Our Charities: How Charitable Are They?

I was recently invited to write an article on ‘service to others’ for my yoga organisation’s magazine. This led me to ponder on what ‘service’ means. For me, and I suspect for many, the idea of ‘service’ is tied in with charities – either doing voluntary work for charities, or giving them money.

When I looked around me at the main charities in New Zealand and the public events they run/sponsor, or are run in their name to raise money, such as the ‘Ride to Conquer Cancer’ (a two day cycle ride to benefit the Cancer Society), ‘Fit for Life’ (a boxing event between celebrity non-boxers, to raise money for nominated charities) and raffles (Heart Foundation), I began to wonder what ‘service’ they were actually offering to the world and started to ask myself the following questions:

  • Is it “true service” to sponsor an event that asks participants to cycle for two whole days, camping on the ground overnight?
  • Is it “true service” to ask people to box who are not professional boxers, even setting aside the known dangers of boxing?
  • Is it “true service” to encourage people to gamble?

It appeared to me that many of the events run by our charities could be putting people’s bodies and minds at risk!

For example, if I feel a certain charity is doing amazing work in the area of health and I want to support it by organising a fund-raising event, would I organise a cycle or running race that I know will compromise the bodies of those racing: in other words, that would be detrimental to their health? Would the purpose of raising money be enough to compensate for the harm to the participants in the race?

Is it “true service” to give money to charities?

There are many statistics that point to the huge amount of money going into administration of our charities, e.g. large CEO salaries, plus staff salaries, travel expenses and office expenses. Sometimes I understand these expenses take up 85% of the money coming in! Plus, the bigger charities now often engage consultants to fund-raise for them and I understand these consultants take 50% of the money raised! Therefore, if I donate money to charities, how much of this money would actually go to people in need?

Is it possible that our charities are not as charitable as we think they are? Is it possible that the current charity business model is a band-aid fix?

Why do people volunteer to work for charities? What is their motive for doing so? Could it be for:

  • Recognition (many do indeed receive medals or honours);
  • From boredom or a feeling of being unfulfilled;
  • Out of guilt, feeling they have in the past gained at another’s expense;
  • From a desire to “do good”; or perhaps
  • From a need to please others?

It feels to me that to truly serve, first of all I have to be aware of what my intentions are. Through presentations offered by Serge Benhayon, founder of Universal Medicine, I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility i.e. I must be the love I would like the world to be.

As “Everything is energy and everything is because of energy” (Serge Benhayon), perhaps we first have to change the energy in which we approach service to others, as change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.

This feels important because, if I am trying to “please others” or “do good” as my initial intention, this is not truly making it about serving humanity, but rather about self-gain and, in the words of Isaac Newton, “for every force/action, there is an equal and opposite force/reaction” – therefore the energy is never truly changing and we are left stuck on the same merry-go-round of problems, and solutions that are only ever temporary band-aids.

And hence, is giving money and clothes to those in need enough?

If it was, then the trillions of dollars that have been poured into Africa, through charities and governments, since the end of European colonisation would have made a bigger difference to the lives of African people. There is still much poverty and hardship in most African countries.

It is clear we need another way to serve those in need, perhaps one that would empower the people who we are aiming to serve, rather than treating them as a ‘charity case’? This way perhaps they would be able to make true and lasting change, so that eventually they would not need the charity of others.

Empowering those in need could look like the following… Maybe I am an awesome organiser and could share ways to be organised and ordered, in a loving way, without any judgement of how others live? Or perhaps I have the ability to teach (present) skills and behaviours and support others by truly connecting to them, listening to them without judgement, accepting where they are at, and supporting them to re-connect to their true selves, knowing that they are equal to me in every way and that their very essence (their core/centre) is simply love, which could perhaps inspire them to make changes to their behaviours and routines that are more supportive for them?

What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?

Would this then not be true service and therefore true charity?

Inspired by the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Anne Scott, Lifestyle Consultant, Esoteric Healing Practitioner, Yoga Teacher and Mediator, Auckland

Further Reading:
Charities exposed for Cold-calling: What is True Charity?
College of Universal Medicine: A World First Volunteer Model
Universal Medicine – People’s Choice Award: True Service, True Business Model & About People

824 thoughts on “Our Charities: How Charitable Are They?

  1. Charity is a bit like deciding to go on an intensive fasting retreat while eating junk food the whole time, then coming home feeling whiter than white. We are attracted to the good to make up for the bad we think we are living.

  2. Could it be possible charity begins at home and when we are Living a True way of being then this is all that is needed as no one can save us and we all have our own relationship with evolution? And if so illuminating Judgement!

  3. “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity . . . ” I like that – perhaps this first focus on what our intentions are can also have an effect on everything we do in our day to day lives. Maybe our world would look differently.

  4. There is so much corruption in the many well known charity organisations which highlights to me, money is not the answer for solving world poverty. The only currency that can make a difference is love and truth, and this is what can fuel us to put a stop to the cause of poverty and go direct to the root cause.

  5. It is amazing how willing we are to distract ourselves from addressing the real issues at hand most likely because it requires us to honestly address our irresponsibility in all that we have surrounded ourselves with and are currently facing as a humanity. Doing ‘good’ is a great way for us to think all is OK as long as we are at least trying to make a difference. Yet in truth we are dishonouring what the truth is and what is truly needed to arrest the ill-momentum or consciousness that has driven us to be in situations in which we are unwell or living in standards that impede our innate way of being. True service is living our truth with the love we are in which we then naturally support others to live the truth of who they are be it directly or by way of inspiration.

    1. Brilliant Carola, great to expose how we can easily hide behind a mask of ‘doing good’ to avoid responsibility and avoid living our truth.

  6. Great exposure of our current charity model which has many flaws and as you so rightly point out e.g. in Africa many charities have had limited positive impact on the lives of those they are supposedly trying to help. It is very imposing to dictate to others how they need to be helped instead of working together to make the changes they feel would be most beneficial.

  7. It is pretty obvious to me that putting more and more money into charitable organisations is not delivering the goods so I agree it is time we reviewed this.

  8. “Is it “true service” to give money to charities?” Great question as many of us give to charity to feel better about ourselves by doing what we think is good, however how many of us are discerning enough to look into how the charity works and how they spend their money and does it truly support humanity.

    1. Yes no matter what we do, whether it is paid or voluntary, official business or everyday life, big picture stuff or minutiae of details of daily life, if we do it with love we are having a charitable effect on the world.

  9. This is a great topic to explore, and one that makes me feel uncomfortable. I guess I am struggling to find the ‘right’ thing to do and how to be with and in the world with everything that is going on, and in that I can feel a seeking of solution, my investment in creation – for the world to be a better place for everyone.

  10. “change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.” True charity is to respond to the call of brotherhood.

  11. I do think it’s very worthwhile to not be blinded by the ideal or desire of ‘doing good’, to not lose sight of the whole picture and consider all aspects of the process and the impact on everyone involved along the way.

  12. It simply does not make sense to me to have the lion’s share of money raised for a particular charity being spent on wages and running costs. For transparency maybe every time we give money to a charity we should be informed with accurate figures of the last financial years activity and exactly how much money went to the actual person / place in need of the charity.

  13. Am I still often puzzled why we champion people putting their bodies at risk, not respecting the limits their body communicates and putting themselves in extreme circumstances for the sake of charity. How can anyone benefit from something that harms the body of another? This is not possible and it is time we start to admit that. Thank you for your contribution, Anne.

  14. “if I am trying to “please others” or “do good” as my initial intention, this is not truly making it about serving humanity, but rather about self-gain” Bam, and the truth be told. Honest, powerful and true – and you are not alone in that one, but maybe one of the few who dare to say so publicly.

  15. Raising money makes those raising the money feel good though it seems that nothing really changes, if anything things are getting more extreme.

  16. It is ironic that charities espousing to be caring, supportive and helping of others by asking people to potentially harm their bodies.

  17. That’s a great point too Elizabeth, our intention in giving money to charities is equally as important as the intention of the charity itself.

  18. Charities are known to not be all that charitable when inspected a little more closely and engage in some very dubious fund raising activities that are aimed at gaining recognition and even notoriety, all under the guise of doing good but in truth never changing the underlying issues.

  19. It’s great how you’ve brought the question of intention to the forefront when it comes to charity, I reckon a high percentage of charity is actually done not to truly serve and support another but for self-gratification and a sense we’re “doing good in the world”. It could be a great practice to first review our intention and our integrity before we act so we can ascertain if our actions do come from a place of true charity or if were actually doing it for ourselves. For example – how does running a marathon for charity or climbing a mountain actually truly help anyone? And if it was truly about helping someone why not give them the money directly – it just demonstrates how often when we give something we want something back.

  20. Charities are now about making money not about true service. They do what ever they think is necessary to appeal to the public to donate, without considering what is true for the whole and true service. I belonged to a breast cancer charity that initially was nearly all run by volunteers but once it started to grow I could feel how it drifted from its true intention, which was to support those with breast cancer to how to raise money to keep paying the staff that were involved in the charity. I eventually left because I could see it was going the same way as all the other charities. As you show, Anne, money is not enough, it may make people feel good, but all it does is feed the hungry directors of the charities but does very little to change the lives of the people it is raising it for. We need to start questioning where the money goes and what is the true intention of a charity before dipping into our pockets thinking we are being charitable and helping the needy.

  21. This is gold Anne ‘I must be the love I would like the world to be.’ The more humanity wakes up to this truth I am sure we will see the world change enormously as love has been the missing ingredient all along.

  22. It is not and never will be money that changes our world. It can only ever be people truly supporting people that will.

  23. If we look closely at many of initiatives put out by so-called charity organisations, it becomes quite clear that their intention may not be where they say it is. And if we are equally coming from the place of self-gain, recognition, boredom etc. we would not know the difference, or perhaps we do and just let them pass. Siding with doing good does not excuse not being true.

  24. This is a brilliant blog Anne exposing the charities that appear to be doing ‘good’ but often can be doing more harm in most cases. To empower people is indeed what is needed to the current model and to support those in need to makes steps that provide true and lasting change.

  25. There is definitely a place for charity in the world, but I agree with you I think we’ve got charity quite wrong at the moment. This line says it all: “It appeared to me that many of the events run by our charities could be putting people’s bodies and minds at risk!” It makes you wonder what exactly we are supporting.

  26. We recently had a cake morning to raise money for a cancer charity. I know this topic has been raised before, however we all know the links that are being made between lifestyle and food choices and diseases like cancer. Eating cake in support of cancer does not feel congruent.

  27. The other day I was contemplating a scenario where people were going into sympathy with someone who was presenting a PD course to them. The person presenting was from a different racial background to those in the room, they were super solid in their presentation and didn’t ask for sympathy. When the audience went into sympathy it was dismissive of what this person was presenting and held them as lesser. It had a feeling of supremacy to it, I also contemplated what this would feel like to the presenter and how it would be easy for him to go into giving up or reacting because people were not seeing him and listening to what he was saying. So many charities are set up from sympathy and wanting to ‘rescue’ people which actually caps them and encourages them to stay in that cycle as it does not meet them as an equal and empower them to know that they are capable of making different choices if they want too.

  28. ” ‘service to others’ ” For me one can only be of service if their understanding to support people is a ” hand up and not a hand out.”

  29. This blog brings something important to the fore: unless we are clear regarding what true service is all about, we have no way to be aware the truth of what do charities deliver so to be able to review our relationship with them.

  30. “be the love I would like the world to be” Many years ago I was working on an international project and the representative from Bangladesh said to me ‘The problem with International Aid makes the Government look outside for handouts instead of looking within the country and its people to support and solve its own problems.’ When disaster strikes there is always a call for support but in the everyday the greatest support is to inspire others with love to take responsibility for themselves.

  31. Whether we are poor or rich if we do not choose the connection to ourselves and to God first then the consciousness of living in poverty or with wealth has to be one of the same… we have no right to feel righteous because we are comfortable.

  32. There is a big difference between empowering and imposing onto another. Treating others as victims disempowers and whenever we find ourselves in the momentum of this behaviour we have an investment. Whenever I go into sympathy I have to ask myself ‘what is it that I need?’ as it comes from self?… there is not one ounce of love in sympathy.

  33. A brilliant sharing Anne on a topic that I have myself pondered on greatly in particular the many charity events that are based on participants pushing their bodies to the finish line. True service is being responsible for how we move and the energy in which we move. It is from here we can gauge what our purpose is and bring true change through our own movements and skills to support others in this way.

  34. How often have we given money to charity without knowing what or how they spend it, we have a responsibility too, by insuring that what we give truly makes a difference, and that it is not a way to ease our conscience by simply doing something we think is ‘good’, and makes us feel better, because good doesn’t mean that there is truth.

  35. I agree with you Anne you have brought absolute truth to charities. “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?”

  36. It’s a great question to ask regarding why oftentimes the way money is raised for charity involves putting the people involved in danger or doing something harmful – is there no other way we can raise the money??

  37. ‘Pleasing others’ and ‘Doing good’ does not necessarily always equate to true empowerment and providing the quality of care that others actually need.

  38. Sounds more real to me Anne. I don’t understand the charity events myself…they feel like a huge contradiction to me.

  39. It can be quite controversial to question how charitable a charity truly is as they are seen to be at least intending to ‘do good’ but I think it is important to truly consider what the activity and intent of a charity is – not through trying to undermine the work that people do but through being very honest with ourselves about what energy is behind the work and what effect that is having on people so that we can assess if it is truly helping and assisting people to evolve…

  40. We have been made to believe that service is a doing or an act that requires us to give either time or money to those in need when in truth service is about responsibility for ourselves in the way we live, the quality of our movements, the intention behind our actions and offering this reflection of living to those around us, for how can we change the world if there is no true inspiration for all?

  41. When charities start cold calling people in an attempt to raise money, we need to ask ourselves are they still acting as a charity? When 85% of the money they raise goes towards their business, how then are they serving the community and is serving the community their primary goal?

  42. When we give money to a charity we think we are supporting that cause and those who are in need – but we need to see how most (if not all) of the problems in the world are age old or the same thing being reproduced with variations, and as a species we have not been able to choose a way of living that would arrest that cycle of recreating the same scenario over and over and over, and care for others as our absolute equal with no investment in outcome whatsoever.

  43. Charity-giving is often a way for people to feel better – and less guilt-ridden about the fortunate lives they have in comparison. It is all about doing ‘good’. Charities have recently been in the news in the UK, on account of cold-calling and even duping people into giving. Just how much of the money gifted goes to the actual people in need, when salaries, advertising etc are taken into account? .

  44. “It is clear we need another way to serve those in need, perhaps one that would empower the people who we are aiming to serve, rather than treating them as a ‘charity case’? This way perhaps they would be able to make true and lasting change, so that eventually they would not need the charity of others.” Yes indeed, for example enabling farmers etc to grow food from seed, or enabling people to start a small business – maybe raising chickens etc – rather than just giving food – year after year. Enabling people to feel empowered, rather than relying on hand-outs, and stopping dependency.

  45. When I was younger I always thought that charities were evil, I had a feeling that they pretend to be nice just so that people feel good about themselves, now the more I grow up, I realise that I was actually very accurate in my assessment!

  46. I feel that charities are not all they are cracked up to be – it is easy to jump on a bandwagon, get all enthusiastic and feel the relief that it brings when doing ‘good’, but as you say, a lot of the money raised goes into salaries and associated admin expenses and on top of that, people’s motivations are not always clear; they can range from guilt to ticking boxes to looking for something to do. And even though that may be applauded by some, it might not be what true service is about.

  47. I love that the corruption in ‘charity’, along with the unloving motives that abound are getting more and more exposed… for there are many genuine people in need of true support that are being denied this through the current structure we have allowed to be the model in place that is at the expense of true service.

  48. It is very true, we have to understand why we are doing what we are doing. I feel there is a very clear mutual benefit with volunteers. I am a regular volunteer in many organisations and I equally work with and manage volunteers. In both cases I can see how we can benefit from the practical experience, the time and work ethic commitment and respecting that just because I am not being paid there is no less focus on commitment, the comeraderie and the relationships. At the root of it all there has to be integrity in the charity though.

  49. I volunteer for a charity two days a week and in the last six months or so we have had several changes, they all seem to be heading toward commercialism and the standard of quality of care has certainly dropped. This means conversations bringing up the points you have shared here are quite frequent now. I see this as a welcome step and an opportunity for all of us to look more closely at what we are doing and why.

  50. Great post Anne, you raise so many questions about how charitable are charities truly. I find it amazing how many charities expect people to walk, cycle or run and push their bodies to unusual lengths. All done for a charitable ’cause’. Equally, fund-raising coffee mornings – fuel the participants with caffeine and cakes chock full of sugar. Neither of these practices support the avoidance of cancer, when we are advised to avoid stress and reduce sugar consumption, which feeds cancer growth.

  51. “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?” – this has recently been seen with how Michael Benhayon and Miranda Benhayon produced a song for the support of raising funds for local businesses in Lismore after the Lismore Flood that happened recently in March/April 2017. They were joined by Clayton Lloyd with his filming and made a video combined with the song that has been instrumental (pun unintended) in supporting with donations for people who have lost everything in this disaster. This is a perfect example of using our skills and time to support a community to re-build itself and feel empowered in doing so. There are many more that have assisted as able bodied people with the clean up of the town once the waters receded. Amazing to see how true service can really bring the support people need!

  52. I once worked for a charity and the way employees were treated was very uncharitable- going against the core value that the organisation said that they stood for. If we do not live what we say we provide as a service then in truth we do not offer the service we say we do.

  53. Thank you Anne – it may not be a popular thing to question the intention behind what we’re doing when it is seemingly for the benefit of others but I do think we need to be willing to ask these deeper questions of ourselves, not from place of doubting what we do but being truly honest about the energy that comes with what we’re doing. And when it feels like it is truly to assist others then great and let’s appreciate that and when actually it’s not let’s be equally as honest about that.

  54. This is a really interesting breakdown and conversation to be had about the true activity of charities, and whether our contribution to ‘doing good’ is really doing ourselves or those we’re donating to much good at all! Of course there is a way to give back to communities and support humanity through charitable work, but perhaps our current models of charity are missing a trick in regards to remembering that it’s about people first and foremost, including the people doing activities/fundraisers for charity AND the CEOs and businessmen behind the scenes. We can’t simply give money or run a marathon and give ourselves a gold star; everything thereafter and behind the scenes matters.

  55. It is so true Anne. Money and clothes, although granted helpful in some cases to a point, are mostly not the answer or offer the true support needed. The greatest support we can offer each other is to meet and hold another in the equal great love that they are, and offering guidance and support so that we can be more aware of and take responsibility for the choices we are making, supporting and empowering each other to be more love. For it is empowering to realise that we are the ones that make the choices that determine the degree of our love in our lives.

  56. The sympathy that is going around in charities is harming for everyone, your questions are there for very needed to bring an awareness of what is truly going on. Every charity has to come from the knowing that we are all equal regardless how our circumstances in life are and from an observation what is true service in any situation.

  57. True charity can only come when we are living our lives in connection and thus reflecting that to others, in this way we can empower others to make truer choices for themselves in the knowing that they are best placed to feel that for themselves.

  58. This is a great exposure of how the intentions behind so many charities are not about true service and therefore it is not surprising that there has been so little positive effect, for example, in Africa. It is only when we are willing to examine our motives for giving to charity, both money and time, that we can start to look at how we can truly support others rather than using it to feel good about ourselves. Feels like this is a trap to keep us away from brotherhood as there is no equality in charity just people imposing on others what they have judged is needed.

  59. ‘I must be the love I would like the world to be.’ Yes, agreed Anne. The endless solutions offered by the multitude of causes, charities, programs and projects are in effect just surface solutions – the overall trajectory mankind is on is, despite these interventions, is a downward one. Like you, I have been inspired by the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine and know that I can effect true change simply by living a different way – one that others can see and feel and be similarly inspired by. Change, one person at a time.

  60. Charities increasingly need to hang their product on an eye-catching hook to achieve ‘cut through’ in an increasingly crowded market place, just like businesses with a commercial focus. Hence the increasingly incongruous and disturbing pairings of cause and event. Raising funds and or awareness is big business these days and yes, ironically, anything goes, despite the caring persona the charitable sector likes to project. Promoting brutality in order to raise support seems a step way too far though.

  61. “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?” Beautifully said Anne. Since learning about the inner workings of many charities I have become very cynical about their true worth – and have rescinded many of my regular donations. I now volunteer my time instead – no cash involved.

  62. I think we need this way of “helping others” so that we feel that we do something for humanity. I would say that it’s hard to know how to truly help another when our own lives aren’t such a pretty picture. I think most of the times the ones we try to help would be better off if we weren’t there actually.

  63. Giving to charity is regarded as ‘a good thing’ to do in society today. The reason so many people do so is to assuage their guilt for having a better life – and often to look good. What is the quality of our donation when we give from sympathy – let alone knowing that very little of our cash actually reaches the true recipient- after the payment of high wages to the CEOs and the corruption along the route. What are the ethical principles upheld by most charities? Do they even have them?

  64. True charity should be something you live, and not just something you give to in order to make yourself feel better, or to appease your sense of dis-ease that comes from having dedicated your whole life to your own.

  65. Empowering each person to live in the essence they are is the clear true charity our world has needed for eons. Much has to change for this to become an accepted way, as not only those in need of charity abuse it, as this article explores personal investments in offering charities support is keeping the system stuck in the energy of saviour and victim.

  66. Without self-love and self-responsibility how can it be possible to truly serve? I know that when I have felt agitated and reactive it has felt horrible but worse still I have tried to cover it up and pretended to be nice. I question how much of this emotional behaviour goes on in doing charity work.

  67. We can examine our relationship with charity, not just in regards to established ‘charities’ and their activities, but also in the way that we relate to each other. When I offer a ‘helping hand’ to another, and see them as less than equal to me, needing of ‘me’ in order to affect some change in their life, then I am in the illusion of false charity. This can occur in a myriad of ways in our every day, if we are but willing to truly see…
    When I offer assistance, from the foundational knowing that my fellow brother has every capacity equal to me, then that is a very different intent and also, activity and relationship that then may ensue.

  68. We have set up a paradigm for ‘charity’ that appears to give us a ‘pay off’. If I buy that raffle ticket, or donate to that cause, I am offered a momentary ‘feel good’ moment. “I’ve now done my bit.”
    What you have exposed here Anne, is that this is completely illusionary in terms of ‘doing our bit’, if by our own living way, we do not represent the change that would truly serve another.
    The endemic corruption in charity, along with fundamentally obvious lack of any true inspired change engendered in so many cases, needs to be seen for what it is: a ‘feel good moment’ that has justified itself so brilliantly, that few dare to question the foundation upon which it rests.

    1. Well said Victoria. That feel good moment is a bluff, a sleight of hand distraction that stops us from feeling the foundational energy that Charities are based on. There is always that little ‘thing’ given to us to fluff up our feathers, whether it be a ‘ball’ in aid of the charity, a prize for entering, or even just the little ‘feel good’ moment which disguises what the charity actually feels like and is based on, and quells the deep unease we carry continually because we have stepped away from our divinity.

  69. Anne Scot, amazing question simply because what we put in , will come out.. And so if we come from sympathy (which is a judgement) we are not coming from understanding or love of why people are in a certain situation. It is super interesting to see beyond what we can see and feel deeper into why things occur, so we can truly heal and support others to heal.. And no longer come from these images, ideals and judgements that only hold us away from truly evolving!

  70. Its very exposing that charities are not all that good they are made out to be, yet few people want to hear that charities don’t work as it is a handy way to think we are doing good for a cause, often one close to our hearts. Yet I love the idea that we can be charitable by supporting others with the qualities we each have. So if we have a particular skill or personality trait then sharing that with others is a real contribution to a better more highly functioning society.

  71. This is a brilliant question Anne “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity? We need to stop and fully appreciate and understand the fact that we have all been given the gift of eyes to see, ears to hear and a heart to understand.

  72. An awesome blog Anne and you raise some great points around what true charity is, for us to consider more deeply. I met a man many years ago who worked closely with a well-known charity, he exposed to me how much of the money wasn’t really spent where it was needed, that a great deal of the money went on admin costs and providing many company members with luxurious cars. After this I began to realise that charity begins in my own backyard, by beginning to live in a more responsible and loving way I can offer support and inspiration that extends far greater and positively affects those around me more than donating to any charity.

  73. Charity seems to be one of those untouchable things we don’t question, like the image of Mother Theresa, yet as you point out the acts of charities may ignore much greater and vital truths, like what is the underlying intention truly, and are they disempowering or empowering those they claim to serve? It’s possible that under the assumption of “doing good” we can miss the lack of true integrity.

  74. You have shared some brilliant points here Anne and it really brings a greater understanding of true service and charity. The way we live plays a big role in the quality we hold in whatever we do and how we move. Our true inspiration lies in the quality of our living way. By lovingly supporting ourselves we can in turn support another to move forward and share more inspiration and experiences too, the flow on effect is magic.

  75. As I read this blog I had the feeling that true charity is a way of living rather than a list of charitable acts and donations etc. When we live true charity we are reflecting a self-loving and self-empowering way of being in this life, and that is worth its weight in gold when it inspires others to make similar choices. I am the man I am today because of another man who lives ‘true charity’ and who inspired me to choose that way for myself. He is Serge Benhayon – a man who epitomises true charity in every way.

  76. A great point you raise here Anne. Are we engaging in a charities for self, for the need to ‘feel good’ or be good, or to receive recognition? Or does it come from a place of Love, humbleness and deep care for the well-being of humanity, so that what is shared is in support of another to evolve and be the Love they are.

  77. Is it “true service” to give money to charities? A great question Anne, a question we need to ask ourselves whenever we are asked to give money, goods or services to charities; large, small, formal or informal. Another vital question is what is our intention and motive behind the giving, indeed what are we giving?
    Lots to ponder on here Anne.

  78. I find the movie ‘Gabriel’ is a great example of what is true service and what is not. In the movie the angels who have come to earth to be of service to mankind all give up or fall a false version of service. The angel who runs a soup kitchen claims that at least he is doing something to help, yet what he is doing changes nothing. As Gabriel comments, the soup kitchen is nothing compared to what we came here to do, to bring light back for mankind in dark times.

  79. I recently had a guy come door knocking for a charity. After he finished telling me about what they do and the effect this has had, I said that I don’t donate to charities. He didn’t seem surprised by this and asked if it was because charities are so wasteful with money. He said that a lot of people have now become aware that a big percentage of donations go to administration. It’s great that we are becoming aware of these practical facts but for most of us, I think we are still pretty sold on people doing good and helping others. It was not until I started to feel the energy behind ‘good’ that I realised that it doesn’t actually change or heal the underlying cause for anyone.

  80. What if instead of donating money to charities we used that money for our own self care? Is this selfish or is it responsible? It is not more responsible to take care of ourselves so that we present to the world a body that is capable of truly serving – offering a reflection to which others can be inspired? Of course when you have ample money there are responsible choices but responsible choices do not always mean throwing money at something.

  81. To me there has always been an irony in charities asking for money through events which, quite honestly, knock the stuffing out of their participants! It just shows to me the absurdity in the glorification of punishing our bodies because we feel like we get recognition out of doing something ‘good’! What ‘good’ are we actually doing, and what ‘good’ can come out of self disregard?

  82. I have always been skeptical about giving money to charities as I don’t trust the money always gets to those that need it. The point you make about how we throw ourselves into grueling events to raise money is a good one.

    1. I agree Suse, ‘doing good’ is more self serving that actually doesn’t offer any true service to another.

  83. It’s a great reminder that I get from reading this – And that is we think we want or need to do good in this world but the greatest good would be to just be ourselves since everyone of us has so much to give by just being ourselves. We all have unique qualities that others could benefit from.

  84. There is a lot to think about here, Anne, as there are so many ideals and beliefs about charity and the “do gooding” associated with it. I love the point you make about how we often abuse our bodies in “charity” events to raise money for others who are also often living in a state of self abuse. This does not make any sense!

  85. ‘Charity begins at home’ This took me to the dictionary wondering what the root of the word charity was and I find that the dictionary tells me it is from the Latin caritas which means affection from carus meaning dear. Yes it is about caring so charity is about deeply caring.

  86. What you have exposed here Anne, when charity/service comes from need, recognition or misguided intention, is very revealing; harming on all levels.
    I love that you have highlighted when we are truly in service we are truly connected to our inner love and wisdom.

  87. I agree in order to truly serve we do need absolute clarity on what our intentions are and if any want of recognition is there etc, then this is not truly serving. Also we need a true understanding about energy, as presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, because if we are really honest with all the money that has been poured into charities over time, and we are talking billions if not trillions, nothing has changed. In fact I would say it has got worse. I love the examples you gave in how we could truly empower people instead.

  88. I used to donate to a children’s charity for a few years in the past, but didn’t like the regular phone calls informing me of the suffering and the guilt trip that the caller was trying to take me into so that I would donate again. I could also feel my part in it and what I felt I was getting out of doing that, which did not feel good at all. By supporting my need, I was supporting that consciousness.

  89. As you share Anne, Empowering people to adjust their lives, to essentially help them to support themselves is definitely the answer to the out of hand charity model we have today.

  90. It’s awesome to provide the basics for people such as food, shelter and clothes when in need but it is far more awesome to teach them the skills so they can build a life to provide those same basics for themselves and then pass those skills on to others, who in turn pass those skills onto others again and so on. If we ever want to break the cycle of poverty, we have to empower people so they may responsibly care for themselves then extend that care to others.

  91. This is spot on and an excellent expose on charities. You are correct in saying that it doesn’t make sense to put one person’s body at risk to raise money for another. And what I notice is often in fundraising, sure it is for a cause, but mostly I observe that people actually do it for themselves, for example it’s something they’ve always wanted to do. And if the money we raise and donate largely doesn’t reach the people we are trying to support then surely something is not right here.

  92. If 85% of monies donated is getting caught up in the administration costs of running a charity, how charitable is it really to the people or cause it is supposedly supporting?

  93. Wow Anne, I hadn’t really considered in full the detail of how all the money donated to charities is distributed and how much actually reaches the source it is apparently aiming to support. Maybe the government should legislate a proviso that to be transparent and considered legal all charities need to document and display on every ticket they sell or fundraiser they organise how much and more specifically what portion of that money in both the last 12 months, and overall has actually reached the people it is supposed to be helping, and of course how much got swallowed up in administrative costs.

  94. It is so uncharitable how charities are run, and then there are those contributing to charities as a way of appeasing their guilt or distract themselves from the fact that we are not speaking up about things that need speaking up about and it’s easier to throw some money at it and just get on with our lives. We really do need true charity within our communities, then the money donated will be placed where the call is that serves all and not a little for those in need and the rest for the associations that run them.

  95. I love the simple examples you give Anne of everyday skills that we could empower others: “Maybe I am an awesome organiser and could share ways to be organised and ordered, in a loving way, without any judgement of how others live“ and what truly clinches it for me is the quality that you qualified this with “support others by truly connecting to them, listening to them without judgement, accepting where they are at, and supporting them to re-connect to their true selves, knowing that they are equal to me in every way and that their very essence (their core/centre) is simply love, which could perhaps inspire them to make changes to their behaviours and routines that are more supportive for them” . This to me is what is true charity – one that truly empowers.

  96. How many true charities are there in the world? I expect very few. As you have pointed out Anne, for what ever reason we are generally in it for some gain or to makes us feel better about ourselves. There is so much corruption in charity that money and food often ends up in the wrong hand just making matters worse.

  97. I love what you are offering here to contemplate regarding charities… for without first being responsible for our intention, the charity we offer will always be laced with what is not true and therefore not contribute to the true change that will really support those in need.

  98. Anne this article is gold.
    Having worked in and for charitable organisations in the past I know that my intentions at the time were to ‘do good’ and from a place where I was struggling myself in life and could temporarily feel better by being the one to bring something to another however it was in an energy that I was more and they were less and no true change or empowerment was offered, particularly when I was really using this work as an escape from committing to deal with my own issues – not a great reflection to those seeking assistance for the very thing I was not willing to give to myself!
    I have recently commenced a new job in a service focussed industry and your article is timely to remind me to check in with my intentions, and to continue to do so periodically so that I may be truly in service. The same applies in my family, community and all my relationships and activities. Thank you.

  99. Amazing blog Anne. What has become very clear to me after reading this blog is the silliness of having a dangerous or health risking event like boxing for a charity to do good to others. What reflection does this give to others? As you say true charity would be to live in a way that is inspiring others to live lovingly with themselves not to put our own bodies through the dangers of boxing.

  100. This blog raises the issue of really discerning the energy or intent behind any organisation

  101. Here you have it – the answer that everyone is truly seeking for – ” true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility” – we are so removed from what we truly know and what we know is our truth by a world full of distraction and comfort. We are happy falling away at the way side and not caring how this actually impacts our self let along anyone else. This self indulged existence will lead to one very unsatisfied and dis-contented life. Serge Benhayon presents the practical ways of living a life that is based on Love and Truth. I now know where I am and what my true potential is, thanks to Serge Benhayon when I don’t choose Love and Truth it hurts and I can feel the lie staring me in the face.

  102. Sometimes we are so caught up in the idea of something, we fail to see it makes little sense in reality. Perhaps this is because we have distorted our view of what reality is, so that over time it has become very common to accept the unreal as real, when it is not.

  103. I love this blog Anne and all you present/expose within it. We are love first before we are anything else and so it follows that our first point of call is to be this love before we can express it in all that we do. In order to be love, we need to be clear of any investment, need or drive to be anything else. True charity is the ability to bring this love to others by virtue of what we are willing to live ourselves.

  104. I’ve just watched a programme in which it stated a few statistics which are plainly farcical. So Perth Royal Infirmary (UK) looked at 5 years of charity jumps. 174 people injured themselves jumping at a cost to the NHS of £600,000. This equated to every £1 raised for charity cost the NHS £13.75. The double irony being that 70% of those raising money were raising money for NHS related causes.

    1. Heavens to betsy Karin! These stats figures show and prove total insanity of behaviour. If it wasn’t so awful it would be so ridiculous and laughable. Thanks so much for sharing! May good old fashioned common sense prevail for starters, and self-care being to come into it.

    2. That’s incredible Karin. I have often wondered about the recent pursuit of charities to do extreme exercise events to raise money. Even though it is in the so called “spirit of fun”, is it really being charitable if those raising money are putting themselves in harm’s way? I wonder if a high level of care and respect was part of the way funds are raised, could this begin to change the face of charity organisations?

  105. Anne I just like to re mind myself now and then of the way some charities are run. I have been commiting some money to a few charities over the year even though I am not well off. I have realised this is not necessarily true giving as it has been done with some trepidation on my part.

  106. I often hear the phrase ‘doing it for charity’ as if that makes whatever is being asked of us OK as the means justifies the end result which is to raise money. What is also alarming these days is how aggressive charities have become in trying to compete with each other in the grab for money from the public. Some days I can receive up to 5 phone calls from different organisations all asking for donations. As you point out so well in your blog Anne – it’s definitely well worth asking ourselves about the intentions (our own and organisationally) behind what is largely big business.

  107. A great article Anne. Just how charitable are our charities when they so plainly champion self abuse under a “the end justifies the means” mentality?
    Universal Medicine for many years has been my marker of how all businesses should be run: with absolute integrity, love, care for and honouring of all people be it clients, suppliers, visitors, staff there is no difference- an absolute dedication to serve and support every single person in healing and deepening the love they are living. I was struck with how this quality in business is so alien to the norm, even in organisations that claim to be about serving people, such as charities. However over the last few years I have come across two charities that are run by people who have been inspired by how Universal Medicine runs its business and DO have the same focus on people – i.e. ALL people: one is College of Universal Medicine Charity and the other one is The Sound Foundation Community Care. Here are two charities that in my book honour that title through and through.

  108. Why do we only become charitable during disasters? Christmas, when it is cold out side for homeless, earthquakes, floods and other natural calamities, do these events tug on our heartstrings? Is there a need to appease ourselves that we did our bit so we can walk away? Is this where charities step in? Are some just a job to cash in on a lucrative opportunity that we provide? What would happen if we all cared about everyone all the time?

  109. Charities are about finding solutions for some problem that affect people and usually government does not recognise and treat diligently as a problem. Charities are also about constructing a face vis-a-vis society that says ‘We Care.’ That is why so much people collaborate with them. How much they really help? I do not know. How much do they care? I do not know. What I have learned with Universal Medicine is that the only thing that works to bring a change is helping them to empower in the understanding that empowering is always about allowing love in and being open to what develops. That is true charity, to return to someone something that belongs to all equally.

    1. If we had to be really honest with ourselves about the state of charities, I don’t think we would like what we see. Often the intention behind them is good, however it comes down to the quality in which everything is done, which is what is consistently lacking. Whilst we continue to look at groups of people with different labels; victims, carers, CEOs, volunteers, the list goes on, the equalness we all share as humans is lost. And so nothing is supported to be truly changed, for again it is built on unstable foundations created by another, rather than a unified truth shared by all.

  110. Many charities now canvas to raise money through direct debits from your bank. A few days ago someone told me she had set up a direct debit with a charity she felt to help and over the past few months has been constantly harassed to give even more money or support fund raising for this charity in other ways. By giving her details and supporting the charity she felt she was now being targeted in quite a forceful way and was considering withdrawing her direct debit. Fund raising seems to have changed a lot over the past twenty years – in some cases it has become much more pushy and imposing on people who are not in the least interested in their charity.

  111. Thank you Anne. The very word charity in the form we know it, conjures up dependency, victim and ‘do gooding’ images for me. True charity is not buying into the victim mentality and relating to people for the truth of who they are, as you have shared here Anne. We are all equally powerful and complete in ourselves – that truth never leaves us – we leave it!

  112. Amazing Anne. I recently got asked which charities I supported and when they read out the list of possible charities I was amazed as I knew some were truly doing a good service to the point that our society depended on them intrinsically for true quality of life. While others felt very different were definitely not providing the true service to society that some of the other charities were. Just because they are providing a service for a ‘good’ cause does not mean that the organisation itself is truly changing anything

  113. With all the trillions of dollars spent in Africa and as the conditions of the people have not improved, if not got worse in most cases, than before all the monies is proof that this form of charity does not work.

    1. True Jonathan. We only have to look at the lack of results of our efforts to realise that they are not working. It’s time to take a good look at what true charity really means.

  114. As the events of the world get more intense, we are going to really need more and more genuinely serving charities that actually support true and lasting change.

  115. What is there to be discovered is that when we truly connect with ourselves, true service becomes an innate part of our lives, as we realize the interconnectedness of everything, the separation starts to break down and then, how could one not but serve humanity whenever possible.

  116. A basic flaw in the modern charitable organisation, is the need for outcomes. Outcomes that can be promoted to gain funding, outcomes that can motivate the staff or voluntary workers, outcomes that can justify that this charity is worth investing in over another. We are sold the outcome paradigm, often under the name of good. Perhaps it is time we started asking some pretty big questions about what is the actual purpose of charity.

  117. Our relationship with charity seems to be like our relationship with health. All the medicine we have been throwing at illness and disease has not worked and all the charities we have been throwing at world issues have not resolved anything. Yet we have the dogged mind-set to continue in the same vein or to throw up our hands in defeat. In contrast over the last ten years I have heard some amazing revelations and insights on these topics from Serge Benhayon, with clear possibilities forward that not only make sense, but have been demonstrated to work in the lives of hundreds who have put them to the test in their own lives. It is time that we pay attention to such revelations, live with greater openness and responsibility, and stop hiding behind our comfortable positions. Because as it is, the whole of humanity is suffering and it is only getting worse.

  118. It is a great question that appears to continually go unanswered in today’s society……why do people give to charities? Is is to truly make a difference? Make themselves feel better as a human being? so therefore, quite selfish reasons for giving? Are people really interested to know where their money goes? Has anything really changed from the millions and billions given to charities over the past 10, 20 years….not really….so why are we not asking the question….why?

  119. It’s like we have narrowed down what true charity can be. The whole ‘giving money away’ ‘ walking for cancer’ etc feels far too narrow. When in comparison of inspiration simply by just sharing ourselves with others so that they can grow and learn from reflection without our need of or on them to ‘get it’ opens up charity and service to an unlimited amount of possibilities when you consider that we each have our own unique style in and with life and when connected to our inner-most that inner unity has billions of expressions.

  120. I read an article the other day abut how much money of what is raised by charities actually ends up in the hands of those that need it – and how much is spent on high paying salaries and so much other red tape. The numbers were astronomical. And you know what – If we actually were any closer to curing any kind of cancer, or mental illness, or ridding the world of poverty – then those getting paid big salaries would completely deserve it.

    But each time I look the figure just get worse and worse around the globe.

    1. This is very true simplesimon888; even those working ‘charitably’ have begun earning ‘fat cat salaries’, so nowadays you do have to wonder how many pennies in the charity jar are actually going towards the cause, or straight into someone’s pocket.

    2. The worst is not the astronomic amount of money the charities move. The worst is the illusion that this is the way. Is a cheap water down version of responsibility that brings self complacency to humanity.

      1. Totally agree Eduardo that the way charity currently operates is a cheap watered down version of responsibility which just allows complacency. WE pay our donation, and imagine that all is sorted – I’ve done my bit. When the running sore that lies underneath it all is still not addressed and healed.

      2. Very true Eduardo and Lyndy. My relationship with charities in the past have definitely been one that watered down responsibility and engrained complacency with a flavour of righteousness. It is astonishing that for many years I faithfully paid regular amounts to various charities because I liked what was offered as their mission statement, but not once did I bother to check what exactly the charities were doing and the actual impact of any efforts. It was as if I was relieved that I could say I have done my bit and wash my hands (or my thoughts) of the problem that I knew existed in my world.

  121. There comes a time when we have to get honest with why we are doing whatever activity it is we are doing. For example most people will feel that when they are upset or don’t like something they will go to food to “comfort eat” – the honesty in that is clear. Yet when it comes to charity and its current state before we can truly make a difference in the world we have to get honest and perhaps even truthful with why we are so invested in charity and what is the real driving force behind our involvement in it. It’s obvious charity is not working as nothing has changed yet are we looking at why?

  122. It seems that charities and helping others always comes at a cost and a profit made by someone. I have noticed with all the refugees coming by boat to Europe escaping war and persecution from their country’s… come with car inner tubes or brand new life vests! At this time there have been over ½ million refugees attempting this journey. We have for years sent shoes, clothes, grains and other required items to impoverished nations. Should we box up and send all of these ‘used once’ like new life vests?

  123. Giving money out of guilt or sympathy for those concerned is what many charities rely on. Neither of these ways are supportive to the people the money is raised for, but we fall for it by the way it is often presented by the charity itself, and the media who like to grab a story. We think we are ‘helping’ people but giving money is an easy way to feel good about ourselves without the responsibility and discernment of truly caring and supporting the people the money is for.

    1. Guilt plays a massive part in our contributions to charity, and what is it we are guilty about, I would say it could be that we know how we have been living is not as caring and understanding as it could be. Perhaps we have more to offer by living with deep care firstly for ourselves and then seeing how that spreads out to others. True charitable acts are long lasting and never a quick fix.

  124. You raise some important points here Anne how often have we heard how little of the money raised for charity actually gets to the people that it was raised for, disappearing into the pockets of those working for the charity in the form of salaries and expenses. Money is often raised out of sympathy and not from a true foundation of looking at the way to support the people it is for. I remember Band Aid all those years ago but little has really changed in the plight of those hungry and starving, it is still happening it is just that it is not given the press coverage that it used to get.

  125. Reading this line again it struck me what a profound realization it is –” I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility i.e. I must be the love I would like the world to be”. More and more I too am discovering that if we want something to change then we have to live that change first within ourselves. This is a great system really because that way we cannot blame others for anything. Whatever change we want starts with us.

    1. Hear hear Elizabeth, ‘I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility i.e. I must be the love I would like the world to be’. A very profound and yet beautifully simple statement.

  126. Change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service. This makes so much sense Anne as another expressing from their own self caring livingness is a quality that is felt and an inspiration indeed.

  127. I see so many crazy ‘in the name of charity’ events at work … yesterday was a donate a gold coin breakfast for a cancer charity…the breakfast was high sugar yoghurts, packaged sugary cereal and coffee. There is much research now showing that sugar is a toxin for the body and that it plays havoc in our bodies, possibly contributing to many illnesses, and so, for me it is a contradiction to eat high-sugar foods and then donate a gold coin for cancer prevention/cure.

    1. Absolutely Sandra. It shows how off-track we are as a society, and how we are held in ignorance because we deny the communication from our bodies about how it is detrimentally affected by such substances as sugar and coffee.

      1. Now there is a charitable act Lyndy, stopping consuming sugar or coffee… in all seriousness when I stopped consuming these products I was certainly much more able to contribute to society in a loving way, that is better than any charitable act in my view.

    2. It’s amazing and so crazy when you point out the irony behind a benefit/fundraising event containing items known to contribute to the issue that funds are being raised for. Yet as this is considered so normal its not questioned. Also if there was a true care or love the support would be there to help people understand how to take true care of themselves and their life.

      1. It goes to show David how much we really just do things that look like they are ticking the boxes – but have not really considered what the underlying truth is. There is such a lack of integrity in where we have let ourselves get to as a society.

    3. Agreed Jane, throwing money at a problem is not the answer…if it were, we would have fewer issues in society. And for any true change to take place, we have to get to the root cause and address that.

    4. Beautifully said Sandra. Many charities have as their aim to serve a group of people whether that be people with cancer, victims of domestic violence, children in orphanages or the many other people based charities around the world. If the fund raising event doesn’t also offer the participants and donators healing, truth or support to make different choices around their own health and wellbeing then they are essentially being used as cash cows. Harming or disregarding one group in order to benefit another. This is essentially ‘robbing Peter to pay Paul’ and not changing the balance of health and well being just moving the ill around from one group of people to another. I would be interested to see a charitable process that was equally about serving the people donating the money as it was the people receiving the funds.

      1. Brilliantly said katemaroney1 … charity behaviour is ‘robbing peter to pay paul’ when one group of people are doing something that stresses or taxes their body to the point of exhaustion, injury or disregard in the name of raising money for another group who are seen as needing help.

      2. True katemaroney1 – rather than throwing money at people, perhaps true healing would go much further.
        There is no balance in investing money in charities – true healing is to allow people to make better choices. True charity is about people first, not money.

  128. This is a key point in what you’ve shared here Anne “I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility i.e. I must be the love I would like the world to be.” – without this, what are we bringing to another? If I am to offer my services or even give money to a health charity such as one of the cancer charities or diabetes awareness, for example, then with what I understand about illness and disease, I need to be living with self-care and self-love as my way otherwise, what is the quality of my offering to this charity?

    1. Brilliantly said Jane. Such a difference between what is offered by a person whose body is depleted and is there filling an emptiness in their lives, and someone who is living an abundance of well-being and inspiring all they meet that this level of love is there to be connected to in all of us.

  129. Anne, I also love the point you make about charities promoting and organising events that really tax the bodies of the participants; raising money through encouraging more people to be dis-regarding to their bodies; absurd when we consider that dis-regarding our bodies has led to most of the illnesses and diseases we have on the increase in staggering numbers. So it’s like putting more fuel on the fire I feel.

    1. There are so many extreme activities undertaken for charity, like you’ve mentioned here Jane. It’s as if the term ‘doing it for charity’ makes anything okay without people stopping to feel exactly what that activity is doing to their body, and any pain, injury or consequence from it is dismissed as being for a good cause.

  130. Dear Anne, this is a very important topic, and I thank you for having a deeper look at charities. Having worked in Shopping Centres, I have dealt with charities and it was very interesting to feel the varying energies behind the people of different so called ‘charitable’ groups. Many of these organisations used contract sales people, who would have no scruples for making people feel guilty if they did walk by without ‘donating’. Observing that behaviour one could become quite cynical about charities indeed.

  131. Thank you Anne for an interesting article, I loved what you have said about true service.” I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility i.e. I must be the love I would like the world to be.”

  132. I realised I had given money to charities in the past so that I wouldn’t feel bad. There is sometimes an energy of guilt or shame that comes with the collectors. I know when I was a child we collected for a charity and went up and down streets, house to house. We were very judgemental of those who did not give much and took note of those that gave a lot. This was encouraged by the older people we were with. Looking back I can feel how awful this was, tramping this energy of judgement and comparison up and down the streets.

  133. Recently I read that not one cent of the money pledged and donated towards the rebuilding of Kathmandu has actually reached the people on the ground – caught up as it has been in bureaucracy and political circles. Charity is as much subject to corruption as any institution, and perhaps more so, for it is not so easily questioned.

  134. We occasionally have people representing charities, come to our door asking for a monthly pledge. I used to feel quite anxious about this, feeling the pressure from them to set up a direct debit even for a few pounds a month, although I would always say no. Last week when this happened it felt great to simply share with them how I felt – the pressure, the feeling of imposition and the fact they had taken me away from what I was doing. It did make me wonder if the success they have from knocking on people’s doors is due to the pressure or maybe guilt felt. And if so what kind of energy is that money given in each month when it leaves our bank account?

  135. I had a recent experience with a charitable organisation and ended up promising to pay a certain amount (pledging) per month. It wasn’t until after this and another charity donation that then I allowed myself to feel the pressure I was put under to support these people, including the old guilt trip of “its only the price a cup of coffee /tea per day)!

  136. Often we donate to charity in an attempt to make a situation that makes us feel un comfortable more comfortable for ourselves rather than feel what is going on for ourselves when we are uncomfortable with the situation others are in when we are in a far more comfortable situation. This doesn’t truly support the charity or us it is just comfort seeking for both parties.

  137. As you highlight Anne, it is a fact that there has been no lasting change brought about by the trillions poured into Africa. We often hear how little of the aid reaches those it was intended for and how much corruption there is from the very beginning of a charity’s pathway to its destination. It is a peculiar system when you stop to think about it yet we mindlessly continue to feed it and perpetuate what isnt working or truly serving humanity. Craziness alright.

  138. “I must be the love I would like the world to be.” This should be the foundation of everything we do. Thank you for this inspiring blog Anne.

  139. “I must be the love I would like the world to be.” – Absolutely agree with you on this Anne. Change starts first with ourselves and then ripples out from there.

  140. Thank you Anne for exposing what true charity is – this is very much needed because we are trapped in our ideals and beliefs about charity as you so powerful describe. I love what you wrote: “. . . perhaps we first have to change the energy in which we approach service to others, as change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.” Let’s admit that we were not truly in service and than lets start again . . . the world need true service and charity.

    1. Well said esteraltmiks. There has been so much money, effort spent and there has been little difference. How we have been approaching it is so clearly not working. Let’s admit what is so and start again. The world so very much needs true service and charity.

  141. Sometimes people engage in charitable deeds as a way to relieve themselves of guilt, generally feel better about themselves or a tick a box good citizen type of thing to do rather than feeling into the charity and the way it is run the integrity and purpose of the charity.

  142. How different your description is of how we could support those in need, and feel deeply about our intention for doing so, from members of a certain religious organisation who arrive at my door every so often, Anne. From them I feel a desperation to “do good” and persuade people to their way of thinking in order to be “saved” from their suffering state. This makes their subjects so much lesser than them, panders to their fears, and does not support them to be themselves and find their own solutions. What could be more unloving and arrogant?

  143. A very insightful blog on true charity and much needed to bring us to really focus on what is really true with the intention for all humanity. This is much called for in a world where people are wanting to help and do better to make themselves feel better, rather than really looking at themselves first and their purpose in it all, and the running of the charity they choose to support. Some of the extremes people go to doing various unloving acts to raise money for charity and the real reason behind this drive needs to be looked at and felt, for are the things really supporting the all as money is not the everything in charity more is the acts and intention and the energy behind it all.

  144. It’s an interesting point to raise “And hence, is giving money and clothes to those in need enough?” when i compare this to families many men, including myself, would work hard to provide and buy things for their family using money and possessions to “show love” yet what always comes out is money, items don’t make up for truly meeting, caring and holding a child in love and equality. If money and items don’t work within a family, how can we possibly think they will work on a bigger scale? It shows that perhaps its time to re-address the very foundations of charity if we want things to truly change.

  145. I have often wondered what goes on behind the scenes in charity organisations hence I often find myself feeling that something is not quite right. You have brought up some great points Anne, thank you for sharing.

  146. You raise a great point … Is there self-gain in charity? I would say yes! It is the corruption in charity no one is talking about. If you were able to go around and weed out any one person or organisation who had self-gain as the intention to their reasoning for participating in this activity then you would eliminate most of the charitable work being done on this earth. Ouch!

  147. I do find it surprising that so many charities have big gala dinners costing tens of thousands of pounds per table, for those attending to drink expensive wines and eat lavish foods. When the charities are about health and the drinks and foods served are knowingly detrimental to health then it makes even less sense. As someone that has attended many of these events in the past it struck me that the purpose of the event was not for the charity but instead as a social event masked as doing good. Similar but different to cold calling.

    1. This is huge what you are saying David about what is done to raise money in the name of charity with the big gala dinner events which are super expensive and just another high end social event for the elite to help those who are in ‘need’.
      What is really on the menu here? pun intended
      Is it the true welfare of those in need?
      What is the essence of what the charity they are choosing to fund really all about?
      What if the charity did not choose to spend thousands on lavish foods and expensive wines?
      What if those contributing had to remain anonymous?
      How are those attending these gala events living in their private life?
      These are the questions that should be on the menu for starters.
      Main course there needs to be an introduction and discussion about the words
      RESPONSBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY
      I doubt anyone would need a dessert after that !

    2. Exactly David, and it is actually a well known fact that things like this happens with money that has been raised for a ‘good’ cause, so why are we all still contributing and allowing this? It is certainly not because we believe the money will end up where it is needed the most…..

  148. What you have shared here Anne is ground-breaking for everyone as you lift the lid on what do-gooding and charities are all about.. True service holds no self or needs no recognition whatsoever and is never a cause of harm to anyone involved. With this purpose at the core of what true charity is about and coupled with the aim to inspire, we have a very different and ‘true good’ that is possible in this world.

  149. Some instances of cold calling I have felt pressured into giving or feeling guilty for not supporting an organisation that I have previously supported at times. Now I just don’t answer my phone when it shows an overseas caller or private number or if I pick up the phone and no one answers immediately. I feel that many Charities believe they are doing the best for others but the best in who’s opinion.

  150. More and more lately I have been hearing people say that the charities they have been involved in (either as a worker or volunteer) waste so much money. I suspect this has been the case for a long time, but now it is starting to come out in public. It is like we are starting to realise that although charities tick some of the boxes in making us feel ‘good’ they are not it.

  151. “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?”- this feels true to me, instead of the other possible intentions you raised eg if done from self gain this does not achieve true healing and change.

  152. It is commonly accepted because lifetimes lived truth that you can buy yourself free from your guilt. Just as the catholic church did by the “selling of indulgence”. Pay a certain amount and your sins will be forgiven. And that is a system charity works with. You pay and it makes you feel happy. True charity, where no-one profits but the ones in need is rare.

    1. Giving your power away, as in, taking no self-responsibility for your choices in life leads to seeking outside of ourselves for the answers and if the answer tells us that we just have to be a ‘good person’ and repent our sins away then we are left totally lost in the illusion, away from what true love and true charity are all about.

      1. I agree, cheriseholt! A “good person” can’t be a “good” person for if they are trying to be good they are not with themselves. And in that moment they are not who they truly are. It gives people identification to “do good”. But “doing good” to not needing to feel their own life can only cause harm to another.

  153. Thank you Anne for this great sharing , I have always remembered the old line” charity begins at home “, does this now have a new message for me , in the light of what is my initial impulse to be charitable , what is my true intention and why ? As that energy I choose to live in and hence start this process of being charitable in is going to run this process and will designate the outcome for all involved whether I like that outcome or not.

  154. I enjoyed reading your blog Anne. It poses many questions to consider, in particular our motives for giving. It is interesting how many different reasons there are behind giving. It’s definitely something to look into more deeply. I had never considered that many charity events do put people’s bodies at risk.

    1. A great point you make Debra about “our motives for giving” and you can apply this to general gift giving too. With the charity stuff it tends to come loaded with that guilt and sympathy stuff that we have more so we should give – if you know what I mean?
      For me it was a hard pattern to break and you get judged and criticised if you are not ‘playing the game of giving’ when it comes to charity and this is why many may read this blog and feel what is going on, as it gets us to really question what is underneath and what is the Truth.
      Thanks to Serge Benhayon I know what true Truth is and what True Charity is.
      Thank You Anne for starting this great talk on charity – it sure is needed.

      1. Very true Bina and I know that one “you get judged and criticized if you are not ‘playing the game of giving’ when it comes to charity” It is like you have done the worst thing ever when they come to the door and ask for money for some “good” cause and the answer is “no”. It is also impressive how creative some can get by letting their little children ask the question……

  155. You touch on a huge topic here Anne and it is a giant mothball lying under a rug beneath humanity’s feet that is itching to be exposed for its truth. As you say, there has been trillions been poured into Africa with little true change, so how is pouring yet more into Africa ever going to help? Is it not wise to ask what truly might be going on behind this and whether there is truly a different way that is going to evolve us all here?

    1. Yes and perhaps they form part of the justification we have in saying that something is being done about these ‘modern day’ issues when in fact nothing is truly changing. It just looks good, but is that what is there underneath?

    2. Very wise Joshua, and wise also is your moth ball analogy! We need to see what is truly going on and stop covering up what is happening with false good and niceties. Love is firm and all-encompassing, if we do not take responsibility for ourselves (wherever we live and whatever circumstances we experience) we are being irresponsible and the money of others will do nothing to change this.

      1. Well said cheriseholt. No amount of millions could ever equate to the firmness and truth a true Love.

    3. I agree Joshua, and it is no rocket science that it is ridiculous to keep doing the exact thing over and over again that already has proven it didn’t work. So what is the true gain here….

    4. Feels more like charities as they are today add to the woes and confusion rather than truly addressing them at their roots.

  156. By highlighting the incongruity of charities using fund raising activities that are potentially harming for the participants, clearly brings into question their motives and what is true charity. Very well presented Anne.

    1. I agree Jonathan, there is no ‘true good’ if there is harm or imposition on anyone or their bodies, it’s just not possible and yet all over the world charities are creating more and more ways to raise money but it comes with abuse in many forms.

  157. ” … these expenses take up 85% of the money coming in!”
    Do you remember that episode of ‘Yes, Minister’ where our politician was going to open a hospital that had no patients? They were all far too busy to have patients! Well that’s what I hear with the above line, that a charity can be its own self-serving business, giving themselves a job and income and, oh by the way, here’s some money (15%) for those in need.

    1. Hi Marian
      Yes I do remember that programme and, although it was a spoof, apparently it was really true to life. There sure are many absurdities in human life! And…if the charity has used professional collectors it is very doubtful that even 15% of the money raised goes to the cause it was raised for.

      1. Agree Anne re professional collectors. Last year when I was still receiving letters from charities asking for donations it was obvious that the charity concerned was using professional collectors as the letter came bulging with gifts from printed greeting cards, note pads, sticky labels, a key ring or any other little gift that could induce the recipient to give a donation in return. The money and waste in such approaches would be very large!

    2. If it is not about people first and the equality of brotherhood that we must live by, it is not truly servicing anything but rather cementing further that which does not truly work.

  158. ‘I must be the Love I would like the world to be’ says it all to me Anne. This is what true charity is all about.

    1. What a great point Adam, that cuts through all the guilt / the do gooding / the trying / the judgement that in my experience is involved in charity and brings it back to simplicity that changes the world.

  159. I have recently been aware of how charities are championed and those working or doing ‘something’ are seen as special or generous but in truth are they?
    How loving and caring is it to run miles and miles in the name of charity when your body is exhausted at the start point?
    Could it be that there is a hidden agenda as this blog so amazingly sets out?
    Could it be possible that there is something in it for us and we want to be seen as ‘doing good’?
    From my own experience of running a charity many years ago, I was willing to do anything as long as I had the photos, the website, the marketing and the platform to raise large amounts of money.
    Imagine in 10 minutes speaking to an audience and raising enough for 6 flight tickets to Africa.
    Imagine given permission to present at a university with no formal qualification.
    Imagine going on a radio station just because it was about charity.
    Imagine receiving non stop letters begging for money years after the charity was stopped.
    I was not generous – I was doing it because I needed the recognition as I never felt enough.
    It came from a lack within me so how on earth could I ever make a difference to another who had the same lack of self worth.

    1. Beautiful exposure Bina on the motivations behind why one charity worker worked for charity! This particular example I am sure would apply to very many. Thanks for taking the cover off this particular can of worms and calling it. Not having been involved with charity I had never realized the things that a worker got to do and experience e.g.. the buzz of raising large amounts of money, the opportunity to appear on television and lecture at University. It makes sense that this is a whole area of recognition hunting (as indeed have been all of our jobs!) And so as you say, how can it be true charity?

      1. Thank you Lyndy for the confirmation and its a great exposure when someone can talk from their lived experience. It adds to the “realness” of any blog and it is websites like this that are needed so the world gets to feel you can spend time on the internet talking sense, sharing stuff that can inspire and the bonus is you bring some Truth into cyber world.
        I love what you say about the ‘motivations behind’ why I worked in the name of charity.
        Another thing that I have written in my blog about charity is that to open a bank account was so easy and simple I nearly fell off my chair. No questions asked and cheque book that week in the post. Gosh you say ‘charity’ and its like you get the gold star royal treatment – you suddenly have a status and even the bank let you do what you want.
        There is nothing true about the way this world is going about ‘charity’. Listen to Serge Benhayon, study him and study his business and you will KNOW what TRUE CHARITY is inside out and upside down and back to front.

    2. Thank you for bringing your personal experience of running a charity to this blog, Bina. I am also mindful of the many other recognitions those running charity can get -such as ‘distinguished service’ medals, or being invited onto boards, or being invited to functions where royalty or the Governor General (in Australia and New Zealand) is present. These people are often photographed for newspapers or magazines, or appear on television, and I have often observed the emptiness and sadness in their eyes.

      As you say, how can we make a difference to others if we have a lack of our own worth and the light that we can bring to the world?

      1. This blog is pure gold Anne Scott and I have written a blog which will be published on a website for humanity called “Charity work in Africa – didn’t work” and we will upload with the photos. Let me add a bit of flavour for now. When we visited the ‘ghetto’ I was almost vomiting because of the smell and of course the extreme poverty upset me.
        BUT hold on – it was all worth it as I got the “photo”. When I see celebrities out there I wonder if they felt sick as I did but maybe like me they got the ‘prize’ which is the identification and recognition that means more than anything. I was willing to do anything and it is only now that I can see what this was all about. Serge Benhayon has the answers and he could save this world trillions of dollars but it would mean we each would need to get real and be deeply honest that we have a lack inside us that needs to be healed first.

      2. Absolutely Anne ‘how can we make a difference to others if we have a lack of our own worth and the light that we can bring to the world?’ So much charity work is undertaken from need, either for recognition or to not feel the true state humanity is in by going into the doingness of trying to make it better which never works.

    3. Deeply beautiful Jane: ‘Maybe ‘charity’ starts with the way we are with ourselves in that if we offer ourselves true nourishment, support, care, tenderness, and nurturing – that then radiates from us, and in that we feel we can offer that to others – not for recognition, but simply because it feels so natural.’

    4. The ‘lack inside us that needs to be healed first’ is spot-on, Bina, and thank you Jane for sharing your personal experience of how this played out in your life in relation to ‘charity’. Yes it feels great to expose this.

    5. Thank you Anne for confirming that the comment is spot on about us needing to heal the lack inside us first.
      Your blog really gets us to look a bit deeper at what all this charity stuff is really about and stop pretending and going along with others when we all know that it has not changed anything so far. There are women in total pain and disregard running a marathon in the name of ‘charity’ but they are not choosing to take care of themselves.
      I recently had a friend stop talking to me as I would not sponsor him on a bike ride for charity. Whilst he never told me to my face it was a bit obvious. I know he felt that I was someone who was and still is deeply generous and so how would I not give him money. It had nothing to do with giving money – it was about me standing up for what I know and can feel is the Truth and that is simply charities do not work and your blog is a big confirmation of this.

      1. Gosh, Bina, I have often in the past given money to friends who are ‘running, or ‘cycling’ for charity – it never felt right, but I did it so I wouldn’t lose their friendship and also so I wouldn’t feel guilty for not ‘helping’. What a cop-out – won’t be doing that again!

    6. Thanks Anne Scott for talking about what you have been doing in the name of ‘friendship’.
      When we are choosing to live Truth it is so easy to do the bits that suit us or look like we are getting on with it but like you, we may only be doing it ‘to a point’.
      Where it becomes real Truth is when we start to look at every choice that we make it about Truth. This friendship that I no longer have is because I made a choice to not sponsor this charity run and a choice that I can live with today as I KNOW I have done what was the Truth for me.

    7. This is great what you say here Jane – to “prove my worth – to myself and to others”.
      This worth business is well worth sorting out and healing – pun intended.
      So taking you as an example – doing a marathon with an exhausted body, where is the Truth in that I say?
      How many people do things for charity but they are not taking care of themselves first?
      What is the underlying motive or agenda when it comes to us giving back?
      What pulls us to one charity over another?
      I have a board in my office and it is in this order —
      LOVE
      RESPONSIBILITY
      APPRECIATION
      GIVING BACK
      Yes – I got that from a man called Serge Benhayon and it supported me to get on with the first two. Number 3 took ages and was a big eye opener. I realised I was not moving forward as I could not deeply Appreciate me for who I am and not what I do.
      Got this and now number 4 is a natural part of my living.
      This is true giving and what a template for those who are considering what charity is all about.

    8. This sentence says so much to me why charities do not work as they stand, ‘It came from a lack within me so how on earth could I ever make a difference to another who had the same lack of self worth.’
      Spot on Bina.

  160. It was interesting to read of the way endurance events are being used more and more as part of fund raising. For when I used to cycle and run a lot I still never wished to do these things for charity, it always felt imposing to ask another to give money to something I was choosing to do, if you have to ask someone for money then is there any true charity? Surely someone should wish to give to a charity, not have their arm twisted.

    1. I agree, Stephen. It never feels right to give money ‘per km’. Yet how many times have I done it (for family and friends) -out of guilt!

      1. I agree Anne. And I remember on occasion in the past allowing my children to do sponsored events and asking friends and family to donate, all the while overriding the feeling that I was imposing on them.

    2. Yes, there is an insidious evil in asking people for money for sponsored events, especially so if it is children as there feels like an obligation to support and encourage them, when in fact you may not believe in the event or wish to give money to the cause. The pressure laid to bear is completely in contrast with what we should recognise as a charitable act.

  161. This blog really makes me ponder on what it means to truly serve – what is being served, to who, and how I had got it wrong for so long. Pandering to others’ needs and/or just massaging their ego – I used to call that ‘serving’, I didn’t have a clue between ‘self-less’ and ‘zero self-worth’, never ever occurred to me how I was being with myself had anything to do with what I was doing outwardly. I am eternally grateful for the Ageless Wisdom Teachings that exposes the illogicality of the way we have lived for so long, and Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon for their tireless true service to humanity in delivering the truth.

    1. Beautifully expressed, Shevon. That difference between ‘self-less’ and ‘zero self-worth’ is one many of us could ponder on.

  162. The examples that you give of running and cycling compromising the body and therefore would you pick these two if you were organising a charitable event, is likely to be met with much resistance, as these two sports are seen as common forms of keeping fit and healthy. However the pressure that they place on the body, especially our joints is tremendous; so much so that often we just put up with any pain, seeing it all as part of the process of keeping fit. Therefore just as we have our understanding and definition of what is truly charitable upside down, perhaps it is the same with the way we look at sport and many other areas of life.

    1. I totally agree, Shevon. I used to do long distance cycling and I had continuous lower back pain (from weak abdominals), neck pain and tense shoulders, resulting from the body’s position on the bike -that you cannot do anything to change! We do need to have another look at sport and its effects on the body (and mind in fact).

  163. I love the question posed here “how charitable are our charities?’ The answer is not very charitable at all. It is time to bring a new understanding of what true charity is all about and the work of Serge Benhayon is leading the way in this.

    1. The issue with most charity, and why it fails, is that it is little more than window dressing to create the facade that issues are being dealt with. True charity is to empower someone to understand the root cause behind their suffering so that they can take steps – with the appropriate support – to change the momentum that created the issue in the first place. Too much charity seeks only to embed and confirm victim hood.

      1. I agree, Adam, self empowerment is crucial for those in extreme poverty, for example, to start to climb their own way out -with support, as you say. Whereas simply giving them money and clothes (both of which often end up in the hands of the country’s dictator or powerful elite or war lords) does not work -it hasn’t worked for a long time, and it is definitely time this was exposed so it can change.

      2. Great point, Adam. Absolutely. When a ‘charity’ comes from the place of self-servingness, it is not likely it would ask those on the receiving end to step up and start taking self-responsibility. So, the entire mechanism is set up to trap everyone involved in this agreed form of non-evolution.

      3. ‘Too much charity seeks only to embed and confirm victim hood.’, That’s right Adam, and many companies and individuals claim themselves as being charitable for with the sole intention of building branding and favorable media. There is no charity in either, both keep those in need, in need.

    2. I agree Elizabeth, so called charities are not truly charitable at all. Its a weird game of ‘feeling’ good without actually in effect really ‘doing’ any good. Without true love and true intent charities are in fact in the business of exploitation.

    3. Its a great question and whilst many different organisations can say they are charities, the more I understand about true charity the more I realise very few charities truly make a difference in the world.

  164. BIG Thanks Anne Scott – this blog is a game changer and absolutely outstanding.
    A must read for all as it poses so many questions that are needed right now if we are to get to the Truth about what charity is and what it means in the real sense.
    There are plenty of comments I can make but what sticks out today is –
    ‘true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility’
    YES I agree Anne and this is the game changer I mention earlier. It is for each and everyone of us to start taking Responsibility and this requires us to make self loving choices. Choices that do not harm us means we will begin to make true changes and this is ‘true service”.

    1. Yes, I agree Bina. The old saying, ‘charity begins at home’ is usually interpreted as meaning ‘your own country’ -but what if the real meaning is, ‘charity begins with your self’, in that charity (true service), as you say, begins with making self-loving choices to bring true change.

      1. And that ‘home’ in the phrase Anne could equally mean coming back to one self and thus ‘charity begins at home’ meaning that what we do unto ourselves (home) out of Love we can then (and only then) bring to others. I love that you have brought this well known phrase into the conversation so that we can really look at it’s true meaning.

      2. Great point Anne – yes, true charity begins with learning to live in a self-loving way so that any service we offer is fuelled by that love.

  165. What if the perceived feeling we get from donating to a charity that is meant as ‘well meaning’ that with out addressing the cause, there is only one that thinks they are better for the act.

  166. I feel you are right Anne , it is the true intention behind the charity that makes it what it is, for there are some that do a lot of good and its usually the ones you don’t hear about, where the person or persons don’t make a big song and dance about it and don’t need the recognition of having their names plastered everywhere.

    1. It is the intention behind the charity that is the key and in fact this goes for anything and everything else in life. I am learning that it is our intentions that determine the end result and therefore to see and understand what is not working we are wise to look at our initial motive and intentions to understand why.

  167. If we first focus and get really honest about what our intention is when we embark on anything, we would cut through all those insidious pushes about wanting to be seen doing good, wanting to alleviate our own guilt and discomfort and/or wanting to distract ourselves from the lack of care we take of ourselves. This honesty builds us back to understanding true brotherhood and our always connectedness to everything.

  168. Thank you Anne for a very informative article, I am at the moment contemplating volunteering at a local Hospital, I really love these words “I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility i.e. I must be the love I would like the world to be”.

  169. It is easy to see corruption in the eyes of a thief who steals from his own. But rarely do we allow ourselves to see that the greatest thief is the one who holds back their love from their neighbour. Such a thief does not just rob another but robs themselves by investing all in securing their own fortress to ensure that they keep out those who may try to steal that which can never be stolen.

    And never will we question such a thief whilst they wear good on their sleeve, even when such good disguises the fact that their heart is left hidden behind a benevolent veil of justice and what is right. Nay, it is the philanthropic minded who holds the greatest seed of evil whilst ever they hold their true light from the world, no matter how good their intentions may seem. Charity is the armour of the righteous, but it is but rags to the bearer of Truth.

    Yet brave is the person who questions the integrity of one who contributes to the greater good under the guise of charity. For such is the corruption of our relationship with divinity that we are happy to celebrate that which represents nothing more than a cheap imitation of the divine light of our Soul, whilst condemning those who call to us to see that we have settled for so much less than the riches of our divine origins. Such is the corrupt nature of relationship with truth that what our Soul calls abuse we call love.

    1. Wow Adam Beautifully written. This is a very deep and powerful piece of writing that completely nails charity to the wall. There is no escaping the truth here, these words round everything ‘not of love’ up. Adam you have covered it all. This comment is a exposé on the charity and a healing to read.

    2. A great expose, Adam -“Charity is the armour of the righteous, but it is but rags to the bearer of Truth.” And an awesome analogy -“the greatest thief is the one who holds back their love from their neighbour.”
      Love ought to be at the very heart of charity, for without love we are stealing from ourselves, and from all.

    3. You expose much in this comment Adam, especially in those of us who spend our lives protecting the gold in our hearts when it can as you say ‘never be stolen’.

  170. Anne this is very eloquently written and you have posed many questions to encourage the reader to go deeper and look at so many angles in relationship to charity and true service. This allows us to really look at our lives and even every crevice – to which – ALL of your questions can apply. What is our intention behind everything that we do?

    1. chevonsimon that is an interesting question you have raised in your beautiful comment. If we as human beings would be more aware about the power of true intention we would never ever again chose to so something without it.

  171. I love this blog… thank you Anne for sharing. Donating or raising money for charities has not been my thing so reading a blog like this I find very supporting and confirming of what I have always felt. I absolutely agree, with all the money raised and given to the poorer countries are we any further ahead? It is very clear that the current system of donating to those that are less off is not working and we certainly do need to stop and ask ourselves as to where we are coming from whenever we feel the need to donate or raise money for charities.

    1. Indeed it is not working, Caroline. I heard of a case, many years ago now (but these things still happen today), of one of the United Nations’ organisations planting rice in a country in Africa -where anyone who knew anything at all about the area knew there was not enough water there for rice growing to be successful. Millions was spent -because the organisation needs their donors to think their money is going towards a certain project -and of course it failed. Another example is donating to buy mosquito nets for African countries -again, many millions spent to do so, but it has not been effective as it was not practicable for the people to use the nets all the time, e.g. many families all sleep together in one bed. The list could go on…and all because there was no research done at the beginning of the project to determine if it would actually work.

      1. Anne, thank you for sharing this about charities and exposing the corruption that is allowed to go on in these organisations. It couldn’t be more ironic – that the people who are donating to charities because they want to feel that, or want to be seen that they are ‘doing good’, are in fact adding to the corruption.

  172. Wow Anne, I love what you have said here – ‘What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?’
    – This is pure GOLD and needs to be presented to ALL charities.

  173. Very true Susan, having been a pleaser all my life, I had the belief that in order to be loved and accepted by another I had to do things to please them, this is an exhausting way to live and a never ending cycle as one never feels loved enough, if we are not loving ourselves.

  174. “if I am trying to “please others” or “do good” as my initial intention, this is not truly making it about serving humanity, but rather about self-gain.” Very true Anne, as so many – including myself – have done. To feel the integrity of the charity is vital too – its true intent – which is why I stopped most of my charitable donations a while ago now.

    1. sueq2012, Anne, I get the feeling that is why so many of us feel “hoodwinked” and “imposed on” by charities. The dilemma comes because whilst we feel something is not quite right we also want to do “good”. It’s taken me a while to understand the fact that in good is some of the greatest forms of evil. And that “good” is not “truth” – in many ways because we grow up being told to be “good” and “nice” instead of “true” and “who we are”. Likewise most of the charities I gave money to I stopped because when I felt why I did so it was purely out of guilt not truth.

      1. Well said sueq2012 and David, me too, I used to give money -because you’re supposed to do that, otherwise I would feel guilty. I have stopped that now, and I choose to support charities I know are truly serving humanity, supporting humanity to come back to who we truly are and to be taking loving self responsibility. I’m sure it’s absolutely massive, how many people ‘donate’, especially money, out of guilt, to be ‘good’, to tick the box, to be seen to do ‘the right thing’. That is indeed what many of us have been brought up to do. As you say David, things do change once we come from truth and from being who we are, as Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine so clearly demonstrate.

      2. Giving money out of guilt is so common. I used to give money to various charities but didn’t stop and feel if what they were doing felt true, or my motives for giving it. It was a feel good exercise on my part. Look, I’m a good person because I give x% of my salary to charity. Yuk, that feels insidious now.

    2. Yes sueq2012- so much of charity is about self-gain and it’s been interesting to read all the comments and discussions around charity and the intentions of people.

  175. I used to work in the charity sector for some years, and I ran volunteer projects, the motivations of people volunteering are vast, but they were never truly not for self. Being in true service to humanity is something that I am only beginning to grasp myself, because it involves loving yourself in full first and sharing this with all you meet. I feel the main reason for people coming forward to volunteer was to make sense of life to feel like they were part of the plan, to have a purpose. It was an interesting process to work in a sector that pushes selflessness at the expense of ourselves, I never felt that this was a true way to live life. I observed that people would come to the role with baggage and want to help another to resolve their baggage but not be ready to resolve their own. I became aware that for me to do my role (which was to support others) it was vital to start looking at my own motivations for doing the work in the first place. Being honest about this really supported clarity, purpose and how I interacted with people. The charity sector displays the issues of society like any other sector, and it is particularly highlighted when an organisation professes to be doing ‘good’. Great to expose and question what is actually running these organisations in this article and ask what is ‘true service’.

    1. Lovely sharing davidsonsamantha shedding light on why people often choose to be involved with charities and the ‘selflessness’ that is pushed within the sector at an expense to the individual.

      1. I read that as a self service canteen. Whilst in self that is all we choose and feed ourselves on.

        Dropping back into the big picture gives us a true view, where responsibility is key and taking care of ourselves (which includes being lovingly honest about our intentions and impulses) is the foundation for serving others.

      2. Adam you express this well. True Service is given without an intention to self serve or prop self, not for recognition, praise or reward, it is purely an offering of self to humanity for humanity.

    2. What you share here from your own experience is gold ‘davidsonsamantha’ – thank you. True service absolutely starts with loving yourself first and offering this quality to others – as well as healing hurts so that we are not coming loaded with our own needs, identified or invested in what we do. If we are solid and loving within ourselves then any of our actions will come from the quality of love and are expressed in holding another equal – which confirms both their value and their power/responsibility in their own lives.

      1. Great sharing davidsonsamantha, thank you, and that is a huge point, people wanting to help others, whilst not looking at how they are living themselves, and not looking after themselves in any true way. It’s always easier and seemingly more rewarding to ‘help’ and ‘fix’ somebody else.

    3. One of the best get out of jail cards for not dealing with our own issues is to engross ourselves in doing good for those ‘less fortunate’ than us. It’s quite ugly to see that we can conceal our true motives under the appearance of doing good.

      1. This is how some people really do manage their own sadness or issues, by trying to ‘help’ another. This has the effect of distraction, numbing or possibly justification or even comparison between themselves and who they are offering the good-deeds they are doing to. All this comes at the expense of the receiver. What does the receiver truly receive? They can only truly receive the imposition behind the true motivation. Where is true loving integrity for what is really needed?

      2. Fiona, hands up, I’ve used ‘get out of jail cards myself. In the past I believed I was doing good, always there and available for others, a constant listening ear, only to find that because I was never there for myself, or listened to my body, I was harming myself and others. I was deluded and arrogant to believe I could help others when I couldn’t help myself. I now choose to live a way that is far more honest and offers much more to others because I am true to and love myself first and foremost. This way opens the door to evolution and everyone benefits, the other way, there is no change and or learning.

      3. Spot on Fiona, the appearance of doing good or supporting a so called charity, is one of the greatest distractions for mankind today. As you say, people engage in charity so that they do not to have to face their own issues and hence there is no healing for self or others.

      4. This is absolutely true Fiona, ‘One of the best get out of jail cards for not dealing with our own issues is to engross ourselves in doing good for those ‘less fortunate’ than us.’ I have observed that this is indeed the case, that focusing on ‘doing good’ can take us away from seeing that we have our own issues to deal with and can make us feel ‘high and mighty’ and as if we are doing well because we are helping those in need.

      5. This is not only seen in charity work Fiona, but you see this in families, relationships and work places. People getting involved in other people’s issues when they don’t deal with their own. It is ugly and keeps both parties in a dysfunctional dynamic of helper and helpless with no true equalness.

      6. What a distraction racket Fiona, ‘doing good for others’, or even helping others at times, depending on the energy this is done in, so as to not feel and heal our own stuff!

    4. This is a great insight davidsonsamantha, it feels similar to when we would look for a relationship to cover up our own feelings of lack of self worth. We do the same with charity, it is a cover to smother the feelings that arise that we don’t want to deal with, and the lack of appreciation we bring ourselves. What are we offering in the way of charity if we need to be acting charitably for our own sense of self, this can not be true or honourable.

    5. I love what you share Samantha as it is all simple common sense.
      Like a taxi with a flat tyre doing 12 hour shifts driving people around, that wheel really needs to get looked before the taxi goes out on the road just one more day.

      1. Very well said Dean. Who wants to ride in a taxi with flat tyres? No-one if they knew the dangers!

    6. A great insight from inside the charity den. I know when I went to volunteer for a charity that the whole sign up process was what did I want to get out of it, it was all about what was I looking to fulfill in my life and how could the charity work help that. There is no hiding that the majority of charity is first to make the person doing the charity feel better in someway. I wonder if the question of “true service” has ever been raised before at the charity meetings?

  176. Most people engage in charity like behaviour as a way to feel better about themselves to feel that they are doing something good for others. The problem with this is so often people are too focused on feeling good about themselves that they don’t stop and feel if their activity is actually the true activity of charity.

    1. Absolutely Danielle… A substantial percentage of donators do what they do to feel better about themselves, and as you say this means they do not always consider where exactly their money is going, and if the charity is intending to do true good with the money (or will it disappear into the organisation?).

      1. Yes Susie. Re the ‘donator’ in this equation – at the point when we donate to charity we give because we hear that something is wrong, we can feel that this is not right that such a situation is occurring, but instead of going deeply within and feeling all that is to feel, we quickly hand over the money, cover up the hurt with a bandaid, and continue on our fairy-tale way with life. We haven’t got the ‘time’ to ‘go there’ because we do not fully understand that we carry hurts or the actual nature of Time, or the fact that we are going around and around until we ‘get it’. Let’s uncover this whole thing without judgment and with understanding.

      2. These are really good points, Susie, Lyndy and Danielle. I was with a group of friends the other night discussing this very thing -how often we give to charity to make us feel good, without even researching what the charity really brings to humanity. I wonder, is the ‘to feel good’ thing ever a good reason to give to charity?

      3. Great question Anne. Whatever we do, if it is for self then it does not serve. That would be the thing to discern.

      4. Lyndy Summerhaze I love the point you are making here, that often someone will give to charity as a bandaid to not have to feel what is really going on. Also your call to account of “Let’s uncover the whole thing without judgment and with understanding”. My pondering on this revealed to me that the hurt that we don’t want to feel around all of this is not just the despair or devastation that someone or some group of people may be in, but it’s actually our responsibility around this. Deep down we all know we are all connected, and have always been. Also that we have all lived here many many times before, over and over in many different lives, possibly in the group who are now receiving our charity. It feels that we are not wanting to feel the part we have played in allowing the world to separate this far and come to this. Like why did we not pull it up sooner, when we felt something was not quite right. We know we could have been there in a flash the moment there was the scent of disharmony or separation and it hurts us to feel that we did not honour this. So it’s the lack of responsibility to deal with our choices.

      5. In relation to what Anne has said, what I have realised is that I do not feel good giving money to charities. In fact I feel a bit awkward doing it so I do not go there any longer. I have also learned not to give money to people asking for it (turning into a charity myself) after the last time I did and lived with the consequences for an entire week in my body –in my kidneys to be precise.

    2. That’s so true Jane, people are more likely to ask the questions “How good does this charity make me look and feel” and totally disregard the integrity and purpose of the charity. It’s obvious that this disregards of integrity is because when participating in charity activity for self this is from a disregard already, so one disregards is not going to expose another.

    3. Absolutely Danielle – I’d say based on the truth you have revealed above that most charities are actually not charities at all but places where the unfulfilled fill the deficit they feel within themselves with random acts of kindness rather than purposeful acts of true responsibility.

      1. This makes sense Dean because how can one share purposeful acts of true responsibility if they are not first choosing this for themselves, by going in and filling their deficit with a deep, loving and cherishing relationship with themselves. In fact if people went to this place first they could only help but feel that this is in truth the inspiration that another needs. Not to be fixed or helped, but to be inspired to also connect within and bring out the answers to all of their dilemmas.

      2. I am with you all the way Jane. You make perfect sense to me and redefining what the word ‘charity’ truly means is a great place to start.

      3. In response to you Jane and Dean, I wonder if UML, for example, might be deemed a true charity?

      4. Brilliant Lyndy, yes here we have in our midst a true charity, UniMed Living; an organisation that aspires to ensure that every single person within the organisation is as dedicated to self-responsibility and truly caring for themselves as they are in helping others in their community.

    4. Good point, so often it can be more about the feel good factor of having done something and a true discernment of a charity’s daily operations could possibly be missing.

    5. Very true, Danielle. In my work place there are many who do various runs or other sporting activities and ask for sponsorship which goes to a charity. The things they do are often gruelling and they come in to work the next day hobbling or just exhausted, but they will sometimes brush off their aches and pains with the age-old phrase, “but it was for a good cause”. It has always left me wondering why our own physical well-being is not a good enough cause to take the same care with?

      1. I love this Naren “why our own physical well-being is not a good enough cause to take the same care with?”. You’ve hit the nail on the head – true charity is to live in a self-loving and self-caring way so that the body we bring to every situation is one of love, truth, wisdom and God. So it is this bringing of love, truth, wisdom and God to any group, organisation or situation that is charity work. Imagine if we were taught this, there would truly be no need to raise money to support people, because the essence of what we bring would be doing it.

      2. Indeed, Danielle. Instead of what you describe, charity has become a place where we place our pity for others, our need to feel good about ourselves, or even the place we need to punish ourselves because we don’t feel good about ourselves and want to make up for that.

      3. A great question Naren, “why our own physical well-being is not a good enough cause to take the same care with?” It does seem ludicrous that people will go to extreme measures to raise money for a ‘good cause’ at the expense of their own health. There is such an irony in this, as it could well be those people that will end up in a position where the money they raised for a charity could eventually be supporting them!

      4. Absolutely, Sandra! It would not take much to see a charity set up for those who have injured themselves supporting charities! There is a comedy skit in there somewhere.

    6. So very often the charities we donate to are the ones that are addressing areas in our own lives that we ourselves may feel guilty about, but do not want to actually address in our own lives or society. The classic case is donating to third world countries. While I am not saying that those people should be left high and dry, the fact is that much of the problems that they are facing are contributed to greatly by the fact that those in richer countries are exploiting the resources of these other countries without the consideration for the fact that people are suffering for what we enjoy.
      But instead of addressing this with our industries, we throw some money at the affected people so that we can continue buying the goods that we want and having the lifestyle we desire without considering that we are a brotherhood of mankind, and if one is suffering we are all suffering.

      1. This is a really insightful comment, Naren. The example that comes to mind is commodities such as coffee and cocoa -the crops are picked, often by child labour, and the pickers are paid a fraction of the price these commodities fetch on the global market and an even bigger fraction of the price paid for the end product (a cup of coffee or a block of chocolate).

      2. Yes, Anne. Those two crops are ones that are steeped in issues such as child labour, and wages well below what is liveable. But the biggest issue is that we so often do not truly see the cost that we are imposing upon another, and those who stand to make a profit from this situation make sure that we only see happy farmers, as opposed to allowing us to see what our habits of coffee and chocolate are bringing upon another.

    7. I would add Danielle that most people ‘do charity’ so that they can literally forget about their own world and for a second or two take pity on others, jump up on a pedestal and await the recognition in whatever form that comes.

      1. This is true Lee, many people will look for someone who is worse off than they are, either financially, health wise or family/business success. This is done as a way to feel good about self and their own wow’s or miserable lives. Like the old saying “there’s people who have it worse than me”, like this is supposed to make us feel better and grateful for the life we have, even if miserable.

      2. That’s so true Lee. And many people will make regular month payments, for example, which will go directly to a charity from their bank accounts, and then sit back and congratulate themselves on ‘doing their bit’ for saving the world and it’s inhabitants. One example is cancer charities, how much money has been spent on finding a ‘cure’ for cancer, yet cancer is on the rise. Maybe we should look elsewhere for answers because charities may offer solutions, or temporary fixes but they don’t offer true healing, for everyone.

    8. Great points Naren…throwing money at third world charities is a distraction and a feel good activity without looking deeper at what is really going on in these countries and how we are personally contributing to the poverty in these countries through the products we consume such as coffee or chocolate.

    9. This feeling of wanting to do something meaninful or good for others is very common and can be seen when people leave the paid workforce and do volunteer work or charity work. But I feel they miss the point that ALL work is the same whether paid or otherwise as it is all providing a service to someone somewhere, and it is not about what it is we do, but the quality of how we each live everyday that we bring to that. And so, doing charty work can expose the ‘doing good’ to feel better but it misses the point.

      1. Your right Sandra, people think as soon as they are doing something for no money that they are doing Charity work, but this is so so far from the truth. Charity work is something that can be lived every day, even in our families, workplace and any intimate relationship. It’s when we feel what is truly needed for another to evolve, and we support them in any way needed for this to happen. True charity is also evolution for everyone involved, the person offering the charity, the person receiving it and anyone involved in the exchange. Not one person can be compromised.

      2. Beautifully said Danielle. And even more than all the people involved – every person, animal and tree, as well as the farthest star is affected by an evolutionary choice and there is rejoicing in Heaven!

      3. Wow Lyndy you’re so right. Each time we choose to evolve it effects the whole universe. On the flip side of this, each time we choose to do something to be nice, or to benefit ourselves (in false charity) this is a comfort and a protection from feeling our hurts or looking at where we have held back from evolving, and the whole universe is reflected this which then reflects to others that this way of living, holding back, is ok.This reminds us of the responsibility in our choices and they do in one way or another effect everyone and everything.

    10. In relation to Naren’s comment: I do not know the figures, but it would be interested in knowing to what causes do people tend to give money to and how this relates to their lives: fears, problems, comfort zones, etc. Why do people donate to the specific causes they support and truly why? It is not just feeling good or feeling guilty. I feel we can go deeper here.

  177. The term charity straight away feels to me like a disempowerment. It offers a feeling of it can’t be done by whomever by themselves so it need to be done by others for them, this is very disempowering. There is no room for growth or acquiring skills in this and definitely not room for knowing we already have the answers for the place we find ourselves.

  178. I appreciate your suggestion that charities might well be served by considering first the intentions and motives behind their service offerings; reflections to that effect could potentially lead to some very valid insights and true changes rather than just the usual band-aid solutions that leave a large part of the world population permanently defined as welfare and aid recipients.

  179. “true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility”
    I love what you have written here Anne, so simple yet so powerful and wise.
    I appreciate you highlighting the misguided way in which our charities operate.
    True charity does not need recognition or do-gooders; its support of others to evolve, as needed, is its only intent and purpose.

  180. Brilliantly articulated and exposing to those who work in the field of charities. It would be amazing for those charitable workers to connect first to the focus and purpose of the intent behind the charity. This would enable them to make true change that will see the spirit of those in places like Africa reincarnate into a different life as the lessons that were needed to be learnt were truly healed and didn’t simply have money thrown at the situation. When we meet another brother in equalness and with love it gives them an opportunity to feel their own essence and from there, begin to heal that which has led them to be born into such circumstances. Many people see charity as another greedy scam that is enabled through the use of slick marketing and people feeling guilty for the circumstances of others. We need to bring a true loving intention to charity and then we will see some real changes.

  181. I absolutely agree Anne with what you said about having a true intention of what the charity’s purpose is, and also the why the people were in that role of helping others in the first place.

  182. When I receive a phone call to donate to a charity, I always feel an expectation that I should donate out of guilt otherwise I’m being miserly and not helping others. And yet it never feels true what the charities are doing and the energy behind them, and it feels like a temporary fix and not get to the root of people’s problems, irresponsibility and not looking deeper as to why there are people who have too much in the world and others that don’t have enough.

  183. Awesome blog Anne, I love what you have shared here.
    I particularly like the mention of gambling when we buy a raffle ticket because at a school event recently I was asked if I wanted to buy a raffle ticket and the truth is I didn’t and I did not buy one but what was interesting was the guilt that I had about not buying it and not supporting the event and the expectation from others that I should buy it. I felt it all and was quite amazed at how strong it all was, but was not spoken about. I imagine there are many more who like me, did not want to buy it, but went against that feeling to “be a good supporter” or to be part of the event regardless of what they felt. Is this because we feel like we have to, because we have never stopped to consider or question charity as you have done so here? Thank you. It;s great to expose it and think about why we would invest in charity.

    1. I have been there done that myself in the past Rosie ‘being a good supporter’. I was recently cold called by one of those save the world group’s and was in one of those I want to talk moods. The person on the line went though the ‘create the guilt’ script to blackmail you into contributing to their cause. I questioned him about the size of the room he was in the call center, it sounded like a hens house in the background. I told him that the tenner a month he wanted me to donate a month would not cover a second of the phone, power, rental costs of the call center leaving nothing for saving the world and he hung up on me! Did I plant a seed of doubt?

  184. True charity begins when we hold another in complete equality. Not when we harm our bodies for a cause by pushing it beyond its natural design then giving money to people out of benevolence.

  185. The society we live in is dysfunctional and dis-connected to the extent it has created hundreds of telephone help-lines tailored to every condition and age group to support people in crisis. How is it that young and old choose to regularly seek help by phoning, texting or emailing complete strangers? What does it say about the state of family and communities that we have become so dependent on these remote services? What if everything was turned upside down and instead of turning to help-lines and chat rooms, we turned instead to ourselves and the wisdom that lies within. What if we offered services that truly supported people to help themselves. Hundreds of people have turned their lives around by taking personal responsibility, through self care, nurturing, love, and respecting themselves and others. This is the work of Universal Medicine. It has created a model of true health based on deeply loving ourselves and paying attention to the way we live our lives every single day. This way of living works and is evidenced through the very many testimonies of profound personal transformations. It is not the asking for help that is questioned, it is a help-line culture that creates dependency in callers, that responds in a crisis but nothing fundamental changes, a band aid is applied. What we need and as offered by Universal Medicine, is a radical alternative, one that seeks to heal humanity at source and for life.

  186. I agree with you Anne. Recently I was phoned by a Charity organisation that I collaborated with in the past. In that phone call, I was literally pushed to continue with them with different strategies: they were treating to feed my self-esteem, fostering my guilty, talking about high ideals, cheapening fees,.. I was really shocked about the lack of scruples they were showing. It was like they were selling a product looking for the weak point to achieve their goal. Of course I didn’t accept their offer, because I don’t believe that this kind of “service” would help anyone. If they don’t take me in account, would they consider better to the people they supposedly help? Is this kind of “service” able to change the system or is perpetuating the same problems that they seem try to solve?
    I subscribe all of your words Anne, and they are a confirmation of the feeling that I had. Thank you for expose it so clearly.

  187. “change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.” This is such an inspiring statement, and raises the bar for anyone wanting to help anybody or do anything to serve humanity.

  188. We don’t really understand what charity is in our society. In its current form it has a very distinct picture and many images come to mind, Bob Geldoff (Bandaid) if you are old enough to remember, Mother Teresa, and a person (any person) giving away what little they have to someone with nothing.
    These all most definitely contain acts of kindness but charity is something more. Charity is to give back to others in a way that leaves them empowered and not simply bandaged.
    The wound that needs healing requires something beyond kindness and survival. This is the true future of charity, to support those in dire need to empower and heal themselves so that they never return to those conditions again – and not ever give them a second thought.
    That will be the outcome of a true charity. It is coming in our future but it is barely here yet.

  189. This blog is fantastic and I feel it’s something many people have been wanting to say for years but have not had access to these words. I agree true charity is about empowering people to bring about their own change. Also, true charity work will have empowered staff who are also evolving for humanity and who are also equally empowered.

  190. Just because an organisation has charitable status does not automatically preclude it from being subject to the same forces of corruption that potentially affect any organisation, large or small.

  191. Fantastic that you have spoken up about this topic. Charities seem to be a little untouchable and few dare speak up against them. It can be seen that when you criticise a charity you are then saying you don’t care about starving children in Africa. But the current set up of charities is not a set up that truly supports those it is aimed at supporting. It maintains the status quo and by speaking up against it, it then calls a deeper level of responsibility – possibly one that people are happy avoiding. It is easily avoided by doing volunteer work and making donations just as it is by receiving donations.

  192. A great article to ponder Anne. Is it possible that because of the intentions that come with a lot of charity work that it leads to people wanting to cross the street? I find a lot of charities imposing especially when they play on guilt. This is not true service. To me, when something is in true service, it holds it’s own, it’s stands alone and the person or organisation doing the serving have no need for recognition or outcome. It is an offering that comes from a point of love. Many charities feel very needed even though they are under the guise of serving those in need.

  193. I just wrote something about a cancer charity that has a coffee and cake morning world wide to raise money, this years slogan was ‘cake tastes better together” I couldn’t quite understand the promotion of comfort eating when cancer is very much a lifestyle disease…. The walks through the night for cancer, that is unloving to the body. Anything that compromises the body gives itself away as not being a true charity.

    1. Totally awful, but very common. As you say Vanessa it’s pretty ironic that this charity is advertising cake so heavily when cancer is a lifestyle disease, but similar to the way other businesses work – whatever sells well is put on the shelves, or in this case put up on billboards and posters to encourage people to donate.

  194. Incredible Anne! You have hit the dollar on the head with this one! Finally, an article that redefines ‘Charity’ and ‘service’! I initially reacted to the %’s that the charities have taken from the trillions of donations for themselves. BUT, that is not what it is about, for CLEARLY it is not about the money. It is important to expose the corruption in this so called ‘do-good’ industry, where the ‘good-doing’ somehow shades people’s eyes to not consider or expose the individual and company’s corruption. Money doesn’t create everlasting change, 1) we need to look at why the world is like it is (and what choices from us all have lead to this) and 2) To “empower the people who we are aiming to serve, rather than treating them as a ‘charity case’?” (and maybe we need to begin here by empowering ourselves!). To me, this also shows how Serge is a charitable man, as he lives to empower others to be in their power.

  195. Yes, I used to be a donator several years ago for cancer and to children’s funds but then when they started calling me and asking for donations, I could feel the energy and the angle they were operating from and it felt really awful. That reflection was enough for me to stop any donations from then on.

    1. I have seen the charity industry from the inside and felt the source energy at work: dishonesty. How integrity is abandoned in the pursuit of steady income streams. How language used is selected to generate sympathy and tug at the heart strings of donors. How charity workers feel they are beyond reproach because of the work they do. With the mask removed, we see and feel what is truly going on and walk away. And as I write these words came to me: rotten, spoiled, dirty. How something as pure and true as service has been bastardised and the vile imposter now masquerades as the real deal. It is truly shocking.

  196. I agree Elizabeth, we need to change how we approach charities and as you say look at the intention behind giving to charities. It is no different to the set up we have created with the media. We have created a media who are not interested in telling the truth but in sensationalism. The thing is that it is we, the general public who have allowed this to occur and it is us who can and need to change it.

    1. I love how you have compared the lacking-in-integrity charity to the lacking-in-integrity press and media. These organisations are reflections of the dominant consciousnesses that run our psyches and our society, at whose basis is ‘it’s all about me me me’. Only now are gathering enough people together en masse to stand up to the corruption that so evilly nests in these organisations and businesses. We stand up one by one and yet we stand together.

  197. The first thing which I think of when it comes to charity are the street fundraisers who are tasked with stopping people in the street to obtain personal details and possible donations to their charity/employer. I am more than happy to talk to them if they’ll walk with me which of course they are not allowed to do but on the one occasion one did what struck me was that they have not really considered anything deeper than the information they are given for their sales pitch. Fundraising is a business of selling and this incorporates all of the possible flaws of any sales industry which includes an absence of the whole picture – the truth. After a short conversation the young gentleman I was speaking to didn’t want to sign me up for anything but was more interested in discussing the real issues at hand and why I did not feel that the employer he was working for was a true charity.

    1. It is interesting when you don’t just say yes I will give you money for your charity, there is such an expectation that you will give. No one seems to ever really stop and consider what has actually changed – nothing. These are big businesses. The shame is that there will be some doing great work and get tarnished with the same brush. I always feel we give so much in taxes any way that that money should be more than enough to cover the needs of the society. SO much money is wasted – the police commissioners desk cost £200000 – how on earth is that in any way justifiable? It is absolute abuse and it is rife in all systems.

    2. Thanks for sharing Michael. I love that you had a real conversation with this young man. I had an amazing conversation with a young man who came around collecting for an inner-city shelter for kids who have run away from home or who find themselves homeless with their mother who has left home because of violence in Sydney when I was staying with my daughter. I could feel something really genuine and beautiful in this young man – they had had government funding for the free counselling services available for the women, and also for maintaining the shelter in a way that it was very comfortable and homey and that each child receive their own back pack with toys and things that would belong to them and them alone – their stuff that would help make this a place they wanted to come home after school. The government funds had been withdrawn in a cut-back and they were struggling to keep going. He talked so lovingly about his work and the kids in a way that was coming from true integrity, that I actually donated to it (which I don’t usually). Then we had an amazing conversation about abuse and bullying and he had heard of All Rise I feel that we have to keep our antenna open to ‘real deal’ in these situations.

      1. Well said Lyndy, I agree. Being open to everyone and the possibilities before us is so important. It can be so easy to slip into judgement and almost right off particular situations or even people. Simply starting a conversation without an investment in any outcome can make a huge difference.

  198. Thank you for starting this much needed discussion Anne. The way most charity is delivered currently is not supporting humanity and I totally agree that ‘perhaps we first have to change the energy in which we approach service to others, as change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.’

    1. Helen I agree and are actually stunned at the figures Anne quotes, 85% going to ‘running’ costs. If there was ever a correct use of inverted comas this was it!

  199. It is, as you say absurd that a charity promoting health would organise a 2-day cycle race!! But before one even get’s into what has been organised, the corruption of salaries and the outrageous cuts of advisors etc..it is the root impulse behind the charity that needs to be challenged. Until the self of the organiser and the self of the donator is rendered absolutely nought, then true charity can not exist. The simplest and most obvious example of it all is the stickers that you get given if you give money to charity. If that doesn’t say everything we need to know about 99% of charities, then I don’t know what does!!!

    1. An interesting point ottobathurst. I have not seen these stickers but I know what they symbolize and portray. A kind of ticked list in fluorescent flashing lights for everyone to see, yes I’ve been a good girl/boy and done my bit for others/society for today! A far cry from what is truly needed.

      1. Most definitely there is this identification in charity work and the one upmanship of being a good citizen – whether you’re within the organisation or a donor. The amount of false value placed in charity is lavished very thickly to the point that it is not seen to be the self-serving institution that it is.

    2. True, it is something that is so foreign to most of us that we don’t even know what it looks like if we are honest. Thank God for the Benhayons who show us to live without recognition and self interest is more than possible it is a divine right.

    3. That’s so funny Otto, the stickers of approval and recognition proving that we “did good” are a dead give away! Why do we need others to know we “gave” if it is not for recognition?? So obvious and humorous now you point it out.

      1. And the stickers are at the small end of the scale. At the other end are the grotesque public displays of charitable or philanthropic work from companies or ultra wealthy benefactors. It’s like a burglar stealing all your belongings then giving you back your TV and expecting you to thank him!!

      2. So true ottobathurst, it does get kinda sick on a bigger scale and becomes more about marketing and is a massive promotional tool for companies and individuals promote their so called ‘charitably’ in a public arena and flaunt how ‘generous’ they are…

  200. It is simple to see that charities and the way they function generally do not truly serve nor create true and lasting changes. This is not to say that those who work within these charities are not wanting to truly serve but that the systems in place and the consciousness around charities do not provide a true and real foundation for what is needed. True charity does not need recognition, accolades or awards. Its support of others to develop and evolve as needed is its only purpose.

  201. Anne thank you for your detailed expose on charity my favorite line:
    “This feels important because, if I am trying to “please others” or “do good” as my initial intention, this is not truly making it about serving humanity, but rather about self-gain and, in the words of Isaac Newton, “for every force/action, there is an equal and opposite force/reaction” – therefore the energy is never truly changing and we are left stuck on the same merry-go-round of problems, and solutions that are only ever temporary band-aids.”
    What I love about this is the possibility that the energy we put in might have to do with the energy of result that comes out. I love the responsibility that brings.

  202. When I first started to embrace the concept of service, I came up against strong resistance and when I looked a little deeper, I could see that my only role model for what I thought was service, was in fact the martyr i.e. doing everything for everybody else at the expense of one self. I have slowly been unraveling this as I learn to take much deeper care of myself and take responsibility for all aspects of my life, I am now more able to commit my time and presence in the service of others. It feels incredible to be coming from this self loving foundation and hence the quality I bring to others then feeds love back to me, building the capacity to offer more of myself.

    1. The energy of a martyr is indeed poisonous. I have played that card at times and it feels hideous. No surprise people want to run a mile when someone is playing the martyr. With all those hooks and needs and sucking it is unbearable to be around. The antidote for me was self responsibility.

  203. You have made great points Anne. I do not trust giving money to most charities as I do not feel that the people in need receive much benefit from the aid. You are exposing the falseness that lies behind charitable work and this is much needed. Change can only come about through inspiration, of one who is living in the quality of love in their own lives. From this place of responsibility, great change is possible. We only have to look at the principle from which Serge Benhayon operates and the thousands of people who have turned their lives around through his inspiration, NOT from charity or any other means, but purely offering awareness and inspiration which has been the catalyst for remarkable and lasting change that is otherwise just not seen in the World.

  204. Giving to charity seems to give the people who are giving some relief and then they can just carry on with their lives. These donations are also tax deductible so those of us giving get some of it back. What sort of charity is that? You are so right Anne- something needs to change as the energy is all wrong and is of no benefit to anyone.

    1. Yes, there is a mentality of because I’ve donated to charity, I’m therefore a good person.

      1. Or even more Nikkimckee, the view can be, I have donated to charity therefore I don’t need to consider how I live in the rest of my life, and whether that living is a reflection of love and care, because I give to charity all is well.

      2. Totally Stephen and Nikki – or in other words, giving to charity is a form of comfort, indulgent comfort.

      3. Very true Stephen and Lyndy – donating to charity is a form of comfort. It’s in disguise and can easily fool, but alas, it is comfort.

  205. This really exposes intention…our intention around anything. It is something that is often considered not important because it’s a personal unspoken choice…however, as you point out Anne, it is all about energy. Even though an intention may never be spoken, we all know that feeling when something just doesn’t feel quite right, quite true. And by feeling what is being said it becomes very clear what their true intention is, what the person/organisation really wants to say or do. We think we can hide but in fact we are completely transparent!

  206. The women that held 41 world records for Free Diving, could hold her breath for 9 minutes… died a few months ago doing what she loved doing… not what her body wanted. A well-known celebrity tried swimming the English Channel for a charity … failed the attempt and got so ill it took a month to recover. I don’t know if they still have in Circuses anymore but sword swallowers can join the trio of people that have forced their body’s to do something it was never designed to do. These are at the far end of the bell curve for what people are willing to sacrifice their bodies for in the name of a good cause… could that be self recognition?

    1. It is extraordinary the degree of disregard, disrespect and irresponsibility we can treat our bodies with….and all to prop up the arrogant self.
      And yet our bodies will respond instantly to even the smallest amount of loving care…imagine how life would be if we gave our bodies enormous love and care – how much would we change and how much would the world then change with us?! ‘We need to be the love we want the world to be’.

    2. Absolutely – self harm in the name of ‘helping’ another exposes the game right there. True charity begins with ourselves. If you want to support people who have no regard for themselves for example – we must build strong regard for ourselves first. Charity can be a great distraction from self responsibility.

    3. So true sjmatsonuk. I learnt the other day that a marathon originated in ancient Greece, when during war, a soldier had to run 42km from the battlefields to the fort to warn them when the enemy advanced. The place he ran to was called Marathon. The soldiers usually died once he arrived and uttered the words, “They’re coming…” Why did it ever get made into a sport? Why was it allowed to continue after the first person died? Why are people using it to raise money for charities? None of it makes sense. The only reason that it could be is for the runners to get the recognition for doing it. How loveless must we be as a human race to condone such a thing.

  207. Anne, if people “were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity”, this would change the face of ‘charity’ and humanity beyond recognition!

  208. It’s a great thing to observe and I would love to know more abut the statistics of how much “charity’ is actually passed on to those in need, and also indeed if that is the best way to help them. From what I can see a lot of time, money and energy that is spent on charities is more about those involved feeling righteous themselves rather than truly supporting others.

    1. Yes Simon I totally agree and there are also people that are genuinely wanting to give back to society and thus there is a huge call for true charity to be reborn.

    2. From my experience of how some charities are run there are a lot of ideals and beliefs, a lot of people being expected to work very long hours for very little money, (apart from those at the top), all in the name of ‘charity’, there is a lot of burnout and a lot of illness that come from this push, push way of working and a high turnaround of staff because this is simple an unsustainable way of working.

  209. A powerful and inspiring blog Anne Scott. From my own experience from attending presentations by Serge Benhayon, my entire understanding of charity has been turned upside down and inside out.
    “…to truly serve, first of all I have to be aware of what my intentions are. Through presentations offered by Serge Benhayon, founder of Universal Medicine, I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility i.e. I must be the love I would like the world to be”.

  210. As a society we have to become more honest about why we do what we do. We can all feel the motives behind what we do, we just have to be honest and admit it to ourselves so that we can change and bring true charity to ourselves and others.

    1. Absolutely Elizabeth. Another part of this issue is that some people are not prepared to look after themselves and hence rely/need others to do it for them. There is an unhealthy cycle at play under the guise of ‘good’ for us all to address.

    2. That’s it Elizabeth, honesty in motive is the key choice to make to ensure that we start running on a true fuel and not say ‘yes’ to being manipulated by a false fuel that says ‘This is about me’ ,’This is about keeping me protected,’ ‘this is about getting recognised’ ‘this is about assuaging guilt’. What is we asked ‘What is true needed here?’

    3. Also I think it is to stop trying to make things ‘better’ but to be really honest in why are they so bad in the first place. Nothing is going to get solved with money.

      1. A really valid point, Vicky: Bringing true honesty to why ‘bad’ situations have arisen, instead of trying to make them ‘better’…

    4. Well said Elizabeth. ‘We have to become more honest about why we do what we do’, it’s as if everyone’s waiting for someone to be honest and spill the beans – to expose the true motives behind charity and things alike… The same as in school when someone does something naughty like throw a pen and it hits the teacher, and everyone just stares at each other unwilling to own up!

    5. Elizabeth your simple suggestion ‘As a society we have to become more honest about why we do what we do’ is, of course what is needed but currently we live in a world that is one big oozy, foggy mishmash of lies, lack of clarity, false beliefs and lack of truth. It’s a numbed out, sold out booze bus bouncing through a make believe landscape. It is the responsibility of those who have got off the bus to let everyone who is still on the bus know that it’s on the Road To Nowhere.

  211. It may not be fashionable to say, but we need to consider that many of those we seek to “help” are suffering by choice. As Henry Thoreau said, “Often the poor man is not so cold and hungry as he is dirty and ragged and gross. It is partly his taste, and not merely his misfortune. If you give him money, he will perhaps buy more rags with it.” Charity as we know it runs on two foundations – that of sympathy, and that of the self serving need to make one feel better about oneself. Neither foundation can deliver true charity, and is the main reason we see it failing so miserably across the board. Does this mean that there can still be true charity? Absolutely, but true charity always comes from the understanding first and foremost that those requiring charitable assistance are equal in essence, all things being equal, and are therefore not powerless victims requiring our sympathy.

    1. Absolutely Adam…true charity brings responsibility – responsibility for our every choice.

    2. ‘those requiring charitable assistance are equal in essence, all things being equal, and are therefore not powerless victims requiring our sympathy.’ …. love what you’ve shared here Adam. Just feeling these words impulses a completely different response in how we would give assistance to another.

    3. Powerful words Adam. Suffering is one’s choice and sympathy only exacerbates the problem. To empower another through inspiration, in the knowing of equalness, is the only way.

    4. Great comment Adam and reading it I can feel how disempowering charities are for those we are supposed to be supporting when they run on sympathy.

    5. Very valid and true points made here Adam. This explains why a lot of charity has failed to make a difference.

    6. Adam, your expression is so gorgeous to hear. The authority in your words is so very powerful, I love reading your comments and listening to you speak.

    7. Adam what you say warrants restating ‘Charity as we know it runs on two foundations – that of sympathy, and that of the self serving need to make one feel better about oneself. Neither foundation can deliver true charity’,

    8. Powerful and wise words Adam… I love it especially the first line “It may not be fashionable to say, but we need to consider that many of those we seek to “help” are suffering by choice.” I have always felt the truth in what is being said here and at times expressed what I was feeling often causing a reaction in another. I agree with nikkimckee, it is so confirming and wonderful to see and feel the authority in Adam’s words.

    9. Absolutely Adam, people feel needed when they go about helping others, especially those that they feel sorry about, or sympathetic about their fate. This relationship has never worked and only when the true love that we are can an understanding be reached about all being equal in essence.

  212. ‘If I donate money to charities, how much of this money would actually go to people in need?’ This is a question I always liked to know the truth of before I used to donate to a charity, and it is true in many instances little of what is donated actually gets to where it is needed.
    Then I would look at say Africa, where a lot of money and resources have been donated over the years, but what has really changed in that Country?
    So really great Anne that you have brought this subject up for discussion and to see why there is far more to ‘charity’ than our old paradigm of it has been.

  213. It doesn’t really add up that we need to sacrifice ourself or flog our bodies in the name of charity, there is no dignity or humbleness in this, it seems attention grabbing, quite different from the quiet person in the street collecting for something close to their heart. While there are also flaws in this it doesn’t add up to the monster that has become the modern charitable challenges where there seems like an immense pressure put on our bodies to do something hard in the name of a good cause.

    1. I have observed that even the quiet collector in the street is capable of imposing their desire to act charitably upon you, especially through the mechanism of trying a guilt trip on you, Stephen.

      1. I agree Coleen, using guilt to try and receive donations is a big one and I so used to fall for them all the time. I would sympathise and take on the story and sure enough part with my money. I now recognise that feeling sorry for someone does not support them at all, it just keeps them in their suffering and shows them no other choice. I have learnt what true charity means from Universal Medicine and it has enabled me to see and understand it in a different light.

      2. Yes, it’s interesting how guilt, sympathy and charity all seem to hang out together all too easily, SusanG! It’s not a triad I can say am at all enamoured of….

      3. This is very true Coleen, there is an imposition in the pressure to give to a charitable cause and you can feel that in many collectors on the street. This runs through all charity and is what makes it so harmful. Everyone has experienced that anxious moment where they are expected to give money yet don’t really want to. Thanks for pointing that out.

      4. I agree, Stephen: it’s as though guilt and imposition is being hurled from a great distance. I have observed how people often walk way wide of the collector so as to avoid even eye contact, let alone spoken conversation: how can someone truly benefit humanity by attracting such strangely anti social behaviour?

    2. Spot on Stephen – there is no reason for ‘proving or winning’ in the name of cahrity – unless of course it is all set up that way – because to create competition and comparison, to make it all about funding and money and power in the name of charity is to take it away from its true meaning.

  214. I hear of so many people who undergo incredible feats for charity, risking life and limb to do so. Is it really necessary to raise money in this way? We are a supposedly intelligent race, I am sure we can find a much more loving way to support others?

    1. We have shut ourselves down to the most simple of support mechanisms for ourselves. We have built walls and barriers between ourselves as people. The greatest support we can offer each other is returning to the love that we all are.

      1. It seems to me that until we take down our protective walls and barriers and meet each other for the equal human beings that we are, then there is no true support that can be offered for each other, for the walls block out Love.

      2. Beautifully said Jenny. True charity can be our everyday, the quality we are with people. Supporting people knowing we are all equal and communicating this in how we are with everyone.

    2. Absolutely Susan, why do we need to go to extremes to actually raise money to support others? For me it shows how much desire for recognition there is and that the more extreme choices we make, it just shows our own lack of self-worth.

    3. Jumping from airplanes, fasting, running marathons, cycling mind blowing distances in a week, putting our selves at great risk and pushing ourselves to the limit…you’re right SusanG there must be a more loving way. And it starts with the kindness we show ourselves first.

    4. Such a great point SusanG and Rosanna! It does expose the absurdity of our behaviour, always needing excitement or some grand achievement to feel good about ourselves, at the expense of our bodies. Surely a more evolved way can be found through living a loving life in brotherhood with one another?

  215. I love how asking the question about what true service is opens the door on exposing 1. what it is not and 2. starts the discussion about what it is. Intention is an important feature, as is offering what one has to offer in a lovingly dedicated way. A beautiful expose. Thank you, Anne.

    1. Absolutely Coleen I too love how Anne has exposed what true service is not and then started the discussion about how it might look and how this would empower individuals rather than the current model which is all about not seeing others as equal.

      1. Great point, Helen: the existing model of charity is precisely about holding the recipients in a state of neediness, of requiring rescue and of being incapable of mastering their situation for themselves. This is not to say that we do not offer support – but that the support that is offered is one, as you say, that holds them as equals and capable of rising above their situation with the proffered support – not with constant feeding of funds which makes the donor, the rescuer, who is in a superior position because of rescuing role.

      2. Absolutely -we are holding them in neediness rather than in love and equalness. This is gold.

  216. “It appeared to me that many of the events run by our charities could be putting people’s bodies and minds at risk!” I have had the same realization many times myself, Anne! I’ve seen people have all their hair shaved off in the cold of winter, drunk copious amounts of alcohol, consumed vast amounts of food and many other such activities under the guise of it all “being for a good cause.” The “good cause” did not extend to their own bodies: how can you help another when you are harming yourself?

    1. Exactly Coleen, very important points raised. Recently someone I know undertook to walk to raise funds for a particular charity. All comments made by this person on social media were of dread and how to cope, but wanting to push ahead in the name of the charity this was being done for. Ignoring what is truly felt will not serve anyone as the love for self is missing in the first place and, as you quite rightly point out Coleen – “how can you help another when you are harming yourself?”

    2. Well said coleen24. I too have been amazed what people have done to raise money for charity, it’s incredible; some even end up in hospital! “… true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility” and this line “I must be the love I would like the world to be” is absolute truth and beautiful.

  217. I love this Anne. And of what true service is giving clothes without offering support for the person wearing them to make true and lasting changes in their life.
    It reminds me of the saying ‘give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime’… or in this case, lifetimes.

    1. This is great Kylie, ‘It reminds me of the saying ‘give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime’… or in this case, lifetimes.’ it makes sense to empower people in this way, rather than treating them as victims and them being reliant on charity.

      1. What you’ve shared here, Anne, has got me thinking about all the charity bins that collect ‘donations’ to be passed on to people ‘less fortunate’. It seems that these bins are sometimes used as an opportunity to have a good clean out and to feel good about it because we’re helping someone else in the process. I’m all in favour of re-cycling but having seen some of the junk that gets left for collection, it feels like there can be a complete disregard for the recipients of these offerings. I wonder how much thought is given to whether something is actually a gift for another, or better placed in the garbage bin.

    2. Hi Kylie, I liked what you wrote here “And of what true service is giving clothes without offering support for the person wearing them to make true and lasting changes in their life.” True charity certainly goes much deeper than what we can currently see happening.

    3. Beautifully said Kylie. To give a man a fish but not teach him how to catch it is so temporary. It is the sticking paster that teaches nothing. I love how you bring this old proverb to the reality of life in the 21st century.

    4. Strong words, Kylie and indeed true. Everything you do for another to better their situation without taking in account that they may learn to care for themselves and value what they make, is a short lasting help. So help a man to not drown but do not be the life buoy for him. Teach him to swim on his own.

    5. What this saying “give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime” says to me is about teaching people to be responsible and accepting that they are more than capable of supporting themselves given the right tools. In some instances, charity feeds on sympathy, guilt and not treating the person as an equal but treating them as less because they don’t have what we have.

    6. Agree Kylie, many if not most charities exist to keep people where they are at, not to support them to rise out of poverty or to make lasting changes in their lives.

    7. So true, Kylie, there is no true support if we do not empower others to make changes for themselves. An example of this was when a friend of mine built water tanks for a Pacific Island nation. After awhile he realised they were simply relying on him to do all the work and weren’t taking responsibility to do anything themselves. So, after that, every time he built a tank he left it partly unfinished -so the villages had to complete it themselves. That way they not only learnt how to do it, but also learnt to take responsibility -how amazing was that?!

  218. What struck me when reading this blog was how false the whole charity industry is. Mainly because we have complete capability as a humanity to wipe out poverty and hunger if we choose to. But we don’t. Those with more are very happy to live with abundantly more than they need, and donate x, y or z to a charity. When it comes to true change however, our society is not so keen. It would require deep humbleness and embracing of the fact that we are all the same, and all have equal choices to make in how we live each day. We would also need to feel how we are not indeed separated by the oceans and land barriers we put in place, and that these just suit us in order to label someone as different or not our responsibility. The harmony of this planet is everyone’s responsibility. We can all be in true service by starting with treating everyone as equals, in a completely loving way. This in itself would revolutionise the planet.

    1. Beautifully said Amelia: ” We can all be in true service by starting with treating everyone as equals, in a completely loving way.” the world would definitely be a different place if we could all commit to this.

    2. I agree, Amelia. For us all to choose to treat each other with love, as equals, would be a giant, and, very loving, step for mankind.

    3. It is easy to ‘give to charity’ as a way of relief – relief from what? Perhaps it is from choosing not to feel the responsibility we have when we connect to the equality you mention here Amelia! Give a donation and another layer of numbness is added until the subject comes up again, next cycle! I have just connected to the truth that relief is the height if irresponsibility.

    4. So true Amelia, it often looks like donating money to charity is ‘throwing money at a problem’ by those that can, but it doesn’t ask anyone to change anything in their own lives in any way. It therefore just becomes a feel good activity.

      1. Totally Sandra, a feel good activity that doesn’t actually ask anyone to change, 100% true.

  219. This is a very valid point, something that I have felt for a while and what I feel we have yet to really understand ‘For example, if I feel a certain charity is doing amazing work in the area of health and I want to support it by organising a fund-raising event, would I organise a cycle or running race that I know will compromise the bodies of those racing: in other words, that would be detrimental to their health? Would the purpose of raising money be enough to compensate for the harm to the participants in the race?’ Currently I feel the ‘to do good’ is massively outweighing the ‘let’s be honest and see what is really going on’ far more than it should do and we all really need to assess this.

  220. Beautiful Anne, yes true charity is very far removed from what charity was once known to be. No wonder so many people run in the other direction when approached by a charity on the street. We can all feel the truth of how they operate, what the true intention is. Although many do contribute to absolve feelings of guilt or to be seen as doing the right thing, the intention there is about self-gain as is the charities of the day. It’s time to give in the name of love, and love for humanity as does Serge Benhayon, a man who gives not for self but for the love of his fellow brother.

    1. Beautifully said Katechorley, Serge Benhayon is a man who gives for the love of his fellow brothers equally, knowing exactly what is needed when and where, with no imposition.

      1. Serge Benhayon’s way helping people is one of true charity as it has the type of giving that empowers a person to do their own work and become their own self-responsible being. There is no greater gift than to support someone to find put their own selves back together again.

      2. Super comment Dean – play it again Sam: ‘Serge Benhayon’s way helping people is one of true charity as it has the type of giving that empowers a person to do their own work and become their own self-responsible being. There is no greater gift than to support someone to find put their own selves back together again.’

    2. Charities need attention and live on guilt. Possibly not very different from the 16th century catholic business of selling indulgences where you pay the church money and your sins are cleaned (that was the event that inspired Martin Luther to start the Protestant Reformation).

      1. Christophschnelle, this is certainly not liked to be heard by charities and most people. But I must confess that the advertisements of the charities I know are really built on guilt. Even in the slightest form. But how can guilt truly help? It is more an act of getting rid of something or if the guilt is deep then to be hooked into it. Not a good foundation to build on.

      2. I agree Sonja. I am not sure if it is even good for the charities – they promise something which they know they can’t deliver – relief from guilt. Hence, possibly, why we keep hearing about charities spending a lot of money on themselves, as if those charities that do this feel uncomfortable about the money and try to get rid of it as soon as possible.

      3. This truth you bring Christophschnelle, clashes with how the many people that are involved in these charities and donate to them pursue the good charities are bringing to the world. But in fact they are only there for own self gain, to give relief to the feeling of guilt that we have allowed into our lives. The guilt that living our human lives on earth has been classified to be by the institutionalized religious organisations and we have bought into.

      4. This is a brilliant example Christophschnelle and a convenient to way to relieve ourselves from guilt.

      5. Christophschnelle, it would seem that we are going around and around in circles, coming back to the same point, doing the same thing over and over again life after ilfe, no matter what it is in life, and that includes ‘charities’ and yes, it would appear they mostly work on pressing the emotion button, endeavouring to make one believe in pity, sympathy and guilt. I find your reference to the slipping back in time to the 16th century quite fascinating – it would seem to indicate we have not truly evolved very much at all.

      6. Christoph,
        I too found you reference to the 16th Century fascinating. So many charities foster guilt openly, as it has proven to be a sure way to get money. I myself used to subscribe to doing this. Connecting this to the very same energy of the 16th Century has stopped me and I have found myself pondering just how much the energy of guilt has been used in our world and for how long it has been such a huge force. For an energy to have such a momentum behind it I find myself understanding very clearly just why we find it so difficult to let it go in our lives (guilt is so often behind the self criticism and self loathing that is such an epidemic in our world). This understanding has very quickly cut the power out of guilt for me. Thank you deeply for your comment.

      7. Leigh, I wonder if in the 16th Century it was more fear – fear of the afterlife. On the other hand, anyone who can feel that there is such a thing as karma (or even the Christian version – Armageddon) may have a some fear mixed in with their guilt.

    3. Kate, what you have expressed so succinctly expresses what I feel when approached by a charity – I want to run the other way because I know I am about to be ‘blackmailed’ and be asked for sympathy. As you say when we ‘give in the name of love’, then that is true charity that is given freely and from the heart, and without any duress. I would not have this understanding without the inspiration and life of Serge Benhayon who is the epitome of charity in action in the way that he serves humanity.

      1. True charity has lost is way for a long time. Charity begins at home the old saying goes. With the current economic recession charity’s have been hard hit and lotto’s have skimmed ever more funds for their coffers. Charitys have resorted to paid canvassers to get donations. You are so right Susan about todays Blackmailing people into donating with the sympathy card. Charity from the heart to serve humanity is still the only true way.

    4. I agree with you katechorley, charity as it is run nowadays is definitely not true charity, so much money is wasted and is never received by the supposed cause, and the intentions behind the so-called charity are often not true either. So often charity is given because of guilt or a need for recognition. Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have shown us what true charity is, so much has been done by Serge to help people, that the world never hears of, it has as you say, no iota of self in it, but “for the love of his fellow brother”.

    5. Yes Katechorley, charities these days seem more like businesses under the guise of “charity” and it’s true that we can feel the energy behind them.

    6. Absolutely Kate, the truth is always felt whether we register that or not. It is quite interesting how many though still get caught in either involvement or personally giving funds to charities that they clearly feel are not true. There is a deep seed of guilt and being seen as a do-gooder that can override what you originally feel is true.

    7. Absolutely Katechorley and Anne, most charities tend to poach on the good nature of individuals. There is an expectation that we should all support Charities because they do “good” work, and so often contributions are made for precisely this reason – to be seen to be “doing good” and helping others in need. When in fact this is to gain recognition rather than to truly help another. However Serge Benhayon is showing us that true charity is given for all in equalness, with no self involved what so ever.

  221. Anne I feel you are spot on concerning the many charities we all support, in one way or another in our lives. Looking at why we support them, what is behind our doing so and where the money actually ends up, is definitely a good start.

  222. Seems as if charities are willing to allow these services to go on and allow a victim mentality to continue with a constant hand outs and the recognition that comes with that, are we really inspiring or trying to cover something up, there is major corruption in charities and this needs to be called to account, and not the bank account.

  223. The charity thing is everywhere. Having been through breast cancer, people expect me to be pro charity for raising money for breast cancer, but I am not. I see that the charities are about research to find better drugs, to extend life expectancy, seeking a relief but never really addressing the underlying cause of the cancer itself. If we stay solutions orientated, nothing will ever change, cancers will continue to rise and people will not take the steps to become self-responsible that they are not actually victims, that illness and disease isn’t something that just happens to you. Taking responsibility for me getting cancer was the biggest wake up call I have had and it has changed my life remarkably which I am grateful for.

  224. Thank you Anne,
    You bring a depth of awareness to the real issue facing Charities.
    That being that in truth they may not be serving Humanity to improve a problem, but rather serving their own needs and the needs of those involved and further expanding the issues.
    Not so long ago a catholic high school girl knocked on the door and asked me to buy gambling tickets for the Melbourne cup. It was a fund raiser for the school. The children where asked to participate in selling as many tickets as they could manage and for those that sold over a certain amount they were offered a day out to a fun park as a reward.
    I ask what is really being asked of these children in the name of charity. To encourage gambling at such a young age and send the message its ok, and to compete with their class mates in being rewarded for selling something they possibly don’t feel is right but feel compelled to participate in for the fear of missing out.
    This made me really question the energy and real motivation behind charity!!

  225. The other day I read a story about three women whose husbands had died of Motor Neurone Disease. That must be one of the most horrible tortuous deaths and devastating to watch your loved one die from it. To raise awareness and money for this disease and “in honour of their husbands” these woman on a cold day had very icy buckets of cold water poured over their heads. How did that honour their husbands? After all they had just been through how could torturing themselves and their bodies in this way be a loving thing to do? That was utter self-abuse and there cannot be one ounce of charity in self-abuse. Surely for there to be true charity there must be love and true love does not have any self or emotion in it.

    1. Wow, that is just totally absurd! Maybe to suffer as another did in some strange way shows we care? But yes true care is about true love and nothing less.

  226. If we are all equal why do we need charity in the first place? Why do we have so much suffering in the world? Why is illness and disease through the roof? Why is the breast cancer charity industry so huge? Why are we not asking what is it about the way we live that gives us breast cancer? Why do with think that by torturing and abusing our bodies by going on long runs will help this situation?

    1. All practical, sensible, brilliant questions Nicola: ‘If we are all equal why do we need charity in the first place? Why do we have so much suffering in the world? Why is illness and disease through the roof? Why is the breast cancer charity industry so huge? Why are we not asking what is it about the way we live that gives us breast cancer? Why do with think that by torturing and abusing our bodies by going on long runs will help this situation?’ This last situation (torturing and abusing our bodies climbing mountains or running marathons) is so clearly a form of indulgence, disregard, and attention–seeking.

  227. It is great that you bring up this topic for discussion Anne. I think the first rule of true charity is that it must have nothing of self in it. If you are doing it for recognition, out of guilt, boredom, sympathy, ideal and beliefs etc and all the many reasons that many do then it can never offer any true good and in fact causes harm.

  228. ‘…therefore the energy is never truly changing and we are left stuck on the same merry-go-round of problems, and solutions that are only ever temporary band-aids.’ So true Anne. We spend so much time in sympathy for others which really doesn’t empower another at all, and if anything just keeps them stuck in their situation. If we did more of what you suggest here, we would have a far higher success rate in helping those that ask for help.

  229. You make such a great point Anne when you ask whether it is indeed service if you organise an event to raise money for charity which involves the participants putting themselves in harms way to bring in the donations. It’s something most people wouldn’t ever consider because we look at those being supported by the charity, see ourselves as better off which has an element of guilt present for many, which then leads to sacrificing self for the cause because ‘even a little discomfort does not make up for the pain/poverty etc. those in need are facing’. It’s a form of self-flagellation for being ‘one of the lucky ones’. This serves no-one but ourselves – in assuaging guilt. If we look at the way we live first and build a loving relationship with ourselves, then we will be in service every moment of our day.

  230. Could it be that although charities aim to end suffering in developing places and fight for equal rights, because of the intention that laces their actions, they are actually prolonging inequality?

  231. I get the feeling we are going in thinking we are being charitable but actually we go in with arrogance thinking we are better and have the answers to help others but we have not truly helped ourselves first.
    How can we fix them if we are not well ourselves?
    I like your suggestion of sharing what we are good at naturally and beginning by looking at our intention.

  232. Yesterday someone told me that he ran a half-marathon for charity, every kilometre every participant was running counted for 1€ for the good cause. Doing something good that helps others is a genuine concern of him. When we shifted the conversation to the struggle he has with a neighbour who is suing him for no good reason instead of having a simple conversation to clear things he expressed his anger and didn´t hold back with swearing willing to fight whatever it takes.
    It took him a while to at least consider the discrepancy of both attitudes. The hope for good and carrying our unresolved hurts might go hand in hand.

  233. It seems utterly crazy that we would hit and punch each other to raise money for charity. Where is the sense in that?

  234. Anne, you have really raised so many great points here. So many people jump into doing these charity events, as you have pointed out, to make themselves feel better, recognition, to ‘do good’ guilt, boredom, but is it for ‘true service’. Do many really even know what that truly means? I would say not. You have really created great insight and stating it is possible there is another way to look at this – “empower the people who we are aiming to serve, rather than treating them as a ‘charity case’ great idea!!

  235. It is easy to see how we can get sucked into thinking we are ‘doing good’ when in truth, how we live every day can do so much harm it makes our ‘doing good’ meaningless. Constantly criticising others, judging others, getting angry and emotional in any way – all dumps energy into our environment that is not healthy. On the other hand, if we simply live our lives being tender, gentle, accepting, appreciating, that can be something that everybody feels and can choose for themselves.

  236. As I re-read your article this sentence stood out for me ” if I am trying to “please others” or “do good” as my initial intention, this is not truly making it about serving humanity, but rather about self-gain.” Much of my life has been about doing and being good – all about self, wanting recognition and acceptance from others, thus no serving for humanity. Universal Medicine teachings have made me so much more aware of this trait. Losing this identification with self has been a slow process. Recognising that I have been looking for love from others through this wanting to please – but knowing that now I can give love to myself – has been transformative.

  237. The word charity for me has always been a difficult one to deal with, for nearly all the charities I came into contact with I felt that I was just a target for them to get what they want. To me that does not feel like a charity, there is no equality and therefore everything that the charity do becomes tainted by this. Yet what I also find disturbing is people who have very little money to give to charity, yet they do and I’ve heard of cases where they can’t buy their own food for the week yet still give money to charity. That’s deeply worrying activity for any firm to allow. The causes sound very “good” but as for the true intention that appears to be another matter.

  238. Wow Anne I love what you are bringing to us – questioning the true intentions behind charity. People tend to leave charity alone or assume it is all good because it is labelled a charity, and therefore to question it is in bad taste – but as you share here – how loving is a marathon? And what of the state of Africa and all the money pumped into it? Perhaps true charity comes from true service, not necessarily money, but truly supporting others and being a reflection back to humanity. I very much agree that it is time to redefine true charity.

  239. All very true Anne. There is a huge percentage of money donated to charity that pays things like staff salaries, rather than going to the cause at hand (that the money was promised to go to)… As you stated about it’s quite obvious this is going on as surely after billions, upon billions, upon billions of dollars/pounds have been donated to supporting somewhere like Africa to land it’s feet more firmly on the ground and for countries there to begin generating their own money we would be seeing or hearing about a much bigger difference?

  240. Great point Sally, I know in the past I had given regularly to environmental charities but I can now feel how that was my way of making myself feel I was doing something to help/make things better – without actually having to look at my own responsibility in how I was polluting the planet by the way I was choosing to live, which was without accepting that we are far more than these flesh and bones.

  241. Charities seem to get money by making people feel guilty, for instance knocking on people doors whilst they are at home and giving a long speech as to why they should donate money to their cause or approaching people whilst out shopping, almost leaping upon you to tell you why you should donate to their cause – this feels very desperate and very imposing and means that people are donating out of guilt or finding it hard to say no.

  242. This is a huge subject and many arguments for both sides. The thing that still gets me is how charities often produce the guilt card and have adverts with poor starving children who have to walk a hundred miles twice a day just to get water. After all the money that has been poured into these places, how much of it has wound up in the wrong hands feeding armies and buying weapon to worsen the problem. I wish I knew the answers, I know karma must be played out but it still is horrible to see our fellow humans suffering needlessly when there is an abundance for all.

    1. Yes that is a great point Kevmchardy – why do we as a society have the mess and suffering that requires charity in the first place?

  243. Those that are given to, often end up feeling resentment, because they can feel the pity, sympathy and/or an underlying belief that they cannot do it (whatever it is) without outside help. Being treated as less only adds to the confusion and hopelessness they already feel, which is compounded by our continuing giving and fixing, so that they end up totally relying on others for their needs. True charity on the other hand, shows another how they can improve their life. By sharing knowledge, wisdom and a true way of being, people can develop their own strengths, see and be open to possibilities, and feel within, a greater sense of themselves through taking responsibility. Giving people the opportunity to make better choices and to improve their lives, I feel is true love, true charity.

    1. True charity is at the core of every one of us as we know love and brotherhood to be the real deal. But when we don´t live that love and brotherhood there is the emptiness in us that longs and hopes for these divine qualities. Charity then appears to make up for what we don´t live in our everyday lives with everyone. What comes from emptiness can only produce emptiness, hence no true change can be achieved, quite the opposite actually, the devastation and giving up that accompanies shattered hopes bites deeper and deeper.

  244. You’ve raised some great points here to contemplate regarding charity Anne. I have always struggled with charity as a business especially with the little amount that actually filters through the expenses to make a difference….it seems charity is not free of corruption either. I also found the ads quite manipulative showing you sick and dying people or animals to pull on the heart strings so your intention to donate is based on not wanting to feel that or even think about the state the world is truly in. It feels like there is very little true charity in the world and more of a reactive charity that doesn’t appear to be making any difference…. I can only assume that the difference will be felt when people are truly connected and feel what is there to be done and ensure the quality they do anything in for another is true.

  245. Charity is a huge discussion.
    I often don’t give money to charity because I don’t know where the money is going and if what is said above is true, where 85% of money collected goes to administration.

    Therefore if I donate $10 only $1.5 would go to the supposed cause.
    The system and outlook of charity does need a reshuffle.

  246. Anne, many of those that work, and give to charity do so in order to give something back, however underneath that gesture it is really a way of feeling better about themselves filling up that empty feeling, and the good deed is just another distraction in order not to feel the true emptiness inside.

    1. As so many people have already replied as you have Sally that so many people are looking for something to fill the emptiness with themselves. There is a large charity that has a pink 5k run every year that is held in a large number of country’s that gives you a tee shirt for your recognition to others of your involvement. Does this just allow you to hide in the group?

  247. I have often noticed that people declare they are doing something for charity but it often means putting themselves at risk to do so. This doesn’t make much sense, as what good is it if we are willing to loose our health or even our life for something called ‘charity.’ There must be other ways in order to support true charity and lead the way for all.

    1. I agree SusanG, I too have noticed many so called ‘fund-raising’ events for charities, whereby the ‘events’ themselves oftentimes were, I felt in some instances, quite ludicrous and we do not have to look very far these days for examples of this. I remember one whereby a walk across the Nullabor from one coast to the other pushing a wheelbarrow to raise awareness about something or other – may be it was raising awareness about ‘self nurturing’ and ‘self care’. One really has to laugh at times to see the ridiculousness of the idea behind some charity fund-raising events. I used to participate in some of them when the family were young – not quite as bad as a ‘Lamington Drive’ to raise funds to explore the cause of ‘Obesity’ – but not far off all the same, maybe a little bit of whimsy there – just being playful with a scenario that often does not make sense to me.

  248. In that we are not capable of giving, if we are even slightly in need to take from what ever organisation we extend our time, money or energy towards – it goes to reason that we first require a ‘clean-up your own backyard, before you go dirtying others’ style approach to charity.

  249. Anne I felt to revisit you blog, and I probably will again. Your wonderful sharing and questions proferred bring all sorts of memories from my times with the various charity organizations over many years. The very last one that I was thus engaged with, I offered my services in their charity shop which I enjoyed immensely, having the opportunity to listen to folk as they came in with their stories, but often felt that they had left with their parcel of clothes or whatever, plus whatever else was shared between us – a feeling of brotherhood. But! what changed this situation for me was my first of several visits from one of the CEO’s of that charity, from the main metropolis not so far away, with all sorts of loudly voiced demands about meeting targets with sales on daily/weekly basis – accosting those in a vulnerable position with a horrendously imposing “GOOD MORNING – WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR’ in an effort to have we lovingly present volunteers to be shown how to extract some extra dollars from anyone that graced the entry door. It was not long after that, that my back gave in while there in that shop and I could not walk, neither work nor walk – so opportunity for another learning about true charity.

  250. Gorgeous blog Anne…there is a saying ‘true charity begins at home’ and to me this means it starts with us as individuals and how we are at home, within our own family. When we are truly loving with ourselves we can be loving with others i.e. family, and then the greater family as we take this out into the world.

  251. A great blog and raises many important points about charities, and what service means.
    True service and ” change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.”- if the intention behind service is for recognition, to do good, for personal gain or in reaction from sympathy- then the outcome will not empower another or create lasting change.

  252. You raise really fundamental points about the foundations upon which charities, their activities, volunteers and effects have been established. I agree it’s vital to be clear about intention as that imprint of intention is what comes through to those who are being served by the charity. They in effect get affected by whatever motivation lies behind the ‘service’ being provided. This is huge, requiring deep responsibility, integrity and awareness.

  253. It is a very important point that we should scrutinize the intent of the charity and the people behind it. Are the recipients of the charity being empowered or are they being held as lesser and become dependent on the charity while not improving in life. It makes sense that the laws of how the universe works penned by Newton and Einstein can be applied to human psychology and everyday life. So the outcome of the work of the charity is directly and mathematically related to the intent of the charity, if that intent is for self out of guilt, recognition, or wanting the poverty or illness to go away these self interests are in the energy of the charity, passed on to the recipients and no true good is the outcome. Thank you Anne I understand this more clearly now.

  254. The College of Universal Medicine is an outstanding example of a true charity.
    ‘….. the integrity of the College is always far more important than the receipt of a donation. To the College, a charitable donation cannot be truly charitable unless it serves the person making the donation, the charity itself, and the public all equally.’
    http://www.coum.org/contributing

  255. I often see many people who put their bodies through the ringer, abusing themselves until they experience injuries from training too much in preparation to some charitable event and when asked why they are doing it when they know it is creating pain in their bodies, their answer is : ” but it is for charity and everybody is doing it”.
    It is incredible the level of disregard some people go to in order to do “good” and be recognised for it, totally missing the point that to truly serve others it always starts with choosing self care and love for ourselves first.

  256. Anne this blog is awesome. I know that most charities are not coming from a clear and true intention. I know that many have money leaking out from every direction and I also know that people use charity work to prop themselves up as ‘good’ and ‘kind’ often not knowing the intent and background of the charity. I even know that charity contributions are used as a tax deductions a great incentive for some to contribute.
    Of course there are so many that need support in our world but before we can help others we have to look at what drives us and what will truly help. Until we do…… nothing will ever change.

  257. Most of us are quite aware of recognising what is bad, evil or harmful when it hurts us but what about those ideals, beliefs and behaviours that we consider to be good? How discerning are we in regards to their effect especially when we want them to be that desired good as it relieves us, gives us hope or else? To question what is generally considered to be good is quite challenging or uncomfortable, on a personal as well as on a social level. In the case of charity and true service we need to question our personal motives deep down to the very core of our intention, as it is the quality of the source that brings forth the same quality in the action that follows the intention and choice to act. That appears to be difficult to fathom because we want to believe in ‘good’ and are blinded by the glamorous hopeful ideals that we invest in, but what about ‘truth and responsibility’ instead to bring forth actions that truly inspire change from the very source.

  258. I was giving esoteric facial release massages some time ago at a charity/sponsor event to raise money for cancer research. To actually gain the money, people had to walk for 24 hours (with a group, taking turns) in circles and for every circle, they would get a certain amount of money. I said to some people that day: it does not really make sense, no does it, to raise money for cancer, and there are all people with cancer here, and we make them walk in the middle of the night, depriving them of their sleep? For me there is no truth in this, nor love, and it does not make sense at all.

  259. I see a similarity between charity and some residential aged care facilities (RACFs), perhaps as traditionally they are both non-profit. In the case of RACFs of course running costs need to be less than revenue but now there is also the pressure on management to reap a profit for investors. What makes this a questionable practice is when the care and health of a vulnerable population is driven by needing to make a profit, it is no longer enough to be sensibly viable. It would take immense integrity to withstand this pressure and best practice in health care becomes box ticking minimum care.

  260. As a charity is a business model they run in a way not to solve problems of poverty but rather to secure their own existence. With you blog Anne you bring a different perspective in which is much needed!

  261. It would seem that charity has become big business in many cases which is a shame as it poisons and taints the true charities that are out there and founded on truth and love.

    1. Its a great point, charity is a huge business now! Those businesses compete for donations, and are under constant financial pressure. They are almost doomed to fail from the beginning.

  262. The intention behind all we do is important and makes the true change or just a fixing or managing of what is there to solve. There are a lot of people donating money to lessen their guilt of having a comfortable life, they don’t want to open their eyes and be responsible for what is happening, even when it happens in their backyard. I know because I was there too until I opened my eyes and started to take responsibility for my life.

    1. I agree Annelies, pondering on and observing our intentions is very key. Until recently I too was a great one for solving, fixing and subsequently ignoring the real issues sitting in my back yard, giving money to charities so that they deal with the problem being a great way to ease the conscience but not actually deal with the real issues. Pouring money on problems does not automatically resolve anything and Anne’s article exposes where it usually ends up being spent, on the running costs not on the problems. The very act of Charity tends to encourage pity, sympathy and at times a pious ‘do-gooding’ energy that tends to separate rather than unite people. When we choose to apply a living expression of Love to all we do, so much can be truly observed, understood and resolved, because the focus is on connecting to our inner resources of love, wisdom, self worth and brotherhood, qualities that can impulse true resolutions that unite and benefit everyone.

    2. Good point Annelies, charities don’t heal the real problems they just offer solutions. After all the billions of dollars raised to ‘cure’ cancer has not really made any difference at all has it. Like you say there are so many ‘do gooders’ in the world who donate to alleviate their guilt when all the time they are just adding to the problems of the world.

    1. Totally agree Jonathon. I think most of us are happy to bury our heads in the sand to avoid dealing with what is, in truth more corruption in the world. A sad but true story.

  263. Your blog is so needed Anne- people believe so much that charities are the answers, but indeed lengthen the suffering, because no true change is done. Thank you for your straight forward blog that reveals the evil behind “doing good”.

    1. The people running the charities are so invested in doing good. They need to show reports of their performance, need to tell the world how they spent their collected money. This leaves little space for true reflection on whether the intention is having the desired result.

      1. Heather, I feel that when this happens it becomes less about the need to help those the charity is supposed to serve, and more about those who run it seeking recognition.

      2. I can always feel as well, that people who like and support the charities are only using it for recognition as well. Why posting on FB what you´ve done, supported, to which event you went to, when you do it from your heart with no investment? !

  264. This is very powerful Anne. We are starting to realise cancer is more and more a lifestyle issue but have not even begun to connect the dots on the events we are organising to raise money and awareness. What awareness are we in truth raising. Would humanity not be truly served by bridging awareness of how our body works, how our choices impact us and what we can choose to self empower us in our health and well-being?

  265. Well, maybe our modern charities have gotten off track by being so intensely focused on themselves and the separate agendas they have, that they gradually drifted away from their original purpose to serve others.

    1. I think most charities would likely not agree they are off track. It is very challenging when people are so focused on doing good, that they allow whatever means are necessary to do that good, and therein lies the issue.

      1. Yes, there is definitely a block to anyone involved in charity being able to see the intent of their work. I think the point that if you are doing something for charity that is hard on your own body like a lot of these challenges ask, is a sure sign that it isn’t actually charity at all. I know many people would disagree with that statement but there-in lies the difficulty with charity. We get so blinkered with the good intention that we are often not seeing the contradiction of the act involved to be charitable.

  266. Very exposing Anne and very much needs to be… “knowing that they are equal to me in every way and that their very essence (their core/centre) is simply love…” Yes, they are just like you and I. The only differences are the choices we are making. It can be hard to look at starving children in Africa or the homeless on the streets of major cities where there is accommodation should they chose it. Hard to watch, but they too are the EQUAL SONS OF GOD. Just as Jesus was, just as Serge is and just as you and I are.

  267. Ah yes, charity the holy grail, you can’t touch it or if you do try to expose its faults you’re seen to be an ungodly, ungiving person.
    One of the best things my father ever said to me was when I asked him to bail me out of some heavy consumer debt was plainly, ‘no Dean, I won’t give you any money, you need to find a way to get yourself out of the mess you have made so that you don’t do it again and so that when you do it will be your own private victory that no-one can ever take away from you.’
    So I had the sense to follow his at the time tough advice, got three jobs, put my bum down and worked that debt off (over $60,000). It felt good, really good! And yes I learnt my lesson.
    Thank god he did not give me what many a charity would provide or I know I would not be in the same today… probably wouldn’t have had the right frame of mind to meet my wife not have the confidence to build my own successful business…
    So how do you put a price on the charity he showed me.
    I often wonder about the psychological effects that so called charity has on the ‘victims’ as the call them of life and circumstance. I believe it actually destroys them further. Some charities would do well to take a leaf out of my book.

    1. The only true gift to give is love. Love may not come in the way we want, or expect, and can seem harsh at the time, but when that love is given there is room for great growth and healing. To take the responsibility away from a person or society is to make them less and there they are likely to stay. Your father, in his heart, knew you could do it, and this knowing (love) held you in a way that you were able pull it all together. Dean, what a truly wise and loving man your father is.

      1. My dad is a beautiful example of how to empower someone to work through their own problems… the ones they have created for themselves.

    2. This is a great story Dean, with much wisdom and reality to life. It is a strength for someone like your father to hold himself steady and say this to you without going into guilt of any kind. And a strength I have much respect for as I too have been this way with my brother but what I love about your dad’s expression is how clear he was with why he said no. Beautiful really.

    3. Dean this is a truly amazing story. It should also be published as your dad was absolutely loving in that moment. He gave you an opportunity to make a different choice and to be responsible for the choices that you had previously made. True change.

    4. Wow Dean. That’s some sound advice you got from your Dad there. A very bitter pill to swallow at the time, I’m sure. But my gosh, was it a lesson in self responsibility.
      Of course, I know that you are not suggesting that anyone who asks for help should not receive it, but more to offer help only where it serves the other person, and not purely to ‘fix’ the problem, by empowering another with tools for them to help themselves would be a far more beneficial act of service.

    5. Great point Dean. I have seen the same over and over again and yes I agree with the point you are making, your father saw what you were capable of and asked for nothing less, this confirmed what you could do and as you say helped to build your confidence.
      When we go and do for others what they can do for themselves with an air of ‘we are rescuing you’ it is demoralizing and can confirm keeping people capped and cement them in those same patterns.

    6. Excellent sharing Dean which nails it on the head. What your dad offered you was true charity – he offered you empowerment and the solidness of his love as support so that you could work your way out of the mess that you had created for yourself. And look at you today! This is phenomenal. Many parents out there jump straight away to bail out their grown up children, but have they ever considered how much they disempower their ‘child’? No different to charities that frequently also jump in to do things whilst offering no empowerment, rather just more dependency. And as you have said, there is often no space allowed to discuss this as it is seen as being stingy or ungiving, where in fact there is much that can be on offer.

    7. Dean, I love how you have exposed the fact that ‘Charity’ is in fact very different of what we experience just by ‘giving’ money. True Charity involves so much more and allows the true gift of love to unfold and do it’s work from within. Thanks so much for sharing your experience.

      1. Having tasted true charity I can say it is nothing like the wet blanket that bailing someone out of their own mess can be.

    8. Wow that was true love even though it may have been viewed as tough love by some Dean. I feel you have a great point on what is the effect of being constantly on the receiving end of charity. There would be probably a sense of powerlessness and even something should fix this for me. There is a huge difference between offering true support like your father did and offering support that comes from our own unresolved stuff.

      1. Great words Sharon. You know it’s not like parents have to be perfect.. just willing to make the calls on those certain things that come up from time to time where they know that if they say nothing it may well have a big negative impact on their kids. Like when we (kids) stray too far and need pulling into line. I consider myself very fortunate to have has such wise guidance.

    9. Great point, Dean: what is the effect of our apparent charity on the recipients? Does it not hold them forever in a place of victimisation and in need of the benevolence of those offering charity, rather than in the position of strength in self mastery – as was the case with you and your Dad? For how long would the dysfunctional / disempowering arrangement last? Look at how long it has been sustained in Africa – I was asked to give at the age of 5 to the poor in Africa, through my catholic primary school. Decades later the poor in Africa are still with us – in spite of the global Live Aid campaign and other mega rallyings. Is it not more sensible to ask what it is that causes and sustains the poverty and address those issues first?

    10. Tough love can be the best love ever. Great story of true education and what a great service your dad did to you and your life. In the world of service, one has to ponder deeply on how sympathy does not help at all, as doesn´t protectionism either.

      1. I love that Julia, especially when you say ‘that one has to ponder deeply on how sympathy helps at all …’ I have pondered and I see that sympathy is actually very dis-empowering and is a kind of pretend love that may seem to look like the right thing from the outside but actually is very unsupportive of the person needing to find true clarity around their situation or plight. To deeply love another yet be detached from the suffering they have created for themselves takes the deepest, most compassionate and truest love.

      2. Exactly Dean, the fact that we find it difficult to detach from the suffering someone has created is because we are not really taking responsibility for ourselves and would probably also like to be relieved of our own consequences. Redefining the word Love and Service is vital for most of us. You have had a very good lesson from your dad that sets a good direction in your life.

  268. Charity is often like the sacred cow, seemingly with only auspicious intentions and unquestionable integrity. Fantastic to read such a powerful and informative piece about charity that asks important questions to reveal what might be the motivation behind those involved. There is an understandable administration cost to run a charity yet the model and even legislation surely needs to be questioned when third party donation collectors can pocket 50% of takings or administration costs run above 50% of the donations. I suspect this information might be available but is certainly not provided in a forthcoming way to those who donate lest someone ask or research it themselves. This won’t change while we are happy to give our money (perhaps ‘to do our part”) without asking for the complete picture.

  269. I know what you mean Anne. I am sure that there are charities that talk about empowering communities, such as the whole free trade movement which is not strictly a charity, but does support people to build their lives. However, many of these charities still go through so much red tape and corruption that the ‘good’ that is done is marginally less than what is advertised. I have no evidence, but perhaps there is a reason why evidence is not available to the public. If they are charities, they should have nothing to hide, so all their books and audits should be available for the public to review. Charities have the potential to bring about huge amounts of change and it won’t happen until intention is understood. It really is the root of our actions and something I have avoided being honest about too. To be seen to be doing good is huge filler of emptiness.

  270. These are brilliant and exsposing questions that need to be asked in our communities…”Is it possible that our charities are not as charitable as we think they are? Is it possible that the current charity business model is a band-aid fix?”

  271. It is beautiful to feel when we do want to support others. True Charity is self responsibility to live and expresses the love that you feel to share in order to support others. Of course we need material support along the way (housing, food), but the quality we deliver this in can make a world of difference.

  272. Thank you Anne, your blog has raised many valid points about the nature of true service and charity. Based on what have learned from Serge Benhayon on energetic integrity, I feel that the whole foundation of charity could be looked at thoroughly and changed substantially. If all involved looked at the true intention for why they are there many might find it’s not for a loving purpose at all, but as a need from within for the self. The campaigns mentioned that are based on disregard for participants (cycling, boxing) seem to be out of step with the purpose to regard those they seek to support as having value and worth.

  273. I’ve certainly given a lot of money to charities out of emotional reasons. I felt sorry for them, I felt good to ‘care’ for others in donating money. I also love the togetherness of donating money. There’s a unifying element in it. But over time I’ve realised that a lot of charities and reasons to donate are based on ideals on creating a better world by donating some of my money. Where in truth, nothing is Truly changing when the energy in which I give, is not truly loving and in connecting to the intention of the charity. Important for me nowadays is the question if the core intention of the charity is one of True love or not. For a while I’ve not given any money to charities. Now I’m in the process in discerning myself whether I feel to donate or not. That feels very different and very empowering and honouring. Both myself, the charity and the people that will receive money from the charity.

  274. This a great topic Anne that needs to be brought to the awareness of the whole public. Charities are questionable at every level, from quality of their intention right to the blatant corruption that has been found within most of these organisations. Obviously when a disaster hits we must help with food, shelter and clothing in the short term but this does not reside at the core problem of why there is such a divide between the rich and the poor and homeless.
    Certainly living and practising the great teaching by Serge Benhayon that we must love and care lovingly for ourselves first before anything else and then bring that love with us in our relationships would lead to a much more equatable world that the one we have now.

  275. ‘It appeared to me that many of the events run by our charities could be putting people’s bodies and minds at risk!’ So true Anne, as many charities ask people to trek in Peru or China etc ‘for the experience’ or climb x number of mountain peaks in as short a time as possible, or run marathons for which they are ill-equipped. How detrimental is this to their bodies? By introducing self-love and nurturing into or lives, becoming still rather than more busy, active, and ‘do-ing would affect oneself but also everyone around you too – much more charitable!

  276. This is such a powerful insight into how we lead our lives. It is true of us as families behind closed doors, colleagues outside of the boardroom, qualified carers after hours, the list goes on, no one and no stone is left unturned when it comes to truly looking after ourselves and living with honesty and true integrity. Until I came across Serge Benhayon I had accepted this as the norm, I now know this is not the case, there is a way of living that supports us as individuals and then in turn which truly supports the whole.

  277. ‘Is it “true service” to give money to charities?’ I’ve often felt that just giving money to charities, though this helps fund services, can also be a cop out. It can detach us from true service: offering ourselves fully to humanity in whatever way we can, not out of a sense of need or for recognition but from our hearts. True charity lies within, often it’s the small things we do everyday to support another or our communities, often quietly offered, unseen, but felt by those who receive it.

  278. Two men during a course break brought out pre-prepared lunch boxes with salad, protein and few pieces of fruit. Intrigued, I spoke to them about their choices, (others had headed for coffee and sugary options). both of them said they were in training for triathlons. Curious how these men changed their eating habits to compete in an endurance event that would push their bodies beyond natural limits, rather than do so as a lifelong commitment to themselves. Neither of them mentioned the cause or charity event they were fund-raising for.
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  279. ‘Is it possible that the current charity business model is a band-aid fix?’ Yes, I do feel that the way it currently is is a band-aid fix.

  280. What I am getting from this blog is the sense that there is a difference between doing true service in equalness and humility or doing something good for self gain or self elevation or because we are in sympathy or looking down on someone in a worse condition than we are.

    1. Really good to lay these side by side Andrewmooney36, seeing these two scenarios like this it’s really clear how much judgement there is in and around charity…and who’s actually gaining. If we are judging that someone needs our charity then are we not merely confirming them in their current situation? – A far cry from “offering true service in equalness and humility”.

  281. ‘What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?’ This is a much needed question for our times and one that will potentially rock a boat, which really needs to be rocked. People see so much merit in ‘doing good’ but we do need to question what that really is.

  282. I guess I can not empower those who choose to give their power away. But I can see them like that – that they have power and not need me to do something for them. True charity can be to not accept the disempowerment which is offered to me by another and to inspire by taking responsibility over my power and live it with the joy it is.

    1. I like what you have said here Sandra, true charity is not to further endorse the cycle of disempowerment and victimhood of another.

  283. Sometimes I see an advertisement for a local charitable event, and on the surface it can look like something worth getting behind and supporting, because who wouldn’t want to support people with cancer? However, what I have also noticed is a definite play by the organisers to stimulate the unresolved emotional hurts that people have in an attempt to try and get them involved. I would love to help and to support, but in a sensible practical way that assists in the healing process of the body, not in an emotional drive to satiate my own unresolved sadnesses.

  284. I’ve always felt uncomfortable when approached in the street by those people paid to raise money for charity. The forcefulness and demanding nature has nearly everyone trying to avoid them as they walk down the street. Interesting when I consider that the natural way people feel to walk down a street is changed because of the impending attack that may happen by the person asking for money. It shows what is behind those charities – the energy, desperation and drive whilst appearing to people to be “good” many pray of “guilt”. This is not to say there are not great people working in charities but my experience has shown that they themselves are disillusioned by the rife corruption but have yet to stand up and truly expose it because like many of us – we choose “good” over “truth” and it’s currently the only way we are told by society we can help others. With how Universal Medicine operate in a very charitable way we have a new foundation of what true charity is – starting with the quality and state of ourselves first and foremost.

  285. This is a great article Anne, very exposing of charities. What i have also noticed with charities is that they often push their workers to produce more work with less time than a corporate business would, because budgets are small and people are working for a ‘good cause’ and often the health and well being of the staff is compromised trying to keep the charity going.

  286. Charity has become big business, they are given tax breaks and what business doesn’t benefit from that. How many modern charities’ just keep giving that fish so they can eat for one day. There seems to be no real evolution only stagnation. Empowering someone is not charity… it is brotherhood.

  287. True charity is living what you present and assist people in their process of self-responsibility. It has not so much to do with how much money you raise but the quality and integrity you offer. And of course the reason why you are doing it.

    1. Absolutely Sonja – the quality and intention behind the service is what makes it truly charitable and supportive or not. And that quality can only come from the way we live our life.

  288. True charity is helping another without the need for something on return, which is so often not the case in charities right now. I feel true charity indeed needs a love for ourselves to truly love humanity, and serving through this love.

  289. It is ironic that the things we do for charity to raise money against illnesses such as cancer add more disregard to how we are living, such as night walks. Now loads of charities organise night walking to raise money but this alone is going against the bodies natural rhythm and pushing it to be active when it should be resting and re-charging. Instead of raising money that gets us absolutely no-where but instead a worse state (the current state of the world is proof of this), what if we learn to deeply care for ourselves and others through self-love and self-care as Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine present? Now if we did this instead of things like night walks I know we would see a change for the better.

    1. Yes the irony is rather stark. The norm seems to be to raise money in the disregard that produced the illnesses and diseases we are “trying to conquer” in the first place!

    2. I agree Vicky, it does seem a little ridiculous and a tad arrogant and insensitive that we intentionally organise and participate in activities that are putting our bodies under enormous strain, tension or danger unnecessarily, usually to raise money for those whose bodies are too ill or broken to do any of these activities. Or those who are in a situation where they are in such anguish or pain or danger themselves that they would not dream of intentionally adding to it!

      1. It speaks volumes about our society that in order to attract donations we have to organise more and more extreme events to attract people’s attention. It appears sometimes that the charities themselves are in competition with each other vying for the ultimate prize – the cash of the public, by organising eye-catching, headline grabbing events. Sure it is great to raise awareness of a particular issue or condition but why does it take events that are obviously not healthy to grab our attention? Are we so numbed out or resigned to life being how it is that we don’t notice what is really going on? The media has some responsibility here as well as it seems just printing the reality of the world is not news and there has to be some kind of sensationalist angle or novelty factor for it to make the news, which I reckon just fuels the fire of charities having to resort to strange tactics to raise money and awareness.

    3. Yes, it is both ironic and devastating to see fund raising events that push, drain and exert the human body in order to ‘help’ find a remedy for ill health! Dare I say breast cancer fund raisers can be some of the worst. The very cause of breast cancer, being lack of nurturing and disregard, is being asked of women in order to raise money for research to find a cure. Take for example a breast cancer fun run, majority of participants are women, held on Mother’s day no less, and how many people look like they are truly having fun when they run? If breast cancer rates and women’s health issues are common could women not already be depleted and the last thing they need is to run, or spend two days walking 60 kms or do a triathlon for charity?

  290. Anne thank you for raising an important topic. I feel that you have started to address some long held beliefs around the subject of charity. The fact of the matter is only energy can change energy and so giving money, food, clothes etc as a flat donation will do nothing to change a person’s situation. In fact I feel that it may well cement a person deeper into the very circumstances that we are hoping to free them out of.

    1. I agree Alexis, the money, clothes etc, is like a confirmation of the neediness the people are in instead of reflecting their equalness. They are held in dependency through charities.

  291. What an insightful, thought provoking blog. The list that captures why people donate, i.e. out of recognition, boredom or a feeling of being unfulfilled, out of guilt, from a desire to “do good” or a need to please others really resonated with me. I’ve been ‘cornered’ in a shopping mall for donations and the thoughts that come up as to ‘how am I going to get out of this’ are very telling. When I simply know I can help and want to, it’s a very free and open feeling. When I know that my charity isn’t going to be used for true humanitarian support, when I have gone to say no in the past, I have felt guilty and selfish. But this is an absolute injection of falseness into my mind, as I’m sure millions of others have felt too. These days saying no to charity that doesn’t serve has now been made easy because I know true charity must start with self first which I am doing every moment of every day.

  292. Absolutely Anne intention is everything , for it reveals everything. Your words here nail it: “if I am trying to “please others” or “do good” as my initial intention, this is not truly making it about serving humanity, but rather about self-gain” – fuelling oneself under the disguise of helping another-in-need, is perhaps the biggest illusion and gross error of ‘charity’ today. True charity is without self-interest and indeed readily serves whoever is in need of being served, with love (not self-gain) as the basis for activity, event or donation. We need this kind of charity.

  293. Anne great sharing on such an important topic. Charity is often used as a get out of jail free card, with many not truly considering how they live and are in the world, but because they’re seen to be charity contributors it’s ok. So you have crazy examples where companies legally avoid paying tax but will then talk about how charitable they are, and even set up charitable foundations, and in some places this itself is part of a tax reduction or avoidance strategy. And all of this is about the giver and how they are seen and not the receiver at all, in some cases they are incidental. So your question on intention and true charity is great. It needs to be about the all, and be in a way that ensures that those being supported are supported to fully empower themselves.

  294. I loved the way you raised the irony of charities fundraising for certain health conditions with things that aren’t that good for us. It seems obvious to me now as I have stepped back from a lot of the unhealthy things I used to consider normal, but it is a process in letting yourself see this. Sport for example is generally seen as something good for you and fun. Whereas as a first aid officer and nurse I have seen how harmful sport can be, and something that should make us healthy is causing a lot of injuries.

  295. There is much to ponder on here in what you present Anne. The intention behind what we do is so important, in charity, the intention can easily be masked behind the word charity.

  296. So awesome that you have written an in-depth blog about charities Anne. It certainly exposes a lot of strongly held ideals and beliefs around this topic. I love how you so clearly albeit gently suggest that ‘perhaps we first have to change the energy in which we approach service to others, as change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.’ Very powerful words.

  297. It is not uncommon for those that have recovered from critical illness to recover and then choose to raise money for the charity that supports that particular illness with an enormous physical challenge that involves pushing the body way beyond its limits. It’s crazy, recover from illness and then push yourself almost to the point of illness all over again in the name of said charity.

  298. Thank you Anne for writing about the way charities operate. I was once a trustee for a charity and while it was small, nearly all the people supporting it were volunteers. It was then decided that there needed to be more full time staff and slowly more and more people began to be paid. As this happened I could feel how the money being raised was now going towards peoples salaries and the true essence of the charity was being eroded. Everything became about money and no longer about the service that was being offered. It is great that you have exposed how much of the donated money is spent on salaries, and not to the people it was initially raised for.

  299. Giving with love, in a body that lives that love, without expecting reward/recognition in return, holding no sympathy… could it be possible if we really understood what it meant to truly serve, we might find that not many of us were actually equipped to offer it to the world?

    1. That is a great point Fumiyo and also great wake up call. Do we know what true service is and more importantly can we do this? Absolutely we just need to get self out of the way and commit to life and true love.

    2. This is a great point and beautifully expressed. Even with the best of intentions we can trick ourselves into thinking we have no selfish motives. But self seems to sneak in, especially where charity is concerned. It almost feels like sympathy, where we appear to be being kind and supportive but we are subconsciously getting something out of it ourselves.

    3. This is beautiful Fumiyo and could we even take it a step further and say that we engage in charity as it is now to not be confronted with this inadequacy or to avoid becoming aware of the fact that we still have a lot to learn and dis-cover when it comes to love and true service?

    4. This is something worth contemplating Fumiyo, to truly serve there must be a foundation of living love in our bodies and has nothing to do about the self but the whole.

    5. It’s a wise question Fumiyo. Perhaps what needs to be examined in blogs and conversation is how one readies a body for true service, for without a body of love, there is truly nothing to give.

    6. So beautifully and lovingly delivered Fumiyo. It’s true, how many of us are really ready to live a life without self-serving…to make life about love…and only love…?

  300. I find the whole industry of charities difficult to fathom and after reading this perhaps it has been because in most cases I have never felt the intention of true charity. I ceased giving money to charities long ago for there seems to be many levels of corruption within them and I am sure we will see these exposed over time.
    “True charity begins at home” is a religious tenet I am reminded of here. Being charitable by nature and essence seems to be at the core of these words. It’s not a stepping outside of yourself to do something for another or sticking a few coins in a tin or purchasing a raffle ticket that brings true charity. True charity truly does start here at home in my inner heart and from I pay attention and listen to the call to be of service to humanity. The simplest of gestures can be the grandest movement of all. There is much to learn from this phrase.

    1. I love what you have shared here Suzanne, and calls me to recall the times I gave out of pity, after bushfires, floods etc. in an area where we used to live or the starving and deprived millions around the world. The thing with pity is it seems to me, is that one is not allowing the one who is being pitied to take the time to look within and discover why it is that they are experiencing whatever is the event occurring or has indeed occurred, nor is it allowing them to step up and evolve in some way from a deeper perspective and understanding of the true situation. Surely true charity commences from a call from Soul to take action in some way, but it feels to me that unless one has made that reconnection with the stillness within, one would wonder what direction the impetus would be directed from, when it would seem it has thus become a mind driven decision to soften or dissolve the feelings of guilt, unworthiness etc. from one’s own regard about self.

    2. Beautifully said Suzanne. “The simplest of gestures can be the grandest movement of all.” We must not underestimate the effect we can have when we are connected to our inner hearts and live life from that place, whatever we are called to do.

  301. This is a brilliant blog Anne with so many great points that you have raised. Such as ‘It is clear we need another way to serve those in need, perhaps one that would empower the people who we are aiming to serve, rather than treating them as a ‘charity case’?’. This is so true as you clearly pointed out with your example about the money that has been poured into Africa over the decades. Surely we have lived enough now to realise that band-aides do not work? We must look at why we have this issue at hand, why are we living in such poverty and hardship, if we are to truly heal and correct this way of existing. True charities are a much needed service that offers self-empowerment and support to others, bringing awareness to their lives so they can too can choose to make changes needed to live the loving and self-empowered life they equally deserve to live.

  302. Donating money is often the ‘easy way out’ – we can then excuse ourselves from the situation, as ‘we have now done all we can’ – it eases the emotions of guilt and sympathy we experience when others are ‘doing it tough’. I love what you share, Anne, about true service, about making lasting changes in people’s lives, about empowering them. We have to start by asking ourselves what our personal reason is for donating to charities.

    1. I totally agree with you Carmin and yes, a good place to start making real change is by questioning the intention behind our donating to charities.

    2. Exactly Carmin, ‘the easy way out’ and ‘I have done all I can’ rings out very loudly in the first world countries. Another is to ‘throw money at the problem’. These phrases some people make serve only to provide relief that it is not them who is going without.

    3. It is interesting isn’t to observe these feelings of guilt and sympathy when we feel someone is doing it tough. Do these feelings stem from the fact that we have not taken true responsibility for our own lives, and stand in the knowing that our choices are the reason for every little detail of our lives and the way they are playing out. If this is our truth then it is impossible to feel sympathy for anyone else, because in the same way we are responsible for our life’s circumstances then so too is the other, we may just not be able to see the whole story or the bigger picture. And this is not to mitigate from any true compassion that may be there or the impulse to serve or donate but there will be not a skerrick of sympathy or guilt present.

      1. There comes that wonderful word ‘Skerrick’ again Josephine, which Otto will love. But that aside what you have said is so beautifully clear and allows people to re-examine their motive and intent behind their move to supporting charity as it is in its present mode. In our true love there is no sympathy but only a great and loving understanding of how we got ourselves into the situation and thus how we can exit from it. We all have to do that in order to come back home to truth,to a truthful way of living and thus how we extend support to others.

      2. A beautiful and loving response Lyndy, and yes we can then extend this loving understanding to others.

  303. It just goes to show how insidious money is. It is great in small amounts to pay your bills and feed your family but in large amounts it always finds its way into the pockets of the rich and greedy.

  304. A great article, Anne. You have raised many points here that we really need to be honest about. We often see big charity events announcing themselves as ‘a success’ because they managed to attract so many people and raised so much money etc., and whether they really were able to make true change – I don’t know if we even ask that question after the initial excitement fades away.

  305. There is much to consider in your great article Anne. Are charities truly ‘charitable’? What are the intentions of ‘us’ involved with charity work? Is it easier to throw money at a cause to relieve some guilt because we don’t want to take responsibility for our lack of charity? True charity or service starts at home with ourselves, living with self responsibility and accountability.
    Would not true service be to respect our equality and support people to empower themselves ?
    “give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime” Anne Isabella Thackeray Ritchie.

    1. If I am rude to my child at the breakfast table because I am feeling tired because I stayed up late, and then feel bad about being rude, next time I’m asked to donate to a ‘worthy cause’, I imagine I would be far more likely to give money, to feel better about my ‘uncharitable behaviour’ to my child. In no way is this true charity, it is laced with guilt and irresponsibility on many levels.

    2. ‘Would not true service be to respect our equality and support people to empower themselves ?’ Lovely quote Victoria which exposes how many if not nearly all charities are run on measures of inequality.

  306. ‘Empowering those in need could look like the following…’ this whole paragraph captures how we can bring service into our day from work to home, supporting each other to be who we truly are.

  307. Thank you Anne for posing the questions that many of us don’t like to hear or ask, because it means facing all those self invested interests we have in doing charitable work. I too have pondered on what is it that we are doing with all these charities because when one stands back and truly observes the situations, so often the current charitable work feels like a band aid solution for a seriously terminal disease. What if we were to take a step inward so to speak and start to ‘be the love I would like the world to be’ and then apply that to truly supporting, aiding and enabling others. The teachings of Universal Medicine have enabled me and many, many other people to see that before we can help another, we need to begin with ourselves and establish a firm foundation of love and care within and for ourselves. When we do what we offer comes from a lived experience that people can draw upon in many ways, ways that ignite, inspire and uplift others and ways that are not always driven or dependent on money.

    1. I wholeheartedly agree with you here rowenakstewart: when what we offer others comes from a clear, openness to support humanity and has nothing to do with patching up our own self worth issues, the likelihood of lasting change is there. If not, nothing will change. Period.

    2. I agree with what you have said about charity Rowena, ‘a bandaid for a terminal disease’. I get the image that while we donating with one hand we are looking away and holding our noses so as not to smell the stench.

  308. Such a great blog Anne as you expose so many of the underlying issues within charity, while presenting another way in which true charity could be offered through inspiration. The statistics you share are staggering to me and further evidence that charity in it’s current form seems to only serve the needs of those offering it rather than those they are “trying” to support. Looking at our true intent when we consider charity seems a much clearer way forward and one that has the potential to empower and inspire.

  309. Hello Anne, I have often questioned how these quests like being sponsored to run, or bicycle long distances, or win a car or a trip somewhere etc for a particular charity can be considered truly genuine support. To me it has often appeared that the people being sponsored are seeking recognition or an adventure, or in the case of those huge prizes being won the company receives a lot of free advertising and those going in these raffles are possibly in it for what they can win. What about the children who are encouraged to sell or buy raffle tickets are we not then saying that gambling is okay? I wonder how many charities would survive if people didn’t give because they either felt guilty, or a need for recognition, to win a prize, or out of sympathy. If the motive behind creating a charity is based on true service for humanity, with the possibility of inspiring those in need ways to continue to support themselves, then it is worthwhile. It is then up to the persons giving to discern first whether they feel if it is a genuine service and honestly consider the reason they wish to contribute.

    1. You raise so many great points in your comment Deidre, particularly, encouraging children to sell or buy raffle tickets and the hidden harm that carries. Super sneaky!

      1. So true, this is gold…”perhaps I have the ability to teach (present) skills and behaviours and support others by truly connecting to them, listening to them without judgement, accepting where they are at, and supporting them to re-connect to their true selves, knowing that they are equal to me in every way and that their very essence (their core/centre) is simply love, which could perhaps inspire them to make changes to their behaviours and routines that are more supportive for them?”

      2. Not many children get through school today, in Australia to speak of at least, without being indoctrinated into charity through raffles and asking for sponsorship for causes – at a young age the dangling carrot for children even then is to win the prize for themselves if they get the most sponsorship.

    2. I remember many many years ago I signed up to do the Forty Hour Famine, whereby I did not eat for 40 hours straight, raising money by those who sponsored me to not eat. It was touted as getting participants to understand what it’s like to go hungry, like the millions in Africa. But the truth is, I did the 40-hr famine to lose weight. It was an excuse to not eat for a short while, and all the while I imagined what I was going to eat when the famine was over, hamburgers, meat pies, chips, chocolate, lollies, you name it. Even if I raised a few hundred dollars, how on earth was this process possibly supporting another? It was pure disregard on my part for my body, and as Serge Benhayon presents, everything is energy, and everything is because of energy, and so the energy I was choosing then was in no way helping another as it was all about me. Take the guilt out of the equation, make life about energy, and it is a totally different story.

  310. Great blog Anne and highlights the needs and investments that are carried in regards to charity. It is not doing any good for anyone unless it is serving all equally.

  311. It’s so important what you are exposing here Anne and it’s so true…currently, the way charity is set up is purely for self-gain…not as a true service to humanity offering another way and another choice that brings about true change.

    1. So true Sara and this truth about charities must not ever be overlooked as well ….”empower the people who we are aiming to serve.”

  312. Many charities have lost themselves in their own identity and needs. And in that losing their senses and integrity. Which is in fact not acceptable. And because they’re lost themselves, these crazy non-loving initiatives are being supported. All about putting enormous energy into ‘doing’ hard work (which is pure glamour), rather than discern the intention of a charity and lovingly align if it’s Love intended. Love intended meaning empowering people to connect and live to their bodies and hearts. There’s much to be honest about.

  313. It is important to ask the question of intention behind any ‘charitable activities’ and be willing to be look deeper than the surface facade with honesty. And equally when it is true charity to not hold back and offer all the support we can.

    1. Great point Fiona and super important. The brotherhood that this action naturally supports is enormous and something that unites us all, a way of life we are here to live.

    2. I agree Fiona and that the support we offer has energetic integrity and the true quality of our essence for and with all involved.

    3. Yes well said Fiona. It is vital to be open and curious about our intentions when we want to offer charity. Are we doing it to rescue, feel better about ourselves, to ease a guilt or distract ourselves from our own issues? If none of these or other excuses are present then yes contribute all we can, because true charity in my book is about enabling others to connect to their inner wisdom, discover their own answers, to become empowered from within to resolve their own problems. I wonder how many of our existing charities truly achieve this outcome?

  314. Wow Anne! This blog certainly uncovers a lot about charities. What I found particularly exposing was the reason people volunteer. What you have shared here about true-service is beautiful “change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.”

  315. This is a big topic Anne. Recently, I have observed people being signed up to make regular payments into a particular Charity and reflected on the ‘hook’ that gathers someone in to commit to giving money in this way, knowing of the extensive costs you mentioned earlier in your blog. These types of charities are a ‘Business’ and it is about paying the business first and the true recipients last. There are so many elements of manipulation at work in these instances. I loved your comment – ‘I must be the love I would like the world to be’. This is true ‘Service’ and the riches that unfold are truly loving for all.

    1. I agree ch1956 and I can put my hand up as having been ‘hooked’ into giving money to various charities with a misguided ‘do gooder’ energy.

      1. Yes it’s quite a sleezy energy of giving out of ‘doing good’, like one should be congratulated for doing so. I too have felt this myself.

    2. I agree ch1956 about the tactics some charities employ to get people to donate money, they seem to have lost their way somewhat and it has become more about the business than about charity.

    3. I too have seen some of this first hand and it has never felt right, always like a manipulation of people’s emotions.

      1. I agree Lee and Michelle the tactics used are quite underhand. I personally had an encounter just recently with a person knocking on my door asking me to donate to a charity, I very politely declined but was amazed at her persistence and emotional manipulation, she continued talking for some length making it almost impossible for me to leave, and then proceeded to try and hook me in emotionally by telling me that everyone else in the street had committed to making regular donations. I had to be very lovingly firm with her but wondered how many people were/are manipulated and cornered into donating.

  316. I have often heard how most of the money we donate to charity doesn’t end up with those that need it but I had no idea this can be as much as 85% of the donation. I also had no idea that those raising funding could at times keep up to 50%. This is all bonkers when the original intention is to help those in need.

    1. It was great to be so clearly informed of where the money goes when donations are made to charity, thank you Anne. Reading what a high percentage goes to the people raising the money was very sobering and made me feel rather sick. These figures should be more widely publicised so that people are in the know when they donate.The fact that these figures are rather hidden just goes to expose the energies at play in the charity business, muddy water indeed pretending to ‘do good’.

    2. I agree fionacochran01, this is ludicrous. It comes back to the original question posed by Anne, what is the intention of charitable work? It would seem that in some cases it is for personal profit. I have no problem with people making money, but it is deceitful to disguise this as charity.

    3. It seems often people donate to charities without really getting to know the details of the charity they are investing in, hence the shock when one discovers that the majority of their money may not be going to the cause they expected.

    4. I agree fionacochran01, it is absolutely bonkers! And yet it is happening right under our noses day in day out. It is outright deceit, manipulation and corruption to be self serving whilst dressing oneself as a charitable do-gooder.

    5. I Agree fionacochran01, it is bonkers! but so many people still do it just to do good and feel better about themselves without ever discerning what’s being presented by these charities.

    6. This is absolutely crazy, but just goes to show it is not really about charity at all.

  317. Thank you for an exposing blog on the work (and results) of charitable work, Anne, love it. This paragraph particularly stands out for me, “It is clear we need another way to serve those in need, perhaps one that would empower the people who we are aiming to serve, rather than treating them as a ‘charity case’? This way perhaps they would be able to make true and lasting change, so that eventually they would not need the charity of others.” This really appeals to me too, so often we treat those that we set out to help, as ‘victims’, which cements the victim mentality in those we set out to help. Far better to help in a way that supports them to be empowered. One of the ways that I have heard of is where a woman in a family is helped to obtain, say a cow, or a goat, first to provide milk for her family, but then to be mated with a bull to breed young, which can either be sold, or in the case of a female, to be kept to also provide milk that can be sold to the neighbours. In this way, the woman of the household is given support to gradually build a small business for herself to gradually build herself and her family out of poverty. Or in another case, I have heard of a woman being lent the money to buy a sewing machine, and given lessons in sewing. With that, she can begin to build up a business to help support her family. I feel these ways to empower a recipient, rather than label them as victim are much better ways to be giving charity. But I agree, the first consideration is the energy with which the charity is given. Without that part of the equation being right, then the whole scenario has the wrong energy, and will not be true charity.

    1. Martin you raise a great point, we can get caught in the fact that a lot of charitable donations get swallowed up in administration, salaries, fees and other profits, yet the point you make about the intent of a charitable cause is even more important, for even if 100% of a donation were to go to the “charity”, if the intent of that charitable act is not clear and not with a clear and purposeful intention then the act is not really charity at all. We have so many instances of charity not really being that clear and this is what we need to address. Along with the deeper reasons why charity has become so huge, as it clearly shows our society model is not working if we need so much of this type of intervention.

    2. A great and salient comment Martin. I love how you have highlighted the fact that we accept ‘good’ rather than truth, because it’s a bandaid for the way we feel about ourselves – which at base, unless we have started to connect to the love we are within, is not usually too great. The glorification of ‘good’ in our society is insidious and tricky and something that needs more light shed upon it, which is the value of this blog and the conversation generated.

    3. It feels like ‘good’ is deeply enshrined in the comfort of our way of life. If I do a bit of ‘good’ helping out here and there then I don’t have to probe myself too deeply, or accept a higher level of responsibility for myself, how I am and the way the world is. It is easy to confuse a true impulse to serve which comes with no need, or self-identification but simply because it must be done, with the desire to do good, to help others. Mmmm, more to contemplate here.

    4. Martin what you write of intent is so important. I have felt helping someone out because I didn’t want to be seen as mean or that it was my duty (and I didn’t want to be seen as mean) or that I had to return a favour (and didn’t want to be seen as mean) felt horrible. What I gave may have been practical help but it came loaded with resentment and the opposite of love.

      I have felt helping someone out because it felt fun and loving to do so. I was celebrating them in what I was doing. I knew I was giving them a clear choice to celebrate and appreciate themselves and not feel a burden as I had previously invited them to feel (ouch!)

      1. Beautifully put Martin. As you show, we are operating off our past history of mistrusting people instead of being absolutely present and aware of the quality in which the ‘deed’ that was given came to us. This mistrust of others is a result of having been hurt in the past and having taken that personally, rather than simply seeing the other person’s words or actions as an expression of the state that they are in at the time. The mistrust itself stops us from feeling the genuineness or not of the offering from another and is as a veil that gets cast across all that we encounter. It all comes down to the all-important ability to discern.

    5. Hi Martin

      I love this point you have shared ‘A healthy, full and committed worker will be of much more service than a hurt, jaded and self depreciating one who is feeding off on the misfortunes of others to boost themselves up and give them selves purpose. Such is the tricky nature of ‘good’.’
      There is so much to consider when we are choosing to do something to be ‘good’.

    6. This is an excellent contribution to Anne’s blog, to pick out a few quotes:“feeding off on the misfortunes of others to boost themselves up and give themselves purpose.” and “is this person really only serving themselves because they don’t know how to fill this need in their own lives?” These are strong words and I can feel the truth in what you have written here Martin and I can feel the distinction you have made between what is ‘good’ and what is true.

  318. Great exposure Anne, when I was a child in the sixties I remember seeing the starving children in Africa; after all of these years and all of the appeals around the world constantly, how come the charities haven’t managed to come up with a system whereby they can have water and grow their own crops. Something doesn’t add up.

  319. “if I am trying to “please others” or “do good” as my initial intention, this is not truly making it about serving humanity, but rather about self-gain.” This really is an important angle to look at. Sometimes I have given to charity out of guilt, or a feeling that I need to because how would it look if I didn’t, neither comes from the initial intention of wanting to support others.

  320. Hello Anne Scott and you reveal some more than interesting stats about charities that I wasn’t fully aware of. This blog is hard hitting and asks us all to feel what the intention is when we are ‘helping’ someone. Are we supporting them to stand up on their own or are we moving them around to make ourselves feel better. Thank you Anne for such an honest assessment of things.

    1. I agree Raymond. I found this article hard hitting too, but only because Anne asked the questions that do not seem to be asked. If they were, perhaps we might actually be see true changes in the world, rather than the band aids we keep applying. As you have shared Raymond, the most important question seems to be “Are we supporting others to stand on their own or just making ourselves feel better?”

      1. Hello Simone Lewis and I was aware of what this article was saying but not seeing it as clearly as I do now. This is already a change for me simply from reading and commenting on this article. To see a physical change within how this system works it would take many of us standing together, united on what we feel charity is truly. Systems don’t listen to one off letters or calls from one person. It takes many with a consistent approach over time for these things to turn around. I look forward to discussing this article further. Thanks Simone.

  321. Thank you Anne. I feel that this sentence is key ‘change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.’ How often do we truly connect to what is needed and inspire others to find their way? So often it seems we take over and perhaps in the process disempower those most needing to find their own way, within their own organisations or communities.

  322. Great piece of writing informing and educational on the differences between the intentions for ‘good’ or ‘true’ service. If all charities worked with the intention to bring true service I feel we would see a very different structure within the charities themselves.

  323. Thank you for your thoughtful article Anne. I quit giving to “charities” several years ago for these very reasons…and, yes, some of it was after looking at my own intentions but also consideration to how much of a monetary donation actual “serves”. I still give to local emergency services and a few things. How do I decide who to donate to and who not to? I just get a feeling for what is true charity and why I’m doing it. I loved reading your analysis.

  324. “Is it “true service” to give money to charities?” A question well worth asking and perhaps not many have been bold enough to ask. The conclusion that I come to is that no it is not true service to give to most charities and I now choose not to and this has come from discerning the energy that is behind the charity. For true charity there needs to be a foundation of true love which considers everyone and every aspect of the involvement in the charity from how it is set up to the way in which money is raised.

  325. Yes Anne when we lack honesty with ourselves about what is truly going on, the ‘good’ that we do is limited too – and so is not at all true. When you consider how many of us seem to struggle with self-worth, it appears clear that one of the greatest acts of service we can perform is to love and honour ourselves to the bone.

    1. Absolutely agree, Joseph, it feels so important for us to deal with our sense of self worth, and truly “love and honour ourselves to the bone” first, then who knows what we can achieve in the world once we have fully claimed ourselves.

  326. You raise a very important question Anne, “what is true service”. Are we really serving another or communities by approaching the situation with any sense of inequality towards another person? If we don’t know in our hearts that we are all equal then any act of kindness, care and help comes from a place where people think they should for a huge range of personal reasons. As you highlight the current model of pouring billions of dollars into charities hasn’t cured or solved any of the core reasons to the situations.

  327. Thank you Anne for the questions you raise. I makes me realize again that I say yes to a charity by donating my money to them. And how crucial it is to discern what I am saying yes to.

  328. Great blog Anne, and very exposing of the energy that runs most charities in the world today. After years of being a donator to charities (no longer) and just presuming that the money went to those in need, I now like you, ask the most important question: “if I donate money to charities, how much of this money would actually go to people in need?”: and from what you have written it appears that very little does. It feels like charities are becoming just like many other organisations where everyone is simply there to get something for themselves first and in the process letting go of the original purpose. It is definitely time for the rot to be exposed and to introduce society what true charity is, as in the work of the College of Universal Medicine.

    1. Hi Ingrid, I agree with all you have said here, and particularly the highlight of the work of the College of Universal Medicine, the work of which is such a great example of true charity in action.

  329. I love your blog Anne, you have so beautifully express what true service means. Your questions on ‘Service’ was pretty revealing to read and eye opening. These questions are very much needed in bringing awareness to people, to allow people to understand what they are contributing to and how.

  330. I have reconsidered my involvement with charities since understanding that often, all I was able to give was a temporary bandaid that made me feel good and coincided with what my upbringing taught me. The answer is to be “the love I would like the world to be.”

  331. Agreed Ariana, the saving is poison and just feeds the mentality that can linger in families as well – someone will fix it for me, someone will save me, I don’t need to look at my choices and their consequences. However, to be with people when they need support and to be supported by an organisation that explains this pattern of behaviour so that what has been normal stops being normal is important. I can imagine there are many who can say that they would not have known that some of their patterns were abusive till this was reflected to them. So the answer is not always to walk away or to write all charities off but to have conversations from the inside, to bring blogs such as Anne’s to the fore and let it inspire change.

    1. Gold Lucy “I can imagine there are many who can say that they would not have known that some of their patterns were abusive till this was reflected to them.” True on many levels. It would be great to hear more from you Lucy and your first hand experience that not all charities are to be tarred with the same brush and the possible scope to work from the inside.

  332. I work with a number of charities and can share that there is much we can offer of how to bring this reflection from inside a charity. There are some that simply try to fix things or make them right with no self empowerment or self responsibility and there are others that have an understanding of the importance of this. The way to change this industry – because the answer is not to just walk away – is to be a reflection of how it can be done, how to empower people to turn their lives around whilst being supported along the way. A previous comment by Ariana was spot on.

  333. Anne, your blog has given me much to ponder. I have to confess, I don’t give to charities anymore by way of cash donations, but I do like to shop in charity shops and have bought many great bargains, as well as donating a great deal of my old stuff. I suppose this makes me a bit of a hypocrite really, so maybe I should re-consider, and stop being part of something that does not truly serve humanity. And I love what Stephen says above… “If we wish to initiate real change it seems better that we work on ways to make our societies function with more care for people and not so focused on profit and self interest”, bravo Stephen, and thank you Anne for giving me another perspective to consider.

  334. A fabulous sharing Anne that certainly exposes and questions the intention of many charities. What you share here is really the major give away – “I have experienced that true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility”. I don’t know of any charities that take this level of responsibility or approach.

  335. You raise some really important questions here, Anne. So often when we are giving money to a charity which is focused on a particular problem in the Third World, it is in reaction to another industry or practice which is funnelling money or resources out of the country or community in a much quicker way. Often these industries are there supporting our lifestyles in the West, so our gift of charity is laced with the disregard that we have for our fellow human beings, who have the exact same love that we do.

  336. Lots of food for thought in this sharing, Anne. It feels to me that many of us tick a box when we give to or work for charity. It is bit like “thats our duty done” and we can go back to our comfortable life now. You have raised many important issues such as is our involvement in charities about true love for humanity or are we self serving in our motivation.

  337. This is an extraordinary blog Anne, you have exposed so much and very clearly. It is truly time we looked more deeply at the vast amount of money and energy being poured into charities and conducted a very honest audit, reviewing what has actually and truly changed.

  338. A wonderful blog Anne that exposes how charities operate and challenges the intentions of those working for the charities, “…change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service.”

  339. ‘I must be the love I would like the world to be.’ I very much like this sentence. If we all adhered to this we would all diligently work on our self-love and the complaining about and demanding of others would be history.

  340. Amazing blog Anne. You raise so many points about charity and what it truly is all about and I can clearly see how the un-charitable has been sold to us as charity. As you say it is NOT charity to live on huge salaries in the comfort of being able to say that the organisation is one of charity when it is clearly not charitable to use another’s money in this way. Charity has been clearly grounded for me through the work of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who clearly display what it means to supports oneself but never at the expense of another and always offering True Love and support for all no matter what.

  341. I absolutely agree Anne, ‘Would the purpose of raising money be enough to compensate for the harm to the participants in the race?’ I have observed that charities use extreme ways of raising money, such as long bike rides, climbing mountains, extreme things that push the people that are taking part. This does not make sense to me as the people taking part could end up with an injury or ill themselves.

  342. Very interesting topic, I find most charity leaves me with feelings of indifference that can seem cold, having this view does not make anyone popular, I question the motives of a lot of work deemed “charitable” given the complexity that surrounds the funding and the intentions of those raising funds. If we wish to initiate real change it seems better that we work on ways to make our societies function with more care for people and not so focussed on profit and self interest. This to me seems more worthwhile than donating to any charity or doing something of harm to our bodies to raise money.

    1. Great point Stephen. We make it all about the money instead of promoting true responsibility and this is definitely not empowering a fellow human being with the truth of what could truly support them in their situation.

    2. Love what you say here, Stephen G, ” If we wish to initiate real change it seems better that we work on ways to make our societies function with more care for people and not so focussed on profit and self interest.” I feel this is a really important point, if our society functioned this way, then there would be less need for the charitable organisations. The key of course starts with ourselves, building our own self love and care for ourselves, and then taking our beautiful loving selves out into the wider society and world as role models to be seen.

  343. I can feel the charities of the world cringe at the truth that you reveal in this blog Anne. Charity has become a business and it seems absolutely crazy that 85% of funds raised go to pay the organisers, that is just not on.

    1. I agree Matthew, charity has become a big business. You only have to look at all the charity shops everywhere, all manned by volunteers, to see that. I live in a small town and there are at least 5 – 6 charity shops. There is not only the issue of a large proportion of funds going to the organisers but the fact that we live in such a throwaway society.

    2. Thank you Matthew, this percentage is shocking, it does seem crazy and I wonder how many people are aware of this.

  344. Having worked in the industry there are some incredibly skilled workers, working for lower than industry wages, and there are whole industries that have risen up around these organisations showing them how to fundraise and market themselves. There is often a clash of ideals of wanting to support the community and needing to raise the funds. There are some interesting points that you raise about people’s intention to support, even a need to connect with people through volunteering. There is a fundamental need for us to be connecting more deeply on every level in everything that we do.

  345. Having someone write about what is really going on behind the scenes of charity work is well over due. So a huge thank you to Anne for bringing forth what may truly serve those less fortunate than ourselves.

    1. Hello Sally Scott and I agree. Why have a never read this type of clear description on what is truly happening before? Are we protecting something? Thank you Anne as conversations like this one, while uncomfortable will start to truly support people that need it. It appears the whole system may need to be overhauled.

  346. Thanks Anne, you are asking us to consider quite deeply what we support and what we do to support others. There is no doubt the desire to support others can be self serving and it can also come from a genuine appreciation for being part of humanity.

    1. Joel I agree with what you have shared in saying supporting charity can be motivated by self gain or true care for others. The key is ask the question what is the motivation before becoming involved.

    2. Hello Joel L and I agree, “There is no doubt the desire to support others can be self serving and it can also come from a genuine appreciation for being part of humanity.” Feeling the difference would be the key to this. To feel the difference would rely upon a certain amount of responsibility being taken by the founder/s of any charity and not just collecting money or helping someone at the first point. I know charities are required to meet certain criteria with their finances but does their intention get checked? An assessment could be done based on what you say here Joel L, an assessment on energy.

  347. I like the idea you have presented of offering a service to others that can help them, and not just showing them what to do but offering a service so they can become self sufficient. Overall, charity is a great idea if it is done truly and not just for making money.

  348. I really like the following saying “give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime” Anne Isabella Thackeray Ritchie.

    1. I agree, Margaret, it is far, far better to empower those in need, rather than just fill the immediate need. It is far better that person is helped to become self sufficient, thus no longer needing the help. And wouldn’t it be great, if those who had been given this empowering help, then came together to help others build this self sufficiency in their society. Just another thought that just came to me. That is something that could then be ongoing for them.

  349. True charity begins with self responsibility. I recently heard a true story that happened in our local community. There was a family of 5 renting a home, the way they lived in the home was extremely disrespectful, holes were made in the wall, there was defecation in multiple rooms that no one had bothered to clean, the entire house was trashed and this family were evicted and ended up living on the street because they couldn’t find a new house to rent. A member of the community met one of the sons to discover he lived on the street and through sympathy felt it was unjust that this boy didn’t have a home. Then there was a charitable function that was published in the media glorifying the extent that people in the community were coming together to support this family. The point I am making here is sympathy doesn’t serve as it does not illuminate our development of self responsibility – by no means does this mean we cannot support people or that any single person doesn’t deserve to live in a home. Yes lets do these things and support each other, however true support always respects and allows an aspect of accountability. We each have a right to make choices and in turn feel the consequences of our choices. The real question I want to know is has this family learned their lesson to respect the homes they live in or did charity in this case retard their evolution.

    1. Great point Abby, confusing sympathy for service is in actual fact a great disservice, as it in no way empowers the one in need but holds them as a victim who requires saving. To serve however is true support as it considers the whole and founded by self responsibility.

    2. Hear, hear, Abby. “We each have a right to make choices and in turn feel the consequences of our choices” – absolutely. And it is often us we are actually saving – from having to witness these consequences others are facing, while we think we are saving them by getting them out of their misery.

  350. You are raising great points here Anne as most charities do more harm in their intention to “do good” by imposing on people what they might need. Specifically in the context of international cooperation for development where big charities are working from a position that the advancements of the industrialized world are good for all and need to be “implemented” for others. What is not taken into account is that life is not about functioning, but about building connection from love. True charity is about true empowerment and not pleasing the needs of those in need and the need for identification and recognition of the ones that are giving. As you say this all starts with self-responsibility.

  351. It is wonderful to read words I have felt and thought to myself so many times online for the world to see Anne. Every word you have expressed makes so much sense this blog should be front page news. Thank you.

  352. Most charities feel like a rort to me. I often used to feel what was the sense in printing t-shirts or boxing chocolates etc…etc.. to sell to raise money. Why not simply hand over cash or needed food, blankets etc.. To me, it shows it is not truly charity. It is about ‘doing good’, so as to be seen to be doing good.

    1. Ha, love the honesty here Michelle – “Most charities feel like a rort to me”. This line made me realise that I have always felt this way about them and that their intention was not true.

    2. I agree Michelle, the getting something for your donation is an interesting one – it exposes that we are not giving freely to what is needed. Food, blankets, cash, knowing where and how our money is being spent is very important. I prefer charities who are transparent with their financial processes.

  353. An event which takes place in the UK is a moon walk for breast cancer. It has never made any sense to me how people what to stay awake all night and exhaust themselves in the cold, it is the antitheses of what helping one with breast cancer means – honouring our bodies and nurturing ourselves.

  354. I applaud what you have said here and it echoes what I have long felt. As a young child I understood this, and I would ask, ‘if we do everything for people, how do they learn to help themselves’. I do hold supporting and caring for people a top priority but that which comes from a place of equalness not what we currently know in this world as charity.

  355. Anne I had no idea that charities took as much as they did from the donations given! You also raise some great questions and points about what real charity is and how currently we are far from realising this on a day to day basis.

  356. When we do charity to express our love, it is wonderful. When we do charity to assuage our guilt then we may be better off looking at why we feel guilty and what we can specifically do it about that rather than try to balance the ledger in some impersonal and possibly crude way.

  357. Anne I absolutely love what you have presented about charities here. So many good points about what charities present at the moment- not true service or support, Just a waste of resources. It is evident that donations don’t make a lasting diffetence.

  358. Anne It makes much more sense the way you describe it, and you can feel your model has integrity and supports others to take more responsibility for their own lives. Universal Medicine Charity is doing this already no?

  359. It is true that the concept of ‘charity’ needs to be closely examined and the processes and principals within existing charities reviewed. There is a lot of corruption within charity. This calls into question the notion of ‘ill gotten gains’ and whether we can knowingly further corruption of any degree in order for some of the collected funds to make it to their intended recipients. It isn’t true ‘good’ if the process and the intentions behind those orchestrating the charity are not true.

  360. Our intentions to raise funds for a charity come from the emotions of being nice, doing good and sympathy. Not only do we donate the money to the charity we also give them these emotions, which could be a confirmation, or a suppression of the tension for the receiver.

  361. Anne, your last statement really says it all: “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?” When examined with these criteria, I feel a lot of current charities and so called charitable organisations would not stand the test as most charities I have come across for one- do not include in their efforts the best for all of humanity …

  362. Charities have been under scrutiny for a while now, and for good reason. Some of what you shared in your blog Anne about where the money goes is actually disgraceful. It is sometimes hard for people to understand that true charity doesn’t mean pouring millions after millions of dollars into a continent such as Africa, and they don’t want to see that it is having little to no effect. True service starts firstly with how we look after ourselves, and then outward from a true foundation, what we can offer humanity by way of realistic support.

    1. Anne said it and you say it clearly and well too Jo- let charity come from those that have a body and being that is not depleted but rather is full, vital and able to discern what will truly serve – charity based on love.

  363. A friend asked me to sponsor her for a London to Brighton bike ride for a cancer charity and I said I’d sponsor her double not to ride. We had an interesting discussion about looking after ourselves and some of the energetic reasons for cancers being lack of self care.

    1. This is great Jill. Something I did not think to do when I was approached recently to sponsor someone. Charitable acts is a great subject to explore and shed light upon.

    2. Gill it’s interesting how both Anne and you have mentioned events that raise money for charity that cause stress, tension and pain on the body. The Oxfam Walk is a gruelling walk that goes through very rugged terrain. It actually is seen by many as a race and so many choose to run it and not sleep but to keep going through the night. People push their bodies to extreme lengths to finish and when asked why often the response is that it’s for charity. I have asked people I know who do it ‘why not stay at home and hit your hand repeatedly with a hammer for charity?’ But somehow that is seen as different!

  364. I really love this: I must be the love I want the world to be. Very inspiring thank you ❤️

  365. There’s a lot to learn from this Anne, thank you for bringing this topic here. “true service and therefore true charity”; to understand what true charity is and what being of service means before starting any charitable initiative, would bring deeper and truly effective changes. It will change the face of why and how support is offered and empower those in dire situations to become self-empowered as opposed to ‘recipients of charity’.

  366. If I give to someone that I think is less than me, what I give comes laced with this feeling and further cements the lack of self worth in the person I am giving to. It’s taken me a while to come to terms with this but it makes perfect sense. If I help someone knowing that they are my absolute equal, they are challenged to see themselves as who they really are.

  367. Anne, you have exposed much in this blog. It’s interesting that the intention behind all the reasons you list as to why people give to charity does not include any hint of true service. There is selfish motivation behind all of them. Another reason that could be added to the list is that people give out of sympathy which immediately places a victim mentality on those who receive the charity and this energy would not support them at all to free themselves from poverty or hardship. It just eases the conscience of the giver so they can get on with their life feeling they have done their bit.

    1. Love the last line Sandra – as how many times have any of us given or donated something to an organisation out of sympathy? You nailed it this relieves the giver and does not offer true healing to those on the receiving end.

      1. Not only sympathy, often times guilt can play a big part. Giving can be used to relieve the guilt around the lack of equalness, that having more than another brings.

      2. In the past, I can relate to wanting to donate to charities out of sympathy, and wanting to ‘do good’. But as you say Sandra this “relieves the giver and does not offer true healing to those on the receiving end.” It also says that we are not equal, and not allowing the other to take responsibility for their situation, and choices in their life.

      3. This is so true Sally, in the past I have watched television programs that are specifically produced to raise money for charity and I remember some of the older programs were focused on the famine in Africa and no doubt the majority of donations came from a place of sympathy which as you say is not truly healing.

    2. Whilst I agree that there is an element of giving then going on with their own lives, I am not sure people ever consider their motives as selfish. If conversations and articles like this are never out there, how would this conversation start? The love that Anne speaks of in her blog can be applied here are well, supporting this industry to re-evaluate, re-contemplate what charity is so that it is about service and not relief.

      1. Beautiful, Lucy. I agree that it is very unlikely most people who are involved in charity sector and its activity would have awareness about their true intention, let alone other very valid points Anne raises here. This article truly is a loving invitation for all to consider where we really are at, and bring in true love.

      2. Yes I like what you write here Lucy, especially about it being of service and not relief. Of course there needs to be an immediate relief response to a tragedy but over the longer term I like what you and Anne are raising here – can we come and offer our skills, assistance from a place of equalness with no judgement and be of true service. I think the answer is yes but it involves a loving re-evaluation and conversations like this about what is charity and what are our motives.

      3. Lucy speaking for myself and at the same time knowing that I speak for many others, I did not consider for a moment that my contributions to charity were selfish, in fact I thought that I gave because I was a compassionate person. When we feel the suffering of others deeply and there is no discussion as to how to truly help then we are pulled by our heart strings to act in the only ways available. It is invaluable to be having this conversation now so that we can address the problems of the world with real solutions.

    3. This is so true Sandra. I agree, by giving or supporting another person out of sympathy feeds the victim mentally, the energy behind this is certainly harming and not evolving for anyone. I have experienced this and I can totally relate to what you’ve shared.

    4. Hello Sandra Newland and I guess we have never taken the time to define what ‘service’ really means as also Anne is exposing. It’s great to be exposing what is really happening behind these things so we can ‘stop’ and make the change if we truly want to. I wonder what just one charity would be able to do with true service as it’s intention, we have one as a model, http://coum.org. Thank you Sandra.

  368. Some great points raised in here Anne. How a boxing match, which promotes aggression between people, could truly support and offer the community something is beyond me, it just doesn’t make sense. I have seen many people go into doing charity as a way to avoid their own issues this then does not truly support and inspire another if these issues are not addressed first. Our greatest points of inspiration do not come from what another does for us but from what another inspires in us and for it to be true inspiration then it needs to have a lived quality to it.

  369. It’s interesting to to consider how charities go about raising money. Cold calling on the telephone, approaching people in the street. You only have to watch people walking past to see that people don’t like being approached in this way. I know I don’t. I must be quite challenging for those in the position of calling or approaching people.

  370. It’s a very important subject to ponder on and discuss, how is the money used, who really benefits, what are our motivations to ‘giving’ to charity, how do we determine the integrity in an organisation and is the way that charity is conducted bringing the opportunity for true change in the lives of those who are receiving the charity? All the NGO’s that are in Africa come to mind. Are they really achieving anything in those countries? I was just thinking about too when the financial crisis happened a few years ago, banks were essentially rescued and received charity from governments. In looking at this did it really lead to change in the way that banks conducted their business? As you say Anne the motivation behind a charity and why we give is so important to consider.

  371. Anne I really appreciate your words “change can only come about if those serving inspire others, through the quality of their service”. This is huge and deeply thought provoking. The quality in which we do anything and everything is the most important factor. Without taking this into consideration nothing will truly change.

  372. True charity begins in the warmth of the heart and never can it seed from the imagined ideals of a ‘better world’. Often we focus on the plights of others to mask the fact that we have ignored ourselves. As you say Anne: “True service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility” and it is from this point that we are able to reach out to the world around us, from the fullness of what is lived within. It is not a ‘better world’ that we need but one that is true. A world that is transparent because it has nothing to hide. This transparency can only come from true honesty which is the ability to live the love that we are, in the every thing that we do.

  373. There are some really good points you’ve mentioned here Anne. I have often wondered about charities’ financial priorities when I see adverts for a raffle, the first prize being an expensive car or the costs of producing thousands of plastic medals for those attending the races. If the intention of charity was to serve others then why is the medal needed?
    Another thing that I am wondering from reading this is how much do we appreciate what we can bring so naturally to others? Because from my experience without that appreciation there is no scope to see what we bring can serve others in a way that isn’t to make us feel good or out of guilt but actually inspirational.

  374. Great blog Anne. The line “…true service must first start with self-love and self-responsibility…” sums it up beautifully for me.

  375. A very exposing blog on where ‘charities’ are going wrong. The other day I went past the end of a bicycle race where they were all crossing the finish line looking exhausted, and then I noticed that the race had been for a charity to help heart disease. I couldn’t help but see the irony of these people putting their hearts and bodies under strain to ‘help’ other peoples hearts. True charity, or service, is simple connecting to your essence and bringing the love that you are to everything you do, and to not get sucked into the whole personal gain thing, but instead making decisions based on what is best for humanity.

  376. Anne great blog. It was only this week that I was pondering on the truth of charities and the hows and whys of each different charity. I came to the opinion of deeming health charities more beneficial than other charities out there because at the end of the day it is giving a service that’s ‘medical’ and necessary to those in need. But your article highlights that whatever charity it is, it is firstly needing to support those giving the support so they can empower those in need. The services that we offer need to be of this true support, for any real healing to be done.

  377. Great Blog Anne raising the true realities of current charity and what is really going on. True support and change can only come from our innermost in connection to who we really are and from there all is known and all is love divinely. Serge Benhayon is offering to humanity what true charity is which has to come from ourselves first in our own livingness and this can then be felt by others and be the inspiration needed to bring true support and change for others ie true charity begins in coming home.

  378. We still simply do not make the link to how a person’s choices impacts on everything and everyone else. Yet it is all so common sense when we are presented with the energetic facts by Universal Medicine. For we assume we can get away with everything, be bullying and manipulating with our partners at home and then return to work with a sweet smile & leave it all behind – this is not so, true responsibility is working on your stuff, evolving out of old patterns and building greater energetic awareness.

  379. Well said Anne, some great points about what true charity is and how much it has been used for self gain rather than truly for people. True charity is about people and it is not about getting anything back in return whereas with many of the ‘charitable’ organisations they are all about making money and as you say only a tiny fraction of the amount donated actually goes to the cause at hand. People work for the charities under the guise of I am doing good, they go overseas to help at projects but, at least from what I have seen, nothing really changes and often they end up getting paid more than most people doing normal jobs.

    1. ‘it is not about getting anything back in return’ and that’s the key point – whilst we do ‘charitable’ works for self gain in any way, be it financial return, recognition or simply the ‘feel good’ factor, we are draining ourselves and the true purpose. I heard this week of a man who ran four marathons in four days and raised loads of money for charity – he was then going to spend the next few days recovering? How did over pushing his body to such a debilitating extent truly help the charity he was supporting?

  380. Charity does appear to be a big business these days and discerning the intentions of those involved in charity is an interesting angle to pursue. I find the advertisements to adopt a child to give financial support to, to be pitched toward an emotional response, for example, it is hooking, and therefore an influenced response right from the start rather than a true impulse to serve.

  381. Anne what a great evaluation of the state of charity today and also brining a new perspective on this. The more experience I am having with different charities it does seem that the drive behind many is to firstly about making the people running them feel good before looking at the real intention or purpose. One example I noticed is Health/Cancer Charity Runs where people literally have died before crossing the finish line – to me that is very unhealthy yet because its cloaked in “Charity” there are no questions asked. What’s great with your post is bringing in that first we have to have a body of love, make self loving choices and from there how we approach charity will be very different.

  382. A great question Anne, “Is it possible that our charities are not as charitable as we think they are? Is it possible that the current charity business model is a band-aid fix?” I heard this week about one charity trying to justify its expenditure on salaries etc and the minimal amount that actually went to the people it was raising money for. Cold-calling from charities is also being high-lighted and questioned here in the UK. As a wise man stated, nothing will change until the consciousness itself is altered.

  383. Once again we are seeking solutions outwardly which keeps us on the treadmill of this involutionary cycle. As you say Anne there is no true healing or service if we have not first taken responsibility for ourselves, honestly cleared out patterns and behaviours that do not serve us and re-connect to our common purpose and the intention that holds our activity.

  384. It is a great way to look at it Anne, helping people to empower themselves and treating them as our equal is definitely true service, as you said sharing our skills to help them making true changes in their life.

  385. I must be the love I would like the world to be. That line says it all to me. It requires a deep self love and therefore responsibility how we take care of ourselves. Now that is not always the case and for many not a preferred way to focus on. It seems to be easier to take care of others. I wonder why we have such a deep drive to be ‘busy’ with others, when we don’t – at least equally – give that attention to ourselves. Is it the emptiness within we don’t want to feel and hopefully doing good for others, preferrably receiving recognition for it, is the band-aid we like to receive? If so, it is really worth it to ‘do good’ to ourselves first and see where that, even just as a worldwide experiment, will take us.

    1. True, Caroline, if we all took care of ourselves first then there would be less need for us to look after others and when there was a need we could bring wholehearted true charity to it without any selfish motive. In that way the person would feel truly loved and would receive real benefit.

  386. This is a great discussion about service and charities Anne, and one we need to consider deeply. As you have written, trillions of dollars are not making much, if any difference to the poor people of the world, and much of the money that is donated goes to the administrators.

  387. Yes, Anne, so true what are we truly giving when we give to a charity? Is it love or is it coming from a need to feel good about what we have done? I am reminded of the saying ‘charity begins at home’, with this in mind I feel that true charity starts with me. If I have family at home then it is our combined responsibility to live a life that has no abuse, addictions or disharmony. If we all lived with this then the world would be a better place and even those who seem to be doing it tough may not have to endure it for so long if we just get out of their lives and see them as equals and not as victims.

  388. A leading UK cancer charity asks people to raise funds by organising coffee and cake mornings. I question how a health charity can promote caffeine and sugar when the detrimental health effect of both is well researched and publicised. This is not service.

    1. I agree Kehinde, it does seem crazy and counter productive raising money for a good cause whilst promoting something that is actually a contributing factor to the illness / disease state. No wonder we all get so confused as there are so many mixed messages out there!

  389. “What if we, and our charities, were to first focus on what our intention was in carrying out the object of the charity, what skills we could bring to the service to others, and whether we were carrying out that purpose and using those skills with true love for all of humanity?”
    This is such an important question you raise here, Anne. I feel sure that if this question was answered truthfully the whole nature of charity would change and would be beneficial in so many ways for the whole of humanity. Consequently we need to keep asking this question.

  390. ‘Our charities: how charitable are they?’ A great question Anne and another valuable contribution to a re-examining of what true charity is. I too have observed how charity fund-raising events often centre on punishing physical activity (marathons, triathlons, mountaineering, expeditions) the list is endless and the practice now becoming the norm. It is right to question what service is being offered when charities choose fund raising activities that could potentially cause harm to people’s bodies. For Participants, taking part on these events is considered by some as a badge of honour, an achievement, something to include on a CV or tick off a ‘bucket list’, rather than true service. A leading UK cancer charity asks people to fund-raise by organising coffee and cake mornings. I question how a health charity can promote caffeine and sugar when the detrimental health effect of both is well researched and publicised. This is not service. We are witnessing a total abuse and misuse of the words ‘charity’ and ‘service.’ Most organisations with charitable status are businesses first, they are not, like some charities I know, Universal Medicine and Sound Foundation putting the people they serve, first. If they had, they would only choose fund-raising activities that support and promote true health.

  391. It’s seriously bizarre to encourage people to batter their bodies in order to raise money to assist others in healing theirs. I prefer your model of empowering those in need to assist them to arise out of their situation providing the potential for true healing.

    1. I agree Deborah. It’s interesting only a few years ago I would have considered that to be ok, because it was all about the raising money, not the method of raising money or really considering what it really offers those on the receiving end.

    2. Well said deborahmckay. Even just using that description of a charity event brings the focus back to what is actually going on and not the ‘do gooding’ of the charity which acts as a smoke screen to the real intentions.

  392. Anne, I have often thought it is madness that people want to run themselves into the ground in order to contribute to helping others. It seems totally the wrong way round. In order to help others we need to first make sure we are in a good state to help them. To me this does not include risking our health so that we too may become a charity case!

    1. I agree Rebecca how can we help someone else if we are first not looking after ourselves. What kind of example are we then to them? Surely the most inspiring thing for anyone is to see another person living in a truly loving and caring way and then being the same with them, showing that we do not have to be all tough and hard? I know for me this breaks, well smashes, any walls or barriers down which I have been living with. It makes it a tangible reality rather than a theorised possibility. Everyone then wins and no one is left feeling run down and exhausted.

    2. Not only are people running themselves to the ground in these charity events, but the whole city gets behind it – roads are closed, sponsors are glorified and the charities continue aiding the whole cycle.

      1. Absolutely Vicky, it has become a vast money making machine, ‘sponsors are glorified’, participating fundraisers ‘hoodwinked’, charities wielding the baton.

  393. You have raised some interesting questions Anne. It does not seem that there are many, if any true charities out there in true service. Most have people in it for personal gain whether it be financial, lessen the guilt of having a lot or just doing it to make you look like a good person. What needs to be looked at is the energy behind the charity as no matter how good it looks at first glance, if the energy is not right it can only be harmful.

  394. I feel true service can be offered and be financially remunerated and that not all service has to be offered free of charge. However, I agree that many charities have become focused on raising money as their principal purpose rather than serving the aims of the charity. There have been instances in the UK recently where some large charities have been exposed for pressurising elderly and vulnerable people to donate money they could ill afford. The donation then comes with an energy of resentment and fear and harms the initial true intention of the charity.

  395. In the examples given of what empowering another person could look like, it is clear that the focus is on what issues might be in the way of each person realising their full potential. This places the responsibility for self salvation firmly in the hands of the individual, with the unwavering support of all their equal brothers.

  396. Amazing blog Anne. I love how you bring it down to very practical common sense. Yes is asking people to endure two whole days of cycling and camping on the ground really something that is really serving others? Isn’t this indeed giving the example that disregarding your body is ok? After reading your blog I can see that indeed true charity would be showing a living way of deeply caring for and loving yourself and naturally then the people around you. Being the living example of love is true charity.

    1. So true Lieke…and by living a loving way through example, people around you have the opportunity to take note or not, so really a person is inspired to change their own life through that living example of another.

  397. Hmm. Boxing for charity. An interesting proposition. I cannot quite understand how being punched equates to being “fit for life” or supports a charitable organisation. I do hope that one of the charities it was in aid of was not for domestic violence.
    This blog actually raises a multitude of questions, including questions about what is truly good for us. It is a fact that many people believe that cycling for 2 days is good for them. Boxing is regarded to be a “super fitness” regime, and raffle tickets are just a bit of harmless fun. The fact that the winning ticket is rewarded with a bottle of grog and big box of choccys is beside the point.
    The dispersement of funds to consultants and advertising agents could be a discussion point for a year. Who in fact are we donating to? And do we consider that when we put our coins in the jar, buy the tickets or pedal ourselves to exhaustion and beyond.

  398. There was a book written a long time ago that said if you give someone a fish they eat today, teach them to fish and they eat forever. Was this the true charity we have forgotten?

  399. Fantastic blog Anne and one that I would love to read in the newspaper. Rather than an article advertising to walk around a stadium all night in the freezing cold to raise money for cancer, How about a stadium full of people sharing what actually makes a difference in their lives. Sharing the changes in self care that they have made, sharing their lifestyle changes that actually make an improvement in their health. No money needed, just a true support and sharing, this would be true charity.

  400. I’ve often wondered about charity and whether it truly is of benefit to those it claims to help. If we give to charity because deep down we feel guilty in some way and want to alleviate some of this guilt by helping others, are we truly helping them? This never made sense to me, as it always seemed to come back to ‘self’, to ‘me’ wanting ‘me’ to feel better. To me to be truly charitable has nothing to do with giving ourselves a feel-good and in order for this to happen we need to take responsibility for our own well-being first. True charity really does begin at home– with us.

  401. Beautiful question you raise her Anne Scott. From what intention do the many charity organisations we have nowadays work. Is it to truly benefit the target group or is it more to give relief to the needs of the people who are in the charity organisation? That is the question. Intention is that important in everything that we do, so also in the charities we have in our societies. When would we be able to truly revisit the intentions of the charities and would that make a criteria to accept them as a charity organisation, many would fail the application.

  402. Thank you Anne, you raise a number of very pertinent questions about the true nature of charity and being charitable. I understand your examples and see there is perhaps a lot to uncover within the industry and what we’ve come to accept as true charity as a society. Another good question that comes to mind is why have we ended up with this as our version of charity?

  403. “It appeared to me that many of the events run by our charities could be putting people’s bodies and minds at risk”. This point is true Anne and yet no one ever talks about it. I cringe when I hear people say they are training for certain charity events that involves flogging their bodies. People feel that they are being loving by being charitable, yet to be loving starts with self-love and self-love starts with how we treat our own bodies.Therefore it doesn’t make sense to push our body and minds in order to be charitable.

    1. Sure is crazy Donna, that the ‘Ride to Conquer Cancer’ and other such fund-raising events encourage people to over exert themselves and do unselfloving things which is precisely why the body has had to give a person cancer in the first place so that they may eventually stop and take heed of what the body is saying. Unfortunately, if the cancer goes into remission people often continue on the same momentum they were on and these fundraising walks and rides encourage the same energy.

  404. Charities in need to save and serve exist because humanity knows something is seriously wrong but we are looking outside of ourselves to fix it. Nothing can ever be truly fixed from the outside. It all feels too complicated. The simple way to all of this is to connect back to ourselves, be that, reflect it, we are all living walking true charities to evolution.

    1. Adele, given that charities across the world have not changed the world as a whole indicates that we can put much effort into something that has changed naught. It is easy on many levels to think that you are doing well because you are in action but as you are and this article is gracefully expressing this does not mean that anything actually changes. Universal Medicine and the teachings of Serge Benhayon have made true change to this world and continue to do so. And self-responsibility is such a huge factor here as we all have an enormous responsibility to what are true intentions in any moment.

    2. I agree Adele. Poverty that exists externally cannot be fixed by seemingly well-intended acts of benevolence if first there exists an impoverished state within. Thus, to help another we first have to help ourselves. This is not selfish but more so an act of love that ensures that the every step taken thereafter, is also infused with this love.

  405. There is no depth, no true connection, no relationship, no truth in charities that operate from the outside (ask for money) and expects a response from the outside (give money or not give money), and hence no evolution. Charity as such is actually asking for true charity to be reflected, the true charity of knowing who we truly are and to simply be that as reflection. For example in being stopped on the street and asked to give money, have we then lived the reflection of true charity that we know? Have we clocked these to be opportunities for us to live deeper what true charity is?

  406. Charity is an impulse from the heart expressed in a movement to empower the re-knowing of who we truly are. Any other action is not true charity.

  407. Charity is often for show in humanity, something that is done to look good without considering what the truth is within. If the focus of charity is how it looks on the outside, then it could not be true, because it does not come from within. If every step of the way charity is approached with integrity, responsibility and truth simply because these are the qualities of the Soul, then the outcome will be true—and it may very well be a charity that the world is not used to seeing.

  408. It is so great what you are exposing in this blog Anne: how can it be true charity if the money being raised to support people’s health in another part of the world is at the expense of people’s health who are raising the money? Makes no sense to me.

  409. The impulse towards charity is something many people feel and is a genuine expression of dismay at the suffering that surrounds us. Have we yet figured out what to do about it? No – we’ve set up no doubt millions of charities and nonprofits but despite all our efforts the world keeps spiralling out of control. The impulse to support and assist is true – let’s just figure out the way best to do this.

    1. I agree Victoria, the impulse to want to help others is true because as human beings at some level within ourselves we know that we are all connected. It is a matter of understanding and addressing what occurs from the initial impulse to the carrying out of the impulse. We do need to find another way to deliver true charity and we are fortunate enough to have a true role model in The College of Universal Medicine –http://www.coum.org. This model ought to be studied.

  410. I love the possibility envisioned here – that people can be supported and empowered to implement true and lasting change for themselves – a way that is very much aligned with the strengths-based approach to human services provision. This feels like a way forward that can bring about profound differences at the individual level, one person at a time, rather than a bandaid solution applied across the board.

  411. I agree Anne it is important to examine our motives to give and help. Is it possible the charitable acts we pursue are more to relieve us than the people they are designed to benefit?

    1. I totally agree with you Victoria that it is imperative to “examine our motives to give and help”. I used to be a giver to charity and if I look back at what my motives were it feels that it was all about a need to be seen to be doing the ‘right” thing.

  412. Thank you Anne. This is a fantastic blog that is bringing a fresh approach to the subject of charities and how effective they are. I agree, trillions of dollars are poured into charities yet not much fundamentally has changed? There has to be another way and that way is as you describe to empower people to feel their own equality and power. Treating people as victims does not work, it never has and it never will.

    1. I agree Elizabeth, treating people as victims just feeds the whole victim mentality and will never empower anyone to stand up and claim what is true for themselves.

  413. Anne you are certainly not alone in your concerns about the amount of donor dollars that go to people other than the recipients for whom they are intended. While it’s true any organisation set up to provide a service will incur administration costs, there is a sense in the community these are disproportionate. Though rather than be solely about remuneration, perhaps these fears are more accurately about the actual ability of charities to do what they purport to do. Is it more a nagging sense we’re throwing good money after bad that concerns us, as you have also highlighted here?

  414. Anne, some great questions raised about charities here! I had never previously considered this much before and in my time, have contributed to a number of charities that I felt at the time were ‘doing good’. When I look back, I can see that in this, I was often willing to miss looking at how the charities themselves operated – and aside from that had never considered that the charity raising events themselves often seemed totally contrary to what the charity seemed to have been set up for… For example, selling chocolates or having prizes which included alcohol for a charity raising funds in relate to a health issue (i.e. cancer etc.). When I was willing to be more honest about this, it became very obvious that the activities and the operation itself associated with many charities, are in fact far from charitable, far from true service and far from supporting people to take care of themselves. This simply highlights to me how energy affects everything, and therefore how important discernment is in everything we choose to do, or be involved or associated with. For me, Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have offered me true role models in this regard, and in relation to true service, true charity, and true self-care and love.

    1. I just realize – selling “good”doesn’t mean, that the service is really good. As you and many others have stated here, we have to check the energy first, before we can say, this service has a great quality and it is worth to support.

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