle of us doing and not just being settled in being. Some of us have big stops and others have little but at some point we all need it. I know for me I bring little moments of stop into my day and it’s not that I drop everything that I am doing but in a way I do allow my body to stop, the thoughts, the movement, the rush and bring myself back to a point where at least I can feel my fingers and my toes. Choosing to stop doesn’t slow you down as you may think but instead actually brings you more time. Time in the fact that what you do is in a flow and not just the continued rush of life.

  38. When we rush around we are actually imposing upon ourselves a false way of being in the world and this affects our body greatly. It makes good common sense to incorporate stop moments into our day so that we are not getting caught up in things but instead remain an observer of life.

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