Packaging and Opening Us Up

Gifts and flowers wrapped in pretty paper, consumer products and food carefully arranged, wrapped to show only the best side and covered in ‘information’, advertising, brides in designer gowns, all fashion and clothing styles, makeup, hairstyles, uniforms, costumes and suits, rituals and customs, car models, fancy picture frames, book covers, house designs, perfumes and deodorisers, grant applications as justifications for support, resumés and curriculum vitae, the profiles, charters, brands and principles of companies, charities, institutions and governments, politics, corporate social responsibility and philanthropy, military might and posturing, bluff in all its forms… gosh, a lot of stuff comes packaged!

Underlying these could be any number of things going on that bear close scrutiny:

  • Engagement of emotions.
  • That the essence of the thing is perceived to be ‘not good enough’ to stand alone in its truth.
  • That perhaps the thing is actually not that good and would be seen as such and rejected unless covered up by ‘packaging’.
  • That some kind of ‘force’ is required to make the thing acceptable to the senses, to ‘sell it’ to people, regardless of its merits.
  • That appearances are used to override our natural sense of what is and is not necessary, or even right for us, and thus gain power and control over us.
  • A belief that people fall for deception and are able to be deceived by appearances.
  • That people will not speak up when they find they’ve fallen for deception and have been deceived by appearances.

These things say a lot about the motivation behind packaging, and they say a lot about us who do it, and who ‘fall for it’, and who don’t call it out for the deception it is.

When I sit down to ponder on ‘packaging,’ the list grows exponentially to include things I normally would not think of as packaging.

But when you really look around, the whole of our modern life is based on packaging: putting a layer of illusion (of varying degrees of untruth) around something’s essence in order to ‘look better’ or look different from what it truly is, to increase reception (by deception) so that it can be desired more, taken in and accepted, not for itself, but as the ‘whole package’. A lie, basically.

It doesn’t stop with material things. In fact the material things are probably the smallest component of the ‘global packaging deception’. Into the packaging ‘package’ there’s our own behaviour of putting on appearances:

  • Pretending to be happy when we’re sad.
  • Saying we’re fine when we’re actually feeling awful.
  • Being depressed or having disorders when it serves to protect us from engaging with people and the world.
  • Appearing to be full of energy when really we’re tired.
  • Looking fashionably cool and aloof when really we’re craving love and connection.
  • To be seen as an atheist when deep inside we have a sense of divinity that we don’t want to admit to.
  • To appear stupid when we don’t want responsibility.
  • To look strong when we feel vulnerable and wobbly.
  • To look sexy when we don’t feel like it and really want intimacy and love.
  • Using pseudonyms and anonymity.
  • Name-changing: to look authoritative when we feel insecure and inferior.
  • To appear intelligent and knowledgeable when we feel inadequate…

This list could go over pages and pages…

And then there is the most insidious form of packaging of all… the appearances of things and activities that seem fine on the surface and that we accept, but which contain within them energy of a kind that is not what we would approve of or accept, if we were aware of the nature of the energy behind them – for example, religious leaders who are paedophiles behind the scenes, or lovely-sounding music written and/or sung by abusive drug-takers.

What if we unpacked ourselves? What if we opened up, threw off all our packaging, our illusions, caps and covers, and allowed the world to see our true selves?

An immediate effect for me as I’ve begun to ‘unpack myself’ lovingly is incredible relief – to drop the tension of living a lie. Another: an increased sense of togetherness and relatedness. I increasingly discover that I and the people I meet, who also felt ‘packed up’ and separate, are more alike than we thought, carrying the same hurts and experiencing the same quandaries and difficulties in various shades and tones. I begin to see that even some of the ‘truths’ of myself that have been exposed during various stages of unpacking have (still) been deceptive packages and that another layer, or twenty, may have to come off for the shining spark of God at my core to be fully revealed.

What if as one humanity we did even the first layer of unpackaging together?

Might it bring compassion for others, as well as understanding and acceptance? We could begin to see the true essence of everyone and every-thing. Our sense of truth could naturally rise; we might no longer be fooled by appearances and could better discern the quality of energy behind everything and thus refine our choices.

What if ‘packaging’ could then become a way of supporting and expressing the true essence of people and things instead of creating a false appearance to hide it?

What if our clothes, makeup, houses, work, all the stuff and activities of how we look and live life, could then be shared, joyful celebrations of truth – the truth of us? Would some of our habits and behaviours fall away? Would we no longer need to consume so much or change fashions, emotions and moods as often as we have done? Would possessions, acquisitions, quests and dissatisfactions start falling away?

With an unpacked humanity, perhaps our companions – the planet, plants and animals – could breathe a sigh of relief!

So here’s today’s slogan:

“Unpack yourself today! And bring a friend or two, or 7 billion!”

By Dianne Trussell

Related Reading:
~ Returning To Our Essence
~ Trusting and Expressing From My Essence
~ Magic of Knowing… We are All One & the Same on the Inside

1,162 thoughts on “Packaging and Opening Us Up

  1. “To appear stupid when we don’t want responsibility.” Ouch! I can see that one in my life, and it’s true, there is an aversion to deeper responsibility, and by claiming to not know more takes one off the hook. I’ve even seen pets acting dumb on something to avoid their responsibility and the subsequent consequences. It reminds me of stories of very clever people in the news who have acted criminally and masterminded fraud, often creating technologies to do so, and I always feel ‘Why don’t they just use those skills to get a legitimate job?’ And it’s the same for us, our cleverness to play dumb could just as easily be used to make loving change.

  2. If we all unpacked at once that would change so much and the reality is that we all have our areas in life that are simpler to take the wrapping off and others where we feel quite stuck, so never judge yourself simply remove what and when required.

  3. I agree we have made packages of nearly everything to make it look as though we are coping with life when we are clearly not coping at all. For example recently at the A&E of a major hospital there where several young men who came in having sustained sporting injuries and they looked hurt, shocked and withdrawn. And I mentioned this to a friend asking why they would want to do this to their young bodies they felt that what they were doing was no different to studying hard for some exam and in doing this putting their bodies under immense strain. At the bottom of such behaviour is the need to be seen and recognised and this is how we have built our society where what we do is more important that who we are and how much we damage ourselves in the quest for this acceptance and recognition and when we are young we think we can get away with it, it’s not until we are much older that we realise we didn’t get away with anything and the consequences of such behaviour can be far worse.

  4. It pays to ask ‘what is the purpose of our packaging of ourselves’ for this quickly reveals any underlying agendas.

  5. To live ‘unpacked’ there must be a willingness to be honest about the layers that cover up the Truth inside.

  6. The bare naked Truth is often not appreciated nor wanted in our world – but this is not a reason to keep it hidden.

  7. “Our sense of truth could naturally rise; we might no longer be fooled by appearances and could better discern the quality of energy behind everything and thus refine our choices.” Wow I like that very much and I am sure living like this would change the world a bit. Thank you Dianne for sharing your experience with unpacking yourself – it is very inspirational for me.

  8. We are so easily led by what sounds good, looks nice or even feels bliss-full and it is very easy to be deceived by good words and right marketing if we are looking for relief. The only way I have found to start to consider the difference has been through being willing to see things for what they are – manipulation and all and to see how I have been part of the game. Being willing to see truth is the freedom that changes our movements.

  9. I have had a term for as long as I can remember that I used when I knew I was not living true to myself. I called it the ‘best managed version’ of myself because that is what it is like – a managed or staged or pretend version or performance of who we are rather than just honestly being the real us.

    1. This is great Andrew, the ‘best managed version’ of yourself – it really does show very picturesquely what we all often do when not living the Truth.

  10. I agree with you that the list of how life, and the humans in it, package ourselves up could be endless. This one has been a big one for me – “Looking fashionably cool and aloof when really we’re craving love and connection.” I have played that aloof card on many occasions, not a super successful strategy, but one I have deployed nonetheless.

  11. There is no greater freedom for us to know in this plane of life than to openly live the power of who we are, the light of our Soul as the Sons of God that we are. Anything less is a reduction of our true potential as such denying our true responsibility, our part in living our purpose as a Brotherhood.

  12. When we start to unpack ourselves we allow for the building of relationships without the unnecessary layers of stuff that only serve to keep us isolated from each other.

  13. If we truly unpacked ourselves we would surely see that we are all the same on the inside. This kind of unpacking often happens in my experience when I meet someone I haven’t met before and there is a gentle opening up to each other. There can be real joy in such a meeting and to me this is the grandest of confirmations that we are the same in our essence and we have a lot more in common than the differences we have erroneously focused upon. Wouldn’t it be great to focus on what unites us rather than what divides us?

  14. “Unpack yourself today! And bring a friend or two, or 7 billion!” It is time to unpack ourselves and reveal what really lies behind the lies and deceit we have willingly accepted as being the truth.

  15. It’s like there’s this notion that we need to dress up, cover and disguise to be seen and accepted – but what if we were all naturally stupendously amazing? – This, we have never ever given a full go, but definitely worth a try.

  16. We easily put up appearances in order to deflect or hide, yet whatever disguise we use there is still a beautiful person on the inside just waiting to get out.

  17. “What if we opened up, threw off all our packaging, our illusions, caps and covers, and allowed the world to see our true selves?” I’d say that we were all be very surprised with what greeted us, especially the fact that under the carefully crafted facades we are pretty much all the same. And what a relief it would be for each of us to no longer have to live the lies, and with the subsequent ripple effect having a huge impact on every single part of the world.

  18. When we receive a parcel we wonder what is inside and remove the packaging. When we we remove the packaging from ourselves or another we find the love within.

  19. Often we not only pack ourselves up in false layers but go around in packs with others who wear similar false packaging. Then the whole things gets very convoluted because we judge others who are also wearing false packaging whilst championing our own and in fact they both come from the same shop.

  20. To be able to see and learn to unpack the falseness of the packaging of ourselves to fit in to life, a life that is packaged up for us to not see the gift that we all contain within the human body, is indeed what freedom is all about, discarding layer upon layer of the what is not, to reveal the true gift that lies within each and every one of us.

  21. I cried when I read ‘unpack yourself today’. Thank you. I am going to take me and my dog for a walk on the beach and unpack me…..

  22. Sometimes we can become so attached to the packaging that we think that is who we are and forget that the real gift is inside.

    1. Beautifully said Nicola, and how very true. I know that I had forgotten who I was and have been absolutely delighted by the wonderful woman I have rediscovered under the many layers of packaging.

      1. Yes and there seems to be no end to the rediscovery in that the wonder and awesomeness just keep deepening and expanding – a never ending gift.

  23. I do like and appreciate the analogy of packaging and how it applies to us and us living a lie, but although we all agree there is too much packaging of products, if we got rid of it all how would we keep food fresh. Some packaging is to extend the shelf life of food and therefore fairly essential. e.g. take a tin of tuna, shelf life packaged is years, unpacked would be hours possibly.

  24. We have become very good good indeed at presenting what we perceive to be an ‘ideal package’ of ourselves, but rarely is it a true representation or reflection of who we truly are. Time to take off the wrappings.

  25. This just had me musing about one particular package which is a certain brand of activism that calls out against packaging on a save the world platform and yet the activism itself when carried out emotionally is a form of packaging!

  26. I had never thought the behaviour of ‘keeping up appearances’ as a form of packaging but on deeper consideration I can see how it actually is. We are simply wrapping ourselves up in deceit of all forms, from that plastic smile, to nice words, forever pleasing others, and so on. All these behaviours are not in truth who we really are so to live like this we have to package ourselves in very unnatural and often very uncomfortable ways.

  27. All too often we present a false bravado or face to the world that is a facade to cover what we are really feeling underneath.

  28. My personal packaging is so very well polished, crafted since childhood so that what you get does not cause offence, will fit in, and will be liked. I had not realised that it also has the effect of hiding who I truly am and continues the lie that so many of us live in.

    1. What is super weird is that we hide who we are when who we are is glorious beyond any possible false packaging!

  29. Yesterday, I bought a hat and was offered an elaborate hat box that bore no resemblance to the simplicity of the hat and had to be constructed to form the box. The gem was the hat, not the box. The hat box symbolised packaging we use to protect ourselves from the outside world that conceals the very essence of who we are.

  30. Dianne your blog is a great expose of just how much is concealed beneath fancy packaging in our world today. It is well time for us to become aware of this and to take a look beneath all wrappings including our own, to see what we are allowing ourselves to be hoodwinked by.

    1. Yes, agreed Elizabeth. Does our apparently ‘evolved society’ with its grand buildings and amazing technology hide the fact that in truth, our relationships lack love, we still wage war just as much as we ever did and that we have very high incidences of illness and disease. It may all be going on in nice buildings but is that really any measure of evolution?

  31. Well you have certainly ‘unpacked’ much of the world in your wonderfully wise blog Dianne. And I especially can relate to the personal unpacking, something I have been working at in my own life. It was an easy choice to make when I realised how exhausting it was to stay packaged up, pretending to be someone else instead of the amazing me.

  32. This is a great conversation to have in regards to packaging. Plastic of all kinds has become the scourge of the world it is every where polluting our seas, rivers and land. I saw recently a video that had been taken of a riven in the pacific and it was swollen with plastic garbage and the army had to be called in to clear it up. We don’t seem to realise just how precious the worlds eco system is and the fact that we have only one world. There is no where else to go, so you would think that we would take greater care of it. But I guess as we do not take care of ourselves we are hardly likely to take care of the planet. To me the two go hand in hand if we take care of ourselves we will naturally take care of the planet.

  33. It’s a brilliant observation Diane, and one that invites us to see the truth of how many layers we have built of deception and protection, not realising that these layers are the only thing that are hurting and threatening us.

  34. This weekend Serge Benhayon made a comment about how silly it is that we live in a world where we can not do without having everything wrapped. This is the same with who we are, we have created a character that is void of our essence as a protective ‘wrapper’.

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