by Jeanette Macdonald, Registered Nurse (currently in Palliative Care), New Zealand
Though I no longer live in Australia, I am aware of the misrepresentations and blatant untruths in media articles concerning the Benhayon family and the Esoteric Breast Massage (EBM). I feel to express what I know to be true from my own experiences.
I was one of the practitioners who attended the initial training for EBM and can confirm, as has been stated in articles other than this, that Serge Benhayon presented it as a demonstration, above his partner’s clothed body, with an honouring and respect for women such as I had never seen before. He was also very specific that it was strictly for women by women, and it has been ever since.
As a practitioner (briefly) of such an awesome modality as the EBM, I know the integrity and the deeply respectful way in which the practitioners are trained and work.
I have been a recipient of EBM many times since with those same practitioners, and I want to thank them from my inner-most heart for the unwavering love and support they have unconditionally accorded me in my return to a more loving and nurturing care of myself, which has in turn led to more awareness of my body and my actions, and an opening up to the loveliness of me as a woman.
Further to this, I admire, trust and respect Serge Benhayon for many reasons, not only for the way in which he instigated the Esoteric Breast Massage modality.
As I also work in the field of medicine as a Registered Nurse, one of these reasons is his emphasis on working with conventional medicine and his encouragement of both women and men to seek appropriate medical help when it is needed. I have worked in Women’s Health, been accredited to take cervical smears, and have advised women on the importance and ‘how to’ of checking their breasts for lumps and changes, and on the wisdom of having regular full medical checks. I have always felt this was an important and delicate area, and there is no way I could work alongside anyone who did not support, respect or understand the necessary and awesome work that medicine provides. Serge Benhayon does, and it is his simple understanding of the causes of ill health that for me has added some missing pieces to the medical perspective.
Another reason is his deeply caring nature on a personal level. Several years ago, when I was preparing to undergo surgery, I received practical and loving email support from him. I know others who have also had that same support leading up to surgery.
Observing both these aspects from a nursing stance, as well as personally, I can’t help but feel that, yes, I have found some vital missing pieces that belong to the jigsaw puzzles called Medicine, Health and Life. One of those vital pieces is ‘ME’ and my awareness around how I am… my own level of health and well being… how I live and care for myself to maintain that… what I bring to my interactions with others as a consequence of that self-care. I am consistently learning that it is not so much about what I do but how I am in what I do that makes all the difference. One of my Team Leaders recently said she noticed that my awareness of myself and how I am (“having an inner stillness”) is a powerful tool in my daily interactions with others.
A third reason that I admire Serge Benhayon’s work is because of the influence it has had on my capacity to choose, and the understanding I now have about what that really means. The understanding and connections I am beginning to enjoy with my patients, fellow professionals, clients, friends, family, and of course myself, feels amazingly different in a very lovely way – simply because of the choices I am now making.
These choices, I can thankfully say, directly relate to my experiences with Esoteric Breast Massage and all that Universal Medicine has offered: the choice to connect to myself and my body deeply, to honour myself as a woman, to be myself with others and not hide as I used to behind roles (particularly ‘the nurse’, but also mother, friend, wife, practitioner, etc), and to be more open and loving in a world that is very often afraid to be open, or indeed love. I no longer feel exhausted and overwhelmed by the sheer volume of work in the daily activities of my profession, I feel freer to be me naturally and approach life, including my work in nursing, with much more understanding and a deeper appreciation of people, their ills and their joys, than I ever had in the past.
It is almost 10 years since I first met Serge Benhayon and I find it impossible to correlate what the media has decided about him (without knowing him), to the man I know very well. Equally so, I find it impossible to correlate those misinforming media articles about Esoteric Breast Massage to the modality that I know, without a doubt, absolutely supports women to honour who they truly are.
What I saw and felt at that first meeting with Serge was a decent man who was actually very ordinary, entirely unimposing, and who over the years has consistently been so, with integrity, common sense and loving respect for BOTH men and women: just as importantly, he has a great family, whom it has been my privilege to observe also in their growing up to become the responsible, fun and loving people they are today.
I can’t think of truer role models.