Inspired by Universal Medicine… Just Being Me

I am beginning to realise how powerful it is just being me by connecting to the quality of who I am within.  I have spent most of my 60 plus years of life living from my head and thinking I needed to constantly be available for everyone else. My way of doing this was by trying to fix things for everybody, often because I felt responsible for what others did or didn’t do.

I used to suggest solutions to problems or issues and steer people to what I thought would be solving the problem without really connecting to what would be truly supportive for that person to gain a new understanding for themselves as to why the issue was happening in the first place.

I have learnt that if I just stay with my body and myself and observe without the need to fix a situation, this allows more space for people to be responsible for their own lives, without my being attached to any outcomes.

I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.

 

This change in my approach started over three years ago when I began to re-connect to the truth of who we all are, as presented by Universal Medicine and in the book The Way It Is by Serge Benhayon. I had been searching for this truth all my life but had focussed on solutions to life’s issues instead of realising that the truth of everything is inside us all – in our inner-heart, our inner knowing through being with our bodies instead of being in our heads. In other words – JUST BEING who we truly are.

Over the last three years I have changed my behaviours because I am learning to keep re-connecting to the quality of my presence in my body – by being present with myself – and I am finding that this allows others to also be with themselves. I have found that I am not responsible for anyone else’s life and this fact alone means that I now have less stress and a more joyful life.

An example of this was demonstrated to me through a woman whom I had been visiting in a nursing home for some time and I was very close to. Previously I had tried to help by endeavouring to solve her problems as I felt responsible in some way – that’s the way my mind worked.

After attending a Universal Medicine retreat I became aware that to assist this woman the only thing I could do was to just be me. When I visited her and I stayed present with myself more consciously, just being me, then things started to change for both of us; her whole demeanour began to alter and her face looked soft, serene and pain-free. As I continued just being me and not falling into any old ‘doing’ or ‘fixing’ patterns, our relationship opened up and I began to feel a beautiful closeness and a deeper connection with her.

As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve. I continued to take care of her daily needs but I did it with more love because I stayed present with myself and I found that I could now visit without becoming tired and drained.

I have realised that when I try to fix others people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.

 

This woman has given me a wonderful gift: the opportunity to learn that I am enough just being myself – around her, and around everybody.

I reflect upon how all areas of my life are changing when I allow myself to just be myself and stay in my body. The power of that connection is all that is required and by accepting, loving and appreciating who I am, my relationships with people have changed for the better.

How I have learned to do this is to consciously breathe my own gentle breath that connects all of me to my body (bringing my head in line with what my body is doing) so that I can feel what I am doing and be present in every moment with whatever action I am undertaking. As I exhale I feel the rhythm of my breath as it flows through me, allowing further surrendering in my body. I now know that everything is part of the unfolding nature of life and the way this happens is by me just being in my body, trusting the process of life instead of trying to fix everything for everyone, and that is all that I need to do… just being me… simple!

Inspired by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

By Susan Wilson, Albury

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Using The Gentle Breath Meditation To Connect
Connection, Choice & Energy: Are You the Pilot or is Autopilot Running You?
The Beauty in Being Completely Honest and Just Being Me

1,207 thoughts on “Inspired by Universal Medicine… Just Being Me

  1. Often you can hear people say, ‘don’t know why I am tired today, I got my normal full nights sleep’. Reading this today opens my eyes up to how much can actually drain us during the day that we choose not to be ware of. Are we trying to fix people during the day? Are we trying to be something that we are not? Are we trying to please and fit in/or stand out etc….? When we choose not to simply be ourselves, we put effort into something else, to become or do something else, and that drains us, leaving us more tired. It is worth exploring how we are in life.

  2. Being present and not checking out and losing ourselves in what we are doing, is simply gold. It has completely changed my life. I am able to work, live, play and not get exhausted, because checking in and being present means we simply care for our body with more responsivity!

    1. Very Funny – and yet a sober appraisal of a behaviour that is considered normal….that the head rules….great observation…one that definitely does not come from the head…!

  3. The more we get to know ourselves from the inside the easier it is to live life from just being who we are, and through that we are no longer affected by reactions as we take what we see or feel as an observation first not as an immediate reaction.

  4. Before in my life I was even not aware of the fact that I was not connected with my body. I always felt as a body person. But there is a difference in having a body or connecting within our body. The latest is the most besutiful thing to do. It brings us back to what we are And where we are ftom.

  5. Your sharing feels very relatable to me Susan. I know how exhausting is trying to change or to fix the other’s problems…but also how wonderful being honest with myself when I repeat this behaviour. Once we come back to ourselves, to the body we carry with we realize that everything is ok, nothing needs to be changed as in truth everything is already in constant evolution. Trying to fix things feels exhausting simply because is not what we have came to do, just surrendering to who we really are and be.

  6. ‘I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.’ this is truly wonderful. So much in life that is man-made communicates to us we have to be more, do more etc. (ideas of what it is to be educated, what’s good, what’s moral, what constitutes success etc.)

    But how amazing and how healthy it is to live just being ourselves. When I look around, there is nothing on this earth that God created that is flawed so how is it I have thought I am flawed. What if I lived my life from the premise that I, my essence, is not flawed and live from my essence out – rather than trying to work out and understand the many conflicting messages I get from the world as how I should be. And no, there won’t be anarchy or chaos but connection and harmony if we did this because we are all connected and I have seen this in action.

    1. ‘Nothing on this earth that God created that is flawed so how is it I have thought I am flawed.’ I wonder why we grow up believing that we are not enough when in truth we are super gorgeous, deeply loving and so sensitive beings. We have created a society that is measured by grades, qualifications, social status, should and shouldnt’s depending our age and gender…and so on. Expectations everywhere which leads to competitive and not loving ways of being with each other…really exhausting as I could experience. Karin your comment feels very freeing to read, very supportive, empowering and brings me back to the full appreciation for the woman I am. Thank you.

  7. Letting go of trying to ‘fix it’ for others offers them and us to take responsibility for our own choices.

  8. We are enough as we are, nothing to fix, nothing to strive for or create, just layers to let go of that we added over the top of who we truly are, to deal with being in the world. Letting go of those layers and accepting ourselves as we are, not needing to be perfect – an unfolding process and one to be enjoyed, to the max.

  9. ‘…without really connecting to what would be truly supportive for that person to gain a new understanding for themselves as to why the issue was happening in the first place.’ This is such a great perspective to consider for others and for oneself – what is already in motion that is supporting oneself or another to learn what is calling to be learnt? I dare say, more often than not, it is something that is considered bad luck and unwanted. I know there are many lessons I have avoided at all costs so only come to me when my avoidance methods have crumbled and with it my health.

    We can learn lessons at any time and it doesn’t have to come to this unless we choose it. It’s not about giving oneself a hard time. Currently I’m facing lessons I thought I couldn’t deal with. I know if I don’t learn them the consequences will get more direct than they already are. It is time to surrender and allow the amazingness to come through and be felt, to know nothing is greater than who we are.

  10. I too loved to read this blog again because my own experience completely tallies with what you are recording here. We complicate not just our own lives but other people’s when we try and fix things for them. What needs to happen will happen in its own good time and a lot more gracefully when we stay true to ourselves and the love that we are.

  11. I love returning to this blog as it is pure gold. I’ve had the fix it bug all my life – totally all about making my life better and no care for the other person at the core of it. If I could ‘fix’ my parents then perhaps they could look after me in the way I wanted! And, I wouldn’t have to own the truth that their reflection was something that bothered me so much because I didn’t want to admit this issue in myself. There was no true care for them or loving understanding of them or myself.

    Have I done this in my job – absolutely! If I could fix this person then I’d get the accolades. As if we can ever fix someone else. We are all equally as powerful and choose what we choose of our own volition. This makes wanting recognition for another’s choices crazy and discounts the will of the person being ‘fixed’. If I could fix this person then my life would be easy – it wouldn’t, I’d still need to deal with making unloving choices in my own life.

    So great to see through this need to fix and return to living in a way that reflects a possibility to another they may not have felt was possible.

  12. “I continued to take care of her daily needs but I did it with more love because I stayed present with myself and I found that I could now visit without becoming tired and drained.” I love this and it is great guide for us all of how we can care for others but not get exhausted or drained. Letting go of attachment to outcome and just being ourselves is a big part of this as well.

  13. Being able to appreciate a difficult situation as a learning opportunity is such a game changer. And we never know where our true strength has been lying hidden.

  14. A beautiful post. “I reflect upon how all areas of my life are changing when I allow myself to just be myself and stay in my body. The power of that connection is all that is required and by accepting, loving and appreciating who I am, my relationships with people have changed for the better.” So why do we spend so much time, effort and energy trying to be someone else? Who we are not!!

  15. When we stop trying and allow ourselves to come to the fore, we start to feel our essence and the other(s) and the need to fix changes in an effortless way of living, can we handle that life, can we be this way all of the time?

  16. It seems quite hard to let go of all the behaviors we have or are using to shore up our way of coping with life and then coming to the realisation that we in fact need to let go of these very props and just allow ourselves to reconnect back to ourselves. It’s a bit like clearing out a cupboard discarding all the object that we have accumulated over the years but no longer need. When the cupboard has been cleared there is so much space and it’s the same for our bodies. When we discard all the ideals, beliefs and pictures we are left with the space and this feels amazing.

  17. It shows us how wayward we have become in the mere fact that most people do not know themselves and that it takes someone like Serge Benhayon to come along and remind us of our true nature.

  18. I have been visiting a nursing home recently and find being me is a real tonic for the residents. When I hold back from this there is no real connection between us and we just don’t share the joy that is otherwise there just waiting to be felt.

  19. “As I became more open to accepting her as she was, then magically there didn’t seem to be any problems to solve.” Classic heh? I notice this too, it is a good one to explore.

  20. I have had the blessing of coming to Universal Medicine, it feels like my life just has started.. Feeling what life is about – purpose, truth, brotherhood and living as much from my essence that I can. Inspiring others as I have been inspired by the Benhayon family and all the teachings by Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon. For they have shown that I carry the exact same truth. That I now can start living again..

  21. “I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.”

    Do you know how many sales world wide would flop if we all know this – from young we get imposed upon from all around us telling us we need this and that to be ‘better’ – forget all that we are already everything – and when we come from this knowing we only buy what is truly supportive rather then falling for the insidious lie that feeds us we are never enough.

  22. Every presentation delivered by Universal Medicine is asking us to return to who we truly are.

  23. It takes all the drama and drive out of life when we just be us, and it allows others to do the same … life becomes so much simpler and so much more joyous.

  24. “I have realised that when I try to fix other people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.” Such a paradox: we believe we are being helpful and loving yet in reality and truth we are being the opposite. Conventionally it appears selfish and unloving to first ensure that one taking care and loving oneself first and lovingly allowing others to resolve their own problems, yet paradoxically it is the most loving way to be.

  25. Every time that I attend a Universal Medicine presentation I get inspired to live true to myself. It is the most wonderful support that anyone can have.

  26. When we breathe our own breath for us we actually give permission for everyone else to do the same for themselves. This is how true change comes about.

    1. It is so beautiful and simple that by giving ourselves our own freedom, so we give others theirs.

  27. What a position to be in, one that we have chosen, one that I have been deeply inspired and reminded by Serge Benhayon that I am just Glorious for being all of who I am. This puts all the trying and efforts in the waste basket because when I have been living like that I can feel the waste in my body and vitality. Feeling and knowing that I am everything that I will ever need to be is awesome and one I keep reminding myself of.

  28. What an amazing confirmation that who you are – no more, no less – is enough. We can spend our whole lives thinking we need to be more this or that, but what if this is a trick and if we surrender and simply be who we are we have everything we could ever need – and possibly more.

  29. It is such a relief to not need to change others. To just feel how it all is, to read why things appear certain ways and just express in openness about something to deepen the relationship with the other.

  30. ‘I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed.’ This is a superb lesson for us all to learn Susan, all that trying and fixing is exhausting and feels so untrue in our bodies. Well done for cracking this lesson, as you help all those of us who are still working on it.

  31. The fix it mentality sometimes never seems to address the root cause of an issue, just the superficial.

  32. When we live in connection to our Soul we live the truth of us all, reflecting the light of all that we are, the light of God and indeed powerful we are when it is the light of God moving us.

  33. ‘I have realised that when I try to fix others people’s problems I am giving my energy away to something that I have no control over and hence I can become quite exhausted.’ I feel the whole idea of fixing problems whether it be with someone else or with ourselves is exhausting and never a true answer for our problems, with our own problems we can have the same approach of letting unfold by observing and understanding what is happening, maybe we think we are in control but we never are.

  34. ‘Being me is enough’: we so often forget this, looking outside for problems to fix or issues to resolve, getting lost in the busyness and identification of all of that. That’s not to say that we don’t support others, but as you’ve shown Susan, it’s the way that we support others that is important: are we just ourselves, feeling what is needed, moment to moment, or are we stressing ourselves out (and the other person) trying to control, manage and fix everything?

  35. When we stay how we think other people want us to be, there is this separation of just talking but not really connecting deeper, and it is this deep connection that we actually all crave.

  36. In my experience too – learning to observe without having attachments or needs for things to go or turn out a certain way helps us to not impose on others and also to sense what is truly needed to help, and in that respond in a way that truly benefits everyone.

  37. Constantly finding solutions and endeavouring to ‘fix’ things for others is an imposition as it does not allow for an equality of sharing. ‘Being oneself’ and allowing another to do likewise gives permission for a spaciousness for things to unfold naturally.

  38. Observing situations without feeling the need to fix what is going on and not being invested or have any pictures on what an outcome will look like is huge. We often want to come in and fix what we think is ‘wrong’. But we are imposing our beliefs and our pictures on others when we do this and this essentially is an abuse. Its not often thought of this way with righting wrongs deemed as having a ‘good outcome’. But are we really considering what are the overall effects of this?

  39. Isn’t it beautiful that when we let go of our doing and fixing a deeper connection can be felt in the relationship with ourselves and at the same time in the relationship with the other. What is true is as always simple.

  40. I think the thing with trying to just jump in and ‘fix’ something for someone is that we can lose sight of the bigger picture and not help them truly learn from the situation… It’s not that we can’t help just the way that we go about it makes a big difference for all involved…

  41. I used to be an expert at taking on other people’s issues that is until I realised, that in fact what I was doing was avoiding looking at and dealing with my own issues. This was a very sobering realisation, to say the least.

  42. Brilliant Susan – what a common pattern people, especially parents, fall into. It’s just pure selfishness to try to fix others and certainly doesn’t work, it sets up antagonism when we could be holding them in Love.

  43. It’s crazy when you consider the amount of time and energy we use to be someone we think we should be when all the while the wonderful person we are is waiting in the wings for us to realise that all the other characters on stage are simply acting out a role. We don’t need to be given a script written by societal beliefs we simply need to turn within where the biggest, most beautiful script for life is there waiting for us to open and begin to read.

  44. Trying to fix another creates disharmony within a relationship which stems from a lack of love and the disconnection to self. Sense the loving connection to self and there is not one ounce of imposition towards another but an allowing and observing to be themselves to make their own choice or choices in life.

  45. ” I now know that the way to live my life is by just being me – and that is all that is needed. ”
    Life is very simple really

  46. All we have to be is ourselves and yet we seem to fight this so much. Imagine how much freer we would be if we just accepted ourselves and stopped comparing ourselves to others. It would free us up to have a lot more vitality.

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