What I Love about Lighting a Fire

I love sitting around a fire, I love the whole process – the ritual of setting a fire before lighting it, small twigs then larger sticks and then logs. The pop and crackle as the flames take hold and expand, and the warmth that grows with the flames.

I recently had an operation. I now have an extended period of recovery before I am able to return to work. I had planned to spend many hours during my recovery sitting next to a fire enjoying something I don’t often find time to do in the busyness of everyday working life. In preparation I had chopped and stacked a large pile of wood, as I knew I would not be able to do anything too physical for a while after the operation.

This morning I got up before everyone else, as is the norm in my household, and decided to light a fire in the back yard. I have always loved lighting the morning fire on camping trips when it’s really cool and crisp outside, boiling some water for a cup of tea and warming my body by the flames.

But this morning’s fire lacked the magic, something was missing… loved ones! I persevered and had the cup of tea but soon enough put out the flames.

What I love about lighting a fire is sitting around it with other people, and the shared intimacy it engenders whether you talk or remain silent; the space a fire allows in conversations when just watching the flames is enough, and the absence of electronic media. Simply being with others without distraction is so precious. I realised lighting the morning fire alone on a camping trip is different to this morning’s fire for I always know that soon the sound and smell will lure others from their beds to share the early morning with me, just being together in nature.

It is not that I can’t enjoy a fire alone or that I need other people to feel complete, as I enjoy my own company, but I love connecting with other people. I have often heard others say that the allure of a fire is an ancient primal thing that we all naturally resonate to, the need for warmth and light. This may be true, but I feel for myself that the ancient allure is actually the beauty of brotherhood, the togetherness of sitting around a fire. Taking the time to cherish our connection with each other, this is what I love about lighting a fire.

The teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have allowed me to develop a more loving connection to myself, and from this my love for other people is blossoming.

By Tim Robinson, Frankston, Australia

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992 thoughts on “What I Love about Lighting a Fire

  1. Now and then I return to this blog as I love how you ‘talk’ about lighting the fire how it is about connecting with others, feeling equal while being together, sitting around the fire ‘the ancient allure is actually the beauty of brotherhood’.

  2. I love an open fireplace or a fire set up when camping. Its definitely not the same as a gas heater. There is something about the beauty of the flame and also its warmth. A reminder for us of the warmth of our own inner flame.

  3. As we are drawn to the warmth of a fire, wherever it may be burning, we are also drawn to the inner warmth of others. This warmth is within us all and so coming together in connection to each other, in brotherhood, ensures that this warmth not only warms us but then naturally begins to ripple on out to the world.

  4. I love returning to read this blog as it always brings a warm glow to my heart ignited by a childhood memory of sitting around a cosy fire with my family on frosty winter evenings.

  5. There is something about sitting around a fire that is pure magic. I love watching the flames and the dance they have with the wood. It’s totally beautiful, and reminds me of something within me, the light I see reflects the light within me and all of us – a reminder of who we all are and where we are from.

  6. Being with others around a log fire does indeed offer a very precious and intimate space to connect more deeply with each other. I remember spending time with my family and friends around the log fire when I was young, and feeling how special it was because we all had time for each other.

  7. I was recently talking to some friends who were going away camping for the Easter weekend with their family. They were sharing that camping was a time for them to stop and reconnect as a family and they felt they needed to ‘get away from it all’. This highlighted to me how we have normalised living with distractions but we know that this is not true for us as we need to ‘get away from this’ and that inside we crave a deeper connection with others.

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