Serge Benhayon & Esoteric Breast Massage: My Experience as a Woman & a Nurse

by Jeanette Macdonald, Registered Nurse (currently in Palliative Care), New Zealand

Though I no longer live in Australia, I am aware of the misrepresentations and blatant untruths in media articles concerning the Benhayon family and the Esoteric Breast Massage (EBM). I feel to express what I know to be true from my own experiences.

I was one of the practitioners who attended the initial training for EBM and can confirm, as has been stated in articles other than this, that Serge Benhayon presented it as a demonstration, above his partner’s clothed body, with an honouring and respect for women such as I had never seen before. He was also very specific that it was strictly for women by women, and it has been ever since. 

As a practitioner (briefly) of such an awesome modality as the EBM, I know the integrity and the deeply respectful way in which the practitioners are trained and work.

I have been a recipient of EBM many times since with those same practitioners, and I want to thank them from my inner-most heart for the unwavering love and support they have unconditionally accorded me in my return to a more loving and nurturing care of myself, which has in turn led to more awareness of my body and my actions, and an opening up to the loveliness of me as a woman.

Further to this, I admire, trust and respect Serge Benhayon for many reasons, not only for the way in which he instigated the Esoteric Breast Massage modality.

As I also work in the field of medicine as a Registered Nurse, one of these reasons is his emphasis on working with conventional medicine and his encouragement of both women and men to seek appropriate medical help when it is needed. I have worked in Women’s Health, been accredited to take cervical smears, and have advised women on the importance and ‘how to’ of checking their breasts for lumps and changes, and on the wisdom of having regular full medical checks. I have always felt this was an important and delicate area, and there is no way I could work alongside anyone who did not support, respect or understand the necessary and awesome work that medicine provides. Serge Benhayon does, and it is his simple understanding of the causes of ill health that for me has added some missing pieces to the medical perspective.

Another reason is his deeply caring nature on a personal level. Several years ago, when I was preparing to undergo surgery, I received practical and loving email support from him. I know others who have also had that same support leading up to surgery.

Observing both these aspects from a nursing stance, as well as personally, I can’t help but feel that, yes, I have found some vital missing pieces that belong to the jigsaw puzzles called Medicine, Health and Life. One of those vital pieces is ‘ME’ and my awareness around how I am… my own level of health and well being… how I live and care for myself to maintain that… what I bring to my interactions with others as a consequence of that self-care. I am consistently learning that it is not so much about what I do but how I am in what I do that makes all the difference. One of my Team Leaders recently said she noticed that my awareness of myself and how I am (“having an inner stillness”) is a powerful tool in my daily interactions with others.

A third reason that I admire Serge Benhayon’s work is because of the influence it has had on my capacity to choose, and the understanding I now have about what that really means. The understanding and connections I am beginning to enjoy with my patients, fellow professionals, clients, friends, family, and of course myself, feels amazingly different in a very lovely way – simply because of the choices I am now making.

These choices, I can thankfully say, directly relate to my experiences with Esoteric Breast Massage and all that Universal Medicine has offered: the choice to connect to myself and my body deeply, to honour myself as a woman, to be myself with others and not hide as I used to behind roles (particularly ‘the nurse’, but also mother, friend, wife, practitioner, etc), and to be more open and loving in a world that is very often afraid to be open, or indeed love. I no longer feel exhausted and overwhelmed by the sheer volume of work in the daily activities of my profession, I feel freer to be me naturally and approach life, including my work in nursing, with much more understanding and a deeper appreciation of people, their ills and their joys, than I ever had in the past.

It is almost 10 years since I first met Serge Benhayon and I find it impossible to correlate what the media has decided about him (without knowing him), to the man I know very well. Equally so, I find it impossible to correlate those misinforming media articles about Esoteric Breast Massage to the modality that I know, without a doubt, absolutely supports women to honour who they truly are.

What I saw and felt at that first meeting with Serge was a decent man who was actually very ordinary, entirely unimposing, and who over the years has consistently been so, with integrity, common sense and loving respect for BOTH men and women: just as importantly, he has a great family, whom it has been my privilege to observe also in their growing up to become the responsible, fun and loving people they are today.

I can’t think of truer role models.

558 thoughts on “Serge Benhayon & Esoteric Breast Massage: My Experience as a Woman & a Nurse

  1. I can speak from my own experience also and say that the Esoteric Breast Massage is an absolute gift to women. The creation of lies and false hysteria around this sacred modality is robbing women of the chance to feel and connect to the tenderness that lives within them always. All women deserve the opportunity to feel this beauty and feel cherished from just being who they are without needing to perform or do anything.

  2. It’s so true Jeanette, it is our loving commitment to ourselves that unites all the jigsaw puzzle pieces of ‘Medicine, Health and Life’ together.

  3. Your heartfelt deep appreciation of both Serge Benhayon, his family and all that they bring and so openly and lovingly share with everyone equally is felt to the bone.

  4. Serge Benhayon is a true role model for this world. He is showing us the truth so we can let go of all that we are not and shine and be the amazing lights that we are in this world.

  5. Thank you Jeanette, I also agree with all you share about Serge Benhayon, a man that lives his life with absolute integrity, respect, decency, humility, and is truly caring and loving with everyone he meets – a true role model for us all.

  6. Lies are very abusing and imposing. They even impose the kind of movement we have to adopt aimed to counter what is obviously false. This is what lies are there for: to change the way of moving of the people affected by them. Standing the abuse requires above everything else confirming movement. If we change it, the abuser wins. And if that happens we all lose.

  7. I cannot wait to join again the next healing modality workshops held in the Uk next month. I attend them already 9 years and they are deepening my awareness and love more and more and they last within me forever as what I learn there is not just in my mind but you get offered it from a deep level of connection which makes it easy to feel in the body where we hold our truth. The healings offered during those workshops are amazing. They are life time shifting if ready to let go, and there is just love waiting for us in return. Which we can choose every day after.

  8. Thank you Jeanette for expressing what you have here, there is so much that has been written about Serge Benhayon that is deeply unfounded and simply not true, especially when it comes to the Esoteric Breast Massage. I have experienced first hand the benefits of receiving such an amazing modality, I wouldn’t change my own experiences for the world.

  9. “I can’t think of truer role models.” I agree with you, the Benhayons are role models that we desperately need in this world, living examples of truly lived lives with integrity, and care and love for everyone.

  10. This sharing Jeanette is the truth as I know it , on the way the EBM came about. The fact that you share that you were present when he (Serge Benhayon) demonstrated this amazing technique that has so many healing benefits for all women is clarifying the truth ! Thank you Jeanette!

  11. Beautifully shared and explained Jeanette. How could anyone in their right mind ‘knock’ the transformations that have occurred in your life, and the way you feel and are in it… I can’t help but re-quote this whole paragraph from your blog:
    “These choices, I can thankfully say, directly relate to my experiences with Esoteric Breast Massage and all that Universal Medicine has offered: the choice to connect to myself and my body deeply, to honour myself as a woman, to be myself with others and not hide as I used to behind roles (particularly ‘the nurse’, but also mother, friend, wife, practitioner, etc), and to be more open and loving in a world that is very often afraid to be open, or indeed love. I no longer feel exhausted and overwhelmed by the sheer volume of work in the daily activities of my profession, I feel freer to be me naturally and approach life, including my work in nursing, with much more understanding and a deeper appreciation of people, their ills and their joys, than I ever had in the past.”
    What has occurred for you is what our world is desperately crying out for – that media articles have irresponsibly misrepresented all that is occurring here is, quite frankly, inexcusable.

  12. The integrity, depth of care and service offered by Serge Benhayon on so many levels is like nothing I have ever experienced before from a human being – the deepest inspiration for how we can truly embrace life and make it about each other.
    It is a great travesty that statements such as this are written – in the sense that a response to such media abuses needs to be voiced. And yet, one need only read the ‘real story’ – such as your transformed life Jeanette – to appreciate deeply that these statements and blogs ARE written. For we simply cannot say enough about such a man of greatness. There is nought to defend, and everything to celebrate, and be so deeply inspired by here. The world deserves to know what’s true.

    1. Spot on Victoria – the world does deserve to know what is true! Each and every blog and word sharing the amazing work of this amazing man Serge Benhayon is a step towards supporting true and lasting change in this world. In a world that is falling apart and with a lack of care and love and respect, we sorely need someone like Serge Benhayon to remind us of how to come back to a deep deep care and love for each other. This is to be celebrated.

      1. As are all those whose lives are committed to making a true difference – and indeed DO make a true difference in this world…
        Our media has a long, long way to go in publicising stories of actual lived and sustained inspiration – reflective of the great apathy and given-up state most yet live in, in regards to the possibility of living in absolute fire, i.e. in a powerfully known, joyful celebration of the fact of our divinity and that we all, each and every one, hold this equally within.

  13. I love what you have shared here, Jeanette. The beautiful healing modalities that Serge Benhayon has shared with us are gifts to mankind and in the future we will all be able to know and appreciate this. The Esoteric Breast massages I have had have assisted me to connect back to myself as a gorgeous woman and this has been life changing for me and for so many other women.

  14. Absolutely spot on Jeanette it is horrible to feel the misrepresentation of Serge by the Media and it is really a crime as it means those who didn’t know him before will have a doubt about him that could stop them from meeting him. Everything you expressed is my experience also in every way, I love Serge dearly and am very grateful to the healing modalities he has been custodian of in delivering for humanity – simply amazing.

  15. Serge’s teachings on how to nurture, cherish and to treat ourselves as women with respect has literally changed my life forever, what he teaches is literally the polar opposite of what the media have portrayed.

    1. Exactly Meg, there is nothing to critique in truth as what he offers awakens something so deeply healing and nourishing that it is a world game-changer. Of course there are powers to be and forces at play that are so invested in the current status quo that they will do anything, including inventing the most outrageous and ridiculous lies in an attempt to muddy the reputation of an unsulliable man.

  16. The richness of love that has unfolded in my life since meeting Serge Benhayon and his family has been quite miraculous to feel and it has continued to grow and expand in unexpected ways since I first wrote this blog several years ago. I don’t often get the opportunity to go to Australia for courses etc but feel held in the solid foundation I have built for myself having been inspired by, and with full appreciation of, all that Universal Medicine offers its students. I will forever be a student of myself and of life because of Serge Benhayon and I love that I have been woken up to this exploration.

  17. What bothers me the most about those who are behind the hate campaign against Serge Benhayon is the fact that he, a man that deeply honours and respects women and who holds an enormous amount of integrity towards them, could have delivered such a wonderful technique that, judging by every testimony I have heard, brings such an amazing level of healing to women with all the ripple effects of that for everybody else.

    1. It is crazy isnt it Eduardo that there is such a huge resistance to honour and respect and healing for women. Not only from, or by, men but from and by women as well. We are all diminished by this resistance.

  18. Why is it there are people so determined to rob the world of something so beautifully healing and empowering for women? Could it be because the Esoteric Breast Massage is a modality that supports us as women to return to ourselves, to the innate power, authority and wisdom we naturally are? Could it be there are forces at play that don’t want to see that happen because when it does, the world as we know it will change?

  19. ‘I am consistently learning that it is not so much about what I do but how I am in what I do that makes all the difference.’ Me too Jeanette – us women tend to obtain a false sense of self-worth based on what we do and pride ourselves on our ability to multi-task and work feverishly. So it’s not what we do or how much we do but the quality we bring to what we do. And that quality is one of sacredness, honouring ourselves and holding the space for other to do same.

    1. Yes Victoria and our challenge is to not react when someone else lives what we have not yet been able to. We should be inspired not jealous. As women, we seem so at ease with comparing ourselves to each other, it is such a waste.

  20. If you look at how much true women care there is in the world you would see how the media would try to make something that is truly caring something “bad”. Women care is pretty much non existing. What I see is the complete opposite where women are pushing themselves more and more and it’s almost as if they loathe their bodies and consider it just as meat that you could do whatever to. But that’s very far from the truth when the female body just like the male body is very receptive to how we treat it. The media seems to be a million miles away from covering something that would expose the world as being quite loveless which is very strange but that’s how it is. They could write about the women movement that is happening here which is quite revolutionary really. I haven’t heard woman talking this openly and freely anywhere else. I don’t know if it’s just where I live, which I doubt, but women really looking after themselves is very rare. And women “treating” themselves with a glass of wine and chocolate does not qualify as being caring of oneself just in case anyone had that thought slipping in.

  21. Well said, there’s no correlation between Serge Benhayon and what the media have said about him, he is a man of absolute integrity and nothing but the truest and deepest of care, who is prepared to put his whole professional reputation on the line to stand by the truth and for people to have access to modalities that actually work. Now this inspires me.

  22. I couldn’t agree more with your assessment of Serge Benhayon and his family and the deeply appreciated modality that is the Esoteric Breast Massage. It is always done by female practitioners and with the utmost respect, care and deep love; it is an amazing therapy that introduces women back to their body and their innate stillness.

  23. So well said Jeanette on every count. Serge Benhayon has conducted himself in the most faultless way for the past 16 years I have known him, including the training he conducted for a small group of women in the Esoteric Breast Massage (as I was another of those). I could write a book on the integrity, generosity, deep love, care and support Serge has offered not just me too but countless others, and continues to do so in so many ways. There is no critique that is valid, and so the lies ensue. They are of course stating the exact opposite of what he is in truth… a true and genuine marker for the potential of what a human being can be and offer to humanity. Showing us unequivocally that we are divine in our origins, and that we live so far from this divinity that we have the current madness we call ‘life on earth’.

    1. I agree Sandra – Serge and his whole family are the truest role models I have ever come across in my lifetime and continue to be a deep inspiration to me and thousands of others to live in a way that is actually natural to us, simply long forgotten.

  24. Firstly, a great big ‘hear hear’ to your appreciation of Serge Benhayon and his amazing family – yes, role models for humanity all. Secondly, with regard to some of the smutty and sleazy media reports about Esoteric Breast Massage – something I have learned over the last few years is that what we express says more about us than it does about anyone else and hence the smut and the sleaze reflect more about those who write such rubbish than those they attempt to smear. We live in a world where breast cancer is affecting huge numbers of people and Serge Benhayon offers us all the opportunity consider the relationship between self-love and illness and disease. I for one am deeply grateful to him and I know that in the not too distant future, very many more people will feel the same way.

  25. Well said Jeanette. The media is only successful because there is such a demand for what they’re selling, and based on the lies and absolute misrepresentation of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine it seems that currently a lot of people feel more comfortable reading about lack of integrity rather than true integrity, the latter being what Serge represents in what he does and in his family which is inspiring and exposing for all that do not choose to live it currently.

  26. Jeanette when I started attending workshops by Serge I was didn’t have anywhere near the level of integrity that I do now, and having been to many massage therapists to de-stress I certainly didn’t think there was anything wrong with getting down to my underwear so when I felt the fact that the way the workshops were presented by Serge it touched me deeply, that this man cares more about me that I do. I certainly cried when I allowed myself to feel that.

  27. Jeanette, thank you for sharing your experiences with the Esoteric Breast Massage and also with Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine. It is so true that Serge is one of the most humble, un-imposing and gentle people around who is willing to present to how things really are in the world in a way that makes sense and supports everyone equally. Yet it is interesting that the media chooses to portray the complete opposite as a picture of him. I find this very interesting and telling – very often it is people like Serge Benhayon who are the Real Deal, that someone reacts to or is jealous of, or simply wants to put a damper on him and so they begin to spread lies about them. After all, they can only spread lies about Serge Benhayon, nothing more, as this man lives with such a level of integrity and immense responsibility. What an inspiration!

  28. Thank you Jeanette for a beautiful sharing of your experiences. I too love the EBM modalities I have found them to be deeply nurturing in the way they support me to feel more of the delicate and tender woman that I am. I am so thankful to Serge for bringing to us this heaven sent modality.

  29. We are the missing ingredient, aren’t we? I recently had my first experience of surgery and I was very appreciative that I was taking a pretty well-cared for body into the theatre to give the operation the best chance it could to succeed.

  30. Serge Benhayon is actually the person who inspired me to take deep care of myself and seeing that going to the doctor for check ups even if I am not so sick I definitely have to is part of this. His level of care and love for himself and people around him and how normal this is for him has been deeply inspiring. As I deep down know this to be true too.

  31. Hear hear, I cannot match the two pictures – the one the media present and the man I know. We need so much more love in this world, so why do we find it easier to destroy than to be inspired.

    1. Because people find it really difficult and confronting to see the love that they are not giving themselves. I have done it, and I am sure many others have too. When somebody who loves you and humanity so dearly is in your face, if people are not willing to do that for themselves, they are likely to be furious, not with the person who they’re taking their anger out on, but with themselves.

  32. ‘A third reason that I admire Serge Benhayon’s work is because of the influence it has had on my capacity to choose, and the understanding I now have about what that really means’. What a beautiful line Jeanette. I have never stopped to appreciate just that. Being shown the gift that our every move is our own choice.

  33. The integrity, deep respect and unconditional support of the EBM practitioners is a true beautiful foundation for true healing to take place. I love that this has supported you to develop an awareness of your body and movements through life that allow you to embrace a more loving and nurturing way of being with yourself and open up to the loveliness you are as a woman. This is truly profound and proof of an amazing modality.

  34. The students of Universal Medicine and Serge Benhayon have consistently exposed the lies the media circulated about Serge and his business through their 100’s of blogs and articles of real life experiences, as a result it’s safe to say that these are not the only lies circulated by the media. Serge, nor his modality of the Esoteric Breast Massage does not need to be in question, rather we need to collectively point our attention to the media – communities everywhere need to stand up for the truth and stop accepting the rot the media regularly delivers. Otherwise we open ourselves up to the constant manipulation of the media for their petty agenda of profit over integrity.

  35. What if the real issue is the disbelief that a man can bring something that helps women so profoundly and the total integrity and total lack of sexual overtones in the way men could hold women in? What if both, which contradict so much the way things usually go, are judged with the eyes of how things usually go? What if the way things usually go is a real obstacle to appreciate something that stands out as not being part of it?

  36. “I am consistently learning that it is not so much about what I do but how I am in what I do that makes all the difference.” – it is the quality of how we are in our everyday that is the key to the quality of our day – hence if we have had a ‘bad’ day, it is about looking at how we have been in our day…and like wise if we have had a ‘good’ day it is about looking at how we have been in our day and the choices we have made that have contributed to our experience. Good and bad here, are defined by how we feel at the end of the day and not by how much money we have made nor how many boxes we have ticked – for true success comes not from the material gains we have around us, but rather from the quality of relationships that we hold with ourselves as well as all the people we interact with.

  37. One wonderful reason to appreciate Serge Benhayon “A third reason that I admire Serge Benhayon’s work is because of the influence it has had on my capacity to choose, and the understanding I now have about what that really means.” A man, a person who shares wisdom knowing that this will empower and free people from their assumptions and victimhood. I know I have a choice about every detail of my life and this is inspiring, I used to think things happened to me, now I know with no doubt that I make my choices.

  38. Knowing we have a choice is actually life-changing, because predominantly we go about life thinking we only make big choices every now and again, like do we need a new job, or should we have a partner, not fully realising that it’s all the choices we make minute to minute about the quality of our lives that no only influence but actually determine the larger choices we make in life. We have a choice every moment of the day.

  39. It is not surprising that the media has focused on the Esoteric Breast Massage and tried to make it into something weird and sexual. It is nothing of the sort. Why is the world so threatened by women becoming empowered? And why the mistrust of a man like Serge Benhayon who clearly reflects love and truth? Isn’t it time to stop seeing men as predators and women as victims? The world would benefit greatly if women were empowered and if men, all men, were allowed to be the tender loving men that they naturally are.

  40. Recently I had an Esoteric Chakra Puncture Session with a male friend who was doing his practice hours. I wore leggings to the session which meant he wasn’t go to be able to access my knees. What that meant was I would need to take my pants off for the session and be in my underwear. I had a moment of panic as I didn’t particularly want to. But my friend was so incredibly respectful and my qualms quickly dissolved and at no point was I pressured. The way he managed the situation and respect he showed me was quite healing. Even during the session when he had to move the towels and blankets to put needles in, I was always fully covered. What started off with anxiety, became quite a healing experience. This is the level of care and respect that Serge presents.

  41. There have been a lot of missing pieces in the way we approach women’s health – and Esoteric Women’s Health seals this gap and brings understanding to the whole.

  42. Honouring ourself as the woman we are is a never ending journey of development that puts under the spotlight the exquisitely delicate beings we are.

  43. I agree with you in full Jeanette about Serge Benhayon and the honour and respect he accords to men and women alike. I have known Serge for just over 9 years and have never seen a shred of evidence to support the vile things written in the media. His integrity is absolute.
    “What I saw and felt at that first meeting with Serge was a decent man who was actually very ordinary, entirely unimposing, and who over the years has consistently been so, with integrity, common sense and loving respect for BOTH men and women

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