Listening to my Body

by Carmel Reid, Somerset UK

My body has been speaking to me all my life. Sometimes I’ve listened, and when I haven’t it has had to shout louder. Occasionally, when I’ve ignored it completely, it’s brought me to a complete stop so I had no choice but to listen.

I recently did an exercise writing an A to Z of all the things I’ve had go wrong in my body and I was amazed to see just how much my body has been speaking with me all my life.  

I really have been rough with it, from roller skating as a child and forever bashing my knees, to smoking as a teenager and causing a possible stroke risk in my later years. I am forever getting bruises as I move quickly and bump into things, and cuts on my hands or broken nails from doing hard work without gloves.

Some things are obvious, and some things are more subtle. Some results are immediate and some take a little longer to manifest.

Putting on weight, for example, developing arthritis, a hyperactive thyroid and a serious heart condition took twenty years before I paid it any attention.

As I’ve started to listen to my body, I’ve learned to treat it more gently, making better choices about what to eat and how to be, and many of the symptoms have disappeared.

The weight has reduced considerably, the arthritis is less painful, the thyroid is back to normal, and my heart is beating strongly, but is still out of rhythm. Thanks to medical advice from my GP and the local cardiologist, I am on medication to reduce the risk of a clot that could lead to a stroke. I’ve seen how badly a stroke can affect people and I’d rather not have one, so this time I am truly listening; my body doesn’t have to shout at me any more.

I’ve come to appreciate that my body naturally knows how to be in harmony with itself, and that it’s truly the best source of information I have. I realise that all these symptoms are my body reflecting back to me how I am living, how all the daily choices I make about how to be, what to eat, when to rest etc., are truly affecting me.

I’m no longer propping myself up with caffeine, sugar and alcohol, and now I can feel how exhausted I am most of the time.

I eat well, I exercise, my work is pretty simple, so what’s going on?

It’s very subtle, but what’s tiring me is how I am choosing to be with other people in my day. I have been putting a lot of energy into looking for acknowledgement from them, trying to please, to get things ‘right’. I have been getting involved in their emotional issues rather than dealing with my own. When a child cries, or when an adult is hurt by something someone else has said, instead of staying detached and observing what’s going on, I have wanted to make it all better. As a child, I wanted to help my parents resolve their arguments, and there has been a part of me that always wanted to ‘fix the world’.

All the while I’ve been ignoring the me that is me.

Maybe if I listen more to my own heart, learn to trust how I am feeling, instead of looking outside all the time, my heart can begin to beat with a more regular rhythm… my own true rhythm?

It’s lovely – the more gentle I am with and in my body, the more present I am with ME first, the lovelier it feels and the more I can feel what my body is telling me.

Now it doesn’t have to shout so loud, the merest whisper will do.

I’m listening.

778 thoughts on “Listening to my Body

  1. Carmel, this is an inspiring account of the return to the innate wisdom that our body holds.
    “I’ve come to appreciate that my body naturally knows how to be in harmony with itself, and that it’s truly the best source of information I have”.

  2. Near where I live there is a traffic light that turns into red if your speed is 50 kmh or higher. It obliges you to go to a certain speed if you want to enjoy the green light. Otherwise, you get a red light and have to stop. The body is no different except that we choose not to see it as clearly.

  3. It is true that the body has to shout louder and louder to be heard. It will be great when the wisdom of the body is taught in schools when we are still connected to feeling and knowing, children really know when to stop eating or when they are poorly. As we get older, our patterns become more entrenched and we are less keen to make changes. BUT it is always possible.

  4. ‘When a child cries, or when an adult is hurt by something someone else has said, instead of staying detached and observing what’s going on, I have wanted to make it all better. As a child, I wanted to help my parents resolve their arguments, and there has been a part of me that always wanted to ‘fix the world’.
    All the while I’ve been ignoring the me that is me.’ So true Carmel we have been sucked into tolerating solution based resolutions which can never attend to the root cause or energetic imprint of a situation.

  5. Our body tells us so much about what we have taken on, where we are at, what beliefs we have, if we are in drive and pushing to get through life etc. What I’ve noticed is how by being too involved in what is going on for my boys and remembering what they need to do etc. is that my body has been holding stuff that is not even mine.

    1. This is so true, Aimee, we don’t realise how much we take on other people’s stuff or how exhausting it is. How much of what we think is ‘caring’ is interfering, not allowing others to take responsibility for their own health?

      1. Very true Carmel, and then we wonder why or even resent when some are dependent on us. We are the only ones that can heal ourselves and make responsible choices in our life, no one can do it for us.

    2. Thankyou Aimee and Carmel for the conversation here, it’s a great reminder that true responsibility brings a simplicity back to our relationships and interactions.

  6. Wanting to fix others first is a great distraction away from focusing on and dealing with our own stuff that we need to look at within ourselves.

  7. When I start to get agitated it’s a message to me that I have left my body and am not staying present with what I am doing. When I stay present, I am more able to listen and then respond to what my body needs. I’m ditching the auto pilot, but in doing so, am observing how much of what I do has been in this mode.

  8. It was good to read this as I can feel that I have deeper to go with this, I am still getting tired within my days and feeling very exhausted when I hop into bed. I can feel it is the small refinements that are needed to change and to really as you say ‘start to listen’ to what my body needs in each moment.

  9. “I’ve come to appreciate that my body naturally knows how to be in harmony with itself, and that it’s truly the best source of information I have”. Being in harmony is being present in our body and allows us to observe the world around us and it gives us a true answer instead of a solution.

  10. This is a great reflection Carmel of how we can always go deeper. The fact that you have started to look at the obvious ailments has helped bring up the more subtle things that are actually quiet foundational. Trying to ‘fix’ people can really consume us, and yet in that is a learning that we can choose to not get sucked into what is going on but observe it and respond.

  11. The gentleness with the body is such a crucial part of self care, but we really aren’t taught to be gentle with ourselves, instead we learn to push, to be tough, and we value being number one at any cost. I have found gentleness with my body has a really wonderful effect on my wellbeing and vitality, it’s something though I have had to work at because I have years of entrenched patterns doing the opposite.

  12. You are a living miracle Carmel, I have seen your before and after photos and it is amazing to see how much you have changed with the support of the Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.

  13. I am discovering a deeper level of listening to my body, because up until now I have felt many things but dismissed what I felt and I am now noticing more and more – not just the physical ailments, but how it feels in my body when somebody expresses with anger, or recently I felt the energy coming at me from a computer that someone else was looking at when they were watching something that was energetically harmful. Goodness knows what watching TV or playing computer games does to our youngsters – we are so unaware of this energetic bombardment on a daily basis. I am still eating to numb what I feel but the feelings are getting stronger the more I pay attention to them and honour them. My next step is learning to express what I feel – not in a judgemental way, but simply expressing Truth…Taking a deep (but gentle) breath…

  14. What I am recently finding more and more is any choice acted from a place of un-truth, in my case being good or pleasing or trying to fit a picture etc., and it doesn’t have to be anything physically taxing, but it is so detrimental to my body and it really tells me so.

  15. I find that my relationship with my body is actually the key to life, the way I treat myself affects everything – my moods, how I feel, my awareness, my thoughts, how my day goes – so much comes back to how I began my day and whether that was caring, respecting and listening to my body or not.

  16. Whatever I want to change in my life, some things that are affecting me, the key is always to stay or come back to my body and not get distracted by any thoughts coming from the outside, like ideals and beliefs. Truly listening to my body is deepening the level of care and nurturing to my body.

  17. Our body is an encyclopedia of all that we have lived and every choice we have made. The question to ask ourselves is – do we dare to pick up this mighty tome and leaf through its pages or do we glue them shut by virtue of our chosen ignorance?

    1. I have a whole book which page by page is slowly being unglued, some pages are easy others offer quite a bit of resistance, but unglued they will be.

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