Smiling from Our Hearts

Recently I read on the Truth about Serge Benhayon website, a lovely blog about smiling written by Carmel Reid. When I finished reading it, it inspired me to ponder on and feel deeply into – “where does a smile come from?”

From the moment we are born, our loved ones can be trying to get a smile from us, with tickles, funny faces and noises, all designed to prompt us to get the response they are seeking. As we grow up, our smiles can become polite responses to adults that, as children, we may not feel we want to smile at but do so, as it is a sign of good manners.

All of this is training for us to respond on cue, to curl our lips up on demand, and our smiles become like a paint splash –– two dimensional! I began to ponder on “where does our true smile come from?”

Could a true smile be based on a loving connection with ourselves and with another?

Does a true smile come from our Inner Hearts?

I realised that a true smile does come from our inner hearts.

A true smile starts deep within our inner heart and can bubble up to the surface, bursting forth from our whole bodies. It is reflected in the radiance of our face and mouth.

Imagine receiving such a smile; the warmth and embrace it offers.

A true smile is an opening, saying “I’m here with you and love and accept 100% everything that is happening in this moment. There is no greater moment than what we share right now.”

The giving and receiving of a true smile is an opportunity for two beings to share an intimacy that transcends ideals, beliefs, limitations, hurts and expectations. This smile and this moment carry no imposition. We are then totally free and unencumbered to allow the next moment to be exactly what is there to be lived as the current moment doesn’t bind or linger out of a need for more, because all was felt and complete right there, in that moment.

All this comes from an awareness of where a true smile comes from.

With continuous appreciation for all that Serge Benhayon lives.

With appreciation and thanks to Carmel Reid for her inspiration from her blog Appreciation and a True Smile Back.

By Sandra Williamson, Hairdresser, Brisbane, Australia

Related Reading:
The Inner-Heart: Your Key To Connecting With Who You Truly Are

986 thoughts on “Smiling from Our Hearts

  1. Interesting to clock how a smile can be used in vein, with an agenda or need for a certain outcome. This is, of course, a learnt behaviour and one that is used in favour of want to please others, for sympathy, or to make someone feel better about their choices.

  2. A true smile emanating from our heart, shares fully who we truly are and is felt by another, without the need of any other form of communication.

  3. There is a coldness and disconnection that comes from a smile that is a physically controlled response that suits an agenda, void of any warmth or radiance… compared to a true smile that is contagious when authentic, for it comes from a connection within and naturally ignites in another a feeling of happiness or joy in response to the connection it offers.

  4. “I realised that a true smile does come from our inner hearts..” very true Sandra. A forced smile feels cold and is a lie. The ‘say cheese’ that some amateur photographers ask for shows this in the finished developed photo. I prefer to catch a natural photo of someone, rather than the fixed portrait or group shot, when people don’t feel natural or at ease in themselves, for the most part.

  5. This is such a simple and powerful blog that is showing us all the magnitude of an act we can so easily take for granted in our daily lives. I have just stopped to appreciate how often others will comment on my smile and the myriad of images and thoughts that then go rushing through my head – it must be my straight teeth they like or the bright lipstick I wear -never realising that the smile radiates what comes from the inside out. Thank you Sandra for noting the small stuff which is truly the BIG STUFF we all can offer each other.

    1. It’s a twist on smiling how it is often turned into the outer appearance – and not the inner feeling from our hearts.

  6. A true smile is an opening, saying “I’m here with you and love and accept 100% everything that is happening in this moment. There is no greater moment than what we share right now.” I love this prespective and deep insight into the meaning of a true smile….

  7. It is interesting how we the adults are often so keen (or even desperate) to win a smile from a baby. That purity that judges no one, and it feels as though in its smile we are seeking a seal of approval, like we so want someone of absolute purity to validate us to feel that we are in truth enough.

  8. I find it very interesting to watch videos and photos of myself and how my face is particularly my smile. It says a lot about how I feel about myself and what is happening for me at that moment.

  9. A smile is a movement like many other movements we make in our day e.g walking and it has occurred to me recently that there is usually a point in our lives where we stop moving as who we really are and start moving in a different way to please others or fit in. This places enormous strain on our bodies and a lot of exhaustion and anxiety.

  10. A true smile has nothing to do with being nice or putting on an asked for front, it comes from the whole body and from appreciation and acceptance.

  11. We can all feel the awfulness of a fake smile. Whether in a photo or from someone toward us. It doesn’t feel right, it has us questioning the reason behind it, and puts us on edge, even if it’s subtle. we also know what it feels like to share a smile that is genuine…and there is nothing loaded in that one other than sheer acceptance.

  12. I love the smiles that can’t be held back. They burst out of a person and cannot be contained or controlled.

  13. There are moments when I wonder why a smile isn’t bubbling up and now I know it’s because the mind is thinking therefore over riding what my heart might truly be feeling.

  14. A true smile definitely comes from our inner heart and has the potential to light us all up with its infectious joy.

  15. I had the most lovely connection with a nurse this morning, showing me that when we are truly open and showing who we are in full we cannot but smile. I left my gloves inside the examination room and she walked out into the carpark to return them to me, all my body could do was smile with full appreciation of the gesture and she lovingly placed the gloves in my hand and reflected the same joy right back. She held my hand as she gave me the gloves and it shows just by our bodies movements and the honesty we hold, such amazing warmth can happen in our connections anytime.

  16. I love the feeling of a true smile travelling through my body in a second and lighting up the face with its light. The reflection to another is felt and without any expectations, there is often a huge or knowing smile of the same quality in return. How inspiring this is.
    “A true smile starts deep within our inner heart and can bubble up to the surface, bursting forth from our whole bodies. It is reflected in the radiance of our face and mouth”.

  17. A smile that rises from within and bursts onto your face is one of my favourite things in the world! And especially between ‘strangers’ on the street, a shared moment of joy.

  18. By not honouring the depth and beauty of a full-bodied smile and learning instead how to mask our pain and politely smile even though a fury may well bubble below the surface, we have created a world of ‘smiling assassins’ that we have then accepted as the norm.

  19. We cannot hide behind the falsities of a smile no matter how subtle we try. A false smile can be enticing to try to hook people in with an agenda that being good and nice has its own way but this is no other than an illusion to cover the deep rooted hurt within the body.

  20. This is a great way to look into what comes from our body and how different movements bring greater awareness to what we are feeling. So a smile by any other name could it be a clown or would it have to be spontaneous not having anything to do with the joy we are in, but possibly coming from the appreciation we feel towards others who are also feeling the connection we are sharing?

  21. A true smile comes from deep within and has nothing to do with politeness; a true smile is not a social convention, not a hand-out or a matter of compliance. A true smile involves the whole body and not just a few muscles which perform the action.

  22. When we are connected to ourselves it is easy to tell when a person is smiling out of obligation or for any other reason other than true. Yet at the same time most (if not all) people would say they don’t like fakeness in others yet here is a very common example of it…

  23. Indeed Sandra, a true smile bubbles up from deep inside, from the inner heart where we all are one and when we share that smile we appreciate and confirm that we are all are one, equal and the same.

  24. It is absolutely gorgeous to be able to true smile from your heart. Once you really feel how that feels in your body, you will never ever put on a fake smile again as this feels so ugly. A role you don’t want.

  25. Could it be when we are so full of Joy from the inside we have no need to smile on the outside but when we do the joy is expressed form ear to ear. So ears to it, and if you get to it, and don’t do it, then check your Joy metre!

  26. I love those unprotected moments where people just connect and meet each other in pure joy. Unfortunately in today’s busy world this doesn’t happen as often but those moments where it does are priceless and can happen often when we live in connection to a simplicity in life.

  27. “where does a smile come from?” This is such a lovely question , for me a smile comes from who I am and I have an awesome smile.

  28. I think that’s why I don’t like smiling for the camera. Its a smile I have to put on for that moment which to me always feels false.

  29. It is interesting to watch when people are having their photo taken they can instantly put on this fake smile that masks their natural beauty and true essence.

  30. A great sharing Sandra, one I too have experienced, it is so beautiful to feel and share in that moment with another, with no need for more or less, it is complete within that moment.

  31. I shared a smile with a most wonderful woman I passed on my walk yesterday. It was a very hot day and as we passed we shared such a long conversation with our eyes. I felt she shared herself with me and I with her and it was a passing moment to anyone else.

  32. “The giving and receiving of a true smile is an opportunity for two beings to share an intimacy that transcends ideals, beliefs, limitations, hurts and expectations” – beautifully said, and explains so well why a true smile seems so rare while a vacant/forced smile is everywhere.

  33. It seems to me that so often we smile on cue responding to the expectation of others, but it is so clear when smiling this sort of smile that it does not feel true in our body; the lie is quickly felt but often just as quickly dismissed. But when our smile is not planned but simply unfolds from within us it is felt throughout every particle of our body and similarly felt by the person we are smiling at, connecting us at a very deep and intimate level.

  34. Yes a smile can be cold when we are just doing the lip movement but when we truly feel it a smile is truly heart warming.

  35. Could it be we share so much when we open up and live in a way where the Inner-heart smile is felt by all. And when we live in a false emotionally affected way then all is felt as a disconnected way that is imposing emotional ideals on others?

  36. Why is it that so many adults try everything possible to get a baby to smile and don’t give up until it happens? I have to put my hand up and say that I have done this in the past. I wonder if it is because of a deep need for recognition and receiving no smile brings up the associated feeling of rejection, just as it often does if not received from adults as well. Smiles that come from the inner-heart with no force are so much more naturally glorious than one that is just ‘painted on’.

  37. Letting go of the images that have reconfigured our body and movements shall wipe the smile off our face and replace it with True Joy that is Humbly there as a glorious part of our Sacred being.

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