A True Commitment to Work, Getting a Job… and Life

Committing to work is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I say ‘happened’ to me, as it only seemed to begin after I had a major operation and STOP in 2010, yet it is one of the most empowering and loving things I have ever experienced for myself.

I did not grow up this way. As far back as I can remember, to age 8 or 9, there was the ideal that one day I would grow up, romantically fall in love, have a family and live happily ever after (which fell well short!). I did not do well at nor did I enjoy school, thinking that careers were for the smart ones; for others who did not want families and therefore had nothing else in their lives.

However this was all based on a belief, a picture I had in my head about how life should be. While love and commitment to having a family and raising children is important and needed, the same dedication was not there for myself and my life first (which included having a job) and therefore I was not truly there for my family either.

As independent as I looked on the outside to everyone else, I was forever happy to hand my life over to someone else – usually a boyfriend/my husband – and then just become a chameleon and adapt to their way of life. This was easy for me to do and so I did it… but at what cost to myself?

This lack of commitment extended to the fact that I couldn’t commit to a job or regular work.

After being introduced to Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, I remember in 2006 in one of my sessions with Serge where he suggested that I get a job… any job! I heard his voice saying this, but at the time could not feel it at all in my body and certainly wondered about the benefits versus being able to freely have coffees down the road with friends, then take myself off to the shopping centre to see what more I ‘needed’ there!

Clearly this was not IT as it left me feeling very lonely even though I was surrounded by people, something deeper was totally missing. I was in so much illusion thinking that my life was fulfilling when in fact there was a massive void of emptiness.

Getting a job… committing to life?

What did that mean?

I felt getting a job had to look a certain way and that I needed status so I looked important in it and that it paid well without my having to do very much. The arrogance superseded everything else.

I decided to try temping and casually did this for a couple of years. It had its ‘benefits’ financially, however there was still no true commitment from me and I would find reasons why I needed to stop working. It took a number of years as I worked on my own self-worth to appreciate the value of working and truly begin to support myself fully.

One of the things I felt as I began to heal from the STOP I had in 2010 was the strong need I had to take better care of myself, but more than that I had such a strong pull to take responsibility for my own life, mainly financially. I had hardly worked for the past 15 years, using children as an excuse to not engage with employment opportunities. The thought of having a career suddenly felt so strong and supportive and quite frankly a necessary and practical part of life. How had I not seen this before?

This was a completely new feeling for me but empowering and wonderful to feel. I had never felt that level of care for myself.

I began to see Universal Medicine practitioners who were trained in Esoteric Breast Massage, and Esoteric Chakra-Puncture and did several programs that supported me to address the lack of care and self-worth I had for myself.

This was the turning point as I could feel the most basic support of looking after myself with food and rent was grossly lacking and I wanted to change this more than anything.

It was only when I cared enough for myself as a woman that I began my journey back into employment. It was really hard at first, with several wake up calls to where I was actually at, so I started at the bottom….

I made a commitment to myself that I was going to earn money no matter what I had to do, as long as I could remain integral with myself. I sold GF (gluten free) eggs for a while, then did some house cleaning and the odd temp job with agencies. One day I asked an organisation if I could volunteer in their clinic to gain some experience, which I did for 3 months. After that I applied for a job as a receptionist for a super clinic and got the job.

I could feel myself going from strength to strength, not in a career driving way, but in my body; I could feel how this was truly supporting me and my life. I could feel that I had been at the other end of the same spectrum, withdrawn from life, and that the difference was to not go into driving a career, but ensuring that I bring all of me to whatever I am doing: this is what is truly fulfilling and what truly grows my confidence and the way I am with myself and others.

I’ve learnt also that a STOP, in my case an illness, can be the most amazing blessing in disguise – a healing journey that evolves us if we choose to adhere to the learning being asked of us.

In growing me, I automatically grow my career without having to go into a driving force.

I now know that there is no bottom or top of the ladder, it’s about committing to being ME first, then working in places that need my skills and expertise with a whole lot of ME in it!

As long as I am being my playful self, live in a way at home that supports me with my daily rhythms, my food and time to connect to myself, then work/careers take care of themselves. So while my commitment to life at first was about me getting back on my feet to support myself financially, what in fact it really was about was taking better care of myself, developing self-worth and re-connecting to something deeply beautiful within.

By Donna Harris, Dip BA, Brisbane

Further Reading:
Work is Medicine
Why Work? What Is Work About?
My Relationship with Work: Choosing to be All of Me

1,161 thoughts on “A True Commitment to Work, Getting a Job… and Life

  1. Wow Donna, your blog has given me a shake up.
    I have meddled through life in low paying jobs reliant on partners to see me through and not looking at that other than being an acceptable way to live – until now.
    Money has always been in short supply but has always been just enough when needed.
    I now see this as a drip feed that has kept me ‘comfortable’ in lack.
    It is certainly time for me to commit to life and to supporting myself in every way.
    Thank you for sharing your experience, it’s been like a cold shower!

  2. I can really relate with what you share ‘I was in so much illusion thinking that my life was fulfilling when in fact there was a massive void of emptiness.’ – I can remember when I was studying and spending time with good friends in the cafes and doing what was needed for school but thinking this was what life was all about. Not until later in life did I truly commit to work with the support of Universal Medicine and it has changed in a completely different way.

  3. Great contribution about commitment to all aspects of life and the immense value we get back from holding down a job and giving it our best; I have had a similar experience where it was more important to have my ‘freedom’ rather than engage in a regular and committed 9 – 5 routine. Fortunately those days are over, and like in your case that is thanks to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

  4. Wow Donna I can certainly relate to some of your story because I too “was forever happy to hand my life over to someone else- usually a boyfriend/husband “…..
    I now take responsibility and have made a commitment to life which is a very empowering feeling. When I look back at my life I simply cannot understand how I ever handed my life over to someone else. Your story is very inspirational, thank you for sharing.

  5. My work is such a blessing. It has taught me about commitment in ways I could have never imagined. My beliefs about work time and my time were very rigid and rather than seeing every part of my life equally, with the quality being the focus across all areas there was still this separation and compartmentalization.

  6. On reading your blog Donna, I can feel the issues I have had with work in the past. Always having worked for myself or in temporary casual jobs. I didn’t feel like I was worth working in a corporation or large business, that was for the ‘boring people’. Those who just worked to pay off their loans. I held the belief that they would never hire me because I wasn’t perfect enough. Which indicates to me that even though some may take the limiting life of working for money, it doesn’t have to be the way and I was just being defensive towards the idea due to my own lack of self worth and self acceptance. I can feel that there is still a bit of that there, so thank you for writing about your experience. It has inspired me to go deeper for myself into the ‘work’ beliefs.

  7. Working is such an important part of our lives – it’s such a great learning ground for us as it deals with all aspects of our life – people, responsibility, commitment, finances, relationships, ethics and values and so much more. It is not surprising that many don’t enjoy work and want to escape on holiday as it can bring up so much for us to be honest about and deal with.

  8. An illness or a sign from the body is such a gift for us. We can allow so much more awareness and change from it than just the healing of the physical illness. Thank you Donna.

  9. How amazing that you came to realise that looking after yourself in terms of food and rent is actually all about self care, Donna.
    “The basics” are not usually on our lists when we consider self care, but they are as equally important as spending time with oneself, with friends, having nourishing treatments etc
    It all matters when we care for ourselves 100%.

  10. This is a great, honest blog Donna. I love that you have nominated that you had a range of excuses to hold you back, essentially from being all of you!, but in this instance from going into the workforce. I love everything about work, I love the structure and support it provides me with. I connect with and feel the purpose of what I do, and (to the best of my ability) I bring all of me to that job. I love that I can express myself in this way. And I really love what you have presented about you being able to go from strength to strength and that your work was supporting you in life… this is how I feel. I feel that work provides me with an opportunity to grow and evolve.

  11. “As long as I am being my playful self, live in a way at home that supports me with my daily rhythms, my food and time to connect to myself, then work/careers take care of themselves.” Amazingly wise words Donna, thankyou. When we are connected to our rhythms, playfullness and self loving support then work and play become one. Commitment to life and work flows naturally and effortlessly from these foundations.

  12. I have never had a problem with commitment to working. The need to work has always been there for me. The question I could ask is, Why do I work? The commitment that I have had is a commitment to what. What was the purpose of me working. Having enough money to fulfil the ideals and believes that I had about life, being the provider, being recognized. There are many things that stimulated my motivation to work, very few if any of them real. I now have a true purpose in the work that I do and how I do that work. While the technical skills I bring to my work are important, the quality that is in me, and what I bring to my workplaces is more important. This is how I live and a forever unfolding evolvement which grows as my understanding, love and commitment to myself grows. So Donna as you have beautifully stated, the love and commitment to myself is what I also take to my work. The need to work just for money, the need to be recognized or to be the provider for what I do is disappearing and is being replaced with me and the quality of who I am.

  13. I really love this blog and can resonate with much of what you share. Before Universal Medicine I didn’t commit to life in full, which was evident in the fact I couldn’t get ( or maybe didn’t want ) a permanent full time job. Now with the amazing inspiration, love and support of Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and Michael Benhayon, and myself of course – I now have a full time time permanent post which I absolutely love. And I can say truthfully I love to work.

  14. This is such a great blog Donna about a topic that is not really discussed but the more you read, the more you think I know that too! A heard a lady say she was pregnant yesterday to which another person said, “Great, paid maternity leave.” I had a similar response when I asked another woman how she was enjoying being a mum. Her answer was not about being a mum or the baby but not having to be at work. I am starting to see how deeply entrenched this pattern is for women that they are looking for an out from work. I also wanted to add that although I have been committed to working, I can feel there are layers of commitment and most of my motivation has still been about self. I have been looking for security, recognition etc. Work when I am really just there for others is amazing and feels so purposeful. This is what real commitment feels like for me.

    1. Fiona these are great points you have raised, I too have heard and felt women have that attitude. I appreciate myself here, as not having had children I don’t for one moment feel I have missed out on some right to time off work. I work for myself, love my job, and sometimes have to stick my elbows out and make sure other projects or activities do not impact on my work commitments and also my income as a result. People tend to think you can always take time out, which I can, but it has to balance, and not bite a chunk out of every week. It feels very different, and healthy. You don’t pull sickies when you are the boss!

  15. The nominating of why you were not committed to work is awesome Donna. It is amazing how such old ideals and beliefs that we may not even know we have or are holding onto can have such a huge impact on our outlook on life. I had an ideal that someday I would get married and would to some degree be looked after, so in running my own business, I never paid myself superannuation, thinking that I didn’t need to worry about this. This changed about 7 years ago when I realised the ideal I was holding onto and now make sure that I pay myself enough super every year.

  16. I’m loving all these comments – in how people have commented that they love work, work is medicine, work is purpose and they are committed to work – it starts the conversation for a new normal about the magic of work.

  17. Gorgeous Donna, ‘ensuring that I bring all of me to whatever I am doing: this is what is truly fulfilling and what truly grows my confidence and the way I am with myself and others.’ I have found this with my new work, that it is not about the job that I do but about bringing all of me to my work, my tenderness, caring nature, sweetness and understanding, this is very different to how i have worked previously which was about getting the job done, using my skills but not about bringing me and my qualities.

  18. Donna I can very much relate to your blog – not because I didn’t have jobs, I actually started working in school holidays when I was 13 and have always worked. However I was never committed to life, and hence never brought all of me to the job, it was always a feeeling of necessity to earn an income. In addition it gave me an independence and allowed me to connect to life and people in a way that gave me full control. It has been life changing indeed to apply Universal Medicine’s teachings in my life and being supported to unravel these old patterns.

  19. A job is more than a job. It is our contribution to society.
    Sure we need money to live but jobs were originally created to support small communities in the activities that they needed to be complete.
    I.e – plow the fields
    – shepherd the animals
    – harvest the plantation.
    Having a job is enriching and a healthy aspect of human life. It promotes interaction and a common sense of purpose.

    1. Yes Luke, sadly work for most has become insular and self-oriented, a means to an end to look after oneself and family, and little in truth beyond that. I rarely come across someone who love their work and can say they are ‘enriched by it’ as you suggest. If we re-connected with what you’ve shared, the greater purpose in our contributions and the fact we can work as a whole towards something much grander, that we are all in this together… it would solve many current dilemma’s and untold office politics.

      1. Yes a no brainer… once you have allowed yourself to feel the truth of a bigger picture. Our conveniently self-centred view keeps us in the rat-race that for the most part, we dislike intensely. It makes no sense… but on the other hand, makes perfect sense when the bigger picture is understood.

  20. Serge Benhayon’s presentations about commitment to life have helped me greatly too. As have sessions with Universal Medicine trained practitioners. I’ve come to see the real importance of self-care and nurturing as a support to me being the true me in all areas of my life. This has helped me develop the quality in the way I do things and relate with people very much.

  21. Thank you for sharing Donna, I am sure many people will relate and find your exrperience very supportive. For myself, I had no commitment to life whatsoever, which spilled over into my work, relationships, and of course finances, which there was never enough of! Once I started to take responsibility for my life ( and similar to you I was forced to stop after an illness) it was far easier to begin to commit to life, commit to myself knowing I was worth it, and now all the areas in my life have improved significantly.

  22. It makes sense that commitment to life and commitment to self are about looking after yourself and supporting yourself. This is an awesome blog Donna. I can feel the easy flow of the way you work supporting the way you live.

  23. I also love this statement you make Donna… ‘the difference was to not go into driving a career, but ensuring that I bring all of me to whatever I am doing: this is what is truly fulfilling and what truly grows my confidence..’ This is such an important distinction that so few make when it comes to work… to not ‘drive yourself’ to be more successful, but bring more of YOU to work with you to enhance your working experience and career… THAT is gold and should be the basis of school careers education!

    1. It is indeed transformational. Not work to drive your career, generate more results, make more money: as I used to do. But make the purpose of work and life about love and truth. And being and living with God.

      1. Yes lovely Willem, and fancy that… to bring religion to work (so to speak) and for it not to be imposing in any way or proselytizing is revolutionary.

      2. It is revolutionary, but also simple because I don’t have to talk about it to people. They will feel that I do things in a different way. Indeed Jenny. I would like to show the world that by living this way – call it being religious at work – actually generates more results. Without an attachment to it. Then people would start asking us how it is done, and we can explain people about our way of living, in a bridging way.

      3. Yes beautiful Willem, as I read what you’ve said I just feel the spherical nature of the choice to live in connection with yourself and God. You can’t help but bring it into every aspect of life, and it will be felt without question, how can it not be! It makes me smile to think people everywhere are getting a taste of true religion without even knowing it… thanks for sharing… it is very touching.

  24. Donna I really applaud the commitment you show to yourself and to addressing your situation. What a transformation, but even more so, how beautiful and empowering that you built yourself up from the bottom, so to speak to where you clearly are today. Very inspiring thank you… commitment to life and all this entails is definitely a necessary part of a fulfilling life.

  25. Great blog Donna , I for one will work till I die and in that time every day at work is a work in progress at bringing all of me to the work I do in the joy of the life I live.

    1. Love that Paulmoses39. And imagine that there is always more of us to bring! Not a bad way of working till you die knowing that we will be always growing and evolving if we commit to that.

  26. I love the connection you make Donna between self worth and commitment to life. It feels to me that the two interact. We can love ourselves but if we do not put that love into action it seems that it will turn against itself and soon we will be down and out again. I share your experience of the fact that when I am with myself it really does not matter what I do as long as I am expressing all that I am to the best of my ability.

  27. I whole-heartedly relate to your opening line “Committing to work is one of the best things that has ever happened to me.” For me work is a great opportunity to be of service in so many ways – I love it and can’t imagine ever wanting to retire.

    1. Great point indeed Tamara. If you work this way, why retire? Working this way could indeed transform the whole working system with people asking to work more and longer. With true quality.

  28. Donna, this is a very powerful blog you have written. I understand how important work is for us after many years of being in and out with my own commitment to it. I am now enjoying the commitment I have made to my work and find that it is becoming more and more solid as I become more solid in myself – the two go hand in hand.

  29. Work is a beautiful Medicine, without work I cannot image my life. I know what ever work I do, I am constantly making a difference in what I do. What I have learnt through Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon, is we first need to build our self love and self worth, with this we bring our whole self to work. We bring our love, commitment and presence to everything we do in our work, leaving a beautiful reflection for others.

  30. “In growing me, I automatically grow my career without having to go into a driving force.” Donna this is huge what you say here as I know only too well the driving force I have used to get though Uni and through various jobs, but all this does is make me feel exhausted and miserable. The drive lacks me caring for me. I have found the same thing that by me caring for and growing me, my career is growing, yes with work, but not with effort. It’s quite interesting to observe and amazing to feel how not taxing it is on my body.

  31. Thanks Donna. You have exposed something very important in the way we all currently live life. We often try to identify ourselves with roles whether it be parenthood or certain careers or qualifications believing that these identities will bring us confidence, happiness and fulfilment. But if we are not actually connected to who we truly are when we do any of these things then we will always have a missing piece in the puzzle.

  32. It is amazing how many girls grow up with no aspirations beyond getting married and raising a family – which is completely fine to do, but I have known many girls who aim for that life because they don’t see any other future, having never been told how amazing they are and how much they could bring to life – that they can do anything they set their minds to. Work should not be this burden so many see it as, but as an opportunity for everyone to bring their individual spark and talent to the world.

    1. I think that is the crux of the issue Rebecca – how so many see work as something they have to do. This to me exposes how heavy we feel about life and how our experiences in school taint our sense of purpose. School teaches us that as long as it looks good, as long as we get the job done and get those results it doesn’t matter if it is at the expense of our bodies. The world of work is no different. It really is no wonder why so many of us feel given up. However when we can learn to self nurture and really take loving care of ourselves we get less caught up in performing for the role and our disconnection but discover a whole new sense of purpose in the knowledge that love can be felt by all around us and in all that we do.

  33. During the times in my life where I have lacked the commitment to work have been times where I have lacked a committed loving relationship with myself. I have found that the two are very interdependent. Building momentum and commitment in the work place has definitely helped with my relationship with self and whilst I work on my relationship with self, this builds my quality in the work place. I totally love working – I don’t think there has been a day in the last 15 years where I have not wanted to go in. The sense of purpose and joy work gives me is huge and I simply cannot imagine life without it!

    1. Good point Michelle819. Sometimes I struggle with loving my work, especially when I feel the energy of control my manager is using. But then it reflects the fact I haven’t committed with all that I am, he subconsciously knows I am capable of. So then he is a great reflection I realised. Being fully committed, with ALL of ME every single moment of the day is something I am still expanding and deepening. Strange that this is necessary because working in that way is an absolute joy and will deliver effortlessly, I know, all the results I am supposed to deliver.

  34. You are right, Donna. When we commit to life, regardless of our work, we are a role model for so many people. All they need to do is see us or be near us and they are affected and see a different way of life.

  35. Well said Donna. I agree that work is great medicine, and love the sense of purpose and connection with others that it brings. However there was a time when I resented work, and that was because I wasn’t looking after ME and therefore not bringing the full Me to the workplace.

  36. I relate to large aspect of this blog and used to believe that I could easily live a life of leisure if I had the finances. I don’t feel that way anymore and value the opportunity to work and have great purpose in this. Part of my problem for many years was expecting too much of life, always looking for the next high when in fact the joy in life is in the smallest details that happen everyday at work and in every aspect of each day.

    1. Yes Stephen, love what you are sharing. The smallest details can be such a joy to experience. But we can only experience this when we are connected to our essence. Otherwise our head will look for the big highs. Just like an addict, there won’t ever be enough of them.

  37. I have always worked but have never held a job for more than a few years always feeling that there was a ‘better’ job around the corner, and the next job was going to make me ‘happy’, and give me everything I have ever wanted. It is so true Donna, a lack of commitment to life is reflected in the lack of commitment to work, I feel this to be true for me because when I am neglecting me or not being my true self at work my energy levels and level of commitment drop, so it all comes back to taking greater care and upping the level of commitment to ourselves first and the rest will follow. Thank you for sharing, and it IS possible to enjoy every job that we do if we are truly committed and go into work with ALL of ourselves and not holding back who we are.

  38. Donna, what a great blog, showing how one point in our lives can be a reflection of so much more, showing us what is glaringly obvious when we take off our blinkers. Committing to work is committing to life, which is committing to ourselves first and foremost. When we do this truly, from a deeply nurturing and honouring place, the whole world opens up to us and the beliefs we held about work being a chore or something that held us back Monday to Friday, gets blown to smithereens. Work becomes a place of joy, another expression of us, and that is amazing.

  39. Working is such a supportive part of life, we are here to support in all our various expression of work. I have no dream of retirement, to me there is no purpose in retirement as I live a very balanced and content life and work is very much part of this puzzle, without it I know I would be offering much less than what I am capable of and this would not feel good at all.

    1. Yes retirement is an interesting issue Katie, if we love what we do/work, and the joy of relationships that come with working with people/colleagues/clients/customers etc., and, if we are in good health, then why give up work at a certain age that has been defined as a ‘cut off’ point. If work is, and deepens our commitment to life, then to stop working… would be to cease committing to whole life. This feels a complete waste to me.

    2. Katie, I can’t see myself retiring either. I love working and am learning every day to feel where it is that I am meant to be in relation to my work.

    3. Retirement is not on the cards for me either Katie…when we make work truly purposeful, in whatever it is we do, we are serving humanity. There is nothing in me that would ever want to give this up.

  40. Thanks for your blog Donna. There is a realness and beauty to everyday life when we are committed to being ourselves and then working in whatever role we have chosen. I recently undertook practical placement in a hospital and it was a very humble learning for me to experience not being paid for my work and yet feeling completely committed to being there. Of course there is a real need to be paid for our work, but it is also interesting to connect to the purpose of why we are there before anything else.

    1. Yes Cherise I have at times had similar opportunities to feel my commitment unpaid, and when on training courses I am giving up my time, unpaid and paying for the privilege too, which really sorts out my commitment to my job, and it can be a really great feeling.

    2. Great point Cheriseholt. It is certainly not about the money we get paid for. At present I am not paid a lot for the work I do. But it is right job, with the right salary at this moment to learn to truly commit and making it about people. The money will then take care of itself.

  41. “the difference was to not go into driving a career, but ensuring that I bring all of me to whatever I am doing: this is what is truly fulfilling and what truly grows my confidence and the way I am with myself and others.” – this is beautiful and totally makes sense

    1. To requote what you quoted Alexandra : ““the difference was to not go into driving a career, but ensuring that I bring all of me to whatever I am doing: this is what is truly fulfilling and what truly grows my confidence and the way I am with myself and others.”” – When we live and work from that aspect, we sure can feel the difference this makes to our selves as well as others, as there is no holding back

  42. After a session with a Universal Medicine practitioner yesterday where my lack of self-care was very clear, I was pondering on why I have found it so hard to consistently commit to caring for myself – especially at work. What came up was that I could feel how I have actually been wearing lack of self-care as a badge of honour. It’s a way of showing how hard I work and how much I sacrifice myself for the ‘greater good’. If I work long hours with out a care for myself, the ensuing exhaustion gets me recognition for being ‘dedicated’ (not in the true meaning of the word). I get recognition but I also get sympathy (because I’m so exhausted) which confirms me in my poor me/victim/martyr beliefs. It’s quite a cycle of ever decreasing circles.
    I love how you realised that it wasn’t about position or career but about bringing yourself back to basics and focusing on supporting yourself with food, quality sleep, exercise etc. I have started to fully address these things too and even though it’s early days, I can feel how the quality of my commitment to work has already changed. Whereas I have been getting caught up in needing to be seen and recognised for doing a good job, I now feel very strongly in my body that to do a ‘good job’ at the expense of me is simply perpetuating the belief that we are only as much as what we do. To work without self-care is an abuse to ourselves and to humanity as a whole.

    1. This is a great realisation Lucy, in the past i have worked this way too, ‘If I work long hours with out a care for myself, the ensuing exhaustion gets me recognition for being ‘dedicated’ (not in the true meaning of the word)’ I thought that I had to be seen to be working really hard and that I could not rest if I needed to as this would be seen as lazy, I wouldn’t stop for breaks incase anyone saw me, I would push through, there was no self care and no honouring only working in a very hard way, this was not beneficial for me or anyone else. I choose to work differently now and I choose to take care of myself at work, this is a work in progress as there are still times when I do still go into drive and looking for recognition.

    2. I agree Lisa… I too love the honesty here in your comment Lucy. “To work without self-care is an abuse to ourselves and to humanity as a whole” – this sentence is a great reminder and something for me to ponder on more deeply.

    3. This sentence ought to be the motto for every organization, business etc “To work without self-care is an abuse to ourselves and to humanity as a whole”. Wise words indeed Lucy.

    4. Love your honesty Lucy. Taking care in work is indeed not making long hours to the point of exhaustion. Though it is also not NOT putting in the hours in as I have been doing for a while. Taking care would to me mean that I would go swimming or fitness every morning, which seems like taking good care of my body but was something I used to avoid to really commit to work, cutting time for what was left to get the job done. The new balance between working truly committed, not making it about results and slip into sneaky comfort things is something I have to observe constantly.

  43. I always loved to work, but even though, it was always done by a drive and ticking of to do lists. I am still learning that it is the quality I bring and not the outcome. My focus on outcomes has been massive and the need to deliver is overwhelming which always gave me the feeling, and sometimes still does, that I am on a race with time. I feel the demands of temporal life are so absurd and totally missing out the true point of work. Yesterday I could observe people working in a beach restaurant under massive pressure and overwhelming food demands and how the whole work environment was identified through how stressed you could get. The result was horrible and there was no quality, but even in this there was still love and care in them and it came out in the smallest moments. This showed how we are loving and caring and how we know it all in our essence and that we just let the outside become far too overwhelming and demanding.

    1. Beautiful Rachel, that you could observe the love and care in people even though stressed and under great pressure. A great reminder that this is the truth of us even though we have to work in this seemingly crazy world.

    2. I relate to this Rachel. I too have always loved working. Ever since I was legally allowed to work I had a job, sometimes 3 at once…and studying! But it all came at a cost to my body. I was in massive drive to succeed, to deliver and to ‘get there’ (even though there was never anywhere to get to). Now I work more than ever before, but in a totally different quality that is so much more loving and honouring of myself…and feels much more purposeful and playful too…

    3. Lovely Rachel that you could still see the love ad care that they really wanted to bring coming through those moments, but you are right, we start to get identified by how stressed you get. Like when people come home from work and compete for who is the most tired, something I knew in the past, it’s an unconscious thing and very negative. It is great to be bringing it all back to the quality of me in every moment, and I too really see great reflections from others when I do that.

    4. I recognize that very much Rachelandras. I too was focussed on outcomes and results, and still am, every now and then, being in a sales environment where only results seem to count. But if I focus on results, then I ‘burn’ people along the way, I use them for my outcomes: that feels terrible. As I am more connected to essence, and feel that I love people more and more this is something I just cannot do anymore. And basically, none of us, because we all know what living from our essence is. The beach restaurant story you share is a beautiful example.

  44. This is a beautiful appreciation of life and the amazingness that comes from true commitment, commitment to oneself and everything equally. The joy of simply being oneself is amazing to realise and with this bringing ourselves to everything we do and everyone we are with. The building of this love and care for our bodies and real integrity and way of living is the gift brought to us by Serge Benhayon and all his love and patience in teaching and inspiration.Thank you Donna.

  45. Incredible Donna – it’s amazing how much committing to one area of life (in this case developing your own self worth) can change so many other things, like our day to day moods, our commitment to work, life, our relationships. I love how you began re-building a career step by step after a long time of non consistent work; having foundations is the key to true success. Thank you for sharing!

    1. Hi Monika, I have also moved from Home to working in a busy Salon and I really enjoy the diversity and the issues that i get to explore working with a team of people.

  46. I used to work a lot from home for my own business, but the real business is being out there with people in the middle of the hearts of the cities where there is lots of traffic – I love being right in there and not attached to anything. Holding my stillness and doing my work in this quality does bring a change. I love to see these changes and openings – looking people in the eyes brings a change, the flow of energy changes, I get confirmation that I look and feel so beautiful within the hectic pace of a workplace. People align with me and look to work with me. They open up and share their issues they have with family and with work colleagues – and they trust me. This feels amazing and is showing to me that everyone can feel the divinity in me and in them the same. Being me in the hectic pace of life, surrounded with lots of people is the best job I can ask for. I do love people!

    1. Great point Monika – I used to work from home but I was totally hiding! I wasn’t letting myself out and I wasn’t letting people in. It was a massive form of protection.

    2. I agree Monika, I too have worked from home for many years but have found working out there in the ‘real world’ is an awesome way to reach more people and to spread the light around to wherever it’s needed.

    3. Monika, your comment resonates with me and I too feel the joy of just ‘being’ to the best of my ability while surrounded by the hub-bub of many visitors and locals all from varying backgrounds in a busy sea-side holiday resort area. Sometimes I have to remember that it is not necessarily the ‘doing’ that indicates a commitment to life necessarily, but oftentimes it may be just ‘being’ from a place of knowingness, where I feel a deepening awareness of how amazing and awesome we all truly are deep within – everyone of us. I’m sure I would never have un-earthed this deep knowing if I had not chosen to meet Serge Benhayon and commence attending the presentations of Univeral Medicine.

    4. Wow Monika, I feel very inspired reading your comment as someone who has worked from home for many years. I can definitely feel a strong pull to get out there, and resonate to what you say about being the stillness in the heart of the busyness.

    5. Yes inspirational. I also love going out meeting people I know, people I don’t know, companies I know and don’t know. It is my job as a sales person at this moment and I love it, as I love people.

  47. Commitment to life and commitment to oneself go hand in hand. If the one is not there, the other has to be a limited one. Life is seemingly all about oneself. Yet, in truth, is not about evolving. So, it is not about oneself in a profound way. Everything we do from there is rather limited, very measured, very controlled. It is about managing life in a way that it accommodates to our way while we accommodate to whatever way we should to stay on the loop. It is all about managing. An amazing display of energy to stay where we are. Releasing the brake on life is awesome as we can feel coming alive in the body and in our entire being.

    1. Exactly Eduardo – ‘Commitment to life and commitment to oneself go hand in hand.’ – I know when I am not committed to myself, my commitment at work (and all areas of life) drops. I like your analogy of releasing the brake on life and letting it all unfold!

    2. I agree Eduardo, and it is possible to work super long hours doing very physical work and still feel amazing, it is as you say it is about our quality as we work that really determines how we are going to feel at the end of the day.

    3. Yes Eduardo, “Releasing the brake on life is awesome as we can feel coming alive in the body and in our entire being.” It is only as we start to see how tightly we try to control everything and pull the brakes up how much force and energy we are wasting and preventing that real zest for life vitality.

    4. “Releasing the brake on life is awesome as we can feel coming alive in the body and in our entire being” Love that Eduardo. By committing more, and also doing more with first being committed to ourselves, life indeed transforms into a vehicle going full throttle!

  48. What I have found is when I commited to work that other areas in my life shifted and I could feel that I was committing in a deeper way with myself and other relationships as well. It is impossible for our choices not to have an immediate effect for our whole life and quality of being.

    1. I love what you have expressed here Natalie – ‘It is impossible for our choices not to have an immediate effect for our whole life and quality of being’… this is so true. Commitment to work is a reflection of our commitment to our selves and to life. The more we commit to one area, the more we commit to the all.

      1. Yes Brooke. I used to think that committing to one aspect in my life would get me through, but that has definitely shifted by what Serge Benhayon has presented first and I am experiencing myself as well now. I truly come alive now I am committing to all areas in my life more and more!

    2. I agree – commitment in one area of life leads to commitment in other areas and nothing is ever truly separate or isolated, even if we would like to think so.

      1. Absolutley Rebecca and Natalie. Making a commitment to something in our lives has an undoubted effect on other areas. I have experienced this quite recently and although changes can appear to be quite subtle, the effect of them can be significant.

    3. Well said Natalie and I have felt the same. Work is such an important part of our commitment to life and once we can connect to the joy within ourselves of being able to work and serve all other area’s will be pulled up towards that commitment too.

      1. Indeed Carolien. There is also no such thing as being committed to one part in our life and leave the rest behind. Then the weakest part influences the other parts as well.

  49. Donna it makes so much sense that if we do not develop a deeply honest and caring relationship with ourselves then our relationship with life/work will be measured by looking outside of ourselves and this directive can never be fulfilled. Compartmentalising work, family etc simply does not work, it is all one and the same, developing a rhythm that supports us throughout our day eradicates the need for any push or drive.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.